@rupeam12 I find volunteering an excuse to actually be the most obvious, but if someone asks I usually say either I'm driving or that I overindulged the night before. But usually if you're carrying a drink around (one that looks like a real drink) people won't ask.
DS1: Nov. 2013 DS2: Jan. 2016 DS3: Dec. 2017 Baby #4 on the way!
@rupeam12 carry something around that could be a boozy beverage, cola in a short glass looks a lot more like a rum and coke. My usual liquor drink is a vodka tonic with lime so I'll order a tonic and lime and just make sure only DH or myself gets me a drink. Ive pretty much avoided being social the last few weeks bc I'm just too tired to make up an excuse and I'm pretty sure if someone asked me I'd say something like "you know me well enough to know the only reason I wouldn't be drinking" and that's not really how I want ppl to find out lol.
@JuliaGoolia719 - I totally burst into laughter at your last line. I'd probably think the same thing but my usual excuse is that I'm driving or if people know we're trying, I always say well I don't want to risk anything and it messes up my temping. I can't wait to tell my bffs tomorrow! I'm so excited. One is prego and I can't wait to be able to confess and talk symptoms with her all day. She's two weeks ahead of me.
Also, today DH and I were cleaning but the fumes were getting to me. I kept having to take breaks. How is a woman to clean, we have to be careful of these strong cleaning smells and everything smells like 10x more than it used to.
@rupeam12 I found out I'm pregnant 4 days before my first appointment with a fertility specialist. That appointment never happened, obviously. But my family knew I was about to see the specialist, so I'm pretending I'm doing fertility treatments. Last time we got together for cocktails, I told them all about my (fictional) first appointment, and mentioned in passing that the doc doesn't want me drinking while I take fertility drugs.
My parents can't keep a secret, so we can't tell them I'm expecting until we're ready to tell the rest of the world. That is, after we have a fetal echocardiogram and a lot of genetic testing. It's a bummer. I wish could be closer to my mom, and tell her personal things, but she blabs ANYTHING I tell her (no matter how personal!) to everyone she knows.
@tryingfor1st You asked how we're supposed to clean? Easy-- we aren't.
I'm avoiding chemicals, so we mostly use vinegar and water to clean. If something needs bleach, my wife takes care of it when I'm not home. Dr. Bronners soap also seems safe for me to use.
Me- 39 (turning 40 in April), TTC for the first time ever (since Jan 2015), low ovarian reserve
Married 3/14/14 to my wonderful wife, but her sperm count is rather low
TTC with frozen donor sperm and science
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs. 2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs. Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire. Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus! fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP! Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
When I was pregnant with my third my sister gave me some maternity clothes aa she wasnt planning on having more. She ended up unexpectedly pregnant when I was 8 months along, so I returned her clothes and lent her some of mine. I just went through the tote to inventory what I have and its nothing. Theres a bathong suit top, maybe 5 camis, some dresses, 2 pairs of shorts, and one sweater. Im so bummed that I thought I had a complete wardrobe in the right seasons and I really have nothing but pajamas and stuff to wear to church.
@rupeam12 - I don't drink a lot anyways, but usually if I didn't want to during TWW I'd give a line about there not being anything I like (I'm a picky drinker), driving to let DH indulge, or blaming overindulging the night before.
Random story time. My brother & SIL have also been trying. Last June we were at my sister's wedding and I was talking to my SIL right after we got there. DH decides to get a drink from the bar and looks at me and goes "Do you want a water?" I've never seen my SIL's head snap around that fast. I then had to explain how no, I wasn't PG, and DH was just being a jackass.
@PleaseSendPicklesNow - I'm in a similar boat. We got our BFP on the cycle *BEFORE* we were supposed to start Clomid, which my immediate family is aware of. I've been practicing the line "Nothing to report at this time" over and over again in my head. I don't want to lie, but I'm hoping to wait until around Father's Day, which would be week 9/10-ish. ****TW**** One of my siblings had a MC from an unplanned PG several years ago and she'd told everyone right away that she was PG so I'd prefer to not have a repeat of that worst case scenario. /****TW***
Speaking of, how many people/who has everyone told so far? DH is the only non-medical professional that knows so far. He came in the kitchen to me staring in disbelief at our BFP on Mother's Day morning so he found out just moments after I did. We've now seen lots of family and it kills me. I also have to make up vague bs-excuses for my beta draws and my U/S appointments to my co-workers. One of them knows we're trying (she's also seeing a specialist for infertility so we bonded a bit over the process) but no one else at work does. I'm trying to be patient and not tell my BFF until next weekend (she's out of town for her grandmother's funeral today, and has an important job interview Monday). After she knows I should be pretty set until we're ready to tell family. I think we should tell DSD & DSS first (they're old enough and I feel its a bit obligatory that they know before the rest of the family, since it's their sibling and all), then I'd really like to tell my mom (because she's my mom), followed by the rest of the parents/siblings. At that point I won't necessarily *tell* everyone but I won't be keeping it super secret either. I suspect my parents will talk about it on social media before I do (like my wedding).
So I'm a SAHM, but I work 3 nights a month. Last night was my first night back since BFP and man was it hard! I forgot how much this job sucks when pregnant. I won't give details but I work in a psych hospital and the smells! I'm pretty sure the one nurse I was working with could tell I'm pregnant already.
I'm also going to a coworker's memorial day party next weekend, and I'm sure the alcohol will be an issue there too. I am fortunate that I'm still nursing DS so that is my go to excuse.
For me the alcohol wasn't as much an issue as the foods to avoid. I swear every time we stop by my parent's house they want to feed us lunch meat sandwiches! I just talked to my mom yesterday and she said that we'll have to get sushi next time I come in I love me some sushi.
For the drinking thing - a friend of mine had asked if we wanted to get a Lyft/Uber together to a party and I said I could drive because I've had to cut back on drinks due to my blood sugar meds. I had been on Metformin for a while - had the brain fog side effect and stopped taking it - and really couldn't drink much at all on it so it's close to the truth. I also figure I'll hold tonics with lime when available.
On telling people - I told DH the same day as BFP. The only other non medical person who knows is a friend of mine in town who had a baby about a year ago after a long fertility struggle and several rounds of IVF. I really needed a new OBGYN recommendation and felt like whoever she had trusted with her most precious bean would be great. Sure enough she had a glowing rec for a dr and was very psyched to hear the news. I could have just asked for a rec and not told her but I felt like that would be disingenuous.
My little sister is 7 months preggo with her first and her shower is in less than a month and I'll be up visiting then. I'm really hoping to get an appt with u/s the week leading up to that so we can hopefully hear the HB and then I can tell family when I'm home.
@tryingfor1st ditto on the vinegar. I get anxious about chemicals too. You can clean a lot with vinegar and water water and dawn dish soap. I keep a somewhat tidy house. It isn't deep cleaned by any means but I pick up and wipe down things for the most part. In previous pregnancies I've asked my husband to do the bathroom cleaning when we need some chemicals.
The day we found out we went to a party with some friends. All of them knew we were NTNP and so every time we went out they would all watch to see if I would drink. So DH and I "shared" cause I "had a headache". I would put the beer to my lips but never open them so I never actually ingested anything.
We decided we didn't want to tell anyone till we go to the doctors so DH and I (and the admissions person at the school I applied to before I knew) are the only ones I know. But our first appointment is set up for the week before we go on vacation with my fam so we will tell them then. DH wants to tell his family around fathers day which will be right when we get back.
Anyone else being very unproductive because of the CrossFit regionals? They look horrible this year.
Me 30 DH 36 Married 9/26/15 TTC 2/10/17 - BFP 5/5/17 - EDD 1/11/18
@WildMagelet I'm in a non-TB TTC/pregnancy/parenting group, and so I told them (which includes two IRL friends I met via that group). But other than that, no one yet. There are a few friends we might tell if Friday's 6-week scan goes well, but we'd probably wait until after a second scan at the earliest before telling more people (some other friends, my SO's family). Maybe even more like 10-12 weeks, and definitely at least 10 weeks for my family. We've had two losses before. I know some people prefer to tell friends/family early in case something happens and they need the support, but we're pretty private and I have a complicated relationship with my family.
@wildmagelet You got the good news right before starting Clomid? That's awesome! It certainly makes it easier to keep things under wraps. When people know you're seeing a fertility doctor, even the nosiest don't dare ask if you're pregnant!
We told my sister the day after we found out, and we told my in-laws on Mother's Day. They can all keep a secret. No one else will know until we're sure this baby doesn't have CHARGE syndrome. It's unlikely (1-3% chance of CHARGE syndrome for each of our kids, now that we've had a kid with CHARGE). But the possibility is there, and it scares me.
@remindmeofthebabe - I totally get that. DH & my best friend are the two people I'd turn to for support in case of a loss, so that's really the only people I want to know before say 9-10 weeks and we know everything's fine.
@PleaseSendPicklesNow - Yes! I was super surprised because after almost 2 years I'd pretty much given up on being able to conceive naturally. Some ask, some don't, but they pretty much always are *wanting* to know. I've been pretty regular about giving updates up until this point so it'll be hard not to talk about it. At least tomorrow I can use the excuse that I don't want to talk about it because we haven't talked trying with DH's family yet. But my SIL is going through a lot of the same stuff so we commiserate a lot, and my stepmom is a nurse so I pretty much have always talked to her about anything health related.
I've told a lot of people. Close family and friends when we got the BFP (my parents knew we were doing IVF), and then most family and friends after we saw the heartbeats.
I haven't told everyone at work, but I did tell my boss and office manager, because I needed to talk about leave (I'm really worried about bed rest, since I have twins). I also told the judge who I practice in front of, because I wanted permission to have ice water and sour candy in court-- needed to manage the nausea.
Me- 39 (turning 40 in April), TTC for the first time ever (since Jan 2015), low ovarian reserve
Married 3/14/14 to my wonderful wife, but her sperm count is rather low
TTC with frozen donor sperm and science
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs. 2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs. Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire. Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus! fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP! Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
We've told several people but nobody who didn't already know we were trying and we'd tell all of those people if something were to happen anyway. As of right now we've told my mom and one of my brothers (I have 4), DH's parents and sister, DH's best friend, my best friend and her husband, and two of my coworkers who I'm very close to (one of which was ttc right along with me for about 6 months before getting pregnant; it took us another few months). We're seeing close friends tonight who don't know we've been trying and close friends tomorrow who do know but we're not planning on telling them or anyone else at least until after our u/s on 5/30. After that we'll finish telling family and close friends (which will really just be the same two couples we're seeing this weekend plus one other couple) and then we'll tell our companies right at 12 weeks (end of June) and announce on social media after that.
My random is that I read something about how pregnant women shouldn't really interact with cats and now my husband is fussing at me to wash my hands every time I pet one of our cats.
@gusgus14 So we have cat who is 14 and I heve been her person her whole life. What I've read is that cats sometimes carry toxoplasmosis. People can catch it and it's not a big deal but it can be bad for women and their babies while pregnant. If you've had it before there is no risk, but if you catch it during pregnancy it can be an issue (although I think it's treatable if caught). There is a blood test for it if you want to see if you've had it. I decided that since I've always lived with cats (who at times have gone outside and caught and eaten while prey) I've certainly been exposed before now. You might have your hubs clean the litter box while you're pregnant or at least wash your hands right after.
There is actually a bigger chance of toxoplasmosis exposure if you garden!
We haven't told anyone. It's so hard. We're planning on telling my parents soon, as we anticipate needing their help. We'll probably wait until 2nd trimester to tell everyone else. I asked DH when he wanted to tell his mom, and he said 1 week after the baby is born
We've told a lot of people so far. More than I meant to. First person I told (even before DH) was @AnyMax. Hadn't even left the bathroom yet. Then I texted my bff. Told DH that evening. Since then we've told a couple more friends, our son, our parents, my siblings and niece & nephews. I think DH has told some people at work. The original plan to wait til 20 weeks hasn't gone well.
@KatieEl, its unlikely she still even has them . Plus, I cant ask her because she will tell my mom and my mom wont find out until about 0.5 seconds before rhe rest of the world. With my third I was in maternity by 10 weeks, so I want to know what I need before Im scrambling. My husband sent me to Ross for retail therapy though so Im pretty well taken care of now.
The only people that know are my husband and sister in law. She only knows because he was away last week and she was my back up in case something happened. We will likely tell my inlaws this week because they can keep a secret and we are going to Disney with them in October. Some of our plans will have to change (like no Africa Trek) now. We will go public whenever its relatively obvious, and my mom will find out about it minutes before. She posted on fb when I was in labor with my second and vaguebooked about my third pregnancy before we announced, so Im not giving her any chances this time.
@maueraa07, I said the same thing about my mom as your husband said about his. Of course, she sees me weekly so we cant keep it from her. We arent telling her the baby is born though until we are home if we can help it. I prefer minimal visitors in the hospital and she prefers hovering and thinks its her "right" to be there asap. That was our plan with our third, but of course she came at 40.5 weeks, 1.5 weeks later than both her brothers, when my mom was celebrating Thanksgiving with us.
@hwoodmama that makes it tough. DH called his mom to let her know when I was admitted to the hospital as they were planning on visiting after he arrived, but they decided to immediately show up at the hospital. At one point they were actually knocking on the delivery room door! The nurse had to tell them to leave! Hopefully you get more space this time and are successful in keeping it hidden until you are ready!
@maueraa07 Do we have the same MIL?! She did the same thing. Except she stayed for the whole thing, all 17 hours... and then some, because I'm sure she didn't leave right after he was born. We will either leave DS with her so she can't pull that again, or we won't tell her until after the baby is born. "It happened so fast! There wasn't any time!"
@gusgus14 That is terrible that you read that! You shouldn't interact with cats' feces (because of toxoplasmosis), but interacting with cats is a positive thing to do while pregnant! Okay not random feral cats, but a house cat? Of course! They help keep you calm! My cats were very intuitive when I was pregnant and gave me a lot of extra love. They loved lying near the belly too when it was grown and were thrilled when it moved! However, I DEFINITELY use pregnancy as a reason to make DH scoop the poop (otherwise he can't be bothered).
@zamora_spin I also have been around cats my entire life. I was tested with DD and did NOT have it! But smart to not scoop the poop and have DH do it!
@maueraa07, she didnt hover too much eith number 2, but thats because she was watching number one. She did conveniently "get sick" after I called her out on posting about ne veing admitted to the hospital but then offered to trade places with my husband if I couldnt find a sitter to replace her. So while in labor I had to arrange for a back up sitter. She then wanted to see the baby but I had the nurses desk screen my visitors and told her so. Who thinks its appropriate to see a newborn when you are ill?
@PleaseSendPicklesNow - you have a great cover story! I can also relate to parents telling. We told MIL and FIL and even though DH to her not to tell anyone, she asked to tell his two brothers (they are older but not his sister who is still 15). Well, apparently she told a fee people, some not even family. I was PISSED! @KLake42 & @trudytudy - If I left it to DH, the bathroom wouldn't get cleaned, like ever...so I had the fan bathroom on and door open along with taking frequent breaks. Took longer but it was fine. Also, I don't trust anything but bleach and vinegar makes me sick when I smell it on a regular day, haven't tried smelling it while prego, I don't know if I could handle it. I just hate vinegar, don't know way. @hwoodmama - I'm sorry you have no clothes. I've already looked up hacks for my current clothes. So far I'm not showing at all and I have an introverted uterus which I've read will also delay when I show because it'll tilt back until theres no room and finally move forward so that's a plus but on the negative side, the back pain will not let up. @WildMagelet - My DH would get his a$$ tore up if he did that to me in front of people I didn't want to know.
On the topic of who I told, I've known for a while but bw confirmed last Saturday so I told parents, sister and BIL on Mother's day and DH told IL same day but of course the beans got spilled there. My two best friends at work know because they know how I've been seeing an RE and have been super supportive. I'm tell my two other bffs tmw but haven't decided what I'll say exactly since one is confessing to the other and I'll confess to both (I already knew about her). Everyone else (other close family) will wait until u/s on June 2 and I'll wait for week 14 to tell work and fb announcement.
@maueraa07 - omg! All the smells!!! @zamora_spin - that's so cute that your sister is also prego! @MTgirlCOworld - nice acting with the beer sharing! @gusgus14 - I've read the cat thing also (but about their poop) so he's right to wash hands just in case but I usually wash my hands after petting my dogs too. I've already promised one of my my bffs that I would watch her cat while she's gone so I'll be grabbing some heavy duty gloves to clean the litter and a mask. There's only a small risk but I can't say no now, she is one that I'm telling tmw and DH will not do it!for @mamakassie2 - the struggle is real, I'll be 5w tmw and I honestly want to shout it from the roof tops!! @EmilyLove25 - I swear my puppy knows I'm pregnant. She keeps following me around the house and won't leave me alone. She's a lab so that's normal but when DH is home, she'll hang with him but for the last week, she's been at my feet all day.
For some reason, I'm not that tired today. Every day at work I'm distracted and tired but not on the weekends. So weird. And my back only hurts when I've been sitting (mostly in a chair e.g. transit and work) so today has been awesome!!!
Sorry I've been MIA today! We were at my brother's high school graduation and are now spending the rest of the weekend at my parents' house. Hope you're all enjoying your weekend!
Happy weekend! My toddler is running me absolutely ragged and DH is working a zillion hours this weekend, so we met up with my mom at a book festival today. It was fun and Z liked it bc we were close to a busy train track and he got to see lots of freight trains.
Re: Telling people - I told my S14 FB group immediately. I told DH when he got home that evening. I ended up telling my family (parents, sisters, and BIL) on Mothers Day, because my mom tried to hand me a mimosa the minute I walked in the door. //TW// I didn't tell anyone early on the first time and regretted it bc then I had to 'announce' a MC to my family. //end TW/// I didn't tell them this early about Z but I think I just didn't see them until a bit later. DH told his dad yesterday when he happened to call about something else.
Re: Unexpected hospital visitors - An older couple from our church showed up when I was in labor, and we let the nurses send them back bc we were expecting my family and thought it was them. They were actually trying to visit DH's grandmother who was in another part of the hospital campus but they just asked for Mrs. W----- and got sent to L&D. They stayed to chat for a few weird minutes (it was shortly post epidural so I was just hanging out at that point) and then headed over to find Nana's building.
I shouldn't be nervous about telling people this time around but I kind of am. We have a lot of good things planned for the near future, one of them being this baby, the others are college for the hubs, moving and building a house. It's going to be hectic. I have told my 3 closets friends and my H told his long time friend. We want to wait a bit to tell family but I'll probably tell my sister soon. She promised to help me with my other kids! I also told my biz partner that I sell LLR with. I do not want to do any pop ups in the throes of morning sickness. And I think we might wind down our biz at the end of the year.
@zamora_spin@EmilyLove25 Yeah I know the risk is really with their poop or if you get scratched. I don't clean the litter box anyway and I don't plan on stopping interacting with them. Seriously if I washed my hand every single time I touched them I'd spend half the time I'm home washing my hands. I'm not really worried about it I just need DH to chill out about it
@zamora_spin@EmilyLove25@gusgus14 I have two cats and i play with them all the time but i don't wash my hands every time I touch them. However, DH does take care of the litter box so I don't come in contact with the poop. I don't think i could go 9 months without kitty snuggles!
Re: Telling People we waited until we had our first ultrasound and saw the heartbeat, we told our parents Mothers Day weekend and have told our closest friends (the same ones I'd tell if we lost the baby). I haven't told work yet, I'm waiting until our next u/s on Wed and I'll be 8 weeks. (My job involves travel and climbing on roofs so I need to tell them so they don't ask me to climb a roof, and I'm not sure I can work my usual 12 hours a day with as exhausted as I've been)
Update on the Alcohol: Fake it til you make it, for the win:)
RE Telling people: We have opted not to tell *anyone* until we have our first appointment on June 8th. However, I needed a lady to commiserate with, so I told my mom. She's the only other one that knows and has been instructed to act surprised when we tell her so that my SO doesn't catch on that I told her. I will tell my work after June 8th as well. I don't work in a high risk environment, so for now, they don't need to know.
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DS2: Jan. 2016
DS3: Dec. 2017
Baby #4 on the way!
Ive pretty much avoided being social the last few weeks bc I'm just too tired to make up an excuse and I'm pretty sure if someone asked me I'd say something like "you know me well enough to know the only reason I wouldn't be drinking" and that's not really how I want ppl to find out lol.
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I can't wait to tell my bffs tomorrow! I'm so excited. One is prego and I can't wait to be able to confess and talk symptoms with her all day. She's two weeks ahead of me.
Also, today DH and I were cleaning but the fumes were getting to me. I kept having to take breaks. How is a woman to clean, we have to be careful of these strong cleaning smells and everything smells like 10x more than it used to.
My parents can't keep a secret, so we can't tell them I'm expecting until we're ready to tell the rest of the world. That is, after we have a fetal echocardiogram and a lot of genetic testing. It's a bummer. I wish could be closer to my mom, and tell her personal things, but she blabs ANYTHING I tell her (no matter how personal!) to everyone she knows.
I'm avoiding chemicals, so we mostly use vinegar and water to clean. If something needs bleach, my wife takes care of it when I'm not home. Dr. Bronners soap also seems safe for me to use.
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
DS2: Jan. 2016
DS3: Dec. 2017
Baby #4 on the way!
Random story time. My brother & SIL have also been trying. Last June we were at my sister's wedding and I was talking to my SIL right after we got there. DH decides to get a drink from the bar and looks at me and goes "Do you want a water?" I've never seen my SIL's head snap around that fast. I then had to explain how no, I wasn't PG, and DH was just being a jackass.
@PleaseSendPicklesNow - I'm in a similar boat. We got our BFP on the cycle *BEFORE* we were supposed to start Clomid, which my immediate family is aware of. I've been practicing the line "Nothing to report at this time" over and over again in my head. I don't want to lie, but I'm hoping to wait until around Father's Day, which would be week 9/10-ish. ****TW**** One of my siblings had a MC from an unplanned PG several years ago and she'd told everyone right away that she was PG so I'd prefer to not have a repeat of that worst case scenario. /****TW***
Speaking of, how many people/who has everyone told so far? DH is the only non-medical professional that knows so far. He came in the kitchen to me staring in disbelief at our BFP on Mother's Day morning so he found out just moments after I did. We've now seen lots of family and it kills me. I also have to make up vague bs-excuses for my beta draws and my U/S appointments to my co-workers. One of them knows we're trying (she's also seeing a specialist for infertility so we bonded a bit over the process) but no one else at work does. I'm trying to be patient and not tell my BFF until next weekend (she's out of town for her grandmother's funeral today, and has an important job interview Monday). After she knows I should be pretty set until we're ready to tell family. I think we should tell DSD & DSS first (they're old enough and I feel its a bit obligatory that they know before the rest of the family, since it's their sibling and all), then I'd really like to tell my mom (because she's my mom), followed by the rest of the parents/siblings. At that point I won't necessarily *tell* everyone but I won't be keeping it super secret either. I suspect my parents will talk about it on social media before I do (like my wedding).
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
*Trigger Warning*
I'm also going to a coworker's memorial day party next weekend, and I'm sure the alcohol will be an issue there too. I am fortunate that I'm still nursing DS so that is my go to excuse.
For me the alcohol wasn't as much an issue as the foods to avoid. I swear every time we stop by my parent's house they want to feed us lunch meat sandwiches! I just talked to my mom yesterday and she said that we'll have to get sushi next time I come in
On telling people - I told DH the same day as BFP. The only other non medical person who knows is a friend of mine in town who had a baby about a year ago after a long fertility struggle and several rounds of IVF. I really needed a new OBGYN recommendation and felt like whoever she had trusted with her most precious bean would be great. Sure enough she had a glowing rec for a dr and was very psyched to hear the news. I could have just asked for a rec and not told her but I felt like that would be disingenuous.
My little sister is 7 months preggo with her first and her shower is in less than a month and I'll be up visiting then. I'm really hoping to get an appt with u/s the week leading up to that so we can hopefully hear the HB and then I can tell family when I'm home.
We decided we didn't want to tell anyone till we go to the doctors so DH and I (and the admissions person at the school I applied to before I knew) are the only ones I know. But our first appointment is set up for the week before we go on vacation with my fam so we will tell them then. DH wants to tell his family around fathers day which will be right when we get back.
Anyone else being very unproductive because of the CrossFit regionals? They look horrible this year.
Married 9/26/15
TTC 2/10/17 - BFP 5/5/17 - EDD 1/11/18
We told my sister the day after we found out, and we told my in-laws on Mother's Day. They can all keep a secret. No one else will know until we're sure this baby doesn't have CHARGE syndrome. It's unlikely (1-3% chance of CHARGE syndrome for each of our kids, now that we've had a kid with CHARGE). But the possibility is there, and it scares me.
@PleaseSendPicklesNow - Yes! I was super surprised because after almost 2 years I'd pretty much given up on being able to conceive naturally. Some ask, some don't, but they pretty much always are *wanting* to know. I've been pretty regular about giving updates up until this point so it'll be hard not to talk about it. At least tomorrow I can use the excuse that I don't want to talk about it because we haven't talked trying with DH's family yet. But my SIL is going through a lot of the same stuff so we commiserate a lot, and my stepmom is a nurse so I pretty much have always talked to her about anything health related.
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
*Trigger Warning*
I haven't told everyone at work, but I did tell my boss and office manager, because I needed to talk about leave (I'm really worried about bed rest, since I have twins). I also told the judge who I practice in front of, because I wanted permission to have ice water and sour candy in court-- needed to manage the nausea.
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)
My random is that I read something about how pregnant women shouldn't really interact with cats and now my husband is fussing at me to wash my hands every time I pet one of our cats.
There is actually a bigger chance of toxoplasmosis exposure if you garden!
The only people that know are my husband and sister in law. She only knows because he was away last week and she was my back up in case something happened. We will likely tell my inlaws this week because they can keep a secret and we are going to Disney with them in October. Some of our plans will have to change (like no Africa Trek) now. We will go public whenever its relatively obvious, and my mom will find out about it minutes before. She posted on fb when I was in labor with my second and vaguebooked about my third pregnancy before we announced, so Im not giving her any chances this time.
Hopefully you get more space this time and are successful in keeping it hidden until you are ready!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@zamora_spin I also have been around cats my entire life. I was tested with DD and did NOT have it! But smart to not scoop the poop and have DH do it!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@KLake42 & @trudytudy - If I left it to DH, the bathroom wouldn't get cleaned, like ever...so I had the fan bathroom on and door open along with taking frequent breaks. Took longer but it was fine. Also, I don't trust anything but bleach and vinegar makes me sick when I smell it on a regular day, haven't tried smelling it while prego, I don't know if I could handle it. I just hate vinegar, don't know way.
@hwoodmama - I'm sorry you have no clothes. I've already looked up hacks for my current clothes. So far I'm not showing at all and I have an introverted uterus which I've read will also delay when I show because it'll tilt back until theres no room and finally move forward so that's a plus but on the negative side, the back pain will not let up.
@WildMagelet
- My DH would get his a$$ tore up if he did that to me in front of people I didn't want to know.
On the topic of who I told, I've known for a while but bw confirmed last Saturday so I told parents, sister and BIL on Mother's day and DH told IL same day but of course the beans got spilled there. My two best friends at work know because they know how I've been seeing an RE and have been super supportive. I'm tell my two other bffs tmw but haven't decided what I'll say exactly since one is confessing to the other and I'll confess to both (I already knew about her).
Everyone else (other close family) will wait until u/s on June 2 and I'll wait for week 14 to tell work and fb announcement.
@maueraa07 - omg! All the smells!!!
@zamora_spin - that's so cute that your sister is also prego!
@MTgirlCOworld - nice acting with the beer sharing!
@gusgus14 - I've read the cat thing also (but about their poop) so he's right to wash hands just in case but I usually wash my hands after petting my dogs too. I've already promised one of my my bffs that I would watch her cat while she's gone so I'll be grabbing some heavy duty gloves to clean the litter and a mask. There's only a small risk but I can't say no now, she is one that I'm telling tmw and DH will not do it!for @mamakassie2 - the struggle is real, I'll be 5w tmw and I honestly want to shout it from the roof tops!!
@EmilyLove25 - I swear my puppy knows I'm pregnant. She keeps following me around the house and won't leave me alone. She's a lab so that's normal but when DH is home, she'll hang with him but for the last week, she's been at my feet all day.
For some reason, I'm not that tired today. Every day at work I'm distracted and tired but not on the weekends. So weird. And my back only hurts when I've been sitting (mostly in a chair e.g. transit and work) so today has been awesome!!!
Re: Telling people - I told my S14 FB group immediately. I told DH when he got home that evening. I ended up telling my family (parents, sisters, and BIL) on Mothers Day, because my mom tried to hand me a mimosa the minute I walked in the door. //TW// I didn't tell anyone early on the first time and regretted it bc then I had to 'announce' a MC to my family. //end TW/// I didn't tell them this early about Z but I think I just didn't see them until a bit later. DH told his dad yesterday when he happened to call about something else.
Re: Unexpected hospital visitors - An older couple from our church showed up when I was in labor, and we let the nurses send them back bc we were expecting my family and thought it was them. They were actually trying to visit DH's grandmother who was in another part of the hospital campus but they just asked for Mrs. W----- and got sent to L&D. They stayed to chat for a few weird minutes (it was shortly post epidural so I was just hanging out at that point) and then headed over to find Nana's building.
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RE Telling people: We have opted not to tell *anyone* until we have our first appointment on June 8th. However, I needed a lady to commiserate with, so I told my mom. She's the only other one that knows and has been instructed to act surprised when we tell her so that my SO doesn't catch on that I told her. I will tell my work after June 8th as well. I don't work in a high risk environment, so for now, they don't need to know.