My MIL called us at 7am & woke all 3 of us up after a long night up w/ baby to tell us she is driving back down to our house (2 hr drive, she was just here yesterday) because she wants to talk to us about our baby's weight and she doesn't want to talk about it over the phone! Then she told my husband we needed to check her into the hospital! Um no! She was born a month early, so yes, she is small. She just had a Dr appt Thursday & has another one tomorrow! We are actively working on the weight gain situation! This is between the parents and doctor. Stay out of it! I'm sure she would be crying and fussing a lot more if she were hungry enough to be checked into the hospital. Thanks for letting me rant!
Now that I'm done with all the scheduled things I wanted to make it through I'm ready to meet this girl! I'm only 38 weeks and NO signs anything is happening anytime soon so I know I should buckle in for a long wait. I'm just tired of not being able to sleep. Also we walked all over downtown today and I was in a dress so my thighs are all chaffed. And it hurts. Wahhh.
And @n&a0630 that is TOTALLY uncalled for and one of you (cough* H *cough*) needs to call her and tell her not to waste her time. Irritating. Is she a physician? Even if so, she doesn't know everything and I'm guessing hasn't weighed him herself!
DD is going back to daycare today and I might throw a party to celebrate that. She has been the worst. I'm honestly concerned I'm raising a little sociopath and I need her out of my hair so I can enjoy her little brother. Mother of the year.
ETA: after I typed that, I walked upstairs to find her holding DS (with DH assisting) and overheard DD say "when I grow up, I'm going to be best friends with him." Stop messing with my emotions!!
@n&a0630 I can't even with your MIL. I hope you guys locked the door and ignored her.
My Monday BF goes out to everyone to can't clear the dang timer on a microwave when they leave 5 seconds left on it. Seriously! It's not that hard to either let the food cook 5 seconds longer or hit the cancel button. Do you think someone else is going to need that 5 seconds? NO, THEY DON'T. Be a kind human and clear the stupid time! Brought to you by coworkers and H.
@n&a0630 That's terrible! No, no! What did you say to her? It sounds like she needs to be told no or else she'll keep butting in where she doesn't belong! @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot Oh man, toddlers are tough. I'm glad DD going back to daycare means you get one on one time with you little man though. @bacorrea I'm annoyed I'm still pregnant (and then feel guilty about being annoyed) and I'm not even overdue yet.
@n&a0630 oh no! I would lock the doors and hide from the windows. That is not ok!
DH let the girls out when he got up for work. I let them back in when I got up only to find blood on them. After examining them it's not their blood. Thinking they might have killed another mouse outside as one has it down the side of her head like she rolled in it as she often does. So now I get to give them a bath which sucks when your not pregnant. Gross, nasty Monday
I still have no idea where we are moving to and it sounds like we may still be moving the first week of July.
Oh and I officially called and let the daycare where we thought we were going know we won't be moving there and I am officially out $400 in deposits. I know they were nonrefundable but we had 99.9999% certainty so there was no reason to not pay, it just sucks.
I also have a couple rants about my MIL! First, Saturday was DS #1's birthday and she never even called or acknowledged that it was his birthday. Even when we saw her on Sunday for Mother's Day she didn't even ask him how his birthday was or anything.
Second rant we live in the same town as MIL and apparently she had to take her father to the ER on Thursday for a hernia. She saw mine and DH's cars parked in the ER parking lot and told me she tried to hide her car from us in the parking lot so that we wouldn't freak out if we saw her car. Yet she doesn't even call us to find out why we're in the hospital and see if everything is ok. Her parents are in there 90's and I know she has a lot on her plate helping to care for them, they still live independently and are in pretty good health overall though so I don't see why she can't at least call her grandson on his birthday!
I had my 38 week appt this morning. I asked about a sweep and she mentioned that they aren't allowed to do that anymore until 39 weeks! I don't remember that being the case with my first or second. After I got that response, I didn't even ask to be checked to see how dilated I was. T-9 days until induction unless she comes on her own.
@n&a0630 Seriously?! Oh no! You need to get your husband to shut her down! Some kids do have slow weight gain, and as long as the pediatrician says she's fine then she is! Older daughter had the slowest weight gain ever. We had weight checks every three days for a month, and guess what? She's just going to be a small human. Still under the third percentile for weight. And perfectly healthy. Argh, that makes me so mad! Like, who is she to think that she knows more than a medical professional?
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot - I felt the same way this morning. DS flip flopped between being the worst and the sweetest all weekend. Daycare may have their hands full! @absbubbs - I thought I was the only person that got annoyed by that!!
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot, right there with you. I nearly cried tears of joy when DS was out of my hair this morning after 5 days home. Toddlers are just exhausting. And never fear, I think all of them seem like little sociopaths for a while. My toddler is actually my #1 bitch, too, but not for one specific thing. Just a collection of little things that are seemingly no biggie but a total nightmare when all combined.
My secondary bitch is with my pediatricians office. They charge $2 cash for parking (in Cambridge) and I realized I only had $1. They waited a solid 10 minutes (making me late to my appointment) while I scrounged for change to cover the other $1. I get it. I should have been prepared, but they really should have other payment options if they are going to be so strict about it. At least baby girl is growing nicely!
Today was a beautiful day so 2 of my co-workers and I decided to go to lunch. Well on our way to eat some lady rear ended me at a stop light. The light was red but apparently that didn't matter to her. I just got a new Durango 2 weeks ago and now the back end is all messed up, also I'm currently at the hospital being evaluated for the next couple hours. Luckily baby and I are ok but the whole ordeal is annoying. Who has time to put their car in the shop with a newborn.. Plus I just got this car and got my seats perfectly installed. The woman that hit me had absolutely no remorse and didnt seem to care one bit.
@Kipperoo When you said your toddler was your #1 bitch, I thought you meant that he ran errands for you, etc. I was like, what does she have him trained to do and how can I do that with my own one day?! Clearly not thinking straight over here.
Add me to the MIL train. My MIL is really sweet and I love her, but I am at the end of my rope with this cough she has. She's had it for months and months, but I didn't know until she was visiting a few weeks ago. It was really alarming and H and I immediately started asking her to go get it checked out, but she kept saying "I just need to figure out how to get myself better." YES. You do. BY GOING TO THE DOCTOR. She finally went on Saturday and they gave her antibiotics to start today, after they took a culture from her to analyze and figure out what it is. No idea when the culture results will be back. In the meantime she says she *should* be non-contagious 24 hours after starting the antibiotics. I'm getting induced on Wednesday (that's when she's getting to town) and that just seems to be cutting it close to me, especially when we don't know what it is! It's probably nothing and she's probably not contagious, but I don't really feel comfortable taking that risk. H was giving her a hard time about all of it yesterday and she said something along the lines of, "What do you want me to do? Not come visit? Not hold the baby? Look at her through a window? I've done the best I can." NO you haven't! We asked you to handle this weeks ago! So I don't know what to say...
/ end rant. The silver lining is that H is dealing with all of this so I don't have to, and he's being really assertive about protecting our kid. So there's that!
@Kipperoo When you said your toddler was your #1 bitch, I thought you meant that he ran errands for you, etc. I was like, what does she have him trained to do and how can I do that with my own one day?! Clearly not thinking straight over here.
Add me to the MIL train. My MIL is really sweet and I love her, but I am at the end of my rope with this cough she has. She's had it for months and months, but I didn't know until she was visiting a few weeks ago. It was really alarming and H and I immediately started asking her to go get it checked out, but she kept saying "I just need to figure out how to get myself better." YES. You do. BY GOING TO THE DOCTOR. She finally went on Saturday and they gave her antibiotics to start today, after they took a culture from her to analyze and figure out what it is. No idea when the culture results will be back. In the meantime she says she *should* be non-contagious 24 hours after starting the antibiotics. I'm getting induced on Wednesday (that's when she's getting to town) and that just seems to be cutting it close to me, especially when we don't know what it is! It's probably nothing and she's probably not contagious, but I don't really feel comfortable taking that risk. H was giving her a hard time about all of it yesterday and she said something along the lines of, "What do you want me to do? Not come visit? Not hold the baby? Look at her through a window? I've done the best I can." NO you haven't! We asked you to handle this weeks ago! So I don't know what to say...
/ end rant. The silver lining is that H is dealing with all of this so I don't have to, and he's being really assertive about protecting our kid. So there's that!
Ugh, with sick people not saying anything in time and expecting to just be allowed to come around. My mom did this when DD was born, she came down with a cold the next day and was pissy when I told her she could not come to the hospital again. She thought because my room was diagonal from the elevator, it would be fine. Well those are the only elevators to L&D so you're still dust cropping everyone who is coming to see a brand new baby. Plus there's me and my brand new squish. So no, no visit for you so there's no plague for us.
Then MIL didn't tell us she was coming down with a cold Christmas Day, so after we visited and she kissed us all, all 3 of us got to experience her cold a few days later but only I couldn't take a damn thing for it. I didn't go over to visit her for a couple months after that.
BIL always has a hacking cough (for years!) because he chain smokes and also doesn't take care of himself, so he won't be invited to visit us in the hospital or at home.
Seriously, people. GTFO.
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There are 8 documented cases of whooping cough at the local school district. They are all due to lack of vaccination. I just don't get it! All I can think of is my husband's cousins who go to school there bringing these germs around My newborn.
@n&a0630 Oooohhhh wow, shoot and I thought my MIL was overbearing and trying to govern my son's life like she had h. Talk about getting all up into your business! I'm sorry your dealing with that, I'd be super pissed too. Talk to your hubby if she don't listen to you or try to at least understand where your coming from. This is all classic case of in laws and parents(some) thinking that they still tell us what to do with our lives hah.
@RedInLove I seriously don't get people sometimes! Don't they think?!
@Jens_Hoes That's so scary! I hope the outbreak stops and nothing gets close to your baby! I can't get the TDaP vaccine for medical reasons (potentially in the future but they recommended against trying during pregnancy) so I'm on extra-high alert about it. And MIL has been on a crusade to make sure everyone--including my stubborn BIL--gets that vaccine since the baby isn't protected through me, which I've really appreciated. It just makes her actions on her own cough even more perplexing/frustrating!
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot I totally feel you. My DD is driving me crazy. She's not adjusting well, and right now will not listen to one thing I tell her. I want to send her back to daycare full time, but my mom has guilted me into feeling like a horrible mom so she's only going 2 days a week. When I mentioned sending DD full time my mom told me basically to suck it up and deal with th fact I have 2 kids now
that was my bitch (my mom) along with agreeing to the other comment...
@BeachMommy2B your mom is nuts. Thee is no reason to drive yourself nuts just because you have 2 kids! I 100% will be sending my toddler back to daycare full time even when I'm on maternity leave because 1. He will drive me nuts and 2. The consistency and structure of daily daycare actually does wonders for him.
If yoir our daughter does better with daycare more consistently then go for it. I wouldn't feel badly at all.
@BeachMommy2B Completely agree with @WombThereItIs. You do what you need to for your family's wellbeing and sanity, and that includes getting good quality time with Brenner! Maybe your DD needs the structure of daycare during this transitional time. Either way, don't let your mom guilt you one way or another-- you're the mom, you know best for your children.
@BeachMommy2B, I totally agree with @NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot--do not feel guilty about sending DD to daycare. Those sound like the words of a mother with grown children and toddler amnesia. We had DS home from daycare last W-F plus the weekend (thanks, visiting MIL) and by the end of the weekend, I was literally ready to pack me plus infant and head for a hotel on Saturday. He was defiant and honestly bored. He was thrilled to go back to daycare today. It's a win all around--better for him, better for me, better for baby.
@Jens_Hoes that would be a big hell no on the visiting my kid! Until it's done with and they've sat the incubation time or my kid got their vaccine those cousins can stay away. I'm monitoring the location of our outbreak for the exact reason.
@0408bear I'm just going to pretend I didn't see the MIL comment and encourage your running away plan for the rest
Update: DD was at daycare for 3 1/2 hrs today. She came home a different kid. She loudly thanked her dad for cooking a delicious meal without prompting and she's been a great listener since she walked through the door.
@BeachMommy2B Get that kid back to daycare! I justify it by reasoning that this LO should get the same one on one attention DD received on my leave after I had her.
I'm a firm believer in keeping the kids in their normal routine as much as possible when you have other big life changes! Kids strive on routine! And it keeps the parents sane!
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My bump app would not work all day after I posted. Sorry to leave you hanging! After I bitched first about her waking us up and being crazy about baby's weight, then I joked that I wasnt going to let her in when she got here, but I was still pretty mad. I made hubby call her back. He told her she was not allowed to come and that we have an appt tomorrow & we have been/are doing everything our doctor is advising us to do.
Thanks for all the support! She is usually a much more pleasant person. This kind of came out of nowhere.
So we tried our first bottle of formula tonight. I cried. She had nursed w/ me and drank all I pumped from today and was still hungry. We had to do it. I think dr was going to tell me to start supplementing tomorrow anyway. But knowing that didn't make it any easier for me.
I feel for those of you still pregnant! I am honestly kind of glad my daughter came early!
Thanks ladies! I needed to hear that!! , I think I might send her back next full time next week. I kept her out yesterday and we have plans Friday. So no point paying double for one day. I really agree with getting the one on one time with Brenner that I had with Sloane during maternity leave.
I am feeling super stabby today. Things were going fine at work until today I was told that I will never get an office with a window. Long story short, previously people got moved to an outside office by seniority but apparently they changed that policy last year. And I was told I'm not "in the office enough" to qualify for EVER having an office with a window. There are people who were hired 1 week ahead of me that have a window office & people who are here maybe 5 hours more than I that have an office with a window. It is truly not THAT big of a deal to have a window, but it is just another reason how they show me that don't appreciate my hard work. This is what I wish I could do as I'm going out on maternity:
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ETA: after I typed that, I walked upstairs to find her holding DS (with DH assisting) and overheard DD say "when I grow up, I'm going to be best friends with him." Stop messing with my emotions!!
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My Monday BF goes out to everyone to can't clear the dang timer on a microwave when they leave 5 seconds left on it. Seriously! It's not that hard to either let the food cook 5 seconds longer or hit the cancel button. Do you think someone else is going to need that 5 seconds? NO, THEY DON'T. Be a kind human and clear the stupid time! Brought to you by coworkers and H.
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot Oh man, toddlers are tough. I'm glad DD going back to daycare means you get one on one time with you little man though.
@bacorrea I'm annoyed I'm still pregnant (and then feel guilty about being annoyed) and I'm not even overdue yet.
DH let the girls out when he got up for work. I let them back in when I got up only to find blood on them. After examining them it's not their blood. Thinking they might have killed another mouse outside as one has it down the side of her head like she rolled in it as she often does. So now I get to give them a bath which sucks when your not pregnant. Gross, nasty Monday
Oh and I officially called and let the daycare where we thought we were going know we won't be moving there and I am officially out $400 in deposits. I know they were nonrefundable but we had 99.9999% certainty so there was no reason to not pay, it just sucks.
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Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
I also have a couple rants about my MIL! First, Saturday was DS #1's birthday and she never even called or acknowledged that it was his birthday. Even when we saw her on Sunday for Mother's Day she didn't even ask him how his birthday was or anything.
Second rant we live in the same town as MIL and apparently she had to take her father to the ER on Thursday for a hernia. She saw mine and DH's cars parked in the ER parking lot and told me she tried to hide her car from us in the parking lot so that we wouldn't freak out if we saw her car. Yet she doesn't even call us to find out why we're in the hospital and see if everything is ok. Her parents are in there 90's and I know she has a lot on her plate helping to care for them, they still live independently and are in pretty good health overall though so I don't see why she can't at least call her grandson on his birthday!
Argh, that makes me so mad! Like, who is she to think that she knows more than a medical professional?
@absbubbs - I thought I was the only person that got annoyed by that!!
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17
My secondary bitch is with my pediatricians office. They charge $2 cash for parking (in Cambridge) and I realized I only had $1. They waited a solid 10 minutes (making me late to my appointment) while I scrounged for change to cover the other $1. I get it. I should have been prepared, but they really should have other payment options if they are going to be so strict about it. At least baby girl is growing nicely!
@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot toddlers are something else... They are lucky they are so cute.
Today was a beautiful day so 2 of my co-workers and I decided to go to lunch. Well on our way to eat some lady rear ended me at a stop light. The light was red but apparently that didn't matter to her. I just got a new Durango 2 weeks ago and now the back end is all messed up, also I'm currently at the hospital being evaluated for the next couple hours. Luckily baby and I are ok but the whole ordeal is annoying. Who has time to put their car in the shop with a newborn.. Plus I just got this car and got my seats perfectly installed. The woman that hit me had absolutely no remorse and didnt seem to care one bit.
Add me to the MIL train. My MIL is really sweet and I love her, but I am at the end of my rope with this cough she has. She's had it for months and months, but I didn't know until she was visiting a few weeks ago. It was really alarming and H and I immediately started asking her to go get it checked out, but she kept saying "I just need to figure out how to get myself better." YES. You do. BY GOING TO THE DOCTOR. She finally went on Saturday and they gave her antibiotics to start today, after they took a culture from her to analyze and figure out what it is. No idea when the culture results will be back. In the meantime she says she *should* be non-contagious 24 hours after starting the antibiotics. I'm getting induced on Wednesday (that's when she's getting to town) and that just seems to be cutting it close to me, especially when we don't know what it is! It's probably nothing and she's probably not contagious, but I don't really feel comfortable taking that risk. H was giving her a hard time about all of it yesterday and she said something along the lines of, "What do you want me to do? Not come visit? Not hold the baby? Look at her through a window? I've done the best I can." NO you haven't! We asked you to handle this weeks ago! So I don't know what to say...
/ end rant. The silver lining is that H is dealing with all of this so I don't have to, and he's being really assertive about protecting our kid. So there's that!
Then MIL didn't tell us she was coming down with a cold Christmas Day, so after we visited and she kissed us all, all 3 of us got to experience her cold a few days later but only I couldn't take a damn thing for it. I didn't go over to visit her for a couple months after that.
BIL always has a hacking cough (for years!) because he chain smokes and also doesn't take care of himself, so he won't be invited to visit us in the hospital or at home.
Seriously, people. GTFO.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Oooohhhh wow, shoot and I thought my MIL was overbearing and trying to govern my son's life like she had h. Talk about getting all up into your business! I'm sorry your dealing with that, I'd be super pissed too. Talk to your hubby if she don't listen to you or try to at least understand where your coming from. This is all classic case of in laws and parents(some) thinking that they still tell us what to do with our lives hah.
and DS2(1yr)has started biting....
And DS1 has a D in math and has to go to summer school...
and DD1 is fing 11, and has decided to have a response to every request made of her...
i am am going to take the twins and run away!
Good Luck, DH! Ugh!!
@Jens_Hoes That's so scary! I hope the outbreak stops and nothing gets close to your baby! I can't get the TDaP vaccine for medical reasons (potentially in the future but they recommended against trying during pregnancy) so I'm on extra-high alert about it. And MIL has been on a crusade to make sure everyone--including my stubborn BIL--gets that vaccine since the baby isn't protected through me, which I've really appreciated. It just makes her actions on her own cough even more perplexing/frustrating!
that was my bitch (my mom) along with agreeing to the other comment...
If yoir our daughter does better with daycare more consistently then go for it. I wouldn't feel badly at all.
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@0408bear I'm just going to pretend I didn't see the MIL comment and encourage your running away plan for the rest
@BeachMommy2B Get that kid back to daycare! I justify it by reasoning that this LO should get the same one on one attention DD received on my leave after I had her.
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Thanks for all the support! She is usually a much more pleasant person. This kind of came out of nowhere.
So we tried our first bottle of formula tonight. I cried. She had nursed w/ me and drank all I pumped from today and was still hungry. We had to do it. I think dr was going to tell me to start supplementing tomorrow anyway. But knowing that didn't make it any easier for me.
I feel for those of you still pregnant! I am honestly kind of glad my daughter came early!
This is what I wish I could do as I'm going out on maternity: