I love my midwifes but what will we do every two weeks? It's not like we did much in the monthly appointments. On the bright side, I get to hear LO's heartbeat often!
@lewliv pee in cup, weigh, blood pressure check, Doppler, measure fundal height. Repeat. Then you get to start going every week and have cervical checks and you'll get a strep b test.
Snark alert. DH's cousin is very put out right now because her boyfriend's brother just had a shotgun wedding (this is about a year after his original wedding with a long-term GF was called off, with that fiancee running off with tens of thousands of dollars of his family's wedding funds). And now Miss Shotgun is having a bridal shower. Yup, after the wedding, which she bitched at cousin for missing even though it was last minute and required travel and cousin couldn't get off work. Now she expects cousin at her shower, which is also short notice and it's hard for cousin to get off work. And that's just the bridal shower, not the baby shower which is sure to happen considering Miss Shotgun is currently 5 months along.
(Nothing against the shotgun wedding itself or accidental pregnancies- two of my friends are happily married to men with whom they got accidentally pregnant extremely early on in relationships. The snark is about the post-wedding bridal shower and being bitchy to cousin.)
Had to share that I'm done teaching for the spring semester! Now I can have more relaxing summer as I usually only work at most 20 hours a week in the summer!
@szwill86 and @PinkPrincessPiper I went back and read some old @bumpybump posts and figured out how to "correctly" gif!!!! Expect all my posts to include gifs now, I'm so excited!
@PinkPrincessPiper - hope all goes well with your mom! It'll be so nice when she can be out and about with no knee pain (I've known a few people who have had it done, and they're always thrilled after).
I think I MIGHT be getting the hang of flower gardening! I researched a lot and planted my garden yesterday (last year I had annuals in it and had to dig everything up). I'm school-kid excited to watch it grow; I just love bright, vibrant gardens/yards! Also, I bought a second apple tree to cross-pollinate my honeycrisp tree, because - again, according to all of the Internet - honeycrisps need cross-pollination, and there's literally no one near me who has an apple tree. DH and I got a cortland tree (justification: eat the honeycrisps, bake with the cortlands). I felt like I was discussing breeding animals while picking it out at the nursery yesterday, lol.
This might go in shit people say BUT hopefully it's a one off so it's random DH and I called our moms yesterday for Mother's Day. We had his mom on speaker and she was talking about how excited she was to see us for the baby shower in late June (she lives a few states away) and she said, kid you not, "and then *my name* will be really fat by then!"
Thankfully DH swiftly corrected her, and I try and give her a little credit since she's getting pretty old, but FLY A KITE MIL.
@mrsmatt1212 atleast you can say you're pregnant when she calls you fat. 2 years ago when I went to India to see my dad's side of the family, the first thing my cousin said to me was " wow, you look fat!" I was 125 pounds and had gained a couple of pounds after taking a rest from marathon running season. I literally wanted to smack my cousin and say something petty, but I kept my mouth shut.
@mrsmatt1212 - just ugh. Is it just MILs who have no filter? Mine is always quipping about "kissing my body goodbye" (she has since my first pregnancy). So I always retort with something like "but then I'll kiss my baby hello, and it'll all be worth it".
@HappyToBeHere That sounds so fun! I get weirdly excited about that stuff too. H and I started a garden last spring and I was like a little kid when literally two tomatoes sprouted on the vine
@PinkPrincessPiper Thinking about your mom - hope all goes well. Any update yet?
@Deansgirl14 That is SO TACKY I can't stand it. So obvious she missed out on a gift opportunity and is trying to have a re-do. I definitely wouldn't attend..or I'd bring a $10 kitchen tool and call it a day.
@mrsmatt1212 my Indian side of the family is extremely blunt/ low key rude. It's weird, I don't feel fat right now. I just feel my center of gravity has shifted:P
This might go in shit people say BUT hopefully it's a one off so it's random DH and I called our moms yesterday for Mother's Day. We had his mom on speaker and she was talking about how excited she was to see us for the baby shower in late June (she lives a few states away) and she said, kid you not, "and then *my name* will be really fat by then!"
Thankfully DH swiftly corrected her, and I try and give her a little credit since she's getting pretty old, but FLY A KITE MIL.
OMG at least he corrected her! My MIL (the nasty one, not my sweet step-MIL) asked if I was fat and wanted a picture of my belly to "ensure her grandbaby was growing properly". My husband just said yeah, she's getting big. Ugh. Thanks DH
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I just realized that tomorrow starts 3rd trimester....omg this is getting real. Specifically speaking we reeeeally need to find some names we agree on. We have a list of about 5 but neither of us is really crazy about any of them.
I love my MIL, she's great, but she is currently on my last nerve. She spoils DS rotten. If he wines at all, she gives in. She got mad at Easter because we told her she couldn't get him chicks or a rabbit. She's since tried to talk us into getting him a cat or dog. He's going to be 2 next month, so no, absolutely not. We decide when he gets a pet.
Every time I say I want to get or do something for him, she tries to do it. I'm making his birthday cake, I don't need you to buy one. No, I don't want you to buy or rent a bounce house for his birthday party when the only kids are him, my 3.5 year old niece, and my nephew who will be 3.5 months old. She's already bought him a quilt andsheets for his big boy bed and a pair of sandals for his birthday. That's plenty. She got her feelings hurt when we went on a family trip to the aquarium without her. How many times do we explain that we're trying to get some special time in as a family of 3 before the new baby is born?
Also, no, I don't need you to watch my 2 week old when I go for my incision check. Stop asking when you can keep him when I haven't even had him yet.
@SouthernMama15 yikes yikes yikes. Tell her she's already had her fun! Normally my MIL isn't this terrible, and thankfully we only see her like once a year, but she does drive me crazy because she'll talk as if I'm not in the room. Like she'll talk about me to DH when I'm sitting there. It's really weird.
@mrsmatt1212 She's also overly affectionate. Hugging and kissing me all the time, as in multiple times in just a couple hours. She used to kiss DS when I was trying to nurse him. I'm trying to wean off my anxiety meds right now and I have a very short fuse.
@SouthernMama15 I can see that behavior getting old really fast. Trying to kiss DS while you're nursing? No. Just no. It sounds like she's so worried that she's not loved or will be left out of stuff that she goes totally overboard buying gifts and kissing everyone left and right.
Guys a super effective solution to the MIL issue seems to have been to move across the world lol But for real sorry you guys seem to have some especially awful MIL's.
@secicc12 I never thought of the not feeling loved part. She had a good childhood, she's the oldest of 5 and she's very close with her mom, siblings, sisters and brothers in law, as well as her nieces and nephews. Her dad passed about 10 years ago. My FIL on the other hand, is not affectionate at all. DH and I have been together 7 years and I've never heard him tell her he loves her. I've barely heard him say to DH or his sister. He's a grumpy, selfish, chauvinist. You're probably right. I try so hard to be patient, but I just can't deal right now.
@SouthernMama15 - that's so frustrating. My MIL will do similar things, and nags about babysitting when she's not physically capable nor do I trust her judgement for the most part. I think the worst part about MILs like that is that they step on our toes trying to do all the "mom" things, and then if you try to vent, people just think you're ungrateful because they don't understand that THAT part of being a mom is being taken away. Does that make sense?
@HappyToBeHere yes! She used to babysit a lot, especially when I was still working. He used to spend the night nearly every weekend, but when he started being a spoiled rotten brat (for lack of a better phrase) after being over there, we had a conversation with her. I thought it sank in, but apparently it didn't. Her daughter is also pregnant and she keeps saying she can't wait to babysit all 3 at the same time. DH, SIL and her husband are all in agreement that won't be anytime soon. I feel like she's trying to be the mom again, but with no boundaries.
@SouthernMama15 sounds like my MIL. I love her to death but she totally spoils DD and I'm sure DS. She recently wanted to buy a "little" playhouse for the backyard. It's 2 story's, 11 feet tall and like 200 square feet. Oh, it's $2000. We declined. She oversteps her boundaries but way less now that she knows I don't put up with it. I never question her intentions but she drives me mad sometimes.
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(Nothing against the shotgun wedding itself or accidental pregnancies- two of my friends are happily married to men with whom they got accidentally pregnant extremely early on in relationships. The snark is about the post-wedding bridal shower and being bitchy to cousin.)
Sigh, people.
My weekend was so exhausting! I'm doing as little as possible at work today to recover
On a lighter note, I scored a new diaper bag this morning on Zulily for cheap (50% off Skip Hop).
@PinkPrincessPiper Thinking of your mom today. Hope all goes smoothly!
@szwill86 Thank you, lady!
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Thankfully DH swiftly corrected her, and I try and give her a little credit since she's getting pretty old, but FLY A KITE MIL.
@PinkPrincessPiper Thinking about your mom - hope all goes well. Any update yet?
@Deansgirl14 That is SO TACKY I can't stand it. So obvious she missed out on a gift opportunity and is trying to have a re-do. I definitely wouldn't attend..or I'd bring a $10 kitchen tool and call it a day.
Every time I say I want to get or do something for him, she tries to do it. I'm making his birthday cake, I don't need you to buy one. No, I don't want you to buy or rent a bounce house for his birthday party when the only kids are him, my 3.5 year old niece, and my nephew who will be 3.5 months old. She's already bought him a quilt andsheets for his big boy bed and a pair of sandals for his birthday. That's plenty. She got her feelings hurt when we went on a family trip to the aquarium without her. How many times do we explain that we're trying to get some special time in as a family of 3 before the new baby is born?
Also, no, I don't need you to watch my 2 week old when I go for my incision check. Stop asking when you can keep him when I haven't even had him yet.
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@mrsmatt1212 WTAF?! At least he corrected her!
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