Pregnant after a Loss
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~*15 weeks pregnant and scared after stillborn 2 years ago*~
Jadedm
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Ok...My first child was stillborn and now again I'm pregnant. Short story: I gave birth at 30 weeks..she stopped growing after 21 weeks...passed at 29 weeks. (Said she had been passed away for a week and like a idiot, I didn't know) Her bones didn't fully form either. Ending up getting Pre-Eclampsia but doctor told me that it happened after her passing (within that week) so it didnt cause her leaving me. Here I am again pregnant again...supposedly 15 weeks TODAY. But I just had a ultrasound at 14 weeks and the ultrasound tech said I was measuring one week behind. ( and it was even worse that she didnt let me hear the heartbeat... I'm literally trying NOT to cry on the table) Although I felt like she was rushing through and shrugged when I asked her.."So what does that mean?" And she said.."You have to ask your Dr." I'm still worried. Anywho, I asked my Dr. After she had to calm me down from crying, she said that the ultrasound is usually off by 1 or 2 weeks..and people like to think that these ultrasound machines are accurate magical machines and they're not. She came in with the Doppler and let me hear my nuggets heartbeat at 150 bpm and said everything was fine...and my due date hasn't changed. If this goes through, this will be my first living child and I'm on edge... I'm not sure how to feel about this.. do I still say I'm 15 weeks or 14 weeks? Is "one week behind " something to worry about? I'm waiting to feel those kicks as well that are said to happen around 16 weeks... I'm just so..negative about this whole pregnancy. Me and my S/O..i don't think we can handle this again..
Re: ~*15 weeks pregnant and scared after stillborn 2 years ago*~
Also, that heartbeat is great! Glad you got to hear it and 150 is a great number. But also, don't be upset if you don't feel anything at 16 weeks. A lot of women don't feel anything until 22 or even 24. In fact, most I've talked to said 18 was the earliest. Just wanted to remind you of that even though it's awful to have to wait even longer.
Anyway, I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep us posted. I hope you can get some more reassurance soon, and in the meantime, hang in there! It sounds like this little one is doing just fine and I'm hoping with you for a happy and healthy pregnancy!
I know there is little I can say to relieve the anxiety you must be feeling due to your previous loss - of the "PGAL Brain" as we often like to refer to it - but as @HGRich pointed out, that heart rate is perfect and a very good sign that all is well. I will pray for you daily - keep us updated!
I have to agree with the other ladies who said being off by a week is common, among SO MANY other things that put us on high alert. During this pregnancy I've had so many red flags popup at one scan and then be dismissed at another. All the extra testing and scans are a blessing and curse at the same time. PGAL makes it all so much worse for us. Practically all of this is totally, completely out of our hands, it's really hard to "let go" and take it day by day, but that's my only advice.
I want to ditto what a lot of people have said:
- the further you are into your pregnancy, the less reliable the measurements are. Early on all babies grow at a pretty consistent rate, but by late-1st/early-2nd-trimester they start to diverge. I'm 22 weeks, and the healthy range is 1.5 inches apart!
- It's super normal not to feel movement until mid-late-2nd-tri. I've only felt daily movement maybe for the last week, and it's not predictable at all (again, I'm 22wks). My friend was 25 weeks before she felt much movement.
- That heart rate sounds great!
Two other thoughts:Me.30 DH.31
BFP 2/3/17...edd 10/13/17
my only advice is don't over think everything, the ultrasounds don't give you EXACT measurements and a month from now your LO might even be measuring a bit bigger. they all grow at different rates and it's perfectly normal. this baby is going to be perfectly healthy. keep telling yourself that. you will get your little rainbow ♡
OK! SO I am 21 weeks...ill be 22 weeks tomorrow. Found out that I've been blessed with a baby boy. (Even though I found out at 17 weeks because I was involved in an accident where this idiot was flying and sent me into a brick building) At my 20 week scan (the whole big shebang. Where they get everything)...he was measuring on time..and actually a bit bigger than normal babies. Not by to much..he was 12oz and most are ten. I asked the U/S tech if it was normal and she was like "It could go either way..he could be 12oz or 14 oz...give or take plus or minus 2." I got to go back for another ultrasound because he was stubborn and didn't want to show his face..so they want to make sure everything there is right. Found out I have an anterior placenta so that's kind of freaking me out and not to mention me being paranoid because at 21 weeks, my first stopped growing and at 29 weeks she passed. This WHOLE thing keeps replaying and I'm speaking more positive around this baby... but still keep thinking that it's going to replay the same as my last. I desperately want to see my baby MOVE outside my stomach this time. Rosalyn was 1lb 13ozs so all I saw were thumps...that's it. No full rolling, my husband could let feel anything...at that point..i thought it was normal. So this time I'm trying EVERYTHING in my power to do right while not searching Google because Google can kill your brain. I just pray he continues to grow healthy with no problems.
TTC ~ 2 years
IUI #1: Jan 16 BFP!
May 16: Stillbirth
IUI #2 - IUI#5: Sept - Dec 16 -> all BFN
Dec16: laparoscopy & hysteroscopy
IUI #6: Jan 2017, BFN
Feb'17: first round of IVF
March 17: 1st FET