@am+mommy the kids have a cousin who always has headlice so every single time they go visit they come back with it. 8 am no stranger to this form of torture. Thank god for listerine !
@bcashaw I don't know if this helps but after a while I switched her shampoo to Organix Tea Tree Mint shampoo because I read tea tree can deter lice. I don't remember if it worked but hey, it could be worth a shot.
@am+mommy thanks I will try that!I have been slacking with the teatime oil recently ( usually I dab it behind their ears) @MississippiCatfish put it in a spray bottle and spray everyone's hair being VERY careful of eyes. Leave for 15 minutes then rinse it out. It's super gross because the dead bugs fall out once the water hits the head. I usually do it every 3 days 3 or 4 times but there have been times that I've only done it once and the lice are are gone and dead. I heard that it kills the eggs too but I'm not 100 percent sure so that's why I usually do it a few times. I should also note that yellow listerine works better for some reason, and will not accidentally dye your blond children green. Oh and it seriously reeks so I often rinse with vinegar just to cut the smell. It's honestly the only thing we've ever used that works everytime.
Yellow listerine (and dawn dish soap, not at the same time) also work on fleas if anyone ever needs it. I had to spray down everything in a terrible apartment I lived it. The whole place smelled like a retirement home for awhile but the bugs were gone!
Guardians of the Galaxy two made me cry so hard. Like the whole thing was me laughing through tears, ugly crying, or quietly sobbing. But so good. And Baby Groot reminded me of ds, which made me cry even harder..
@bcashaw those always kill me! DH changed his last name to his stepfathers right before we got married since he never knew his birth father and said he didn't want his wife and kids to carry on some deadbeats name when his "dad" raised him from age 2 up. I know how emotional that was for all of us and it gives me warm fuzzies.
Also, ANY surprise military homecoming video is instant waterworks, and those videos of colorblind people seeing colors with this special glasses. I'm a glutton for feel good tears!
Caught the end of the Mother's Day movie. Also found out our neighbor died. He was such a sweet guy and now his wonderful wife is in an assisted care facility because it really ramped up her dementia. Meanwhile, their deadbeat son is letting their house fall apart. They would be so upset!
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
I read this article last night that checked in with a couple 6 months after bringing home their 2nd child. It talked about the emotional pain the first child felt and from that moment on I couldn't get a grip. While I know that a sibling is a great gift, I am so overwhelmingly concerned about how DS will take the upset to his life. I'm tearing up again thinking about it.
@av2323 I know everyone reacts differently and your son is younger than I was but if it helps at all, I was smitten with my little brother from the minute he was brought home (I was 4). I couldn't get enough of him, we played all the time, when I went to kindergarten he figured out my bus schedule and was always waiting in the window for me, if he had to get shots at the doctor and was upset, I would cry too for him. Naturally as we got older we argued but when we were little we were best buds!
@av2323 I never really worried about that when I was pregnant with DS2 (there is a 5 year difference) or with DS3 (there is a 5 year difference down from DS2 and 10 from DS1). But this time around, I worry about it all the time!! DS3 is only going to be 15 months and I feel like I'm gypping him out of that special mommy time. We wanted kids close together and now I cry about it all the time. I'm sure it'll be fine, but for now the hormones have me ugly crying over pretty much everything!
@cmessamore Me too. I worry about his bedtime routine getting disrupted or his snuggle time after naps being cut short. I'm sure most moms have this anxiety. I need to get a grip.
My brother was 2 when I was born ( almost 3 I guess) and he absolutely adored me. He was angry with my mom for YEARS for not letting him watch me be born. He loved me to pieces and I felt the same way. We played well together when we were young and in our high school years he was very protective. I really think it depends on the child, it's a huge change but it doesn't have to be a negative one
I bought my first maternity clothes today. I'm both crying about how much I spent, the fact that I bought stuff that says Jessica Simpson, and that I'm totally unprepared for the idea that even though I'm not showing yet my bones are moving around and OMG THIS IS ALL HORRIFYING WHAT HAVE I SIGNED UP FOR?
and then my husband picked me out a sexy maternity nightie and my night got a little better
@irishfrisky@DuchessOfCambridge I agree! With such limited selections who cares who makes it! I loved my Jessica Simpson maternity jeans from last time. Wore them like every day.
The sizing on maternity jeans makes me laugh. I got some hand me downs and am right now in xs lounge pants. Ummm my butt isn't xs in anything. Also my favorite maternity jeans are size 2, who are they kidding? I'm an 8 at least in regular jeans. How do they expect people to order online?
@BayCamp Totally agree. I swear, it's all to make us pregnant women feel better. It does, but also irritates me when I have to return it and wait for them to ship me another one!
6:00 tonight!! And since I spent all day yesterday throwing up I've got a wicked long list of things to do today. I can't believe nothing in my house is cleaned and I have 30-40 people coming tonight
I was talking to DH's cousin about our baby shower situation (my mom is throwing a christening-type party after baby is born, so I thought MIL might like to throw the shower and get to have it her way but she didn't seem very excited about that) and she out of the blue offered to host one for us that takes the pressure off MIL but still lets her have "grandma attention" and I'm crying over how sweet she is and how easy she is making this for us because it was getting stressful.
Because in the middle of being totally overwhelmed by how many people are coming to this party DH looks at me and says, but just look at how many people love this baby already. Omg cue all the tears, I can feed 40 people if they love my baby
OMG, where do I begin. Yesterday at work I was loading up an instrument and I misaligned the feeder tray and the entire overnight run of samples was wasted and we had to do it all over again. Not totally my fault, as it was my 2nd time ever using this instrument, but I still felt horrible about it and kept apologizing to the girl who is training me (I'm filling her position once she leaves, her last day is Friday) until she finally said that she should have checked to make sure everything was set up properly.
Then I had to leave work at 11 to get to a daycare for a visit. My husband and I get there and tour the place and I was just so let down by it. I didn't know why at the time, but I realized it was because I kept comparing it to my preferred daycare which unfortunately has no openings for an infant when my maternity leave will end. So this place would ALWAYS be my second choice, and while the facility is nice, they are $50/week more expensive than my first choice AND they don't have any kind of online interface or digital program to upload daily updates and/or wellness pictures of the baby like the other one did. They also do not permit cloth diapering, they do not allow daily on-site storage of infant car seats, and they do not have any kind of in house meal plan--ALL of which the other facility offered, for $50 less per week. So for the privilege of paying way the fuck more money all around, they do...pretty much nothing to make my life easier.
I started bawling as soon as I got in my car and my husband SAW and waved me into a parking lot from his truck and then started a fight with me bc he did not understand why I was crying.
Me: 32 Husbando: 49 Married Since: 7/29/2012 omgosh
@Tourmalily you had quite the day! I'm so sorry it was so stressful And that your DH didn't understand why you were so upset! Hoping today went better for you and that you magically get into that first daycare. Lots of people go on multiple lists so maybe that isn't someone's first choice and they'll back out!
This isn't making me cry but is making me very sad. DH is doing this super long run thing this weekend and it's the first time we'll be spending a night apart since he had to take a business trip right after our honeymoon. It'll be fine and I'll get to watch some bad TV and I have my snuggly cat for company but...I love DH.
I walked in to Carters today, took one look at the baby girl side and lost it. I'm happy to be having a boy, but knowing this is most likely our last and I'll probably never have a daughter just kind of hit me like a punch in the face.
@BayCamp I cried on and off through my entire pregnancy with DS3 because of that feeling, we originally weren't planning on having another after him. I ended up having a break down over it and DH and I decided to try one more time. It's a totally understandable feeling.
And this may be a UO, but I hate when people say "you shouldn't care about the gender, as long as the baby is healthy." I mainly hate that, because I don't like when people tell me how I feel. but also just because I have/had a gender preference doesn't mean I'm not happy the baby is healthy.
@cmessamore someone literally asked me what I wanted and I said "I slightly prefer a girl because I'm a girl and I love their clothes..." and she jumped in with "YOU SHOULD JUST WANT A HEALTHY BABY" before I even had a chance to finish with "...but I'd be thrilled with a boy too, they also have adorable outfits and I'm just happy to be having a baby, especially since this is my first". I found it very annoying. At this point I AM in the camp of "I really don't care as long as it's healthy" but honestly if I was on my fourth and already had 3 boys, I would love the 4th boy with all my heart but would be sad about not having just one girl. I'd feel the same with all four being girls...I really want a mix and get to experience the joy of both!
I do also understand it in terms of people who have been trying really hard to have a baby and would be seriously happy with either so they get frustrated when they see people with what they want being sad about having x or y. But that still doesn't mean that person isn't happy about having a healthy baby, people are allowed to have dreams and they are allowed to be sad when those don't play out.
TL;DR Everyone's feelings are valid, but we can't be rude to each other about them.
@cmessamore I totally agree. It's a mixed blessing, just because I'm really excited about the life experience I'm going to have doesn't mean I can't be a little sad about the ones I might be missing.
Hearing "as long as it's healthy" makes me cry. Would they not want their baby if it weren't? Thankfully I think people who know our situation seem smart enough NOT to say that.
~Mom to an amazing Jan 2011 boy~ ~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
@pawcall I understand where you're coming from and how that phrase can be hurtful. I don't think people mean they won't want the baby if it isn't healthy. We all wish for our children to be healthy, but that's not to say we will love or want them any less if they aren't. DH and I had a long talk about this before we started TTC - I explained this was my baby and I wanted to keep it regardless of what happened and he agreed. Despite this, I will keep praying for a healthy baby but will love it no matter what happens.
I was dealing with a particularly whiny moment with my toddler today and an older lady whispered to me in passing "You're not alone, and you're doing a great job." Then me and my toddler were both crying.
Re: Why My Pregnant Self is Crying 5/5
what do you do with listerine??
@MississippiCatfish put it in a spray bottle and spray everyone's hair being VERY careful of eyes. Leave for 15 minutes then rinse it out. It's super gross because the dead bugs fall out once the water hits the head. I usually do it every 3 days 3 or 4 times but there have been times that I've only done it once and the lice are are gone and dead. I heard that it kills the eggs too but I'm not 100 percent sure so that's why I usually do it a few times.
I should also note that yellow listerine works better for some reason, and will not accidentally dye your blond children green.
Oh and it seriously reeks so I often rinse with vinegar just to cut the smell. It's honestly the only thing we've ever used that works everytime.
Yellow listerine (and dawn dish soap, not at the same time) also work on fleas if anyone ever needs it. I had to spray down everything in a terrible apartment I lived it. The whole place smelled like a retirement home for awhile but the bugs were gone!
All the tears.
Also, ANY surprise military homecoming video is instant waterworks, and those videos of colorblind people seeing colors with this special glasses. I'm a glutton for feel good tears!
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
and then my husband picked me out a sexy maternity nightie and my night got a little better
Totally agree. I swear, it's all to make us pregnant women feel better. It does, but also irritates me when I have to return it and wait for them to ship me another one!
WHEN IS YOUR REVEAL?!
Then I had to leave work at 11 to get to a daycare for a visit. My husband and I get there and tour the place and I was just so let down by it. I didn't know why at the time, but I realized it was because I kept comparing it to my preferred daycare which unfortunately has no openings for an infant when my maternity leave will end. So this place would ALWAYS be my second choice, and while the facility is nice, they are $50/week more expensive than my first choice AND they don't have any kind of online interface or digital program to upload daily updates and/or wellness pictures of the baby like the other one did. They also do not permit cloth diapering, they do not allow daily on-site storage of infant car seats, and they do not have any kind of in house meal plan--ALL of which the other facility offered, for $50 less per week. So for the privilege of paying way the fuck more money all around, they do...pretty much nothing to make my life easier.
I started bawling as soon as I got in my car and my husband SAW and waved me into a parking lot from his truck and then started a fight with me bc he did not understand why I was crying.
Married Since: 7/29/2012
omgosh
This isn't making me cry but is making me very sad. DH is doing this super long run thing this weekend and it's the first time we'll be spending a night apart since he had to take a business trip right after our honeymoon. It'll be fine and I'll get to watch some bad TV and I have my snuggly cat for company but...I love DH.
And this may be a UO, but I hate when people say "you shouldn't care about the gender, as long as the baby is healthy." I mainly hate that, because I don't like when people tell me how I feel.
I do also understand it in terms of people who have been trying really hard to have a baby and would be seriously happy with either so they get frustrated when they see people with what they want being sad about having x or y. But that still doesn't mean that person isn't happy about having a healthy baby, people are allowed to have dreams and they are allowed to be sad when those don't play out.
TL;DR Everyone's feelings are valid, but we can't be rude to each other about them.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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