FTM Check-in: Week of 5/8

bumpybump · May 2017

@dinofreak my breasts went up to a C when my milk came in. During my pregnancy I mostly only changed band sizes from a 34B to a 38B. I already know I'll be different this time as I've gone from a 34A to a 38B already. And you're right, everyone will be different.

Feliciosity · May 2017

I have a question regarding third-hand smoke. My in-laws want us over for dinner. They are heavy smokers, but they mostly smoke outside, while his step-mom occasionally also smokes in her room when she is alone. I know second-hand/third-hand is bad, and I imagine third-hand can be as well? Would it be okay to be there for a couple of hours? Or should I avoid going there?

Edited: Just found out that step-mom does smoke in her room now...

JWatt5 · May 2017

@Feliciosity - I've done a bit of research on this, there isn't much but I have the same thing with my in-laws. Third hand is the residue that is built up on a surface (smoke chemicals cling to everything). If they've smoked inside at some point without having properly cleaned their fabrics (couches/rugs/curtains) and hard surfaces, it could be still be on there.
At my old in laws house - they smoked in the house and I would not have been going there while I was pregnant and we wouldn't be visiting with the baby. But this new house - they don't smoke in. However they smoke outside the patio door with it open. I've gone over there twice now but just for dinner and I just hand wash often and leave any outside area they smoke in/or window they happen to smoke by. It's hard because everyone smokes in their family (DH quit cold turkey when I said I wouldn't date a smoker) and DH & I will have to talk to them about when the baby is born - they'll have to wash up, change their shirts before they touch the baby.

Feliciosity · May 2017

@JWatt5 Thanks for the input. I really appreciate it. For a while it was only step-mom that smoked, but since FIL picked it up, some smoking has occurred inside. It's looking like birthday dinner will be at a restaurant now because of me... I feel kind of bad but DH's dad and step-mom are really easy-going people, fortunately.

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f · May 2017

@Feliciosity Don't feel bad at all..you're doing what's best for you and baby. I feel bad for DH's family- you'll probably never want to let LO go over there to a house that reeks of smoke. Maybe this will be the push to get them to quit?

Feliciosity · May 2017

@secicc12 That would be awesome if this got them to quit. I have high hopes for FIL at least. He loves DH to the moon and back, and would do anything for us. Here is hoping!

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