@BayCamp I hate when people show up to parties early! I'm an anal hostess and want everything to be perfect when people show up. @RiverSong15 uncomfortable bras are the actual worst, I cannot stand them. I think about it all day long and I tense up when I'm uncomfortable and then my back starts to hurt.
Guys I'm just going to complain one more time - same bff, I think I'd mentioned previously she was going to throw my shower and I was just going to plan/pay for most of it since she's already busy planning and paying for her own wedding. Because of how she's been acting lately, I asked her if she'd prefer to not be super involved since her bachelorette is the weekend after, and she said she'd like to be involved in a "limited capacity". So basically went from I can't wait to throw your shower to don't want to help. I am hurt by this because I'm doing a ton of stuff for her bridal shower and am also planning and paying $$$ for her bachelorette. She doesn't need to do a single thing for her bach except show up. I also feel like she'd like to kick me out of the bridal party and have another non-pregnant friend in it instead. I should have offered to back down when I told her I was pregnant. I really didn't expect her to act like this towards my pregnancy since when a friend of hers got pregnant she was all about it. And also she's my best friend.
Ok end rant, sorry for my dear diary posts today. I recognize it's also completely possible I'm just hormonal and overreacting.
My WTF is to any bride who thinks her bridal party has to look a certain way and that INCLUDES being a certain size.
Go piss up a rope. People are in your bridal party because you cannot imagine celebrating your wedding without them by your side. Not because they'll look good in photos.
@DuchessOfCambridge I'm in my SIL's wedding and I am so thankful that she (and the rest of my ILs) are amazing. She understood that I most likely wouldn't go to the bachelorette night, even though there won't be drinking but I just can't stay up past 9 anymore haha. Even when I was worried the dress wouldn't fit she was helpful in finding option (seems though I can have it altered to fit as of now). And she listens to all my baby stuff and is helping MIL plan my shower, which will be just a month after her wedding. I'm sorry your friend is a bitch.
My WTF is DH's boss. He's military and his boss outranks him (obviously) and asked him to stay an additional 30 days. Technically it's DH's choice and he said no. He said no because our dogs have to fly too and its hard to fly once summer hits. Boss wanted me to fly back with luggage and 2 dogs, by myself. I can't even lift one of our dogs anymore let alone her in a crate. Now he's pulling a bunch of power plays on DH and it's stressful.
My WTF is to any bride who thinks her bridal party has to look a certain way and that INCLUDES being a certain size.
Go piss up a rope. People are in your bridal party because you cannot imagine celebrating your wedding without them by your side. Not because they'll look good in photos.
@DuchessOfCambridge please don't try to justify her crappy behavior. She's being awful and you deserve a better friend. Sorry you're going through this.
Thank you all for validating my feelings. It's really quite a hurtful situation. But for real, you can't be engaged for over a year and then get annoyed a couple decided they were ready for a child in that timeframe. Don't expect you to plan your wedding around my life, don't expect me to plan my life around your wedding.
#1 thank you to all of you ladies who took the time to answer my question - I'm fully realizing that I'm 35 and have gone through life not understanding but you guys found a way to break it down! I still hate health insurance companies- I feel like I'm getting fleeced ! @mariposa_767s @RiverSong15@txmomma16@am+mommy
#2 @DuchessOfCambridge your friend doesn't sound like she's being much of a friend - I hate to say this but during these times, you get to know who is really there/happy for you and who is a fair weather friend. SInce getting married and having ds my friends have changed a lot. I just don't have the time to do all the things they do and they aren't that interested in my life. I guess I'm saying sometimes you have to be prepared to let friendship evolve as they will. Obvs you aren't the one driving the change, she is. So I would take comfort in the fact that you are doing right by her
@DuchessOfCambridge I agree with everyone.Sounds like your friend is showing her true colors... Not really somebody you need around you to stress you out and make you feel guilty because your life doesn't revolve around her needs. My WTF is my work this week too. I haven't had time to take a lunch the past 4 days (we still get docked for it) and didn't stop to use the bathroom for 6 hours yesterday and 8 hours today. I'm fed up.
WTF to my teaching partner! She asked me what the rash was on one of my students' faces was and I said it was from a cold. She says, "you aren't pregnant are you?" (I'm pretty sure she overheard my conversation with my principal the day before) I nod and say I am VERY QUIETLY and then she's like oh we need to call and make sure it's not hand foot and mouth, that could be dangerous. I say I will call but she picks up her phone calls the office and tells them to call because we have pregnancy and then to call my room with the answer. She is in her 50s and definitely done making babies... Then she smiles at me and is like oh, oops, I had to say it so they would take it seriously. Seriously, no you didn't, WTF! I think she also told my other teaching partner after I explicitly told her I don't want to tell people yet...
WTF I'm gonna have the same wtf Wednesday through my entire pregnancy because it literally makes me want to rip my fucking hair out that it won't let me upload my bump photo. It has no problem letting me upload last week's. Or a picture of a dog or anything stupid but my bump photo? Not happening. Guys I'm losing it.
@DuchessOfCambridge please don't try to justify her crappy behavior. She's being awful and you deserve a better friend. Sorry you're going through this.
@DuchessOfCambridge I have to agree with PP. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Your shower shouldn't be stressful
@DuchessOfCambridge that situation with your BFF is ridiculous. I had 2 pregnant women in my wedding party and would have never treated them that wAy. I got a lot of enjoyment out of planning their shower and was completely understanding that they had other priorities. I wasn't a super self absorbed bride though (no offense to your BFF) and kept it in perspective. My wedding was not the center of everyone else's universe. I hope your friend gets that and can be genuinely happy and supportive of you!
Thanks everyone! I hope she's just having a stressful week and maybe later can think about how she'd like to be treated if she was going through her first pregnancy and was really excited about it. But yeah, I guess we'll see.
My WTF needs a little background info. I don't speak to my mother. I haven't in 2.5 years, honestly, she's pretty crazy and her bf is a drunk so I won't let him near my kids. I have told my mother that I do not want him around my kids and I don't want them to go to her house, but she's more than welcome to come here or we can meet somewhere. During the past 2.5 years, my mother has not text or called me or the kids on birthdays, holidays, the birth of DS3, nothing. She saw DS3 once at a party for my grandmother, but that was it. So that brings us to today. I told my grandmother that we were having a girl and she was so excited (I was the last girl born into our family). She decided to let my mother know. Apparently, my mother started crying and was upset that she won't get to see her granddaughter. Hey, lady, you have 5 other grandchildren here!! Remember them?? No, because you could never be away from your bf long enough to come see them. Grrrrrrr
@bcashaw yup! I'm super lucky, I have an aunt and a grandmother who both treat me like I'm their daughter and my mother in law is amazing, but some days I just wish I had a normal mother. Can't wait to have a healthy mother/daughter relationship with my daughter!!
@cmessamore sounds like your mom is manipulative. You don't need that crap in your life. @DuchessOfCambridge you are way too nice to pay for your own shower. Hell to the no. If someone throws you a shower they pay. That's a total WTF.
@DuchessOfCambridge I'm in a wedding in June and although my BFF has made a couple of comments, she is not acting anything like your friend. I think it's time to confront her and tell her how she is making you feel. @cmessamore My mother and two sisters don't know I'm pregnant. I made it clear to my other two sisters that they cannot tell them. They weren't there for me with my loss, they won't be able to celebrate this baby either. @Knottie19640588 WTF to people who think they get to announce others pregnancies? Such nerve!
My ears have been bothering me due to allergies. I have a T tube that was put in a couple of years ago to help out with fluid. My ear drum has felt hard on and off. Today, chunks of dried blood came out. Looks like I need to go to the ENT to get my ears cleaned and possibly get antibiotics for an infection.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
@cmessamore I can't imagine. My mom/in laws can be very annoying, but it's easy to set that aside because of the love I see in them for my kids. It must be so difficult to watch her think about your kids in that manner:( So sorry!
Ugh, my husband is being so lame. First of all, he always procrastinates when it comes time to getting gifts and cards and Ben he has to rush. Not just for me, but for gifts for his family members too. It's so frustrating. So last night I had bible study over and tonight I have a night out with moms. During dinner he threw a little fit about me doing so many social things and now he doesn't have time to get me a mothers day present. Seriously dude? I told him want I wanted weeks ago. He just didn't like that idea and so he didn't get it. That's fine, but he's had weeks now. Now, he was grumbling about having to go out after golf Saturday morning. Ugh. Usually he's pretty great at gifts but sometimes...
My WTF is my FIL has had issues with me for a long time (we don't know why) and now he wants to talk to me about it..but hasn't told me. He told DH that I need to talk to him (I've seen him twice since this convo and he has yet to say anything to me, he wants me to bring it up) why am I dealing with children before mine even comes?
@kaitlinliz wtf indeed. How immature. Why should you, the one who doesn't have the issue or problem, bring it up?? That makes no sense and yes, your fil is acting like a child. Huge eye roll.
@slaven My hearing is a little muffled, but the blood was dry and hard, so it's probably fine. I just don't want to have to take daily allergy meds, and I'm pretty sure that's what the doc will tell me to do.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
I know it's Friday but I have to rant a WTF and i know it's usually DH. He had yesterday off and tell me "I got so much done"....i need evidence, what did you get done because it was nothing inside the house and what he said he DID outside wasn't even finished, just harassed. So frustrating. Then he's awake (after me) for over 3 hours this morning before leaving And he can't even clean up behind himself let along help with anything or not mad my living room look like it's his bathroom/bedroom. But if I say anything about it, I'm "mean". This pregnant wife is going to end up doing everything.
@MaximumEffort you are not alone! I feel that way a lot! Either I do everything or occasionally DH is freaking out and cleaning like a crazy person which just gives me anxiety.
@MaximumEffort I feel for you! I get one day off a week and I keep my 3 y/o home from daycare because it's the only day I really get to see him. In that 1 day I have to get the house cleaned, errands run, appointments in and spend time with my son. My fiance is off every Sunday and most Saturdays and says he can't get anything done because he has to entertain my son. I have to specifically ask him if I need him to put a load of laundry in because I haven't had time. Even if he's completely out of jeans he won't think to throw a load of laundry in. It gets frustrating.
Re: WTF Wednesday 5/10
@RiverSong15 uncomfortable bras are the actual worst, I cannot stand them. I think about it all day long and I tense up when I'm uncomfortable and then my back starts to hurt.
Guys I'm just going to complain one more time - same bff, I think I'd mentioned previously she was going to throw my shower and I was just going to plan/pay for most of it since she's already busy planning and paying for her own wedding. Because of how she's been acting lately, I asked her if she'd prefer to not be super involved since her bachelorette is the weekend after, and she said she'd like to be involved in a "limited capacity". So basically went from I can't wait to throw your shower to don't want to help. I am hurt by this because I'm doing a ton of stuff for her bridal shower and am also planning and paying $$$ for her bachelorette. She doesn't need to do a single thing for her bach except show up. I also feel like she'd like to kick me out of the bridal party and have another non-pregnant friend in it instead. I should have offered to back down when I told her I was pregnant. I really didn't expect her to act like this towards my pregnancy since when a friend of hers got pregnant she was all about it. And also she's my best friend.
Ok end rant, sorry for my dear diary posts today. I recognize it's also completely possible I'm just hormonal and overreacting.
Go piss up a rope. People are in your bridal party because you cannot imagine celebrating your wedding without them by your side. Not because they'll look good in photos.
YOU ARE NOT HORMONAL @DuchessOfCambridge! She's wrong.
Thank god DH is home as I'm having weird vision issues
My WTF is DH's boss. He's military and his boss outranks him (obviously) and asked him to stay an additional 30 days. Technically it's DH's choice and he said no. He said no because our dogs have to fly too and its hard to fly once summer hits. Boss wanted me to fly back with luggage and 2 dogs, by myself. I can't even lift one of our dogs anymore let alone her in a crate. Now he's pulling a bunch of power plays on DH and it's stressful.
TTC since August 2018
@DuchessOfCambridge I'm sorry, she is being SO unfair to you.
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#2 @DuchessOfCambridge your friend doesn't sound like she's being much of a friend - I hate to say this but during these times, you get to know who is really there/happy for you and who is a fair weather friend. SInce getting married and having ds my friends have changed a lot. I just don't have the time to do all the things they do and they aren't that interested in my life. I guess I'm saying sometimes you have to be prepared to let friendship evolve as they will. Obvs you aren't the one driving the change, she is. So I would take comfort in the fact that you are doing right by her
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I agree with everyone.Sounds like your friend is showing her true colors... Not really somebody you need around you to stress you out and make you feel guilty because your life doesn't revolve around her needs.
My WTF is my work this week too. I haven't had time to take a lunch the past 4 days (we still get docked for it) and didn't stop to use the bathroom for 6 hours yesterday and 8 hours today. I'm fed up.
@cmessamore My mother and two sisters don't know I'm pregnant. I made it clear to my other two sisters that they cannot tell them. They weren't there for me with my loss, they won't be able to celebrate this baby either.
@Knottie19640588 WTF to people who think they get to announce others pregnancies? Such nerve!
My ears have been bothering me due to allergies. I have a T tube that was put in a couple of years ago to help out with fluid. My ear drum has felt hard on and off. Today, chunks of dried blood came out. Looks like I need to go to the ENT to get my ears cleaned and possibly get antibiotics for an infection.
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
TTC since August 2018
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
I feel for you! I get one day off a week and I keep my 3 y/o home from daycare because it's the only day I really get to see him. In that 1 day I have to get the house cleaned, errands run, appointments in and spend time with my son. My fiance is off every Sunday and most Saturdays and says he can't get anything done because he has to entertain my son. I have to specifically ask him if I need him to put a load of laundry in because I haven't had time. Even if he's completely out of jeans he won't think to throw a load of laundry in. It gets frustrating.