Hi I usually hang out in the multiples board but I'm noticing there aren't many parents of twins doing attachment parenting over there (think it's mostly GF) so I thought I'd see if there's any advice I can get here.
My twin boys are 9 months old. We've done AP from the start; held them whenever they wanted, wore one each in slings when we went out, BF, co-slept, rocked them to sleep etc. However we are absolutely exhausted by it all now! They have slept through about 3 times. We take a baby each at night (one is BF one on formula) and we are both up at least once a night for feeding, and potentially many more times for resettling. We have no family nearby to help. One of my boys (the bf one) has really bad separation anxiety and I literally cannot put him down without him screaming bloody murder. This makes nap times a total nightmare as I deal with his brother. He also wants held so much that he is not developing any crawling skills yet (his brother is almost walking).
I'm sure both my husband and I have had bouts of pnd just from the sheer relentlessness of it.
I feel frustrated as I really wanted to do AP but feel a lot of its principles assume you have only one baby.
My biggest concern is I'm going back to work in 3 months and just don't know how the bf twin will cope, as he's not that into solids yet. And I can't keep having broken nights sleep and hold down a job. Hubby is going to become a SAHD and I think he'll be great. Being on maternity leave has been great but I have suffered physically I now have problems in my wrists from carrying two babies so much, my back is a mess from awkward co sleeping (lol wakes easily in bed). I get ill all the time for ages as I'm so depleted, I have no energy for getting out and about with them due to the sleep deprivation. Is this really what AP is supposed to feel like?? Been posting on lots of AP forums and so far being met with silence...