STM+ check-in Week of 5/5

cait5413 · May 2017

How far along are you?

How old are your other kids?

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see?

cait5413 · May 2017

How far along are you? 7.5ish weeks (getting another u/s next week; last one was off from what I expected by a few days, so waiting for the update to see where I really am!)

How old are your other kids? 9 months old, as of this week

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Still having some anxiety over supplementing with formula and whether she's getting enough at the breast. But, she got a clean bill of health at her 9 month check-up, so I am not too concerned.

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I still can't believe it, kind of! (Especially this morning when DD woke up before 6 AM and then was crawling all over me and DH said, "ready to do this all over again?") Mostly excited to announce to our parents, which we plan to do later this month.

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ Our pediatrician told me not to give her egg whites, honey/karo syrup, or shellfish. I know the Honey/karo situation and would definitely not give that to her, but she's already had scrambled eggs with no reaction. I think that and the shellfish is for allergy reasons, but that is not what the AAP recommends. She's had peanuts, eggs, strawberries, etc with no problem and we have no history of food allergies in the family. We're heading up north soon and I planned to give her a first taste of lobster. Did anyone else hold off on shellfish or other frequent allergy triggers? My understanding is the new recommendation (with peanuts at least) is to give them a small amount as early as possible, and if there is no reaction in a couple of days, you can feed it to them from then on. Just wondering if I really should avoid shellfish--I'm leaning towards giving it to her.

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see? I'm excited for the Guardians of the Galaxy sequel. I'm sure we'll wait til its in the Redbox to see it--we've seen one movie in the theater since DD was born, when her grandparents were in town to watch her.

kaylawing · May 2017

How far along are you? 6 weeks

How old are your other kids? DD is 11 months old. (She turns one next weekend, which seems crazy to me!)

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
Since I'm still early on, I am still adjusting to the news and I'm pretty nervous about having two children so close in age!
My DD is teething, which is super fun. Lots of sleepless nights in our house this week! Does anyone else feel like the symptoms of teething are so similar to those of an ear infection/other illness? I often worry that she is sick, but I think most of it is just teething.

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : 11 months is such a fun age! She is crawling everywhere, babbling constantly, and sleeping well (when teething pains are disrupting our slumber!). She's just so sweet and fun right now and it makes me excited to add another.

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ This probably goes without saying for most of us, but first trimester fatigue+almost toddler=exhausted mama!

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see? oh gosh, I'm so lame- I couldn't tell you a single movie that's coming out this summer!

wabash15 · May 2017

@cait5413 our ped told us to offer what ever we wanted when ever (with the exception of honey). She also encouraged offering foods with higher risk of allergy early and often. we did not have any allergy issues. If you haven't either I would feel ok to try it and just keep an eye on your little one like you would any time your introing a new food item
@kaylawing teething sure can look like an ear infection or other things since their so crabby. I even recently took DD in to have her ears checked for an ear infection (she's had a lot of them) but it was just teething. Hang in there!

missbmama · May 2017

How far along are you?
9 weeks 4 days
How old are your other kids?
Almost 4 and a little over a year
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
We are going to try implementing a toy rotation for the boys. I tried super hard to keep the toy overload to a minimum but with 2 it just seemed to multiply overnight and I'm done with the mess and chaos. My boys do play with almost everything but lots of toys are broken or missing pieces and I really thinking having a rotation will help freshen up their play time.

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
I just love them. My almost 4 year old has entered the Why stage so there is never a dull moment. My 1 year old is beginning to repeat words back and has already started identifying colors which is always a fun and exciting stage.
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
I'm just tired and nauseous all the time. It gets old especially chasing toddlers all day.
GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see?
I'm also excited for the new Guardians of the Galaxy!

vvitchhazel · May 2017

How far along are you? 9+2

How old are your other kids? Evangeline is 15.5 months old

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Not at the moment!

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I'm just so excited to see my babies together!

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ We're moving into my parents house in a couple of weeks. DD is going to have her room upstairs with the other bedrooms, where the current grandchildren bedroom is. DH and I are renovating the basement, so we'll have our own bedroom and a really big living room/play room. The problem? DH wants DD downstairs with us now. Whyyyy? She sleeps through the night and there's really no reason she needs to be down there with us. We're going to have a newborn in our room by the end of the year, for goodness sakes. Ugh!

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see? Super excited for Guardians of the Galaxy. We're going to see it on Mother's Day! I'm also really looking forward to Wonder Woman.

vvitchhazel · May 2017

@cait5413 Our ped told us DD could have whatever we were eating by 9 months, with the exception of honey.

@kaylawing My daughter got her first tooth two weeks ago at 15 months. She's still teething and boy oh boy, I can't imagine doing this with an infant! I'm grateful she was a late bloomer! I do think teething symptoms are pretty similar to cold symptoms. I was unsure a couple times whether it was teething or if she was coming down with something.

ameliabedelia-2 · May 2017

How far along are you?
9 weeks

How old are your other kids?
She will be 3 in July

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
I love DD, but right now she's a bit of an asshole. Yesterday she hit me in the face and then tried to dive out of my arms face first into the hardwoods. Sometimes I feel like I am raising a miniaturized crazy person.

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
DD is obsessed with baby dolls and is very excited at the prospect of having a real baby in the house. I think she's going to be a wonderful and attentive big sister

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
All raves today....all my symptoms are gone, I feel amaze-balls. If I didn't have a home doppler to hear the heartbeat, I would be worried, but every day I find it! I have lost 6 lbs from cutting out the wine, so my clothes are actually looser, lol. I am trying to take advantage of it while it lasts.

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see?
Nope, I haven't been to the movies in ages. We don't do fun things anymore, lol

ngarciabyu · May 2017

How far along are you? 7w4d

How old are your other kids? 5 and 3

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? No concerns. My boys have been fighting non stop. It's constant whining and bickering and complaining about each other. I'm losing my mind

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : the boys really understand and want to big brothers. When I was pregnant with #2 my first was just 10 months, 19 months when #2 was born. So he really didn't understand fully the concept of becoming a big brother. It's fun this time around because they are so much more independent, I kinda feel like I'm a FTM again lol.

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ not right now

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see? is is bad that I have no clue what movies are coming out at all?

ameliabedelia-2 · May 2017

I meant to mention one thing, and don't know if it's been brought up before....but does anyone else feel any "guilt" over having another baby? My daughter is my best buddy and the love of my life. Part of me feels like I am somehow taking something away from her...by adding another kid to our family. I know she will love a little sibling, but I can't help but feel she will be losing the "spotlight" and attention she is so used to.

kaylawing · May 2017

@ameliabedelia-2, YES! I actually cried when we first found out we were pregnant because I felt so guilty about taking DD out of the spotlight and worrried about losing our special bond. From what I read, I know dd will be fine and we will still be close, but I still worry/feel guilty sometimes.

vvitchhazel · May 2017

@ameliabedelia-2 I've been having those feelings. My husband has been good about talking me down, but I just struggle with the fact that she's my world (and I'm her world) and we'll have another little person by the end of the year. How is it all going to fit together? I know we'll make it work, but it's always at the back of my mind.

wabash15 · May 2017

@ameliabedelia-2 I'm a bit of the opposite. I was glad to find out that this one is a singleton. Having twins I felt and still do sometimes that I can't give them the individualized attention a singleton would have gotten. I am nervous about balancing three though, meeting all of their emotional needs especially when the twins fight over me. (thank goodness for 2 knees for them to sit on!) Maybe try to think of it as adding to her experience instead of taking away. One other thought is to do individual child dates... where maybe DH watches the baby and you go do something one-on-one with DD.

readermom1 · May 2017

How far along are you? 7w5d

How old are your other kids?
3 1/2 and 2

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
My only concern is that I'm so tired all the time that I'm having a hard time playing with them and maintaining our usual activities. I don't want them to miss out, especially since I know that when the new baby comes we'll be spending a lot more time at home for a while.

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
My 2 year old DD is working on potty training and is doing really well! I'm so glad that we'll be a diaper free household at least for a little bit!

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
My husband has been really understanding and picking up the slack since I started feeling that lovely first trimester sickness/exhaustion. Right now he's downstairs giving the kids dinner because the smell of cooked food is making me sick.

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see?
My son is really excited to see Cars 3, but I don't even know anything else that's coming out! We're pretty boring these days...

readermom1 · May 2017

@ameliabedelia-2 I felt that guilt when I was pregnant with my second, but they're so close and play together so well (mostly) and I have a great bond with both of them. I'm actually worrying about number 3 being left out because they're so close! I have to worry about something right?

@vvitchhazel maybe your DH would feel better about your DD being upstairs if you put a video monitor in her room? That way you'll know right away when she needs something, but you won't all be on top of each other when the new baby comes. We still have one in both kids rooms.

ETA: Half of my comment keeps getting cut off. Stupid Bump!

cait5413 · May 2017

ameliabedelia-2 said:

I meant to mention one thing, and don't know if it's been brought up before....but does anyone else feel any "guilt" over having another baby? My daughter is my best buddy and the love of my life. Part of me feels like I am somehow taking something away from her...by adding another kid to our family. I know she will love a little sibling, but I can't help but feel she will be losing the "spotlight" and attention she is so used to.

Yes! The guilt is real. I am happy we're giving DD a sibling, but I feel very guilty we are doing it so soon--especially because it is affecting breastfeeding. I definitely go back and forth between feeling excited and happy and wanting to tell her I'm so sorry! :'( I think this is normal.

vvitchhazel · May 2017

@jkresyman We do use a monitor, which is why I don't get why he wants her with us. My parents are in the room right next to hers, so if there is an emergency, they're right there. Of course, it'll only take us a minute to get to her, if that. And it's not like we won't hear her, monitor aside. Her room will be directly above ours. I think he's just so used to living in such a tiny apartment that he's used to her just being a couple steps away at any given time.

ohmickey331 · May 2017

How far along are you?
7w3d
How old are your other kids?
Aiden is 2
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? Acting out and not listening

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : watching Aiden be obsessed with new baby! Kid loves babies

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see?

bkrahn · May 2017

@ameliabedelia-2 YES. I'm actually really struggling with that. I feel super guilty knowing that I won't be able to give DD as much attention, especially in those first few months with the new baby..

How far along are you?
9w 3d

How old are your other kids?
DD turns 1 in two weeks! So crazy!

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
DD has been sleeping through the night for the past week (which has been incredible!) but in turn has decided that she only needs 1 nap during the day. She is the queen of 1 hour naps and that hour is just never enough for me!

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
I'm just still trying to wrap my head around it! I've had basically no symptoms this week, apart from one day of sickness, and I'm super thankful for that!

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
None.

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see?
i'm really excited to see the new Guardians of the Galaxy as well but I'll probably have to wait until it's on blu-ray.

ameliabedelia-2 · May 2017

Thanks for helping me feel like I'm not the worst second mom to be ever. It's been a weird struggle between excitement and guilt. Glad I'm not just crazy

Jellybelly119 · May 2017

How far along are you? 9+2

How old are your other kids? 15 months

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now? I'm feeling majorly guilty as well. I'm already struggling with trying to balance working FT (really long work days), trying to get errands/housework done on my days off, and giving Zachary plenty of attention. How am I going to be able to give him what he needs once my attention is divided even further??

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM : I'm excited, but mostly nervous right now.

Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/ none at the moment

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see? I hate movies for the most part! I don't have the attention span for them, I get uncomfortable sitting in one spot for hours, and I just spend the whole time thinking about what else I could get done. DH is appalled by this because he's obsessed with movies. He goes on a lot of man dates to see them haha.

failuretofly · May 2017

@cait5413 I feel you on the anxiety over current babe getting enough at the breast, he seems to get so frustrated! I'm glad she is doing well and your ped isn't worried! As for allergies, we didn't hold off anything except honey, DS is fine and seems to be allergy free!
@kaylawing omg the fatigue + toddler life... it's almost unbearable!
@missbmama a toy rotation is such a good idea! I keep saying I am going to do that with DS but haven't got around to it. I did however start a book rotation in his bedroom for bedtime stories and it was the best decision ever, because they are not splayed all over the floor anymore!
@vvitchhazel I feel your hubs haha my H wants to move DS into the other bedroom (it's bigger) and I'm like NOOOO no more change! haha okay maybe not the same, just me being crazy lol
@ameliabedelia-2 I totally get you on the guilt over having another. DS and I have our little routines that I LOVE that will totally have to change when the new babe comes, and I just cant imagine how I am going to do it all, AND give him all the love and attention he deserves

How far along are you?
8+2
How old are your other kids?
DS is 15.5 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM or questions about things your children are going through now?
DS is currently cutting FOUR teeth, 2 canines and 2 molars, he'll be totally fine then all of a sudden have a meltdown over it. He's also refusing to eat dinner most days, I think because his mouth is just sore and he's over it.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM :
I can't wait to have my first ultrasound next week!
Rants/Raves/Randoms/Questions/
RAVE: It's been SO beautiful these past couple days, DS and I have basically spent half the day outside, he just loves it! He's learned how to climb the structure and slide down the slide all by himself at the park and he's so proud of himself!

GTKY: Any summer movies coming out you're excited to see?
Honestly, I hate going to the theatre. the seats are uncomfortable and the snacks are expensive and I can't pause it if i need to go pee and it's awkward if I fall asleep. So just, no. lol So currently I am waiting for Bad Moms to come out on netflix haha

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