I actually don't understand being so mad at men leaving the toilet seat up. Women complain about "falling in" and I think, lady don't you look at the toilet seat before you sit down anyway to check for stray pee dribbles or anything?! I can't imagine just trust-falling onto the toilet!!
DH doesn't do it so maybe I'm spoiled and that's why it doesn't enrage me, but I feel like expecting them to always leave it prepared for us, but meanwhile they have to lift the seat every time seems strangely sexist...
H never puts the seat up, he just aims carefully and I love it! The only time I could see myself falling in is in the middle of the night when I stumble in there.
My H leaves the seat up. It's not really an argument in our house because it's not worth the energy for me but I DO wish he'd learn to put it down. Honestly I'm used to it so not much falling in around here but I think it looks ugly especially in our downstairs guest bath...
@ShadeofGreen816 I've never thought about the aesthetic side of the seat being down...it definitely LOOKS better in the down position!
The way women carry on about it sometimes though makes me think of those tacky glitter keychains at Spencer's from the 80's saying "Men are only good for this!" and "Men always do XYZ!" and "I like my man this way!"
@WombThereItIs I also married a sitter so no issue. I also like the cover down. We put iron tablets in our toilets and I don't want any dogs or anything getting into them.
My UO is that I think everyone should have a end of life plan? Death plan not sure what to call it. But for the last 3-4 years I bring it up to DH and he shuts me down. I want to buy our plots at a cemetery and have everything laid out so it doesn't burden our family when the time comes. Might be morbid?? I just think it's easier when everything is in place and the wishes are known than to put the pressure of dealing with the death on left loved ones. We are meeting with an estate lawyer to plan out our wishes for this LO, why not include our death plan or whatever with it.
I have no words in the seat up/down game, I married a sitter. It is AMAZING
ME TOO!!! DH is on the road almost full time so it mostly wouldn't matter, but he's a sitter so we're good. Now if so could just get him to replace the TP when the roll is empty...
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
I love my mom so much, but she's been my motivation to do everything differently than her as an adult. I've tried to talk about it with her and she shuts down. She doesn't understand how heavy it could be for us because she is retired but has very small retirement, is unable to work right now, has no savings whatsoever. My brother has been homeless on & off for 15 years so if anyone has to swoop in to take care of her expenses and planning it's us. My grandparents had everything planned and when my mom had to take care of things when my gramma passed away 4 years ago, all she had to do was call the coroner and the funeral home. The rest was pre-arranged! I asked her, didn't that make your grieving process so much easier? She wouldn't have any of it!
We have had a will written up and will definitely be making our plans too in the near future. I think it all boils down to fear for some people...
While everyone's at it - designate a healthcare power of attorney or official decision maker and write a living will! I truly believe there are worse things than death and we can do them to you in the hospital. Usually Healthcare POA has to be separate from a durable POA. And don't just assume your spouse will be the one with rights in that scenario. It is state dependent but for example, in indiana, spouse, parents, siblings, and adult children ALL HAVE THE SAME DECISION MAKING POWER. It can get very messy.
Granted I believe in all of the above but we currently don't have a will or funeral arrangements etc or living will... so I'm a giant hypocrite!
+1 for marrying a sitter, DH has lots of brothers and never liked being blamed for peeing all over the bathroom.
Re death plan: I'm not sure how far I would go with it, but I do think it's a good idea to have at least some of your ducks in a row
UO: I think it's weird to stop complete strangers in a store and ask them about their kid/s. Happens all the time with DD and with this pregnancy and while it doesn't necessarily bother me, it does strike me as a bit odd.
@sweaterboots I agree with you, too. I don't really get being upset over the toilet seat being up. That being said, my H is actually adamant about the entire thing (including the lid or whatever the top cover is called) being down for aesthetic reasons. So, he always lowers the entire thing anyways.
I dont care about the toilet seat position. His arguement is well I have to put it up everytime I need to go, you can very well put it down. Whatever dude. He cleans the toilets regularly too. He has been nice about putting it down most of the time lately especially before bed because of my frequent trips to the bathroom overnight, so I wont fall in in the dark
H tried to pick the toilet seat fight with me. I told him the lid was going to be down because that is disgusting, end of fight. The tp changing got better real quick after I made sure a couple times he only had 2 squares and he complained. He tried to use the excuse that I use more so I should always change it, I told him 2 squares is enough for me
I actually kind of like getting asked about how the pregnancy is going and things like that that are "none of your business." And a part of me likes the "how are you feeling?!" comments from people coming out of the woodwork who are actually just asking, essentially, "have you had the baby yet?" Though I remember not liking those when they came after my due date because I was frustrated. But leading up to the due date I kind of don't mind them, because I like how friends and family are getting in touch. And given that I definitively WANT to stay pregnant for about another week or so at least, maybe that's why I'm kind of liking it this time around.
And FFTC -- my best friend's due date was yesterday. I was dying to contact her all week and be all, "I'm thinking about you" because I really am thinking about her, so I broke down today and did text her to say "I'm thinking about you, but I don't want to be like all of those annoying people, so I'm going to give you this website if you need it: https://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com" We then had a good exchange. And I guess it was two-sided because she could get info on my final days just as I was getting info on her situation.
I'll be the crazy toilet seat position lady, in our house the rule is he has to put both the seat and the lid down. I hate even walking in the bathroom and seeing the lid up, something about that is just so gross to me!
Every.single.day. this week I've gotten multiple "You're still here!" "no baby yet!" "anything?" and honestly, I dont mind too much. I know everyone's just kind of excited for me that or they are hoping to win the baby pool we did (donuts!)
Re: toilet seats- apparently I'm on the super annoying end of the spectrum. Not only do I get angry when men leave the seat up but I hate when people leave the lid up in our house bathrooms. All I can picture when I flush is microscopic poo particles flying all over the bathroom. Lid before flush. Always.
Also, my lid policy has nothing to do with a concern about falling in, it's more about me not wanting to touch the seat to put it down. I usually use my foot, although I once lost a flip flop in the toilet doing that. The way I see it, men sometimes need the seat down as well, whereas women never need the seat up. So, looking at overall toilet usage by men and women, more than half of bathroom occasions require seat being down. So just put the seat down.
Okay, I'll stop myself now. Apparently I have many feelings about toilet etiquette.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
Not sure if this is a UO, but I totally judge men who won't even consider getting a vasectomy. I understand that it's not for every couple, but I have so many friends whose husbands will not even consider it because the thought of the procedure scares them. That would not fly with me.
On a semi-related (not really) note, I have a friend whose husband doesn't change diapers. He just "doesn't like it." Because it's the highlight of every other parent's life?
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@kayemjay2 I don't get it either why some men won't consider it. Yes you are sterile but if you decide it's a lot easier to reverse than a woman's. Plus it saves you money from buying condoms or whatever and your wife pushed out a baby least you could do is make it so she doesn't have to go back on birth control. I think their selfish and or uneducated about the procedure.
I have fallen in. It was terrifying. Although it was likely due to me leaving the seat up after cleaning or something as DH consistently puts it back down. Coming from a house of sisters, he knows what to do.
Am I the only one who watches Keeping Up With the Kardashians? Kris asked Caitlyn about her tendency to pee sitting down. I thought that was a bit ridiculous.
I joined a tiny homes Facebook page. It's super interesting. I am not a huge fan of the tiny home movement, but some families are living in their 5th wheel RV. Apart of my really would love to do this, but another part of my is like nope, I need a full sized kitchen.
I guess my UO is that I wouldn't ever say 100% no to this idea. Especially when DH retires. We have family on both sides of the country, we would save a ton of money in the long run with a RV.
I joined a tiny homes Facebook page. It's super interesting. I am not a huge fan of the tiny home movement, but some families are living in their 5th wheel RV. Apart of my really would love to do this, but another part of my is like nope, I need a full sized kitchen.
I guess my UO is that I wouldn't ever say 100% no to this idea. Especially when DH retires. We have family on both sides of the country, we would save a ton of money in the long run with a RV.
My parents retired when I went off to college and toured the US in their 5th wheel and semi. They did that for 5 years before my Dad stopped resisting all the job offers he was getting (he must be a good worker!) and went back to work. Now they live near us
... On a semi-related (not really) note, I have a friend whose husband doesn't change diapers. He just "doesn't like it." Because it's the highlight of every other parent's life?
@kayemjay2 I literally was going to say the same regarding me who won't get snipped. Like really is it affecting your manhood that much that you can't spray sperm all over the earth?? Do you not know what your wife just endured???
I guess I don't have a UO today. Just lots of agreement with everyone else's opinions. Come on who's got a good political UO? it's a big day for that
I'm not sure if this will be a UO or not (and it may highlight how selfish I am). Concerning a vasectomy, I heard/read someone say that they didn't want their husband to have one because what if they (themselves) were to die and their husband wanted to have more children with someone else. Um... that is a check in the OTHER column for me! I know they can be reversed, but I would be pretty happy knowing I was going to be the only mother of his children. No lookin' out for a hypothetical future wife on my part!
+1 for marrying a sitter and it is wonderful. H was sick and passed out while peeing in his dorm community bathroom and ended up with a bunch of stiches in the back of his head. So he has opted to sit since. I definitely fell in during the night when I lived with my parents. That wakes you up real quick!!
I totally want all of my end of life details sorted far before. So many good ideas here. I do not want to cause fighting, stress, or a financial burden between loved ones. I don't think that is morbid, I think it is caring.
I totally ride the fence on stranger comments. Sometimes I would just prefer they say something because their silence feels awkward and other times I wish people would go away. This probably has more to do with my mood at that very moment.
I definitely judge men that will not consider a vasectomy. Luckily the men I am around seem to fully take that on without question when the time comes. It's almost a rite of passage.
And I would probably end up in a verbal altercation with a man that said he "wasn't into" changing his own children's diapers. Like I get that DS' uncles are not lining up to have a go at diaper duty, but seriously every dad needs it be able to handle all the things his kid needs even if mom might do more frequently (except BFing of course).
My brain is too fried to think of my own OU, so thank you all for yours as a distraction.
@kayemjay2 I literally was going to say the same regarding me who won't get snipped. Like really is it affecting your manhood that much that you can't spray sperm all over the earth?? Do you not know what your wife just endured???
I guess I don't have a UO today. Just lots of agreement with everyone else's opinions. Come on who's got a good political UO? it's a big day for that
Hahahaha I love the image that came to mind with "spray sperm all over the earth." Fantastic. And I totally agree. One of my friends broke her tailbone and pelvis while pushing her first baby out THEN got pregnant when baby #1 was 12 weeks old, carried her 2nd baby with a broken tailbone and pelvis and pushed him out. Her husband is one who refuses to consider the big V. What a ball sack. (I prefer that term to "pussy" in terms of insult. Pussies are much tougher. Clearly.)
I'll bite on politics....the American Healthcare Act is a flaming pile of misogynistic garbage and anyone who voted for it should be ashamed of him/herself.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
I make sure my husband does a fair share of the diapering, food cutting, etc. when he is home or we're on the road with him. In part because it's fair, but also in part because he's not with us a lot and if something happened to me he'd need to know what DD is used to, etc. So I also show him the bedtime routine, teeth brushing routine, and all the other nuances and such that DD does or is used to.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Hahahaha I love the image that came to mind with "spray sperm all over the earth." Fantastic. And I totally agree. One of my friends broke her tailbone and pelvis while pushing her first baby out THEN got pregnant when baby #1 was 12 weeks old, carried her 2nd baby with a broken tailbone and pelvis and pushed him out. Her husband is one who refuses to consider the big V. What a ball sack. (I prefer that term to "pussy" in terms of insult. Pussies are much tougher. Clearly.)
I'll bite on politics....the American Healthcare Act is a flaming pile of misogynistic garbage and anyone who voted for it should be ashamed of him/herself.
OMG to your friend's story but yes even more so to this "healthcare" bill that is basically no healthcare at all!!!!!!
A friend of mine posted this today, which he called the "physics" of healthcare (physics because it's about laws of conservation):
"People get health care. Health care costs money. There are actual
inefficiencies that exist in the system, but mostly, the choices in
health care systems amount to
a) people can get less health care; b) people (insurance companies, hospitals, drug and device makers, doctors) can be paid less money; c) we can shift around who pays
That's it. The details are really important, of course, but most of the general
fighting is either about one of these things, or tries to pretend that
this basic equation doesn't actually exist."
And I couldn't agree more. I'm of the mind that people should get healthcare and perhaps some of the people in choice b could be paid less (e.g. insurance companies), but that we should absolutely shift around who pays. The rich and healthy should pay. You can't control if you're going to get sick (healthy lifestyles aside, which btw are largely related to richness anyway). So why doubly punish those who are sick by making them pay extra while they're sick? I'm all for a single-payer plan, personally. If I don't like the ACA ("Obamacare") it's because it's not socialized enough. Healthcare is the ONE thing I'd like to be socialized.
Did you all see that pregnancy is considered a pre-existing condition? And your premium could go up by 425% for being pregnant? The estimate was paying $17K for being pregnant. Glad this is my last kid.
H will definitely change diapers and be an equal partner in taking care of our child. No way would I put up with him not.
My UO is usually a big deal to most people who find out and it's definitely a UO. I don't like cheese. I don't mind it on pizza if it's not too much and a snack of apple slices with some sharp cheddar is yummy but that's it.
OMG to your friend's story but yes even more so to this "healthcare" bill that is basically no healthcare at all!!!!!!
A friend of mine posted this today, which he called the "physics" of healthcare (physics because it's about laws of conservation):
"People get health care. Health care costs money. There are actual
inefficiencies that exist in the system, but mostly, the choices in
health care systems amount to
a) people can get less health care; b) people (insurance companies, hospitals, drug and device makers, doctors) can be paid less money; c) we can shift around who pays
That's it. The details are really important, of course, but most of the general
figures hting is either about one of these things, or tries to pretend that
this basic equation doesn't actually exist."
And I couldn't agree more. I'm of the mind that people should get healthcare and perhaps some of the people in choice b could be paid less (e.g. insurance companies), but that we should absolutely shift around who pays. The rich and healthy should pay. You can't control if you're going to get sick (healthy lifestyles aside, which btw are largely related to richness anyway). So why doubly punish those who are sick by making them pay extra while they're sick? I'm all for a single-payer plan, personally. If I don't like the ACA ("Obamacare") it's because it's not socialized enough. Healthcare is the ONE thing I'd like to be socialized.
@kat81 to the bolded: are you saying that if I am healthy and middle class I should pay more for my health care just because I'm healthy?
@rebecca517-2 NO!!! You are just like my DH he doesn't do cheese either so we can never share anything. At least you like a little he doesn't do any. But I secretly hide it in some foods usually sweets bc seriously cream cheese is life!
@sweaterboots You said it well. I think it's sexist to assume men should leave the toilet in a way for women, yet we get mad if they forget or don't. That being said, I married a sitter so don't have to worry about this ever. Also, like @kayemjay2 I think leaving the lid up is gross because I think of all the waste particles flying in the air.
Yes to death plan, POA, living will, etc.
I can't imagine a husband who won't change diapers. This is enraging in so many ways in my mind. It's also sad that this parent won't be fully involved in all aspects of parenthood/ his child's upbringing. Plus, it's not like anyone enjoys changing a diaper. It makes me wonder in what other ways this husband is wonderful.
As for the healthcare bill that passed, it's literally put me in such a sad slump this afternoon. I just want to cry, a lot, but I'm so stunned and saddened I just feel... numb. No comment, I just hate this country more and more these days.
@rebecca517-2 I used to dislike cheese 90% of the time, but since having GD it's one of the only things I can eat 100% guilt free, so I've developed a friendship with it.
OMG to your friend's story but yes even more so to this "healthcare" bill that is basically no healthcare at all!!!!!!
A friend of mine posted this today, which he called the "physics" of healthcare (physics because it's about laws of conservation):
"People get health care. Health care costs money. There are actual
inefficiencies that exist in the system, but mostly, the choices in
health care systems amount to
a) people can get less health care; b) people (insurance companies, hospitals, drug and device makers, doctors) can be paid less money; c) we can shift around who pays
That's it. The details are really important, of course, but most of the general
figures hting is either about one of these things, or tries to pretend that
this basic equation doesn't actually exist."
And I couldn't agree more. I'm of the mind that people should get healthcare and perhaps some of the people in choice b could be paid less (e.g. insurance companies), but that we should absolutely shift around who pays. The rich and healthy should pay. You can't control if you're going to get sick (healthy lifestyles aside, which btw are largely related to richness anyway). So why doubly punish those who are sick by making them pay extra while they're sick? I'm all for a single-payer plan, personally. If I don't like the ACA ("Obamacare") it's because it's not socialized enough. Healthcare is the ONE thing I'd like to be socialized.
@kat81 to the bolded: are you saying that if I am healthy and middle class I should pay more for my health care just because I'm healthy?
OMG to your friend's story but yes even more so to this "healthcare" bill that is basically no healthcare at all!!!!!!
A friend of mine posted this today, which he called the "physics" of healthcare (physics because it's about laws of conservation):
"People get health care. Health care costs money. There are actual
inefficiencies that exist in the system, but mostly, the choices in
health care systems amount to
a) people can get less health care; b) people (insurance companies, hospitals, drug and device makers, doctors) can be paid less money; c) we can shift around who pays
That's it. The details are really important, of course, but most of the general
figures hting is either about one of these things, or tries to pretend that
this basic equation doesn't actually exist."
And I couldn't agree more. I'm of the mind that people should get healthcare and perhaps some of the people in choice b could be paid less (e.g. insurance companies), but that we should absolutely shift around who pays. The rich and healthy should pay. You can't control if you're going to get sick (healthy lifestyles aside, which btw are largely related to richness anyway). So why doubly punish those who are sick by making them pay extra while they're sick? I'm all for a single-payer plan, personally. If I don't like the ACA ("Obamacare") it's because it's not socialized enough. Healthcare is the ONE thing I'd like to be socialized.
@kat81 to the bolded: are you saying that if I am healthy and middle class I should pay more for my health care just because I'm healthy?
Speaking for myself, yes. Absolutely.
We can pay the same. But I shouldn't have to pay more. I shouldn't have to pay more so that people like my BIL, of able body and mind, can refuse to get a job for years and have 100% of his medical care covered by the working and taxpaying population anytime he walks into a clinic or ER. He just fills out a form and is seen, treated, given meds, whatever he needs. The one thing he doesn't get is a bill. I, on the other hand, have so many bills and statements coming in to this house for myself and DD that I can barely keep it all straight, let alone pay for all that isn't covered by my increasingly expensive ACA health plan. The Dr in my my PCP office is in-network, but the PA that works under her provider service apparently isn't. Flu shot? Not covered. Two MFM in the same practice? Sorry, only one of them is apparently in-network. Ultrasound office that the team of in-network OB's send us to and is located on my in-network hospital campus? Not in-network. All bill$$$ I have to pay now. I can't afford to pay for my healthcare and someone else's too.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
... And I couldn't agree more. I'm of the mind that people should get healthcare and perhaps some of the people in choice b could be paid less (e.g. insurance companies), but that we should absolutely shift around who pays. The rich and healthy should pay. You can't control if you're going to get sick (healthy lifestyles aside, which btw are largely related to richness anyway). So why doubly punish those who are sick by making them pay extra while they're sick? I'm all for a single-payer plan, personally. If I don't like the ACA ("Obamacare") it's because it's not socialized enough. Healthcare is the ONE thing I'd like to be socialized.
@kat81 to the bolded: are you saying that if I am healthy and middle class I should pay more for my health care just because I'm healthy?
I think that the middle class should pay more than the poor, yes. The rich should pay much more than you (they should be funding most of it, imo). No a healthy person should not pay MORE than a sick person; that is ridiculous. But what is also ridiculous, imo, is for healthy people to pay considerably less than sick people. (See, I'm even ok with sick people paying a BIT more under some circumstances, like a token copay or something, as they have been accustomed to even when we they have very good health insurance plans.) This "high risk pool" nonsense is nonsense and totally unfair.
@RedInLove oh there aren't definitely improvements we could make to the current system, but repealing the slow start we have seems backwards as all hell.
Single payer makes sense to me. I'll pay more in taxes so you and I don't have insane copays and network restrictions and our deadbeat siblings can be covered too.
Re: UO 5/4/17
DH doesn't do it so maybe I'm spoiled and that's why it doesn't enrage me, but I feel like expecting them to always leave it prepared for us, but meanwhile they have to lift the seat every time seems strangely sexist...
*prepares for backlash from May sisters*
May '17 labor memes
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
The way women carry on about it sometimes though makes me think of those tacky glitter keychains at Spencer's from the 80's saying "Men are only good for this!" and "Men always do XYZ!" and "I like my man this way!"
My UO is that I think everyone should have a end of life plan? Death plan not sure what to call it. But for the last 3-4 years I bring it up to DH and he shuts me down. I want to buy our plots at a cemetery and have everything laid out so it doesn't burden our family when the time comes. Might be morbid?? I just think it's easier when everything is in place and the wishes are known than to put the pressure of dealing with the death on left loved ones. We are meeting with an estate lawyer to plan out our wishes for this LO, why not include our death plan or whatever with it.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
I love my mom so much, but she's been my motivation to do everything differently than her as an adult. I've tried to talk about it with her and she shuts down. She doesn't understand how heavy it could be for us because she is retired but has very small retirement, is unable to work right now, has no savings whatsoever. My brother has been homeless on & off for 15 years so if anyone has to swoop in to take care of her expenses and planning it's us. My grandparents had everything planned and when my mom had to take care of things when my gramma passed away 4 years ago, all she had to do was call the coroner and the funeral home. The rest was pre-arranged! I asked her, didn't that make your grieving process so much easier? She wouldn't have any of it!
We have had a will written up and will definitely be making our plans too in the near future. I think it all boils down to fear for some people...
Granted I believe in all of the above but we currently don't have a will or funeral arrangements etc or living will... so I'm a giant hypocrite!
Re death plan: I'm not sure how far I would go with it, but I do think it's a good idea to have at least some of your ducks in a row
UO: I think it's weird to stop complete strangers in a store and ask them about their kid/s. Happens all the time with DD and with this pregnancy and while it doesn't necessarily bother me, it does strike me as a bit odd.
And FFTC -- my best friend's due date was yesterday. I was dying to contact her all week and be all, "I'm thinking about you" because I really am thinking about her, so I broke down today and did text her to say "I'm thinking about you, but I don't want to be like all of those annoying people, so I'm going to give you this website if you need it: https://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com" We then had a good exchange. And I guess it was two-sided because she could get info on my final days just as I was getting info on her situation.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Also, my lid policy has nothing to do with a concern about falling in, it's more about me not wanting to touch the seat to put it down. I usually use my foot, although I once lost a flip flop in the toilet doing that. The way I see it, men sometimes need the seat down as well, whereas women never need the seat up. So, looking at overall toilet usage by men and women, more than half of bathroom occasions require seat being down. So just put the seat down.
Okay, I'll stop myself now. Apparently I have many feelings about toilet etiquette.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
On a semi-related (not really) note, I have a friend whose husband doesn't change diapers. He just "doesn't like it." Because it's the highlight of every other parent's life?
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
Am I the only one who watches Keeping Up With the Kardashians? Kris asked Caitlyn about her tendency to pee sitting down. I thought that was a bit ridiculous.
May17 Siggy Challenge
Labor
I guess my UO is that I wouldn't ever say 100% no to this idea. Especially when DH retires. We have family on both sides of the country, we would save a ton of money in the long run with a RV.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
I guess I don't have a UO today. Just lots of agreement with everyone else's opinions. Come on who's got a good political UO?
I totally want all of my end of life details sorted far before. So many good ideas here. I do not want to cause fighting, stress, or a financial burden between loved ones. I don't think that is morbid, I think it is caring.
I totally ride the fence on stranger comments. Sometimes I would just prefer they say something because their silence feels awkward and other times I wish people would go away. This probably has more to do with my mood at that very moment.
I definitely judge men that will not consider a vasectomy. Luckily the men I am around seem to fully take that on without question when the time comes. It's almost a rite of passage.
And I would probably end up in a verbal altercation with a man that said he "wasn't into" changing his own children's diapers. Like I get that DS' uncles are not lining up to have a go at diaper duty, but seriously every dad needs it be able to handle all the things his kid needs even if mom might do more frequently (except BFing of course).
My brain is too fried to think of my own OU, so thank you all for yours as a distraction.
DS2 5/17
#3 Due 9/20
I'll bite on politics....the American Healthcare Act is a flaming pile of misogynistic garbage and anyone who voted for it should be ashamed of him/herself.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
A friend of mine posted this today, which he called the "physics" of healthcare (physics because it's about laws of conservation):
"People get health care. Health care costs money. There are actual inefficiencies that exist in the system, but mostly, the choices in health care systems amount to
a) people can get less health care;b) people (insurance companies, hospitals, drug and device makers, doctors) can be paid less money;
c) we can shift around who pays
That's it. The details are really important, of course, but most of the general fighting is either about one of these things, or tries to pretend that this basic equation doesn't actually exist."
And I couldn't agree more. I'm of the mind that people should get healthcare and perhaps some of the people in choice b could be paid less (e.g. insurance companies), but that we should absolutely shift around who pays. The rich and healthy should pay. You can't control if you're going to get sick (healthy lifestyles aside, which btw are largely related to richness anyway). So why doubly punish those who are sick by making them pay extra while they're sick? I'm all for a single-payer plan, personally. If I don't like the ACA ("Obamacare") it's because it's not socialized enough. Healthcare is the ONE thing I'd like to be socialized.
Did you all see that pregnancy is considered a pre-existing condition? And your premium could go up by 425% for being pregnant? The estimate was paying $17K for being pregnant. Glad this is my last kid.
H will definitely change diapers and be an equal partner in taking care of our child. No way would I put up with him not.
My UO is usually a big deal to most people who find out and it's definitely
a UO. I don't like cheese. I don't mind it on pizza if it's not too much and a snack of apple
slices with some sharp cheddar is yummy but that's it.
to the bolded:
are you saying that if I am healthy and middle class I should pay more for my health care just because I'm healthy?
Yes to death plan, POA, living will, etc.
I can't imagine a husband who won't change diapers. This is enraging in so many ways in my mind. It's also sad that this parent won't be fully involved in all aspects of parenthood/ his child's upbringing. Plus, it's not like anyone enjoys changing a diaper. It makes me wonder in what other ways this husband is wonderful.
As for the healthcare bill that passed, it's literally put me in such a sad slump this afternoon. I just want to cry, a lot, but I'm so stunned and saddened I just feel... numb. No comment, I just hate this country more and more these days.
@rebecca517-2 I used to dislike cheese 90% of the time, but since having GD it's one of the only things I can eat 100% guilt free, so I've developed a friendship with it.
May '17 labor memes
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Single payer makes sense to me. I'll pay more in taxes so you and I don't have insane copays and network restrictions and our deadbeat siblings can be covered too.
May '17 labor memes