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Post some of your favorite baby shower/party photos and stories here!
Hubby and Me
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Re: AW Baby Showers
Some boards have this pinned. Do we want that?
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
I agree! I think once the people who are going to have a shower, have theirs, this can quietly fall toward the bottom of the page, etc.
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
We had help getting things back to our place and now I realize just how much work needs to get done before these babies arrive! Nesting mode is on overdrive (but more so in my mind since my body won't let me do too much). Here are a few pics...
Mine is this weekend! I actually found a really cute maxi dress that wasn't maternity to wear.
Re: pinning: I know in general this board isn't a fan of pinned posts. That's why I didn't do it without asking everyone's opinion first
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@irishrose54 I love the pictures! The set up looks beautiful. Glad you enjoyed your special day.
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie
Not having a shower, but definitely going to follow this thread
So quick recap: SMIL was insisting on inviting people I didn't know, the room was super tiny, we had way more guests than the room could even technically fit, and I wasn't going to be able to eat (vegan). The following things all came true:
SMIL was a major AW, and everyone noticed. When it came time to open her gifts, she had to come take multiple photos with me with the gifts, and even pointed to the big one (pack in play) in the photo. Plus, she got into a territory war with DH's grandmother about who has more stuff left over from DH. And she had to announce loudly that the Harry Potter book she gave us for the baby was the one she used to read to DH. And tape a photo of them reading together into the book. And marked all of her gifts with her initials in pen so that "the baby would know that she gave them". Because I'm totally going to keep the boxes and when he's older pull them out and show him that his step gma bought these things that he no longer uses for his baby shower. (please hear the dripping sarcasm) Oh, and the friend she insisted on bringing (who didn't know anyone else) ended up sitting at the wrong shower for a solid ten minutes. There was another baby shower in the building that day, and because she didn't know anyone else, she sat down at that one. Finally found her way to us, but that was kind of my point all along. The other wonderful moment was when her friend finally got there, SMIL said "Oh I'm sure you remember so and so" and before I could even say anything, her friend said "well we only met once a couple of years ago, I'm sure she doesn't remember" and reintroduced herself to me. Shut SMIL up real fast.
The space really was way to small, plus they miscounted and we had to find extra plates, extra chairs, and non-existent extra space for the guests. At least half the room couldn't move for the entire shower. I ended up getting a couple of people drinks because they couldn't get out. And when it was over, there was a few people still sitting and chatting after, and the owner came and kicked them out of the room so they could put it back together, which was super rude. I'm not sure how much you can tell in the photos, but around 26 people had to squeeze into that space. And it was super warm.
From what I hear the food was good. I did get to have some raw veggies and fruit, but by the time I got to home I was starving and had to eat before I could help DH bring in all the stuff.
On a positive note, the decorations were nice, everyone seemed really excited, and we got some super adorable and awesome gifts. Most stand out items were: A handmade quilt from my friend, a teething necklace from MIL, and a 12 months photo frame from my aunt. I didn't ask for or have the teething necklace on my registry, but when MIL and I were in Target a number of weeks ago, I had stopped to look at them and half to myself said that I was going to have to get one. She ran back out and grabbed one for me. Totally unexpected and super nice of her.
My most flame-worthy confession: This actually belongs in FFFC but I won't remember by then. Looking at the stash of stuff I got, I was a little sad/bittersweet. A lot of people bought off registry, especially clothes, and it makes me sad that it wasn't my "perfect baby stash". I love some of the extras/personal stuff, but I spent so much time researching and picking everything out, that I'm just sad that some of the stuff I have isn't the stuff I carefully selected. FTM first world problems. I'm flaming myself for this one. I am really grateful for everything everyone got, and I really shouldn't be complaining. I don't think I even am complaining, just feeling I guess. The stuff is all small and scattered (like Johnson and Johnson baby lotion) so I'm not sure it's really worth taking back.And I feel bad taking the clothes back since everyone clearly picked them out so carefully. Anyways, flame away for that.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
The tables look really nice! I can tell that it was probably a tight squeeze though!
I don't judge you at all for your confession - I think I'd feel the same way. I would really appreciate any gift, but obviously it's normal to want the stuff you NEED and not the cutesy outfits. I know I'm the parent and it's my job to provide for my child and I'm perfectly fine with that - but there's nothing wrong with wanting the stuff you need over all the other stuff!
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
I don't know if I have any good advice except just enjoy yourself! Take pics with people. Have someone keep track of what gifts you get and from whom so that you can send out thank you cards. That's so helpful! You might want to bring a pad of paper and a pen in case no one thought to do that.
I did go on and see someone may have bought us the baby quilt similar to one we already have (I forgot to update the registry--and was remembering so I went in to make sure I marked it) so I might have a how to deal with if I already have it thing....question. I will bring paper
Did you send baby themed notes or just regular ones? For our wedding, we had special thank you notes....but we won't have those. (no shower invite formal thing)
If you get duplicates, usually you can return it if it was on your registry. I don't like to ask people for receipts (unless it was like my mom or a super close friend that knew I got duplicates).
If I received two of something at the same shower, I would just say something like "this is great - you can have enough towels/bibs/whatever!" And if someone offers a gift receipt bc they noticed you got duplicates, just graciously accept it. Most people include gift receipts in the card or taped to the package.
At least at BRU and Amazon if its on your registry you can return it no questions asked. No one gave me any gift reciepts, but I was able to return duplicates
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
The quilt is different than a duplicate bc you'll obviously have the other one laying out. How similar are they? Do you think the person will remember exactly what theirs looked like? Or maybe when they come over, take the quilt off the wall and fold it over a chair or something so it's not as easy to see the design!
--we'll see who it's from. I saw it marked purchased. One is a monkey doing something and the other is a guitar playing monkey
By far one of my worst habits is procrastination. For me, having envelopes ready to go has made it feasible for me to get notes out within the week. Since in my family it's considered rude to take longer than this to send a note, it's the lesser of evils to me. This couples with the fact that I still have a bit of anxiety about getting things ready for baby after multiple loses. Receiving gifts and getting ready for her to hopefully come is accompanied by a bit of stress and anxiety for me rather than the unfiltered joy experienced by many. My mom is certainly aware of my personality and fears, so this was her trying to be a mom and make things easier for me by removing a barrier. Sure, maybe she could have just addressed them all herself, but clearly that wasn't thought of at the time. I guess I could have added all this detail to my original post, but was trying to keep things light and pass on a suggestion that someone might find useful.
To be fair, I didn't say tacky, I said rude. There is a difference. But lucky for you, you weren't the rude one, your mom was. If your mom is aware of your tendencies, she should have addressed the envelopes for you, and could have done so before the shower, knowing who would be in attendance and handed them to you on your way out. You're trying to pass along useful info, and I'm trying to prevent others from also being rude.
Shower games, alcohol, etc, are a matter of preference and social norms in your area/family/circle of friends. Asking guests to bring you a gift, then address the envelope isn't the same-it's asking them to do something you would normally have to do for yourself. You may as well ask them to fill out the envelope with the gift they brought and then hand it out at the end of the shower to save a stamp.
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
I will have my shower next weekend, but I don't have high hopes. My mom and sister are hosting it, and I had to give them friendly reminders to please send the invitations out. I shouldn't have had to do that, but I knew if I didn't, they wouldn't send the invitations until the last minute. As it was, they were sent barely a month out with no registry information. I know I should be grateful, but I feel like my shower is an afterthought because I am the second daughter to have children. My bridal shower proceedings went the same way. The invitations were sent out suuuuuuper late, and my sister didn't invite my grandma against my wishes because she was mad at her. I keep telling myself that this is the last party I will need to rely on my family to throw, and that my daughter will have a beautiful and carefully planned shower.
I got upset with her later in the day when she wanted my DH to walk her to the bar to meet another friend. I said no. Her response was to tell mutual friends that I'm ungrateful. It's super upsetting to me. Never expected this.
I'm taking a break from her and recognizing that her drinking is her problem. Not mine to deal with.