@kiwi2628 I also had a horrible reaction to the pill. It turned me into such a whiny asshole--could hardly stand to be around myself for the brief time I was on it.
@magnolia131 I admire your restraint and keeping all the FX for you too!
@kiwi2628 remind me, are you gearing up for IVF? My dr always uses bcps to start because it levels out your hormones and they can control the timing of everything. That way they can give you a pretty calendar and you will know almost exactly when everything will happen.
@laurad75 I hope AF comes soon so you can get started. Also, I'm sorry you're having to do IVF #3.
@haylsbayls I'm sorry you have to be here love. But welcome.
@eggplantface I'm sorry your FET is being pushed back. It seems like the whole FET process is a lot of waiting and its so frustrating and unfair. Wallow as much as you need to, sister.
@antoto woohoo! Im so excited for you that you're getting started!
@sunniegrly did you recently come off bcp? Could it just be that your body is taking time to regulate? It seems really soon to be seeing an RE, but I don't know your whole story.
@magnolia131 I'm rooting so hard for you lady! Can't wait to hear how your betas go!
@antoto - Thanks for the love and kind words. They didn't do any bloodwoork to get numbers yet (bloodwork is this month). They just gave me Provera to see if I'd bleed or not since it had been a couple of months without AF. Dr. Google tells me that bleeding after Provera means I didn't ovulate. Maybe last cycle was a fluke. I know I shouldn't give up hope yet but, as @magnolia131 said, "hope feels dangerous."
@sunniegrly ohhhhhh they didn't do a progesterone test. Okay well it makes sense that you didn't ovulate last month, since that cycle was obviously out of whack. I guess I'm still confused about why you're jumping to conclusions so quickly since this is only cycle 2 for you? When people like @magnolia131 says that hope feels dangerous it's because they've been playing this game for SUCH a long time. I know that you're frustrated but again I want to suggest that you find a way to help yourself calm down until they get the blood tests back. I know your last cycle was scary because it was so unusual, but I have yet to see a reason for you to believe that you for sure have IF.
@sunniegrly I agree with @antoto and @heatherdubrow you might be jumping the gun a bit. I've heard it can take some women up to a year to go back to normal after coming off the BCP. There *might not* be anything wrong --your body may just need some time to readjust.
Sorry if you already mentioned this before, but do you remember if you were regular prior to going on the pill? That may clarify a few things.
What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) Hopefully an IVF cycle. That is.... if my meds are ever approved/delivered and someone from my doctor's office calls me back. Honestly, I would just let to get to that point that @antoto is talking about where there is some room for cautious hope/excitement please.
How are things going? Today was rough. I have literally been on the phone all damn day with two different insurance companies and my doctor's office. So much red tape. Word to the wise, if you are using secondary insurance you will need a denial letter from your primary insurance even if you know it is not a covered benefit. Wish they told me that back and the beginning. On top of it, this morning I saw a male doc who I have never even met before for my baseline us and 1. he knew nothing about my case and 2. was such an egomaniac he literally threw his gloves on the floor when he was done... like, who is supposed to pick those up for you and put them in the trash?!? I hope I never have to see him again!!
Any questions? Why can't any of these companies see things from the patient's perspective and actually HELP?
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? Meh I don't like big drops but loopdy loops are just fine.
@antoto@laurad75 Thanks for responding. I am guessing there is enough time between now and Friday to do whatever needs to be done. Wishing you lots of luck getting to your next cycle. @eggplantface I am so sorry you got the bad news of more waiting. I really hope they can fit you in ASAP so you can get that FET! @haylsbayls Sorry for your diagnosis but I do hope that it can be resolved quickly and that you avoided a lot of heartache later on. @leekat14 I feel you on the needles! Would it help is your H did the injections? For me, I am phobic of blood but if I don't look it is manageable. @LoveInDC Ugh so sorry your body is playing tricks on you. Not cool. @heatherdubrow I hope those three weeks fly by for you. All the waiting is tough. @zwink1 Sorry love. IF is stressful enough then we have to drag the guys through the process too. I hope you are able to get past this soon. @MrsJ2410 Hope you kick that cyst in the butt! Sounds like we might be on the same schedule! @kiwi2628 So jealous of your vacation! I hope you two get the time away you need to just relax. @vflux33 FX those results come back soon with good news! @magnolia131 "because hope feels dangerous" I am with you right there. For what its worth, I hope you are an SS!
@saralee797-2 Doctors with God complexes are the WORST. It's bad enough to be that into yourself but to create unnecessary work for your staff? Ridiculous. Hope you don't get him next time. I don't have secondary insurance but that sounds like a PITA. Hope your BCP time goes by fast!
@saralee797-2 Ugh to all of the red tape. I cannot stand dealing with those sort of hassles. I'm sorry for the added stress because I know days like that leave me in a frenzy. Also, that doctor sounds like such a diva! His poor staff. I hope you don't have to see him again because working with a doctor you cannot respect is the absolute worst.
What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) working on getting back in with urologist for consult for MH before going through with varicocele surgery, as well as adding in a supplement. I have an appt with RE May 15 for initial testing.
How are things going? Ok. Doing some research over the weekend and it seems like the DNA frag stuff is a big deal. So far those results were just mailed to us, so I would like to get back in with the doc so we can discuss all the results with him before we decide to do surgery. MH called twice and still hasn't heard back which is annoying. MH is a teacher so ideally we'd like for him to have surgery if he's going to this summer, but guessing that it probably gets scheduled out well in advance. This waiting game is testing my patience. Also started reading Conquering Infertility and I'm really liking it so far. I feel like she is reading my mind on everything I've been thinking/feeling and I hope that it will help to calm me down, stress less, and just overall help me not to obsess all day/every day.
Any questions? Not right now
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? I like theme parks and roller coasters, but haven't been to one in years. When I was in high school, I got freaked before doing the superman ride at 6 flags, but I did it and enjoyed it! Not a huge fan of the big drops though.
@leekat14 Sorry you're feeling so stressed. Fx that this is your cycle, but if not you're doing a good job asking the right questions to plan @LoveInDC FX that you're body isn't fooling you this time @shortstack1030 I have an RE appointment in 2 weeks too! Glad you and YH are in a good place @zwink1 I'm sorry that YH hasn't gotten on the ball of scheduling his tests, that sucks. I just started reading Conquering Infertility and one of the points she makes is how it's so frustrating when the wife is "ahead" of the husband so to speak when it comes to next steps. Sending you hugs and hopefully you can have that conversation with him soon. @kiwi2628 Sounds like a wonderful trip! @haylsbayls I'm sorry that you are here, but as someone who is also relatively new to this board I hope that these wonderful ladies can help provide you with support and answers to your questions. I don't have any knowledge on septate uterus, but glad that you were able to get into the RE and figure out what was going on. @eggplantface Sorry to hear about the polyp and pause on the cycle, FX that you can get in sooner @antoto I'm excited for you to get the process started, but not the annoying excited that would piss me off too. @laurad75, @heatherdubrow, @saralee797-2 I have my FX for all of you! @sunniegrly I'm sorry that you aren't ovulating, but glad that your are on the path to getting some answers @magnolia131 I'll have my FX for Thursday!
What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) 100mg Clomid, Trigger shot, Thera Natal Core, Progessence Plus, Pineapple
How are things going? Good so far. I was triggered so that I ovulated on Saturday. So I'm officially in the TWW. Just trying not to get too hopeful or give up hope. I go back on May 11 for my blood test which looking on the calendar doesn't seem too far away, but it really is haha It's my last cycle for a while so I am hoping that I get good news on the
Any questions? Not at this moment
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? I like them, but I hate heights so I am very picky on what I actually ride. lol
@antoto and @vflux33 - I know I'm jumping the gun and putting the cart before the horse but I also don't want to count my chickens before they've hatched. (See what I did there?) The reality is that I have an anxiety disorder, recurrent major depression, and I'm only 4-5 months in recovery from my last 3-year (!!!) battle with major depression. I understand that I may not have IF issues after all and that my prognosis for the future is still unknown. I understand that it takes some time for your body to regulate after coming off of the pill. However, I don't think that an absent cycle (which is what I had) is normal. Hopefully, I will be proven wrong about that. If my emotions seem irrational at this point, it's only because I'm already coming from a place of emotional vulnerability. I express my admittedly somewhat-irrational emotions here because I can't express them to anyone else in my life (except my therapist once a week) without making them too unhappy on my behalf (if they know how much I'm hurting, they hurt too). Thank you both for helping to keep me grounded in reality. Your reassurances really do help.
@sunniegrly I struggled with depression and anxiety for a very long time too. Journaling always really helped me, personally, especially when I was wrestling with overly anxious/irrational emotions. Writing it down on paper and then reading it back to myself, especially aloud, made me more aware of when I was over reacting. Have you found a coping mechanism that helps you get through this sort of thing?
@antoto - Maybe I should try journaling, although I've never been great at it. Listening to audiobooks helps because I can replace my internal monologue with something else.
@leekat14 I did the cystic fibrosis test
because it was recommended due to ethnicity and I didn’t see any reason not to. They just added it to the list of things
looked at in the blood work. More
information is always good.
@zwink I’ve never felt on the same page with my H on TTC. With
TTC I want to talk about it a lot but my H is less concerned. But in everything else my H loves to talk
about feelings and issues and generally everything that I hate talking
about. I’m a bottle it in kind of girl,
and I know it frustrates him. I think most
couples deal with these issues though. I’m
always jealous of couples that seem to always be on the same page! I hope your conversation with him goes well
tonight.
@laurad75 I’ve never used a planner, but I’ve heard great
things about the Erin Condren planners.
I know they have 18 month ones.
@haylsbayls I’m sorry you’re here (I’m a recent transfer
myself). It feels awful knowing there
are issues but it also feels good knowing there’s a solution. I hope everything goes smoothly for you.
@antoto I love that you make room for the excitement. I didn’t think we were ever going to try for
a child (my H had reservations and I had resigned myself to it just not being
for us), so when he changed his mind and said we should TTC, I had told myself
that no matter what happens I would remember that moment and the joy and
excitement.It’s hard, and I understand the
need for caution and why the optimism fades, but I feel that any opportunity
for positive emotions should be taken advantage of.
@sunniegrly
I have definitely been there and grieved for my situation. This
whole process is incredibly draining at every level, but you gotta be able to get yourself out of that hole and keep going. I’m sorry you’re not getting the support you
need right now and I hope you feel better.I’m glad you were able to get the ball rolling and feel proactive.
Diagnosis (If you've been): Severe MFI (low motility, varicocele)
Cycle/CD: 17/CD18
Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): TWW
What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) My H is starting his initial infertility testing (blood/hormone test, second SA, etc) with his regular doctor. We need to get through that before we can see a urologist.
How are things going? I finally told my mom about all the IF stuff we're dealing with. The last thing I told her was that we were going to start TTC like a year and a half ago, so I know she's been wondering. She was really good about it all. She didn't get emotional (which really helped me!) and she was glad that we were gathering information. She also said that even if H and I never have children she knows we'll still be happy together, and that really warmed my heart.
My H had his apt today with his regular Dr (who he hasn't ever seen, he's not that great at going to the doctor). He's got blood tests and things to do, so it feels good that he's getting checked out now that we know the issue lies with him. He's not resisting the testing at all, which I'm super grateful for.
Any questions? Nope
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? I like Disneyland (we're going this month!) but I'm not really into other parks/rides. I definitely don't like scary roller coasters.
Me: 32 | DH: 36
Married June 2005
1/2016 - TTC#1
4/2017 - Initial RE visit, Dx: Severe MFI (Varicocele, 14% motility, 3% progression, but normal count)
7/2017 - Stage 3 endometriosis discovered during laparoscopic removal of ovarian cyst
9/27/2017 - BFP at 10dpo (cycle 22), baby boy due June 9, 2018
@heatherdubrow nope. Not gearing up for anything since I have been testing for 1 month and havent even had my follow-up consult with my doctor about the tests. Thats why I am like WTF? When I had my initial consult with the doctor, he said we would most likely start with IUI and meds, and then if that fails, IVF, but I dont think people usually do BCP for IUI so either this place does things differently, or they are moving me right to IVF- either way, I would have liked to have talked to my doctor prior to my nurse saying 'ok, we have to start you on BC'...uhhh, back up off my ute lady, I am starting nothing without talking to my doctor for what will be the second time.
@sunniegrly I'm sorry that you're struggling and I totally understand how overwhelming it can be to come out of a depression and feel like your anxieties are getting the best of you. I haven't discussed it here, but I have a history of PTSD. Dealing with that and getting to a place where I was sure I could handle a big permanent life change is part of why I didn't start TTGP in my 20s or earlier 30s. Coming from that perspective, I hope it won't upset you if I ask, have you considered waiting a bit longer before TTC? I can only speak from my experience, but the 3-4 years between when I stopped needing medication and frequent therapy and when I started TTGP were incredibly important years for me and enabled me to walk into TTC, and later to this IF stuff (which is still new to me too) grounded and prepared to face new challenges without falling back into my old, less productive thought patterns. 4-5 months of recovery after a major depression sounds fast to be jumping into such a huge life change. I have friends that either started TTC or got married before they were ready because of pressure from their SO, families, and social pressure, and now that it's been a few years those friends aren't doing so hot and have privately admitted they wished they had taken more time to mentally prepare. I'm not going to say you have forever to get to that "perfect" time as the stats for getting KU do go down with age, but, from the way you're describing your state of mind, I have to wonder if a few months wouldn't do you some good.
Again, I hope none of this offends you--just wanted to offer that perspective in case it helps. Sending a lot of to you either way, and hoping things get easier for you.
@vflux33@magnolia131 diva is such the right word!!! I actually stepped on the gloves because I mean who does that? It's a shame because everyone else I've seen has been really great. I might tell him to March himself out next time. Just call me diva patient.
Cycle/CD: 19 (13AL)/CD21 4DPO (although I disagree with FF and think I'm 3DPO)
Status: TWW
What are you doing this cycle: I thought this might be our last natural cycle before OH goes on testosterone replacement, but it looks like we'll still be freezing swimmers in FW next cycle, so no use in wasting the cycle.
How are things going: OK. I was able to at least see that I O'd even though I had a fever for a week right before FW. I O'd a little later than usual, and that was helpful. OH had to abstain for 48 hours to prep for the first round of sperm freezing right in the middle of FW. We were still able to get -4, -1, and 0 timing in, which I'm happy with. But I'm worried that there weren't as many soldiers in his army for those last two times, since -2 is the day he gave the sample...so that was calling in troops 3 days in a row. Also, if we heard the coordinator correctly, his count was lower on that sample than it had been previously. It all makes me nervous. That is my current TTC status.
Any questions: If anyone wants to do a CS, what do you think about when I O'd? Not that it's a huge difference...I'm just curious.
GTKY: I love rollercoasters! Just nothing that spins...in my old age, it makes me feel yucky. It's been far too long since I've been to Six Flags or one of the other fun amusement parks. I really do enjoy them.
Me: 45 OH: 42 Beloved SS: born 12/2011 TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016 **TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW** August 2016 - dx with DOR Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T May 2017 - began freezing sperm June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
On BCP for IVF. Last pill Friday and if everything looks good I'll start stims next week
I'm really trying to not get my hopes up that I could finally be KU by the end of May because I know there is a greater chance that it will fail (60%) then work
@leekat14 FX this cycle goes smoothly and you don't have to do IVF. The fear of needles must be hard, but if you do have to go that route, hopefully it will get easier for you as you go along. I was definitely more afraid of needles when I started IF treatment, but I would say I'm not afraid of them at all now. I know I did some genetic testing, but TBH, I can't remember what I got done and didn't get done. I just did testing for whatever the RE recommended.
@shortstack930 That's awesome you're feeling less stressed!
@zwink1 Hugs. That's a tough situation with your H. MH did the same think when we first started testing. It took him so long to get his first SA and then forever to make a follow-up appointment with the urologist. All his testing was so painful to get through just because he dragged his feet, even though I know he really wants a baby. It's tough when you and your H approach things differently. I hope your H gets on the same page as you soon - but know he's not the only guy out there that drags his feet. Best of luck with your conversation tonight.
@MrsJ2410 That job situation sounds intense - I've never seen a screaming match at work. Sorry you are feeling stuck there.
@kiwi2628 I'm glad you are speaking up and making sure you get to talk to you RE about all the medical decisions.
@haylsbayls Sorry you are here. Best of luck to you as you find out more about your diagnosis. Feel free to vent here as much as you need to!
@eggplantface I'm so sorry to hear your FET got pushed out; how frustrating! I'm sorry if you've explained all of this before, but with a fibroids RX, does that mean you randomly get new polyps even after you've had surgery? That looks like that's the case but I don't know anything about fibroids and am curious. Also, how did they find them at your mock FET?
@antoto I'm rooting for you! I know it's hard to manage the hope and excitement - not too much, not too little.
@magnolia131 FX for your beta on Thursday! Kudos to you for trying to hold out on POAS until then. That progesterone level is awesome.
@saralee797-2 He threw his gloves on the floor? That is crazy! I hope you are able to get all the insurance stuff together soon!
AFM
Diagnosis (If you've been): NIR PCOS
Cycle/CD: 7(month 16)/CD 12
Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): WTO
What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) letrozole 10 mg + Gonal-F + trigger + TI + progesterone
How are things going? Follie check this morning - 1 16mm follie and 1 12mm follie. I am in shock that I am not crazy over-responding. It seems the letrozole + Gonal-F is really the trick for me. I'm injecting a couple more times - hoping the 12 mm follie catches up - and then I'll probably trigger after my check on Wednesday. I'm doing some acupuncture tomorrow to try to get rid of some of this work stress. It's a busy week for TTC.
Any questions?
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? I usually get sick on roller coasters, and I think I've come to associate theme parks with getting sick. I do like fairs though for the games and the shows and the feeling that they're fleeting.
We got MH's carrier results back and he is negative! I am so happy. I contacted my RE's office and we are set to start Clomid with IUI as soon as I get AF. So excited and relieved!
Diagnosis (If you've been): Severe MFI (no to low count, poor morphology), low AMH
Cycle/CD: 15/16? CD 13
Status (WTO/TWW/TTA): today should be O
What are you doing this cycle? (Testing? Treatment?) DH is on clomid and supplements. We are waiting for repeat SA in June and we will go from there.
How are things going? Sorry I've been MIA for the past week. Work was crazy, I had house guests then I was sick. I kept trying to post but could never catch up with all the new posts and I like to read everything before I post. At least for a while i was so busy I didn't have time to dwell on TTC. Not much happening right now anyway and the waiting game can be a pain as you ladies well know.
Any questions? Nope
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? Not a big fan but I do some mainly because DH loves them. I am always so scared for DH because he is 6'3 and almost 300 lbs and I feel like he doesn't fit in all the seats well but he couldn't care less. He always has to ride every one. We are in Florida so we go to universal often enough.
@leekat14 FX for you for this cycle but if AF does show up we will all be there for you for the next step.You can do it and we are rooting for you. Also all the IVF ladies on here have so much knowledge to help you along.
@shortstack930 Yay for the TTC break. Sometimes it is just so needed. GL with the RE visit.
@zwink1 sorry you and YH had a fight. This process is so hard and I feel like a lot of the guys keep it all bottled up inside. It can be really hard for them, especially if they feel like they are the problem. Maybe let him pick a date and time when you guys can sit and talk about everything, that way he is prepared for it.
@MrsJ2410 Sorry about the aweful weekend. Hugs to you and I hope everything else goes according to plan this cycle.
@kiwi2628 yay for vacation! That sounds so exciting.
@laurad75 sorry for the bfn. I know we are all rooting for you for this next round of IVF.
@haylsbayls sorry you find yourself here. I have heard of septate uterus but no personal experience. I hope surgery goes well for you and your stay here is short!
@eggplantface sorry for the delay with your FET. I hope everything gets done on Monday and you can get back on track quickly. Hugs to you. I also spent all of last week trying to catch up on the posts here but could never get through everything to post. This thread blows up so quickly now which kind of sucks because it means so many of us are having issues.
@antoto so happy that you have started! FX for you that everything goes according to plan.
@sunniegrly being in limbo is so frustrating. Hugs to you and I hope you get some answers soon. It's awesome that you got the RE appointment so soon tho.
@saralee797-2 sorry you are having a rough time. It would be awesome if the insurance companies saw it from our point of view. I hope everything gets sorted soon so you can get started. Also that doc sounds like a real peach to work with. Hope you don't have to see him again.
@LadyMillil I have fingers and toes crossed for you as well. Hoping that 40% turns into 100% for you!
@vflux33 - Thank you for your concern and advice. Obviously everyone's situation is more complex than they can explain on a public forum without writing a memoir. For various reasons too complicated to explain here, I'm confident in my decision that this was the right time to start TTC. Also, both my psychiatrist and therapist think this was a good time for me to start TTC. I was well and happy until the last few weeks when I began worrying about my reproductive health. Am I having lots of feelings about it, some of which are maybe irrational? Yes. Am I a little vulnerable and prone to being over-emotional? Yes. Am I on the verge of a major emotional breakdown? No. There's never going to be a perfect time for me to start TTC. This is a good enough time.
@safire3 - The actual RE didn't have any appointments until July, but his PA was able to see me in just 10 days. I love PAs/NPs. I see a women's health NP in addition to my OBGYN because she's so much easier to get in to see. But after seeing things on here about waits of 6 months to see REs I realize I'm fortunate that wait times are so short in my area. That's partly why I decided to go ahead and call to make one so soon in my TTC journey - I figured the wait time would be longer.
@heatherdubrow - I think at this point I may still fall under the category of "menstrual problems," which they also see people for. I explained the situation and they still made the apt., so they're at least perfectly willing to take my money haha. I figure at least I'll feel better talking to an expert.
@vflux33 - I'm still wading through all the comments and just saw your good news!!!!! So excited for you and glad you can start moving forward!
Also, thanks for the support that some of you have given me, but clearly others feel like I'm invading on turf that doesn't belong to me. In all seriousness, maybe ya'll should take "testing" out of the title or impose an "x months TTC" rule if you don't want people who have early issues to post in here. So I'm just going to vacate this thread for now. And I'm not trying to create drama - I get it if you don't feel like this is the right place for me right now. Gotcha loud and clear. Moving on. I just wanted anyone who's following my posts to know why I'm no longer posting/responding to this thread.
@vflux33 That is wonderful news! I am so happy for you. @madspunk Glad to hear that this cocktail is working and you are not overresponding!! yayyy @LadyMillil Yesss you are getting started!! @safire3 FX your wait is over and you O'd @Aurora1973 Looks like you got some good timing in! Just keep swimming!!
AFM The approval for the drugs went through finally so that was a relief but they also told us the cost ($10k) whomp whomp and for the first time said we could/should shop around. So, I spent most of last night on the phone with various pharmacies trying to shop drugs. My H is going to make more calls today. Our issue is we are lucky enough to have some insurance coverage with a lifetime max but it is hard to decide how to apply it and what to pay for out of pocket. The financial dept at my clinic is no help either. I am hoping we can figure that out today.
@vflux33 yay for the good results. So happy you can start again!
@sunniegrly I personally have no problem with you being here. If I remember correctly you did ask when you first posted and a lot of the ladies here encouraged you to stick around. I can imagine it's difficult finding a place to 'be' on this board when your cycles are not cooperating and fitting into the tww or wto. I think the ladies who commented before just don't want you to stress unnecessarily over this since you are still very early in this process and irregular cycles after coming off of birth control is not uncommon. I know you will worry about it no matter what but we can tell it is really stressing you out. I really hope that it is just a hormonal glitch due to the birth control and that your cycles return to normal and you are KU in no time. This IF journey is something that I wouldn't wish on anyone and we all hope you can be spared that.
Re: IF/Testing Weekly Check-in 5/1
@magnolia131 I admire your restraint and keeping all the FX for you too!
@laurad75 I hope AF comes soon so you can get started. Also, I'm sorry you're having to do IVF #3.
@haylsbayls I'm sorry you have to be here love. But welcome.
@eggplantface I'm sorry your FET is being pushed back. It seems like the whole FET process is a lot of waiting and its so frustrating and unfair. Wallow as much as you need to, sister.
@antoto woohoo! Im so excited for you that you're getting started!
@sunniegrly did you recently come off bcp? Could it just be that your body is taking time to regulate? It seems really soon to be seeing an RE, but I don't know your whole story.
@magnolia131 I'm rooting so hard for you lady! Can't wait to hear how your betas go!
Married: 2013
TTC #1: 2/2017
Dx: mild/borderline NIR PCOS
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Married: 2013
TTC #1: 2/2017
Dx: mild/borderline NIR PCOS
May TTGP Siggy Challenge - Awkward Prom Photos:
Sorry if you already mentioned this before, but do you remember if you were regular prior to going on the pill? That may clarify a few things.
Cycle/CD: ??
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? Meh I don't like big drops but loopdy loops are just fine.
@antoto @laurad75 Thanks for responding. I am guessing there is enough time between now and Friday to do whatever needs to be done. Wishing you lots of luck getting to your next cycle.
@eggplantface I am so sorry you got the bad news of more waiting. I really hope they can fit you in ASAP so you can get that FET!
@haylsbayls Sorry for your diagnosis but I do hope that it can be resolved quickly and that you avoided a lot of heartache later on.
@leekat14 I feel you on the needles! Would it help is your H did the injections? For me, I am phobic of blood but if I don't look it is manageable.
@LoveInDC Ugh so sorry your body is playing tricks on you. Not cool.
@heatherdubrow I hope those three weeks fly by for you. All the waiting is tough.
@zwink1 Sorry love. IF is stressful enough then we have to drag the guys through the process too. I hope you are able to get past this soon.
@MrsJ2410 Hope you kick that cyst in the butt! Sounds like we might be on the same schedule!
@kiwi2628 So jealous of your vacation! I hope you two get the time away you need to just relax.
@vflux33 FX those results come back soon with good news!
@magnolia131 "because hope feels dangerous" I am with you right there. For what its worth, I hope you are an SS!
Cycle/CD: 13/11
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? I like theme parks and roller coasters, but haven't been to one in years. When I was in high school, I got freaked before doing the superman ride at 6 flags, but I did it and enjoyed it! Not a huge fan of the big drops though.
@leekat14 Sorry you're feeling so stressed. Fx that this is your cycle, but if not you're doing a good job asking the right questions to plan
@LoveInDC FX that you're body isn't fooling you this time
@shortstack1030 I have an RE appointment in 2 weeks too! Glad you and YH are in a good place
@zwink1 I'm sorry that YH hasn't gotten on the ball of scheduling his tests, that sucks. I just started reading Conquering Infertility and one of the points she makes is how it's so frustrating when the wife is "ahead" of the husband so to speak when it comes to next steps. Sending you hugs and hopefully you can have that conversation with him soon.
@kiwi2628 Sounds like a wonderful trip!
@haylsbayls I'm sorry that you are here, but as someone who is also relatively new to this board I hope that these wonderful ladies can help provide you with support and answers to your questions. I don't have any knowledge on septate uterus, but glad that you were able to get into the RE and figure out what was going on.
@eggplantface Sorry to hear about the polyp and pause on the cycle, FX that you can get in sooner
@antoto I'm excited for you to get the process started, but not the annoying excited that would piss me off too. @laurad75, @heatherdubrow, @saralee797-2 I have my FX for all of you!
@sunniegrly I'm sorry that you aren't ovulating, but glad that your are on the path to getting some answers
@magnolia131 I'll have my FX for Thursday!
Edited to add @ReesaAnne16 and @KristoKekerooni thanks for the comments on last week's thread!
Cycle/CD: 3rd cycle with RE day 17
Any questions? Not at this moment
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? I like them, but I hate heights so I am very picky on what I actually ride. lol
Married: 2013
TTC #1: 2/2017
Dx: mild/borderline NIR PCOS
May TTGP Siggy Challenge - Awkward Prom Photos:
Married: 2013
TTC #1: 2/2017
Dx: mild/borderline NIR PCOS
May TTGP Siggy Challenge - Awkward Prom Photos:
@leekat14 I did the cystic fibrosis test because it was recommended due to ethnicity and I didn’t see any reason not to. They just added it to the list of things looked at in the blood work. More information is always good.
@zwink I’ve never felt on the same page with my H on TTC. With TTC I want to talk about it a lot but my H is less concerned. But in everything else my H loves to talk about feelings and issues and generally everything that I hate talking about. I’m a bottle it in kind of girl, and I know it frustrates him. I think most couples deal with these issues though. I’m always jealous of couples that seem to always be on the same page! I hope your conversation with him goes well tonight.
@laurad75 I’ve never used a planner, but I’ve heard great things about the Erin Condren planners. I know they have 18 month ones.
@haylsbayls I’m sorry you’re here (I’m a recent transfer myself). It feels awful knowing there are issues but it also feels good knowing there’s a solution. I hope everything goes smoothly for you.
@antoto I love that you make room for the excitement. I didn’t think we were ever going to try for a child (my H had reservations and I had resigned myself to it just not being for us), so when he changed his mind and said we should TTC, I had told myself that no matter what happens I would remember that moment and the joy and excitement. It’s hard, and I understand the need for caution and why the optimism fades, but I feel that any opportunity for positive emotions should be taken advantage of.
@sunniegrly I have definitely been there and grieved for my situation. This whole process is incredibly draining at every level, but you gotta be able to get yourself out of that hole and keep going. I’m sorry you’re not getting the support you need right now and I hope you feel better. I’m glad you were able to get the ball rolling and feel proactive.Cycle/CD: 17/CD18
Any questions? Nope
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? I like Disneyland (we're going this month!) but I'm not really into other parks/rides. I definitely don't like scary roller coasters.
Me: 32 | DH: 36
Married June 2005
1/2016 - TTC#1
4/2017 - Initial RE visit, Dx: Severe MFI (Varicocele, 14% motility, 3% progression, but normal count)
7/2017 - Stage 3 endometriosis discovered during laparoscopic removal of ovarian cyst
9/27/2017 - BFP at 10dpo (cycle 22), baby boy due June 9, 2018
Again, I hope none of this offends you--just wanted to offer that perspective in case it helps. Sending a lot of
Cycle/CD: 19 (13AL)/CD21 4DPO (although I disagree with FF and think I'm 3DPO)
Status: TWW
What are you doing this cycle: I thought this might be our last natural cycle before OH goes on testosterone replacement, but it looks like we'll still be freezing swimmers in FW next cycle, so no use in wasting the cycle.
How are things going: OK. I was able to at least see that I O'd even though I had a fever for a week right before FW. I O'd a little later than usual, and that was helpful. OH had to abstain for 48 hours to prep for the first round of sperm freezing right in the middle of FW. We were still able to get -4, -1, and 0 timing in, which I'm happy with. But I'm worried that there weren't as many soldiers in his army for those last two times, since -2 is the day he gave the sample...so that was calling in troops 3 days in a row. Also, if we heard the coordinator correctly, his count was lower on that sample than it had been previously. It all makes me nervous. That is my current TTC status.
Any questions: If anyone wants to do a CS, what do you think about when I O'd? Not that it's a huge difference...I'm just curious.
GTKY: I love rollercoasters! Just nothing that spins...in my old age, it makes me feel yucky. It's been far too long since I've been to Six Flags or one of the other fun amusement parks. I really do enjoy them.
Beloved SS: born 12/2011
TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
**TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
August 2016 - dx with DOR
Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
May 2017 - began freezing sperm
June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
Cycle 30/Day 14 on bcp
On BCP for IVF. Last pill Friday and if everything looks good I'll start stims next week
I'm really trying to not get my hopes up that I could finally be KU by the end of May because I know there is a greater chance that it will fail (60%) then work
I get motion sick so I don't ride roller coasters
@RatParade Thanks for the info. Im sort of in the mindset of "what's another couple thousand at this point". Sad to think like that but here I am
@LoveInDC FX it is O!
@shortstack930 That's awesome you're feeling less stressed!
@zwink1 Hugs. That's a tough situation with your H. MH did the same think when we first started testing. It took him so long to get his first SA and then forever to make a follow-up appointment with the urologist. All his testing was so painful to get through just because he dragged his feet, even though I know he really wants a baby. It's tough when you and your H approach things differently. I hope your H gets on the same page as you soon - but know he's not the only guy out there that drags his feet. Best of luck with your conversation tonight.
@MrsJ2410 That job situation sounds intense - I've never seen a screaming match at work. Sorry you are feeling stuck there.
@kiwi2628 I'm glad you are speaking up and making sure you get to talk to you RE about all the medical decisions.
@haylsbayls Sorry you are here. Best of luck to you as you find out more about your diagnosis. Feel free to vent here as much as you need to!
@laurad75 Sorry for the BFN.
@eggplantface I'm so sorry to hear your FET got pushed out; how frustrating! I'm sorry if you've explained all of this before, but with a fibroids RX, does that mean you randomly get new polyps even after you've had surgery? That looks like that's the case but I don't know anything about fibroids and am curious. Also, how did they find them at your mock FET?
@antoto I'm rooting for you! I know it's hard to manage the hope and excitement - not too much, not too little.
@magnolia131 FX for your beta on Thursday! Kudos to you for trying to hold out on POAS until then. That progesterone level is awesome.
@saralee797-2 He threw his gloves on the floor? That is crazy! I hope you are able to get all the insurance stuff together soon!
AFM
Cycle/CD: 7(month 16)/CD 12
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? I usually get sick on roller coasters, and I think I've come to associate theme parks with getting sick. I do like fairs though for the games and the shows and the feeling that they're fleeting.
Cycle/CD: 15/16? CD 13
GTKY: How do you feel about theme parks/roller coasters? Not a big fan but I do some mainly because DH loves them. I am always so scared for DH because he is 6'3 and almost 300 lbs and I feel like he doesn't fit in all the seats well but he couldn't care less. He always has to ride every one. We are in Florida so we go to universal often enough.
@leekat14 FX for you for this cycle but if AF does show up we will all be there for you for the next step.You can do it and we are rooting for you. Also all the IVF ladies on here have so much knowledge to help you along.
@shortstack930 Yay for the TTC break. Sometimes it is just so needed. GL with the RE visit.
@zwink1 sorry you and YH had a fight. This process is so hard and I feel like a lot of the guys keep it all bottled up inside. It can be really hard for them, especially if they feel like they are the problem. Maybe let him pick a date and time when you guys can sit and talk about everything, that way he is prepared for it.
@MrsJ2410 Sorry about the aweful weekend. Hugs to you and I hope everything else goes according to plan this cycle.
@kiwi2628 yay for vacation! That sounds so exciting.
@laurad75 sorry for the bfn. I know we are all rooting for you for this next round of IVF.
@haylsbayls sorry you find yourself here. I have heard of septate uterus but no personal experience. I hope surgery goes well for you and your stay here is short!
@eggplantface sorry for the delay with your FET. I hope everything gets done on Monday and you can get back on track quickly. Hugs to you. I also spent all of last week trying to catch up on the posts here but could never get through everything to post. This thread blows up so quickly now which kind of sucks because it means so many of us are having issues.
@antoto so happy that you have started! FX for you that everything goes according to plan.
@sunniegrly being in limbo is so frustrating. Hugs to you and I hope you get some answers soon. It's awesome that you got the RE appointment so soon tho.
@magnolia131 FX for you this cycle!
@saralee797-2 sorry you are having a rough time. It would be awesome if the insurance companies saw it from our point of view. I hope everything gets sorted soon so you can get started. Also that doc sounds like a real peach to work with. Hope you don't have to see him again.
@LadyMillil I have fingers and toes crossed for you as well. Hoping that 40% turns into 100% for you!
TTC #1 November 2016
50mg Clomid June 2017
BFP June, 21 2017 | EDD March 4, 2018
@vflux33 awesome news!!
@safire3 - The actual RE didn't have any appointments until July, but his PA was able to see me in just 10 days. I love PAs/NPs. I see a women's health NP in addition to my OBGYN because she's so much easier to get in to see. But after seeing things on here about waits of 6 months to see REs I realize I'm fortunate that wait times are so short in my area. That's partly why I decided to go ahead and call to make one so soon in my TTC journey - I figured the wait time would be longer.
Edited: typos and added words
Married: 2013
TTC #1: 2/2017
Dx: mild/borderline NIR PCOS
May TTGP Siggy Challenge - Awkward Prom Photos:
@vflux33 - I'm still wading through all the comments and just saw your good news!!!!! So excited for you and glad you can start moving forward!
Married: 2013
TTC #1: 2/2017
Dx: mild/borderline NIR PCOS
May TTGP Siggy Challenge - Awkward Prom Photos:
Edited: typos
Married: 2013
TTC #1: 2/2017
Dx: mild/borderline NIR PCOS
May TTGP Siggy Challenge - Awkward Prom Photos:
@madspunk Glad to hear that this cocktail is working and you are not overresponding!! yayyy
@LadyMillil Yesss you are getting started!!
@safire3 FX your wait is over and you O'd
@Aurora1973 Looks like you got some good timing in! Just keep swimming!!
AFM The approval for the drugs went through finally so that was a relief but they also told us the cost ($10k) whomp whomp and for the first time said we could/should shop around. So, I spent most of last night on the phone with various pharmacies trying to shop drugs. My H is going to make more calls today. Our issue is we are lucky enough to have some insurance coverage with a lifetime max but it is hard to decide how to apply it and what to pay for out of pocket. The financial dept at my clinic is no help either. I am hoping we can figure that out today.
@saralee797-2 havebyou checked out GoodRX? I've heard people have had success with that site. Not sure if it was for IF drugs, but it's worth a shot!
Oh, and I'm super duper excited that you've been posting more frequently! You're always in my thoughts, friend.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
@sunniegrly I personally have no problem with you being here. If I remember correctly you did ask when you first posted and a lot of the ladies here encouraged you to stick around. I can imagine it's difficult finding a place to 'be' on this board when your cycles are not cooperating and fitting into the tww or wto. I think the ladies who commented before just don't want you to stress unnecessarily over this since you are still very early in this process and irregular cycles after coming off of birth control is not uncommon. I know you will worry about it no matter what but we can tell it is really stressing you out. I really hope that it is just a hormonal glitch due to the birth control and that your cycles return to normal and you are KU in no time. This IF journey is something that I wouldn't wish on anyone and we all hope you can be spared that.