Differing opinions are what makes the work go round. While I see your point when it comes to the excuse of you wanting to see a particular group of people. But I think there are some situations where you are being the bigger, better person for going. For example, if it's your sister in law and your MIL will throw a fit if you don't go. Are you really the better person for causing a big family fight because you took some moral/ethical stance? I don't think so. I think that by buying a gift, showing up with a smile on your face, supporting your sister in law, being friendly and supportive at the shower and not creating an issue among a family, does in fact make you a bigger person. Because you recognize that this one event isn't super important in the grand scheme of the world. And I believe you're still entitled to call your BFF and complain about having to go on the way there.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@rainbowdashh, for me its annoying because having to buy a $30+ gift for someone I bought a gift for last year is cost prohibitive....especially when there are multiple snowflakes that think "etiquette be damned". I have a baby to buy stuff for too.
Momma to Amelia Marie (7/14) and Austin Samuel (11/17). Adding baby (girl) #3 on 7/21
There doesn't need to be a gift giving event for me to give a friend a gift though. Those that want to give gifts don't need a reason or a party to do so.
I have 2 boys 19 months apart and when planning for #2, we had a gender reveal party just for family (we were team green with #1, so it was a nice change) AND I had a sprinkle, but it was a small gathering of friends and family that maybe I hadn't seen since having my first kid. Registry is definitely a no- agree with that being "gift grabby." You do you, girl. I will say, for baby #3, we are doing zero.
I get wanting to have a moment to celebrate each pregnancy with the people you love. Lord knows people will want to see you and isn't it less tiring if those people are all in the same place and there is food there. This will be our first babe and I'm sure my family will go nutty wanting to do showers but if we had a second I would just do some sort of casual get together. Pregnancy is hard and scary and long and I think it should be honored every time. I'm uncomfortable with the gifts thing all around though. I felt the same when I got married. I just want to share the moment with the people I love. Some people opt for doing a book shower to build a little children's library and I think that is lovely because people can find something meaningful to them and not spend an arm and a leg on some predetermined expensive gift item they just picked off of a list.
Re: Second baby, gender reveal party, baby sprinkle or announcement with gender?!
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
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