GTKY How did you meet your SO?

lulu1180 · April 2017

How did you meet your SO? Choose one of the options below and feel free to share an extended story below!

kiwi2628 · April 2017

We were actually high school sweethearts. We went to different high schools and met at a party when we were 16. When I went to college (I am a year older than him), we decided to keep dating until we weren't happy anymore- we both assumed the long distance would fizzle the relationship out after a couple of months. We then were long distance for 9 years and eventually got married, lol. Whoops.

LoveInDC · April 2017

DH and I met at work! I was in my last year of college and started interning at the company he worked for. We were on different teams/floors, but somehow we always found ourselves around each other. Our bosses were even trying to set us up! We started going to lunch with groups that dwindled down to just the two of us. After a few months, we knew that this was going to be it. We even talked about getting married and having kids before we were officially together! So we made it official, moved in together, and decided to wait a year before officially getting engaged

kmalls · April 2017

I met my husband at a bowling alley, of all places. He was in a league with a few mutual friends (though we had never met). I went with said mutual friends to watch them bowl (but mostly to drink, ha) and we hit it off right away.

It took him MONTHS to ask me out because he thought I was a lot younger than I actually am. Once he figured out I was actually 31 at the time, he invited me to go to a Bruins game with him -- but not before he turned green and said "I have to tell you something." I thought FOR SURE he was going to tell me he was married or living with someone or something along those lines, and I was so mad. Butttttt he just needed to tell me his age. He's 13 years older and he thought that might be a deal-breaker. It wasn't, and three months later we were engaged

justkeepswimming8 · April 2017

Like @loveindc I too was the intern and he was the full time employee it. Only a select few at work knew until we were engaged. It was so fun telling people that day and they all freaked out because they suspected but we always denied it.

laurad75 · April 2017

H and I met training for the Boston Marathon on the same charity team. We went to cheer on the runners at the race this year and now we want to do another one.

LoveInDC · April 2017

@justkeepswimming8 That's too funny! Only select people at work knew we were dating too. It was funny when we had to both change our address to the same thing lol It completely went over some people's heads though. I had already moved on before we got engaged, but I've been back many times to celebrate with them and we obviously had a work table at the wedding.

msmeeseeks · April 2017

On our first date (after meeting on OkCupid), DH took me to a really cool BBQ and music joint and then to a huge park in our city. I was still fairly new to town at the time, so he wanted to show me around. We had to cross a busy street to get to the park, and DH grabbed my hand when it was time to cross. And then didn't let go. I thought it was really cute that he came up with an excuse to hold my hand.

pebbledam · April 2017

We met online! We were both in the midst of getting out of long relationships and wanted something "casual." We talked for awhile, but *TW* when I found out his ex was pregnant, I put on the brakes. We remained friends and we just hung out like normal until I was like, this is a terrible idea, but I'm falling for you. Once his son was born, there was no going back. *TW* He understood my hesitation at getting involved, but I guess he knew it would all work out. He's my soulmate and I didn't even believe in soulmates before him.

AliW220 · April 2017

I love hearing about everyone's other half's!

Our story is a bit non-traditional. We met in college. We were assigned lab partners. I hated him, he was misogynistic, condescending, and I wasn't having any of it. I quickly realized he was the smartest, no BS guy I had met in all of engineering, so I balanced the fine line of putting him in his place while befriending him for homework help. The following semesters, we became good friends (he secretly likes my sass), and each others back bones when our previous marriages fell apart. He's the one who really gave me the courage to leave my abusive ex.

We've been together for 6.5 years, a crazy, bumpy, imperfect, rollercoaster ride, but it's our ride.

jenotontx · April 2017

I met my DH on Plenty of Fish but almost came close to never meeting him at all. I got on POF shortly after a previous relationship ended just to kind of rebound date to get my mind off my ex. So I wasn't really ready for anything serious but after a few months of POF I finally signed up for Match because I wanted to "get serious" about dating again. My H had messaged me on POF a few days before I signed up for Match and tbh I wasn't sure if I was attracted to him from his photos. So I kind of ignored the message at first but didn't delete it. Then I was at a wedding and was literally the only single person there... so during a dancing break I decided to message him back. We ended up talking back and forth online and by phone for 2 weeks before we met. He was traveling for work so he couldn't go out right away but he was adamant we talk by phone to get to know each other (which almost never happens these days). On our first date I let him pick me up (because I felt like I knew him by then) and he literally pulled out all the stops! Took me to this incredible fine dining restaurant, vallet parked the car lol, opened all the doors for me, ect. He was also WAY more attractive irl then in his pictures. It may sound cheesy but I knew by the end of the night he was going to be my husband! After that we dated for a year before moving in together, got enaged a little over 1.5yrs and then had a year long engagement before our wedding this past July. So we will be coming up on our 4 year dating anniversary July 13th and our 1yr wedding anniversary on July 16th.

50Wife · April 2017

We met while working in a department store (in different departments) while I was in high school. I did have a boyfriend at the time that I broke up with not long after. I used to see the hubs walking around and tell my friend, "I'll have him one day..."
Here we are 15 years later.

zwink1 · April 2017

I initially met H at a party when I was still in high school through group A of mutual friends. My first impression of him was that he was a cocky, self-centered jerk. He met his ex that night, and I went about my evening. We didn't exchange numbers, and we barely said more than 5 words to each other.

Flash forward a year, and we met again through mutual friend group B (which shares none of the same people as group A). I would like to say that we just knew it was meant to be after meeting twice like that and thought we should date, but it's really not that nice. My friend had a thing for him, his friend had a thing for me. Neither of us were interested in them, and they both told us not to talk to each other...so we exchanged numbers. We didn't actually start dating for another six or seven months.

Turns out he's not really a cocky jerk - he is sometimes self-centered

mispanda · April 2017

I met H in college. He was a lab partner to one of my friends roommates. We did not like each other when we first met. I thought he was so full of himself and a jerk. A couple weeks after we met he asked me on a date and I didn't say anything because I thought he was joking. Once he made it clear he was serious (I felt really bad for not taking it serious) I said yes. We've been together 10 years and married for 5.

mschanandlerbong1214 · April 2017

My freshman year of college, his senior year. We had a class together and he kept me awake when I constantly fell asleep lol took us a few month of friendship and courting before we became official and I can't freaking believe that was already 10 years ago!

flashley-2 · April 2017

We met in a barn ! Lol.

His daughter was taking riding lessons and I had my horse boarded at the barn. I had just split up with my husband and was NOT interested in dating but he was persistent and friggen sexy as hell. So I let him take me out !!!

SoraLk · April 2017

I was friends with my fiance while dating his best friend, Eugene (fake name to make story less confusing) in high school - whom I dated through college. When Eugene broke up with me, my fiance completely disagreed with his reasoning and ended their friendship (basically Eugene thought he was such the ladies man that he wanted to try dating other ladies before deciding which one to stick with, needless to say he's been single since which slightly amuses me).

After helping me through the devastating breakup, and being there for me for everything else we eventually decided to date several years later.

magnolia131 · April 2017

I put college sweethearts but technically we've known each other since high school. We just didn't date until college. We actually came really close to getting together when I was in 9th grade (that was the only year we took a class together and were somewhat close) but it never happened. We still remained acquaintances through mutual friends for the remainder of high school but he was a grade above me so we didn't talk a lot.

A couple of years later we kind of reconnected on Facebook. His rugby team would play away games at my school all of the time so we met up once or twice as friends. That summer I went back home (where he still lived/went to school) and our hanging out kind of evolved into an unofficial friends with benefits situation (oh to be 20 again). Before I went back to school at the end of the summer he insisted to take me on a proper date and we agreed to attempt to make the long distance thing work. I'm so happy I didn't shy away from that like I initially wanted to! I'm also glad we did not ever date in high school because I was an idiot at that age.

jsnakehole · April 2017

I met DH on OkCupid. I was an avid online dater- I think I used just about every app/site. I went on so many dates ranging from terrible (the waitress didn't even offer us a dessert menu, just brought the check) to the okay. But somehow, every year I'd find myself single around February/March.

A few years ago I decided to start doing my own 'March Madness.' I'd make a bunch of dates for March and even made brackets one year. I was having terrible luck in March of 2015 and made four last dates- for the last two Fridays and Saturdays in March. If those didn't work I was just going to adopt a bunch of cats.

DH messaged me some time in late February. His messages interested me because he made it clear he read my profile. In the things you can't live without section, I put a picture of a toy dinosaur that says "Tyrannethauruth Rexth" and a reference to Black Hawk Down. He got both the reference and told me I was "ridiculouth." But he chose terrible pictures. He still insists that they were flattering, but they weren't. He also kept trying to talk to me on the phone instead of texting, which weirded me out. It took him until the last week of March to finally text and ask for a date. He was my last Saturday night date.

That Tuesday he finally got me on the phone. It was supposed to be for five minutes. We talked for two and a half hours. He was a half hour late that Saturday (no parking, but it's NYC so I wasn't shocked). We met outside a hot dog place (which ended up catering our wedding), and then walked to a fancy, speakeasy type place for dinner and drinks. We went back to the hot dog spot for a second dinner, then to another bar for scrabble and beers. Four days later we were 'official,' a month and a half later I officially moved in. A year after that we were engaged and married.

It's been a hell of an adventure, but it's the best thing that ever happened to me (and he is WAY better looking than his profile pictures).

Dilynne · April 2017

We went to high school together (I had a different boyfriend at the time) and I was really good friends with his brother!

His step dad passed away on Christmas so I went to the funeral as support for his brother and he was crying and my heart broke. Then he used his sadness to convince me to play DnD with him (a nerd game, Dilynne? Really?). We moved in together 3 months later, a house 9 months after that, engaged a month after that ad now we're married with 4 crazy fur balls.

RVAmom315 · April 2017

We met on Match.com in January 2009. He messaged me two days after I signed up and I cancelled it by the end of the week. Moved in together 10 months later, been married 6 years this year.

vflux33 · April 2017

Aw, these stories are cute! Online dating is a totally foreign concept to me personally and I think I'd be terrible at it, but I have at least 2 good friends who met their husbands/soon to be husbands online and my aunt and uncle met online before any of the sites, even match.com, existed.

I chose "mutual friends" in poll, but TBH it was both that and we were also college sweethearts (but we didn't actually meet in college so...). The house we met at was a friend of his that he used to be in a band with and it was super gross --like cat shit and empty beers with cigarette butts in them EVERYWHERE getting too old to be punk rock gross. It smelled awful but everyone always hung out there for some reason. One night there we got into a really long conversation no one else cared about and we were both very into it and everyone else faded away (yeah, I know that sounds cliche but it's true). At some point in the evening, we were like, "hey, let's do this again somewhere else less gross" and so we did. That was 14 years ago. Our friends in college made fun of us for "acting married" but we waited 7 years into our relationship to do that because when we started dating we were only 19 (me) and 22 (him).

[Deleted User] · April 2017

H and I met through mutual friends about a year before we started dating. I was still hung up on an ex in the same friend group and H seemed a bit like a dork so I pretty much completely ignored him. The more we saw each other at parties and events he started asking our friends more about me, but never really tried to engage me in conversation. One of my friends told me he had been asking about me and I was finally over my ex at that point so I started paying more attention. When two people in the group got married I got really drunk on margaritas and sat in his lap and gave him my number. And we lived happily ever after.

darkrose88 · April 2017

DH and I met through mutual friends at a bar my first year of grad school. We both found each other attractive, but this other guy was attempting to hit on me so he never approached me. Fast forward, 9 months, we met again, this time at his apartment, where he was having a small get together. I got dragged along by a friend. We quickly realized we had a lot in common, and he asked me out shortly afterwards. We've been together a little over 4 years, and our first year anniversary is coming up in June.

doula-mama · April 2017

DH and I also met on OK Cupid. Like @jsnakehole, I was a pretty avid online dater. Part of it was entertainment, but I also knew that if I found the right guy, I'd be ready to settle down again. We hit it off right away, and by the third date we fell into a routine of which nights we would stay together during the week (I sort of worked him around my gym schedule haha) and we were together every weekend. Six months in, he had to move across the country for a contract that was expected to last 6-12 months. We decided to give long distance our best shot, while acknowledging that it may not work.
I went to visit a couple months in, and on that trip we decided that we would sell everything and move out to the coast (where he was working) to live on a boat and learn to sail. I flew home the next day and quit my job, and that night he called to tell me his contract had fallen apart. We briefly talked about me asking for my job back and him moving back, but decided that since we had the boat and were ready for the adventure, we'd just go with it. We moved here almost two years ago, lived on a 28' sailboat for the summer/fall with our dog and realized that this life, together, was what we wanted. We upgraded our boat, and started planning our wedding that November and got married in June!

[Deleted User] · April 2017

@Sailing_Mama I love your story!!

lund · April 2017

I think I win for the least romantic story. DH and I met at a bar on St. Paddy's Day 11 years ago. He brought me home to a deflated air mattress in a shitty apartment (he loves telling people that part).... we're a one night stand gone right!

After dating for about 9 months, I moved across country for an internship. All along he'd said he was fine with things being temporary, not interested in long distance, yadda yadda yadda. But, when the time came for me to leave he cried and said that he wanted us to stay together long distance. So, I was in MD for about 5 months for my internship before I realized that I didn't want to be in that carrier field. He had visited me, and had plans to keep visiting as much as possible if I stayed. The first time he visited me in MD is the first time we said the "L" word to each other. I moved back home and the rest is history!

vflux33 · April 2017

I don't know, @lund, I think my cat shit house story may also be a contender

icecubeinthedesert · April 2017

@kmalls, DH and I had our first (semi blind) date while bowling. We had been introduced in passing a few days before, but then my two roommates invited me to go bowling at the union. Turns out, my roommates were saying his roommates, and we were the only single people there. We hit it off, and now we're the only ones still together!

SoldiersMom · April 2017

DH and I met on Tinder. I was just a few weeks away from (finally) moving out of my parents house and closer to my work. I would use Tinder while I was at work, hoping to meet anyone in the area I would be living in. But I would also use it at home. So technically I was double dipping and matching with guys in both areas

Anywho, I matched with DH and he messaged me first. But he happened to message me on the same weekend as a HUGE wine fest that I go to with my girlfriends. I read the message during the festival but in my wine drunkness, never responded, which was probably a really good thing. However, I forgot to respond for about 4 days. Just left him hanging. I was surprised that he actually did respond when I wrote back. It took a bit of convincing for me to give him my actual phone number because I was still skeptical of online dating. I finally gave him my number and we went on our date. Three weeks later, he helped me move into my new place and never left.

petethecat · April 2017

I'm loving reading these-- especially the online dating ones. So interesting and so many romantic meet ups!

I'll add another one to the classy meet up group-- DH and I met at a mutual friend's Halloween party when I was 19. I was dressed as a slutty librarian (so original, right?) and he held me up while I did a keg stand. In a dress.

I was always a dating "rule follower" and a "good girl." Like, don't be too available, make him ask you out/ call you, no kissing on the first date, etc. Despite my efforts, I was ending a long streak of dating flaky, bouchey guys that didn't want to commit or were duds in some other way. I went to the party with some girlfriends with the specific intention of having a girls night and ignoring all men. DH tried talking to me at the beginning of the party and I pretty much ignored him. After a few drinks (and that fateful keg stand) though, we started talking and ended the night with a drunk, casual hookup. He asked for my number, we dated for 4 years, got married after 5, and are going strong 14 years later. That man is my family and my true best friend. He treats me like a total queen and I still can't believe that he's mine.

TL;DR Basic, slutty Halloween costume + all the drinks + questionable judgement = best night of worst decisions ever.

Cricket648 · April 2017

DH and I were high school sweethearts. We met in the 8th grade when I hit him because he made fun of Kurt Cobain (my favorite band was/is Nirvana). We were good friends for a couple years before he asked me out. The first time he asked I laughed, because I thought he was joking. Then he asked me to a dance and I said no simply because I wasn't interested in school dances. I finally did say yes and we've been together ever since. He still gives me shit for laughing at him.

EmilyLove25 · April 2017

And just to be clear, by "through mutual friends" I mean he was married to one of my best friends, she cheated on him with a guy I did the deed with (he was gross), he found out, they broke up, she married gross guy, and he married me

jenotontx · April 2017

@Sailing_Mama You have a great story! I'm so envious of your lifestyle although I don't think I could ever do it.

@lund I love the part about the deflated air mattresses. That's awesome.

@SoldiersMom I missed the Tinder craze by a few months but my best friend also met her soon to be husband on Tinder! It gets a bad rep but I love hearing the success stories.

sunniegrly · April 2017

Sorry to dirty-delete my post, but I decided it identified me too much. Anyone who knows me IRL would literally immediately know it was me, and we haven't told anyone we're TTC yet. I hope those of you who got to see it enjoyed it though!

JennyColada · April 2017

Online: OkCupid. I sent him the first message: "I like your hat."

pebbledam · April 2017

I know we've had some really awesome threads lately, but I think this one is my favorite.

eggplantface · April 2017

@jsnakehole I would love to see your bracket if you still have it! That's amazing and I wish I had thought of it at the time!

This is the most un-romantic story ever. I got to a point where I'd become so jaded about dating (too many ghosts and zombies, and getting too anxious about "Does he like me? Should I call him? I'll just remind him I exist with a text") that I stopped caring about the dudes and started caring more about the free meals. I was on an online dating site and had an active social life, so if someone asked me to dinner I said "Sure!"

Image: https://68.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lfdcophK8r1qzgrg8o1_r1_500.gif

Hence, lots of dates and wishing I had @jsnakehole's idea. I stopped worrying about what happened after the date; that is, if they called for another date or not. H messaged me through a dating site, and I waited for the free communication weekend to respond, which was about a month. I figured if it was too late, c'est la vie. But it wasn't! He messaged me back, and rather than emailing back and forth for weeks (which I hate, I don't want a pen pal), he asked me out for dinner that Friday night. It wasn't love at first sight for me, after our first several dates I was still in my "I don't care" mode. But he kept asking me out and I never had a reason to say no. Over time I learned how awesome he is and started to have actual feelings, and here we are.

JennyColada · April 2017

Well reading through everyone else's cute stories I guess I should really get into the nit and gritty of my own!

As I said, we met on OkCupid, I sent him the first message. I actually didn't mean anything by the message and would often send people messages just to be nice or have a platonic conversation ("I love that book too - have a great day!" etc.). So when he replied back with a really in-depth message that showed that he REALLY read my profile I was super impressed. We sent a few messages back and forth and decided to meet up for dinner the next week (even though we lived about 5 blocked from each other, we decided to meet since I didn't feel comfortable having a stranger pick me up at my house).

We went to this restaurant in West Hollywood that I'd been dying to try (ink by Michael Voltaggio who was on Top Chef which we both love watching!). The food was amazing and it was even cooler that DH just told the kitchen to send out anything that they felt like cooking. Such an awesome experience. DH let me pick the dessert and I picked this cool apple tart inspired thing. The ice cream comes in a frozen shell that you have to crack to open up. The server told me "you have to hit it pretty hard with your spoon, it's pretty tough!" so I really WENT for it and it cracked and splattered and I got ice cream all over DH (and his fancy suit). I was so embarrassed but he just laughed it off.

We've gone back to that restaurant a couple of times for my birthday or our anniversary and we order that dessert every time and laugh about it (I know now to be more careful though!).

With that dinner though, DH knew right away that I was "the one", it took me a couple of weeks. But DH really even knew before we met. I asked him later on if he was nervous and he replied "no, not at all, just excited: I was going to be meeting my wife!"

jsnakehole · April 2017

@eggplantface I still remember my final bracket. Weekend one was Mike (on Friday) and Dan (on Saturday). Mike won that weekend (the conversation was better), but I wasn't sold on either of them, which is fine because Mike never followed up for a second date.

Weekend two was Rob on Friday and my future husband on Saturday. I had already had that lovely two hour conversation with DH earlier that week, so Rob really never had a chance. I don't even think I showered before that date. He also was a little weird and kind of talked about a lot of really personal family issues, which made me a little uncomfortable. He asked for a second date like a week later, but by then I was already official with DH.

I had a lot of fun when I was dating (mostly because I got to try tons of new places without ever paying, which is amazing in NYC), but I'm so glad to be done with that. It was exhausting. And I love my husband. But also because it was exhausting.

labgrand2012 · April 2017

I might my DH when I was studying abroad in England. Some of my friends had met some of his friends at the bar the night before and were then invited to my DH's house the next night for a house party where I tagged along. After first hitting on his sister's BF, I started talking with DH explaining where I was from. I showed him Wisconsin using my hand and he was so confused. I also bragged about how much Wisco girls drink as silly college kids do, so we started a drinking competition. We made some double jack and cokes and when he handed it to me I chugged it all. So he then did the same. I am proud to say he was sick that night

We have been together ever since doing long distance while I finished school, living in England for a few years and now back in Wisconsin.

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