This may be my only pregnancy actually. We have always desperately wanted to adopt but I also wanted to experience pregnancy and so far...I'm not good at it. I'm heavily leaning towards just making the call now that numbers 2&3 will be heart grown babes rather than belly grown babes
4th and last. I'm trying to really enjoy every bit of this pregnancy as i know it is for sure my last. Kinda sad but also really cool..... I've birthed 4 (or will have) bubs and that is plenty!
This is my second pregnancy and hopefully first take home baby. We originally wanted 3 when we first started talking about kids, but I'm already 34. I will be AMA with our next, so we may stick to 2 depending on where DH is at with a promotion and where my body is at. If we get one of each after 2, I know DH will be done.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
I was sure I was one and done when I had DS then I started changing my mind as he neared 1 y/o. My fiance would like a bunch more but I think this 2nd one will probably be it. Kids are expensive and I'd like to be able to afford to take them to do fun things once in a while.
I thought we were done after the boys were born. They were 19ish months apart and a handful. Then about 5 months after I had my YDS, we found out that my paraguard iud failed and I was pregnant with #3. DD was born 2 months before my first baby was 3. I had always said the third was our final but it seems we were both wrong.
My DH and I both have backed out or chickened out on vasectomy/tubal. There must have been a reason we were both hesitant. We had a conversation about having another...in the beginning it was all "what are we thinking?!" But it just seemed to click. The thought of my now older(ish) kiddos interacting with a new little baby fills my heart with joy and it'll just be amazing.
So will #4 be out last? In short, maybe? I always seem to forget how awful HG is and how painful contractions are but it is all well worth it. If you asked my DH, his answer would be straight "No more!"
This is number 3 for us...we already have 2 boys! My husband wants a girl...I told him shop is closed after this one lol! I'm 34 and I feel 3 kids is a good number for our family..but as for my husband he would like 4 kids
Since this pregnancy is twins I'm thinking it will most likely be my last. I'm not totally sure I want to make final decision and get tubes tied or anything yet because I always dreamed of four kids but my SO only ever wanted one kid. I'm thinking I'll wait until less hormonal to make a final choice on it. Although with how horrible my symptoms have been this time I wouldn't mind not being pregnant again hahaha.
While we will see how things go, DH and I are pretty strongly in the camp of one and done for a number of reasons.
We both have hectic work schedules and the timing on this pregnancy is coming at a really good time career wise. However, starting next year, my organization is expecting me to take on a 5-7 expansion of three more schools which will require a lot of work. I will do my best to balance work and family life, but the idea of a second child/pregnancy honestly isn't ideal for us. Finances are also a big consideration for us as well. While money is not necessarily an issue, we know raising a child is very expensive. Some may not be as concerned, but we know the life style we can afford with one child and are quite comfortable with it.
Even without career or financial influences, we both just feel really good about the idea of raising one child. I know our reasoning is not necessarily popular and I have a lot of family/friends say, "Just wait, you will want more!" but I am not so sure they are right. Some people have flamed me at the idea of having an only child, but to them, I say "F**k it!" It's our family, our choices. I don't dictate or comment on how many or few children other people have and I would appreciate the same respect. I have always wanted one child since I can remember and DH has too. So we will see.
Probably... we may try one more time for a boy if this one turns out to be a girl... but then maybe not. Depends on how many kids we want to have to put through college haha
We thought 2 was it when YDS was a baby, but started having the conversation about 6 months ago and then began NTNP a few months after that. We aren't really positive if this will be the last. When we first met we both wanted 4 and DH has weird thing about odd numbers, so we will see(maybe I'll make it easy and be joining the twin club )Babies are tough on relationships and that first year is always a little hard on us, but we love our family and would love to expand it as much as possible (as long as it is financially and emotionally responsible).
I think this will also be our last baby, our third. It feels right. I am trying to appreciate this pregnancy with the thought that it will be my last time to feel a baby on the inside. Not sure what kind of long-term solution we will have for bc.... I think DH would rather use condoms than get a vasectomy!
I think, regardless of the outcome of this pregnancy, that this is going to be the last one for me. I have one son and hope this will be our second take home baby as it my fourth pregnancy. I'm turning 40 a month after baby is due and already feel so much more wear and tear than in 2014.... don't think I ha e it in me for another!!! Life is super hard right now, pregnancy not included. DH is going to get snipped.
Since I'm having twins, maybe. I personally want three but my partner wants two. I'll see how I feel in a 3ish years. On one hand it might be nice to just be pregnant the once and get it over with (then I can finally get my breast reduction!!!) Buy one get one free, and all that.
Me: 28 DW: 23 Dating: 10/23/2013 Married: 6/13/2014 TTC since June 2016 BFP #1: 3/2/17 - MC 5/22/17
This is it for me no mas I have a nine,four,three and last but not least a seven month old who will be fourteen months when the baby comes I want my tubes cut tied burned whatever ..im ready not to have anymore
After this I think I'm done. This is my first but I have 3 step kids. Also my DH is 45 and not healthy at all so I don't think he wants anymore either. I know it's just the first trimester but this pregnancy so far has been so rough and so hard on my body I cannot see me ever doing this again. I'm going to get an IUD put in after the baby is born as my DH refuses to get snipped and getting my rubes tied is very permanent.
We will see. For me it is a bit complex as I have two views that are the opposite, or two issues. The first is that my DS has disabilities. I also have a sibling with a disability and growing up I knew the responsibility would be all mine someday and that was a bit much. So I worry about that. Ideally I might have three kiddos and if only one had disabilities that would be nicer for the two more capable ones, I think. But I'm really infertile. This one is an egg donor baby. No leftover embryos. So that would mean more money for things like another donor or embryo adoption, etc., which is a whole big process physically as well. It also depends on how my pregnancy goes. I had HELLP syndrome before, etc. Plus we just have to see how we feel after a couple of years having two kids. I didn't know with my son if we would want more or not.
This is most likely our last. We had originally planned for 4 once upon a time, but this pregnancy is making me feel pretty done. I love babies, but being pregnant is hard for me and DH gets that. There was a time in our lives we weren't even sure we'd be able to bring home 1 baby let alone a 3rd so I think we are just grateful to be at this place and will be fine being done afterward.
@kaitieb14 we are in a similar boat. This will likely be our only one, paticularly since I am 35. But we have both seriously considered adoption and I can see us adopting #2 down the road. DH was adopted (sort of, it's complicated) so it was really important to him to try to havr a biological child but he also thinks adoption is super important and knows the impact it can have on a child
Eta @dragonfly87 everything you said is also another reason this will likely be our only unless we adopt way down the road. I know DHs family will be upset with that but it's our choice.
Re: Will this be your last pregnancy?
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
My DH and I both have backed out or chickened out on vasectomy/tubal. There must have been a reason we were both hesitant. We had a conversation about having another...in the beginning it was all "what are we thinking?!" But it just seemed to click. The thought of my now older(ish) kiddos interacting with a new little baby fills my heart with joy and it'll just be amazing.
So will #4 be out last? In short, maybe? I always seem to forget how awful HG is and how painful contractions are but it is all well worth it. If you asked my DH, his answer would be straight "No more!"
Married: 11/2013
"Q" DS1: 3/2011
"T" DS2: 10/2012
"A" DD: 1/2014
EDD #4: 11/26/2017
Although with how horrible my symptoms have been this time I wouldn't mind not being pregnant again hahaha.
We both have hectic work schedules and the timing on this pregnancy is coming at a really good time career wise. However, starting next year, my organization is expecting me to take on a 5-7 expansion of three more schools which will require a lot of work. I will do my best to balance work and family life, but the idea of a second child/pregnancy honestly isn't ideal for us. Finances are also a big consideration for us as well. While money is not necessarily an issue, we know raising a child is very expensive. Some may not be as concerned, but we know the life style we can afford with one child and are quite comfortable with it.
Even without career or financial influences, we both just feel really good about the idea of raising one child. I know our reasoning is not necessarily popular and I have a lot of family/friends say, "Just wait, you will want more!" but I am not so sure they are right. Some people have flamed me at the idea of having an only child, but to them, I say "F**k it!" It's our family, our choices. I don't dictate or comment on how many or few children other people have and I would appreciate the same respect. I have always wanted one child since I can remember and DH has too. So we will see.
DS#2 3/15
Baby #3~
Dating: 10/23/2013
Married: 6/13/2014
TTC since June 2016
BFP #1: 3/2/17 - MC 5/22/17
I know it's just the first trimester but this pregnancy so far has been so rough and so hard on my body I cannot see me ever doing this again.
I'm going to get an IUD put in after the baby is born as my DH refuses to get snipped and getting my rubes tied is very permanent.
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Eta @dragonfly87 everything you said is also another reason this will likely be our only unless we adopt way down the road. I know DHs family will be upset with that but it's our choice.