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Welcome ladies! Feel free to resurrect this thread whenever you have something to share with the group.
What number are you trying for?
Cycle/Month?
WTO/TWW?
Ages of other child(ren)?
Any thoughts about this cycle?
Any questions?
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?
Re: TFAS (Trying for a sibling) April Check-In
Cycle/Month? 17/16
WTO/TWW? TWW of my first medicated cycle
Ages of other child(ren)? My son is almost 2 1/2..crazy! I can't believe it.
Any thoughts about this cycle? I have my progesterone draw on Tuesday. Then a beta draw the following Tuesday. If this cycle isn't it, we'll be taking a break until June. I'm actually feeling peace about this cycle whether or not this is it. We'll see how I'm feeling if I do end up getting my period...but I'm really trying to stay in the now and appreciate the time that I have with DS, instead of obsessing over time passing and the age gap getting wider and wider.
Any questions? Not right now
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?
I have 3 siblings, so we were a family of 6. I loved and still love have so many siblings. It definitely impacted my wish to have a large family. DH grew up just him and his brother. He thought he only wanted 2 kids, until we had DS. After he became a Dad, his wish grew from 2 kids to however many we can handle! I know this is hard on him too that it's taking so long to have another. We had discussed 4 or 5 kids when DS was a few months old. Now I think we'd be happy with 3, if we get that high.
Cycle/month: meh
WTO/TWW: Benched
Ages of other children: 2.5 and 4.5
Any thoughts about this cycle: Nope, just here to hang out
Were also getting ready for a cross country move so at least I'm staying busy.
I hope your trip is everything you need it to be!
Cycle/Month? AF should arrive any moment, which will make it cycle 5 month 4.
WTO/TWW? AF should be here today, so WTO.
Ages of other child(ren)? DS is 2 and DD is almost 6 months.
Any thoughts about this cycle? Just hopeful!
Any questions? None right now.
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?
I have one (2 years younger) sibling, and DH had one sibling that was 5 years older (she passed away last year). While we both come from very happy families, both of us always envisioned having a larger family of our own, with kids close together in age. Unfortunately time isn't really our friend in this case -- DH is 13 years older than I am, and I just turned 35, so we'll probably stop at 3 kids. If we had met 10 years ago we'd probably have a dozen, ha!
@heatherdubrow Sorry to see you back here, enjoy your trip!
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month 8/8
WTO/TWW WTO, but probably moving to TWW in another day or so
Ages of other child(ren)? DS just turned 4
Any thoughts about this cycle? Feeling good. Timing had been pretty good and no issues with DH. Working on losing some weight and have 1 more cycle before being referred to a RE, so I'm OK either way
Any questions? Not at the moment
GTKY. I have one older brother. I always wanted a big family at least 3 or 4, DH only wanted one so we compromised on 2. However DS has a CHD and put us through a lot so it took DH a LOT of convincing to try for #2, that's why we waited so long
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
@heatherdubrow Sorry you're here again
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month? 4/4
WTO/TWW? nearing the end of the TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? DS is 14 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? I've been going back and forth, our timing worked out great, especially considering DH works out of town. One minute I'll think forsure this is the one! Then the next I'm convinced AF is arriving imminently. I dunno. hoping to hold out a few more days to test.
Any questions? Anyone BF while pregnant before? did you find it affected your supply?
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? I have two brothers who are identical twins. DH also has two brothers. I have this fantasy about having 3 or 4, for whatever reason 2 just doesn't seem like enough! DH says 2 and done... but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it
@TravelingCouple FX the medicated cycle does the trick!
@kvacmak I started off only wanting one and now I'm considering two and three lol. There's always hope!
Cycle/Month? 5/4
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 9.5 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? Not certain if my body is still regulating. I feel better about this cycle's temps but not sure that really matters
Any questions? nope
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?
Only child from original marriage. Dad remarried and I have a half brother and half sister. My husband and I haven't decided on two or three (I think he'd be happy with two). I'm AMA so it'll depend on how quickly we can make #2 happen.....which isn't happening quickly at all
@heatherdubrow I'm so so sorry you're back here but I'm glad you have Hawaii to look forward to.
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month? 16/16
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? DD, 2 1/2 years
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm not holding my breath for this cycle. Got a positive OPK today so I should ovulate by Tuesday but DH is on a field trip for the next three days so our timing won't be great. Just kind of riding it out until we go see the RE next month.
Any questions? Nope.
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? I have a brother who is three years younger. DH has two sisters, 7 and 8 years younger than him. I always wanted a big family and so does DH so we planned on 3-4 kids but we'll see if we're even able to have a second. My fantasy was always 3 biological kids and then adopting a fourth from foster care.
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
Cycle/Month? 2/2
WTO/TWW? WTO, CD16. No signs of O yet, but I usually O somewhere around CD21-24 so I've still got time
Ages of other child(ren)? Almost 3 and just turned 1
Any thoughts about this cycle? I took some time off from TB at the beginning of this cycle and am just now coming back. I know I'm only on cycle 2, but it's good for my mental health to try not to think about TTC for two weeks or so after AF starts. I'm feeling rested and ready to get back into this!
Any questions? Nope
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?
I'm an only child, and I think that absolutely made me want more than one. Siblings are something I didn't realize I wanted when I was younger (grew up in a neighborhood with a ton of kids my age), but the older I get the more I wish I had them. I love seeing my girls together and I know we made the right decision, and I obviously am now trying for another!
Anna Josephine 3-29-2016
Baby #3 EDD 3-3-2018
My Chart
Cycle/Month? Cycle 4 using OPKs, so many months trying otherwise.
WTO/TWW? WTO. My last cycle was over 40 days long...so just sitting and waiting.
Ages of other child(ren)? Our daughter just turned 3.
Any thoughts about this cycle? Hopeful! Thinking I have a better grasp/understanding of my cycle.
Any questions? Nope
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?
I have one half sister. I've always wanted more than 2 kids and my sister and I are 5 years apart. I want kids closer in age to one another & I want my kids to have more siblings than I did.
Cycle/Month? 7
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 2 years old
Any thoughts about this cycle? going to stay optomistic. I do have a girls trip this weekend, so I am just hoping I dont O while I am gone.
Any questions? For those of you temping, My son will come into our room randomly during the night, so there are nights that I have interrupted sleep. When should I be taking my temp on those nights? Wait till my alarm clock? Or take it when he first wakes me up. He comes in anytime between midnight and 5:30, and it isnt every night. I mostly just pull him into bed with us til he falls back asleep and then move him back into his bed.
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? Both my husband and I are from a family with three kids. We both definitely want 2 kids, and I would be willing to go up to 4. He doesn't want 3 as he says you are then out numbered, someone is always left out, it would be hard to go to amusement parks, you have to wait for a bigger table at a restaurant, and need a bigger car. All silly things to me
BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
Cycle/Month? 10/10
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? DS will be 6 in July.
Any thoughts about this cycle? We are in the double digits now, and to be honest I am less optimistic each cycle. I'm still trying to gear my mind toward DS maybe being an only. I think we just waited too long to do this. I'm not totally hopeless though, and I know I'll still love our little family as it is if we can't have another.
Any questions? Not really. I seriously need to get back to temping and better charting. I may have ruined several cycles by lack of temping/charting and poor timing as a result.
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? Both of our families are extremely small. We each have 1 sibling. Mine passed away when I was in my early twenties. DH's sister is nearing 30 and is happily single. I have no cousins. DH has some but they live far away and are not close. This was/is a huge factor in us deciding to have kids in the first place and a huge reason why we wanted to have another. I hate how alone DS will be someday without the typical "oh, they'll have friends and cousins to make up for it!" situation. Sure, he may have good friends but probably little to no family. Ugh, sorry, I am one big Debbie Downer today! I swear I'm actually in a pretty good mood!
Me: 36 DH: 41
Cycle/Month? month 8
WTO/TWW? benched - waiting for AF to come back
Ages of other child(ren)? 1 yo (12 months)
Any thoughts about this cycle? TW - just waiting for AF after the MC. As of 3/20, HSG was at 5, so it shouldn't be long.
Any questions? Nope
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? I have one brother (and a much younger half sister with whom I am regrettably not close), DH is 1 of 5. Both of us have sibling(s) very close in age and it's something we both want for our son. Since it look so long to conceive and take home DS, that's why we started so soon TTC #2. Here we are 8 months and **TW** 2 MCs later though...Ideal we'd really want 3, but I am not sure I can go through all of this again after a theoretical second child.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
Long story short: personally, I would temp as close to the same time as possible, provided you get 5 hours of sleep. If there's a day when temping within your usual window isn't possible, I would skip temping (or if you're using FF, discard that day).
If others have have better ideas, chime in! Like I said, I'm no expert.
ETA: this is also a great question for the WTO/TWW daily threads, if you participate in those.
Cycle/Month? 12/11
WTO/TWW?TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? they will be 2 at the end of the month... holy crap how did that happen?!?
Any thoughts about this cycle? trying to remain hopeful, nervous, kind of all the feels... because if this cycle doesn't work then we will only do one more medicated cycle and if that is a bust then we're done...
Any questions? nope
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? I have one brother, but my mom is 1 of 5. having a lot of aunts and uncles always made me want to have a bigger family... it was so much fun having everyone around
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Cycle/Month? 6/5
WTO/TWW? Tww
Ages of other child(ren)? 4
Any thoughts about this cycle? See my tww post
Any questions?
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Family of 5 Siblings? An older sister and a younger brother. Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? I want all the children, so no. But dh wants a small family.
@kvacmak I know that roller coaster all too well in the TWW. Really, I ride it all month long. Keeping myself otherwise busy helps immensely.
@shortstack930 Hope you get some BD in before your DH leaves, and in time for O
@georgiagirl3050 I'm all for MH breaks..I went way too long without one, putting my heart and soul into getting pregnant. I've burnt myself out so much and everything around me suffers for it. I am so looking forward to our 2 month break, and I never ever thought I'd want to take a break.
@littlehottmess55 Long/irregular cycles stink! Mine were way longer while TTC DS, I would O so late. It's frustrating. Glad you're gaining a better idea of how it all works so you can track better.
@5099peperk When I temp, I take it around the same time, within an hour, as much as I can. Even if I've woken up in the night. I find that it doesn't affect my temp too much and I can still see a shift.
@alysapuggles I know what you mean about hitting certain TTC "milestones" like double digits. That one stung for me too. A year stung even more. And now I'm approaching a year and a half. I was doing the same thing regarding when I got pregnant, like "Oh, I'm sure I'll be pregnant by summer (last summer)" or "I'm sure I'll be pregnant by the time my sister has her baby" (he's now over 1). So I've had to stop tracking every milestone on both ends, it's too stressful. Easier said than done, I know it stinks. Hugs
@wabash15 I am really really hoping this is your cycle! I know that pressure is not fun and I don't want you to feel it another month
What number are you trying for? 3
Cycle/Month? 3/3
WTO/TWW? WTO (always, always WTO)
Ages of other child(ren)? Two boys: 14 mo. and 3
Any thoughts about this cycle? Eh. It’s hard to feel very optimistic when my last three luteal phases have been 7-8 days. I do have an appointment with the Dr. on 4/13 to start dealing with that issue, as I have a prolactinoma so there doesn’t seem to be much point wasting time here.
Any questions? Not at the moment.
GTKY: I’m one of 3, but my mom is one of 8 and my dad is one of 7 and it definitely affected the number of kids I want. I love crazy big holidays and lots of cousins and I’ve always wanted a big family.
@TravelingCouple FX for you this cycle
@heatherdubrow I’m so sorry to see you back here, but glad you have HI to look forward to!
@kvacmak FX for you! I BF through about 8 months of pregnancy last time. I didn’t really notice any supply issues, but I have a prolactinoma, so milk supply is pretty much never an issue for me. I do think that a dip in supply can be somewhat normal though.
@5099peperk hope your O holds out until after your girls weekend. I’ve got a girls trip coming up too and I’m so nervous that O is going to end up coinciding.DS2: Jan. 2016
DS3: Dec. 2017
Baby #4 on the way!
DS2: Jan. 2016
DS3: Dec. 2017
Baby #4 on the way!
@heatherdubrow I'm so sorry to see you here!!
@5099peperk I'm no pro so don't take my word for it, but if my son wakes up at 530 and I'm going to have to get out of bed, I'll take my temp then real quick. If he's up at 2am then I'll wait until when I was planning on taking my temp.
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month? 10/11
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 2
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm hopeful. Going through some basic testing to confirm whether there's a reason why it hasn't happened yet.
Any questions?
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?
I have a younger brother and sister.
I would love to have two more but I know this is the last baby we're going to try for (can I just tell you ladies that I'm secretly hoping for twins? I want 3 but I know we'd never go for it)
I also have to call to schedule an ultrasound just to check for cysts that she wanted basically right after my period. So I guess I'll know more after the ultrasound which I'm guessing may be the end of this week or very early next week.
Thanks for asking
Cycle/Month? 1/2
WTO/TWW? Well I suppose that I am in WTO but I don't even know if I am ovulating at all so we will see. Going strong at CD 43 today.
Ages of other child(red)? 1 1/2 DD
Any thoughts about this cycle? Yes, I am new at tracking everything and honestly I am a little worried....
Any questions? Has anyone else had long and/or irregular cycles for a while after quitting breastfeeding?
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? I have one sister and would've gladly taken another. I really want three children if it is in the cards for us but I think I will be done at 35 either way.
@heatherdubrow I can't help but read your posts with Heather's voice in my head. I am a closet Bravo junkie.
If it's any consolation to your concerns about small family, family doesn't have to be blood. DH is an only child, and has a couple friends that known each other since grade school, can call on each other any time for anything. He does have some cousins, but lived too far away to form any relationship with them.
Married April 1st 2017
DS #1: May 2009
DS #2: Jan 2012
Me: 36 DH: 41
Cycle/Month? 6/6
WTO/TWW? WTO (CD 6- O is usually around CD 18-20, so I've got awhile)
Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5 yr old son
Any thoughts about this cycle? Ever since I hit the TWW last cycle I've just lost all hope...I didn't even pee on anything during that TWW. I have no idea why but I just feel like this TTC journey will not be a fun or easy one.
Any questions?
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?
I come from a blended family, I am the oldest and the rest are boys. I have 2 step brothers (we HATE the word step, we are most definitely just siblings.. have been since I was 6 and they were 4 and 2) and we share a half brother who is 10 years younger than me. Hasn't really had an influence on how many I want though. I really just want to (I think), but MY would most definitely have more.
@alysapuggles @AliW220 Although my son is a bit younger, I can relate on the age gap in the sense that I definitely did not want a gap as wide as it even is now. Even if I were pregnant right now, there'd still be a 3 year gap and it's just getting wider. Lately, everywhere I go and every person who shares their kids' ages, it's always always about 2 years in between the first and second. It's discouraging. I won't have anyone in my group of friends who will have their second kid around the same time I do. I'm the last one left who isn't pregnant or already has their second. It makes me feel like it's going to be kind of lonely once the second does finally come around. But maybe it'll give an opportunity to meet new friends with infants. Like you ladies, I'm trying to focus on the positives of a wider age gap. Like hopefully DS will be potty trained and then I won't have two in diapers.
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
@ TravelingCouple Yay for first medicated cycle. I hope it helps!
@ heatherdubrow Hugs. Hawaii sounds pretty nice!
@ jlemons-2 I’m BF now and having irregular and just weird cycles!
@ hoosiermama1 I feel the same way. A positive side effect is that I won’t be wasting a ton of money on pregnancy tests.
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month? 3/3
WTO/TWW? WTO (for now)
Ages of other child(ren)? Beautiful 18 month old DD
Any thoughts about this cycle? Oh my god, yes. Last cycle was shortest ever LP—9 days. Weirdest period ever also. Now on CD 9 my body is about to ovulate (I’d guess in 48 hours). So this is early ovulation… hoping not too early and that I get a longer LP.
Any questions? I’m still BF… this was my third period since birth—all have come moderately regularly (32, 30, 26 days). For those still BF… how many cycles did it take after AF started for it to be “normal?” I know lots have mentioned having wonky cycles. I nurse very infrequently but overnight a few times!
GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? I have two brothers and it definitely made me for sure want at least two kids. Would kill for three but I’ll be pretty old!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
How is everyone doing this week? Any updates you want to share or concerns that might have popped up?
Possible TW
One of my best friends had her second baby two weeks ago. I went to visit her and the baby today and I did really well! I didn't feel "woe is me" at all and I was able to just be happy for her and enjoy the new baby. I was worried about how I would feel because she started TFAS 7 months after I did and got KU on her first try but I was able to put my feelings aside and just have a good time.
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
@kmalls now that you mention it...I have to agree. I almost feel like it's hard to hate someone who just had this cute little tiny baby knowing how sleep deprived they'll be for a while
But really I think it's bc I so bad want to bring that excitement to my husband and our family of announcing a pregnancy so when I see it I'm like damn, I want to start that journey so bad.
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22