Combo TW Tuesday and BF Monday?

FSUNole31 · April 2017

Since we didn't have one yesterday I thought we could do a combo....who are what is getting on your last nerve? Rant and rave here ladies!!

FSUNole31 · April 2017

I started working part time for a company that teaches English online to students in China. I am annoyed because I can't get my booking rates up. I need to get more students booked so I can even remotely have the possibility to stay home next year. I am trying so hard and opening as much time slots as I can but it isn't helping yet. I know rationally I need to be patient and it will happen, but ughhhhh I don't wanna come back to work in the fall.

neludelu · April 2017

FSUNole31 said:

I started working part time for a company that teaches English online to students in China. I am annoyed because I can't get my booking rates up. I need to get more students booked so I can even remotely have the possibility to stay home next year. I am trying so hard and opening as much time slots as I can but it isn't helping yet. I know rationally I need to be patient and it will happen, but ughhhhh I don't wanna come back to work in the fall.

How did you get into that? What are the requirements? This sounds like a great opportunity!

Stankonia2014 · April 2017

I'm at the point where I am stressing over everything and DH is not a worrier at all and it's so frustrating.

I'm not sure why it never occurred to me that I could give birth early, but if I go any earlier than May 16th I'm screwed for FMLA.

I'm stressing about finances for my unpaid maternity leave, which we had covered until our Pilot needed repaired.

I'm stressing about newborn photos and if it's even going to be financially feasible to do them. $350 could be better spent elsewhere or put back into maternity leave. Anyone else not doing newborn photos?

I'm a mess.

merrylea · April 2017

My company is going through a merger, effective date is July 1. I will be on Mat leave at that time. At this point I have no idea what my job will be. Trying to let go of things out of my control at this time.....

FSUNole31 · April 2017

@neludelu I will PM you once I get home with some info!

LAMCH1980 · April 2017

@Stankonia2014, Newborn photos aren't even on my radar right now either. I'll take some pics on my phone or get cheaper ones at a Picture People in the mall. I'm stressing about a lot of the same things you are. Unpaid maternity leave...everything in my house is breaking and we've used up all the savings for rainy days these past few months and there isn't much else I can do to get ahead at this point. I don't have an answer or something awesome to say to make it better, but know that you aren't alone.

FSUNole31 · April 2017

@Stankonia2014 I am back and forth about newborn photos. I am probably only doing them if I can get a discount from my photographer who I have been using for years. She is usually pretty good about it when my kids go for their yearly pictures. I feel the stress about money. I don't technically have maternity leave because I will just use summer vacation, but I have zero time in the fall if I end up wanting to stay home longer. Finances suck.

ladylolly89 · April 2017

@Stankonia2014 we do not do professional newborn photos. I took DS' at home when he was 5 or 6 days old and they turned out great - not quite professional quality, of course, but they look very nice and they were FREE. Plus, it was fun.

@FSUNole31 my DH does something similar - he teaches English online to Korean kids in the mornings. It doesn't pay much, but he enjoys it! The time difference makes it difficult to schedule those time slots!

berg · April 2017

@Stankonia2014 We most likely will not be doing newborn photos for similar reasons to you. I don't qualify for FMLA (started new job @ end of Aug), I have enough vacation and Short Term Disability to get me at most 8 weeks with some sort of income. The main issue is if we move back to NJ. So both of us will have to find new jobs to have when we get back which is enough stress on it's own. Factoring in moving costs, diapers, all the other things that may come up, newborn photos seems like it wouldn't be the smartest investment for us. So like @LAMCH1980 said you are definitely not alone. All the creepy hugs!

mamaraffe · April 2017

I really cherished the newborn photos I had done and will definelty get some for this new baby with big brother! Search Facebook because a lot of people who do photography as a hobby are very reasonable!

Elyse1384 · April 2017

DS (3yo) decided to eat a chocolate coin last Thursday morning.... with the foil still on it. Daycare and I have been on poop watch ever since and it is my least favorite time of the day. Plus DD missed 3 days of daycare (talk about a vacation time hit) with a combo of a nasty virus and two molars coming through - both of which caused a low grade fever. Daycare won't take them with low fevers so yeah.... Oh and my sinus infection still won't go away. I may never breathe through my nose again. WTF

End rant... sorry ladies

FSUNole31 · April 2017

@Elyse1384 no apology necessary...that's why I made the thread! In all seriousness though I hope that you get to feeling better soon and you find the foil! I hope your daughter is feeling better too.

anitamargarita_82 · April 2017

@Stankonia2014 we aren't have newborn photos because my little one is in an isolette. Our hospital apparently doesn't do preemie pictures. But we're in the same boat as several of you are. We're building a new house and keeping our old one. So as of July we'll have two mortgages until we can rent out our old one. Thankfully I get 12 paid weeks off in the Navy and my command is going to work something out for me to have extra time off depending on how long Adeline is in the nicu. They want me to have all of the time I'm supposed to have with her at home so I'm totally getting hooked up. Plus I have about 45 days of leave on the books right now so I might use some of that as well.

Stankonia2014 · April 2017

Love-titting for commiseration. In the grand scheme of things newborn photos aren't that big of a deal, but once I get an idea in my head it's just hard to let go of. We didn't do them for the others besides the last and that was only because I had a friend photog do them in addition to the other girls' for a great price, but she's out of the business now. And really it's not just $350, it's that plus the cost of outfits for all four kids too.

Well look there, you all just helped me rationalize why they aren't a smart decision.

CurlyMommy416 · April 2017

I agree with @Ashcicle if you search your local FB yardsale group I usually see lots of hobby photographers offering pretty inexpensive sessions. If I lived closer I would do them for you!!

danij0 · April 2017

I'm doing my own newborn photos (as I know I've mentioned before - hobby/amateur photog here). For those of you who can't afford newborn photos there are lots of tips on Pinterest to get nice photos with your iPhone/smart phone. The main tips I would suggest:
Use natural light. Have baby in front of large window and make sure you are situated between baby and the window.
Focus! Just tap your phone screen on the section you want focused - normally the eyes.
Get on baby's level. Kneel or sit down so you are in line with baby. Of course other angles are nice, too.
Make sure baby is warm and happy or sleepy.
You can even try out a simple set up with a stuffed animal to see how it will end up when baby gets here.
If you have any questions I can try to help!

Kylieslip24 · April 2017

Stankonia2014 said:

I'm at the point where I am stressing over everything and DH is not a worrier at all and it's so frustrating.

I'm not sure why it never occurred to me that I could give birth early, but if I go any earlier than May 16th I'm screwed for FMLA.

I'm stressing about finances for my unpaid maternity leave, which we had covered until our Pilot needed repaired.

I'm stressing about newborn photos and if it's even going to be financially feasible to do them. $350 could be better spent elsewhere or put back into maternity leave. Anyone else not doing newborn photos?

I'm a mess.

I don't pay for pictures for my kids. I take them all myself. I will have a few cute outfits/props for him, but the simple naked ones are my favorite. A lot of our pictures I just stick the baby or kid on my bed (all white comforter and sheets) have the windows open (our bed is next to a slider with great light) and take tons, you can delete them later. My iPhone takes better pics than my camera even. A few tricks are to add texture, maybe a chunky blanket, or fake fur blanket, anything like that. I've even pulled her Faux lambskin rug up and had her lay on that. You can use your boppy pillow under the blanket to prop them up a bit.

lmc929 · April 2017

Okay BF.... I told the ladies on the Monday ticker change this too but it is consuming my day to day life.

Our disastrous 16+ month house hunt continues and we now have to be out of our rental house May 1st. So we are now potentially moving to an apartment for 3 months while we continue looking through the summer. I havent been able to do anything nursery related this time around and the thought of moving twice this summer and potentially spending my maternity leave in an apartment smaller than our current rental situation with no backyard for our dog makes me antsy. I know it is total first world problems but my stress level is still through the roof. I feel bad for DS1 - feels like I am not being a fun mommy lately with all of this going on and then soon hes going to have the transition of a new place (twice?) and a brother.

I understand that babies need little to nothing at the beginning and we we will be totally fine but it is a disappointment. I feel like I cant nest or get really excited yet.

Thanks to anyone who took the time to read my rambling.

lmc929 · April 2017

Elyse1384 ughhh feel better! It seems like sickness comes in waves in our house and its hard to break the cycle once one person gets something.

lmc929 · April 2017

merrylea I am sorry - that has got to be super stressful. Its hard feeling like things are up in the air with a new baby arriving. Sending good vibes.

ETA: words.

allywat · April 2017

I second what several people have said, try to find an up and coming photographer that will charge a lot less. We got really lucky when we found a photographer that is amzing that was just starting out. She did ds1 newborn and 1 year photos and will do this baby's newborn photos as well.

Finances are a big concern for us too though. So stressful. I have no paid leave and won't be returning to work due to bedrest for the rest of this pregnancy, or even the foreseeable future because of changing childcare with 2 vs 1. My husband is a grad student and has very little income until he graduates. The "wish list" items for this baby are slowly shrinking.

mrt · April 2017

We did the newborn photo shoot that they come around and offer in our hospital for my first, and I was like, "omg no way!" when they told us how much the prints cost. My sister ended up buying them, because he is her godson. I only have pictures (not posed) that we took of my second. I might try to take more artsy/ better photos for this one, but still just us. Poor middle child.

CapricaAndrea · April 2017

lmc929 said:

Okay BF.... I told the ladies on the Monday ticker change this too but it is consuming my day to day life.

Our disastrous 16+ month house hunt continues and we now have to be out of our rental house May 1st. So we are now potentially moving to an apartment for 3 months while we continue looking through the summer. I havent been able to do anything nursery related this time around and the thought of moving twice this summer and potentially spending my maternity leave in an apartment smaller than our current rental situation with no backyard for our dog makes me antsy. I know it is total first world problems but my stress level is still through the roof. I feel bad for DS1 - feels like I am not being a fun mommy lately with all of this going on and then soon hes going to have the transition of a new place (twice?) and a brother.

I understand that babies need little to nothing at the beginning and we we will be totally fine but it is a disappointment. I feel like I cant nest or get really excited yet.

Thanks to anyone who took the time to read my rambling.

I totally commiserate with you. We're living with my inlaws for probably a year (at least), and just moved last week. I don't have anything ready yet, I feel like I'm completely missing out on the fun and excitement of setting up a nursery since baby will be sharing our room, and I feel like by the time we move to our own place there won't be any point in really setting up a full nursery unless we're already planning baby #2, and even then it feels less exciting than for the first baby.

But then I feel guilty about all that because I know it's helping us out a ton financially (even though we're paying rent, it's far less than we were) and it will be nice to have the help so nearby when we have a newborn.

ashleyl31 · April 2017

lmc929 said:

Okay BF.... I told the ladies on the Monday ticker change this too but it is consuming my day to day life.

Our disastrous 16+ month house hunt continues and we now have to be out of our rental house May 1st. So we are now potentially moving to an apartment for 3 months while we continue looking through the summer. I havent been able to do anything nursery related this time around and the thought of moving twice this summer and potentially spending my maternity leave in an apartment smaller than our current rental situation with no backyard for our dog makes me antsy. I know it is total first world problems but my stress level is still through the roof. I feel bad for DS1 - feels like I am not being a fun mommy lately with all of this going on and then soon hes going to have the transition of a new place (twice?) and a brother.

I understand that babies need little to nothing at the beginning and we we will be totally fine but it is a disappointment. I feel like I cant nest or get really excited yet.

I feel you on the house. We sold our house in March and moved into a townhouse until we find a house we want to buy. I feel terrible that we have such nice weather, and no where for DS (4) to play. We also only have 2 bedrooms here,
so no nursery. We also have stuff in storage that I may need if we stay here much longer. It sucks for sure.

erinh84 · April 2017

Re: newborn photos. I never got them done with DS because I'm a cheap ass and I really couldn't justify spending the money since I was transitioning to a SAHM. This time around DH's cousin is going to be doing our newborn pictures for $75. She's a really talented photographer who is trying to get her business up and running, so it's kind of a win-win for both parties.

I agree with pp. If you can find an up and coming photographer, it's definitely the way to go if you're trying to get pictures done on a budget.

lmc929 · April 2017

CapricaAndrea and @ashleyl31 -- LADIES! Thank you! I am sorry you are both in a similar boat as me but so nice to have others who "get it". My friends and family feel sorry for our situation but cant relate. My mom asked me what we are still needing for a toddler room and nursery and I just wanted to punch something. A house!? A room to actually have a toddler room and nursery!? I am trying so hard to stay level headed and grateful for how fortunate we are. It has just been an emotional roller coaster. We have offered on 7 houses and are still stuck looking. I am just waiting for our luck to turn.

Stankonia2014 · April 2017

I'm sorry, @lmc929, my bitch about photos seems dumb now after reading your and other's situations. FX your house hunt is over soon.

Kylieslip24 · April 2017

I'm another one that can't nest because we don't have room and we're planning on moving soon. Soon, but not really. We're planning on staying another year. I've been putting that nesting energy towards reorganizing our house and making freezer meals. My mom told me the other day she feels so sorry for us not having a 3 bedroom. She acted like we live in a trash can or something. Our house is fine it's just small, it has served us well the last few years. We are privledged to have an awesome landlord that lets us have pets and we have a pretty nice yard with a vegetable garden. Also we could move next month if we really wanted to, but we would have to rent and rent is the same amount as mortgage here so it makes much more sense to save and suffer for a year for a down payment than rush out to another rental. Ugh I was so irritated.

Stankonia2014 · April 2017

I got clarification from HR on my work situation should I go before my anniversary date and I feel relieved, so that's one less thing to worry about.

lmc929 · April 2017

Stankonia2014 - hey girl, all BF/TW's are created equal. Rant away!

@Kylieslip24 sounds like Denver! It is brutal here. The issue mainly being lack of inventory and people continuing to move here. Save that money! We will all get there one day hahaha

krex-2 · April 2017

@stankonia2014, I understand about the newborn photos, completely. DH and I get FMLA, but it's unpaid, and since I'm not "disabled" there's no ST disability pay for me. Plus, with the expenses of the adoption, I can't justify dropping more money on photos. I might see if a friend will do them for me for a discount.

Otherwise, I just need people at work to STFU and leave me alone. I'm surrounded by morons!

alm52386 · April 2017

Mine seems lame but....
A new car started parking in the spot next to mine in our garage. The spot is perpendicular to mine so their front bumper lines up with my passenger side door. Well they suck at parking and pull in way too close to the line so I can barely get my car in and out. And if I'm in the passenger seat and DH is driving I can barely open the door enough to get out. I'm already struggling with my parking spot because of it's location and columns and my big belly! When I got home yesterday they were over the line and I couldn't park down there. Good thing our complex never enforces parking in the lot and no one ever gets towed. I would have been a pissed off pregnant lady if I had to park on the street!!! I told the property manager about it and she has had to talk to them about parking before. The car that parked there before was always so good at giving our car enough space to get in and out on the passenger side!

tmrussell · April 2017

Stankonia2014 said:

I'm at the point where I am stressing over everything and DH is not a worrier at all and it's so frustrating.

I'm not sure why it never occurred to me that I could give birth early, but if I go any earlier than May 16th I'm screwed for FMLA.

I'm stressing about finances for my unpaid maternity leave, which we had covered until our Pilot needed repaired.

I'm stressing about newborn photos and if it's even going to be financially feasible to do them. $350 could be better spent elsewhere or put back into maternity leave. Anyone else not doing newborn photos?

I'm a mess.

I have to work untill 5/16 too for FMLA and to be able to use my vacation time! Crazy. I sent my HR person an email today to find out the exact date.

I met with my nurse today and she mentioned being induced around 38 weeks... I will be 37 weeks on May 16. It's starting to feel real as that's literally like a month away.

Those new born pictures sound kinda pricey. Can you find something cheaper? I am in Ohio and we can typically find someone to do them around $100. I would definitely do newborn pictures you will have those forever or stage your own❤❤. Try to find some one who will give you rights to the pictures and a disc so you can buy the pictures later on once you get back to work.

Edit: typo

JessyKV · April 2017

I can't remember if I already complained that my DH hit a deer last week so his car is in the shop and now he thinks he wants to trade it in to get a new one and I really don't want a big car payment. And on our way home from our parents the week before some kids threw a rock over the side of a bridge on the highway and it hit the hood of my van that I've only had a few months. There are dents and scratches. That goodness it didn't hit the windshield! It could have been way worse!

on newborn pics. Im obsessed with a couple photographers in my area but they all charge close to $500 and up. It's insane! But they are amazing. I found someone that isn't quite as experienced but still decent to do them for $150. That is worth it for me. I love newborn pictures. Plus I want some of all 3 kids and a family one too. I tried to take newborn pics for my SIL because I have a nice DSLR but I'm just not very good. They couldn't afford pics so they were happy to have anything and I was happy to try but im a complete amateur for sure!!

Kylieslip24 · April 2017

@lmc929 yup, we're in the Bay Area of California and people just keep moving here. I don't get it? I'm like, it's not that great! I want out! Lol

silliegirlie143 · April 2017

All rolled up into one? Dont mind if i do...

The Mr got a TEXT from his boss's business partner yesterday that said dont come in at regular time, they need to talk to the other designer about something first (that guy was on final warning and supposed to be let go shortly after the Mr started working there).

Mr hears nothing all day then today he gets an EMAIL from the partner who says "come in and pick up your last check. We will discuss our next plans when you get here"

um... wtf?! I will discuss no plans with you... you just fired me via email you rat bastards!!!
so... less than 2 months before LO arrives and the Mr is unemployed again. GRRRRRRRRR!!!

MotherofDragons · April 2017

I don't want to live in the area we live. We haven't even been here a year and I hate it.

It's 30+ minutes from my mom and I hardly see her because it's a pain to get to each other.

I'm ready to give up this big house for a better location and more time with my parents. I don't care if that makes me crazy. I'm miserable out here.

Stankonia2014 · April 2017

Um, @silliegirlie143, that's fvcked up. I'm really sorry.

zseirecarg · April 2017

@silliegirlie143 wow, that isn't right. I'm sorry.

LMMama · April 2017

@MotherofDragons We live 45 mins from my parents and it's a big hassle. However, we JUST bought our house and plan on staying for a really long time. We live about 5 mins from my ILs which is nice, but still not the same. Since we bought our house my mom/parents have been down like 3 times a week to help us get it ready. We've lived far from them for about 2 years so I guess everyone is just used to the drive.

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