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TFAS (Trying for a sibling) April Check-In

***This is a check-in for those with babies/children at home. If you are having a hard TTC day or TTCAL day this post may mention children or issues specifically related to parenting or babies. Pregnancy may also be mentioned. Please feel free to lurk at your own discretion.***

Welcome ladies! Feel free to resurrect this thread whenever you have something to share with the group.

What number are you trying for?

Cycle/Month?

WTO/TWW?

Ages of other child(ren)?

Any thoughts about this cycle?

Any questions?

GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?
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Re: TFAS (Trying for a sibling) April Check-In

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  • @heatherdubrow Are you still going to Hawaii in May too? I'm hoping that you will be able to relax and enjoy your time away. I was talking to a woman in church today about us going (she knows our current struggles with IF and has had a journey with it herself) and she said just how renewing it'll be for my spirit. She went to Hawaii during her long journey with TFAS and said it was just what she needed. I'll be sending you vibes while in Hawaii myself <3

  • @TravelingCouple yes we are! I can't wait, it will be so healing.
    Were also getting ready for a cross country move so at least I'm staying busy.
    I hope your trip is everything you need it to be!
  • What number are you trying for? number 2

    Cycle/Month? 7

    WTO/TWW? WTO

    Ages of other child(ren)? 2 years old

    Any thoughts about this cycle? going to stay optomistic. I do have a girls trip this weekend, so I am just hoping I dont O while I am gone. 

    Any questions? For those of you temping, My son will come into our room randomly during the night, so there are nights that I have interrupted sleep. When should I be taking my temp on those nights? Wait till my alarm clock? Or take it when he first wakes me up. He comes in anytime between midnight and 5:30, and it isnt every night. I mostly just pull him into bed with us til he falls back asleep and then move him back into his bed. 

    GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? Both my husband and I are from a family with three kids. We both definitely want 2 kids, and I would be willing to go up to 4. He doesn't want 3 as he says you are then out numbered, someone is always left out, it would be hard to go to amusement parks, you have to wait for a bigger table at a restaurant, and need a bigger car. All silly things to me :) but he has come around saying that is not dead set against more kids after number two. 

    BFP #1 1/4/14  |  Diagnosed with Trisomy 13 at 12 weeks 3/6/14  |  MMC 3/21/14  |   D&C 3/24/14
    BFP #2 7/1/14  |  DS born March 2015
    BFP#3 5/22/17 | MC 6/17/17 at 7w3d
  • kmallskmalls member
    edited April 2017
    @5099peperk I'm not a temping expert, but you're supposed to have at least 5 hours of uninterrupted sleep before doing a temp reading. This was an issue for me as well when DD hadn't started sleeping through the night. I would temp, no matter the time, whenever DD woke up and I had gotten 5 hours of sleep. This caused me to temp at erratic times (sometimes 5am, sometimes 9am, sometimes MOTN) which lead to an unreliable chart. 

    Long story short: personally, I would temp as close to the same time as possible, provided you get 5 hours of sleep. If there's a day when temping within your usual window isn't possible, I would skip temping (or if you're using FF, discard that day). 

    If others have have better ideas, chime in! Like I said, I'm no expert. 

    ETA: this is also a great question for the WTO/TWW daily threads, if you participate in those. 
  • @KatieEl My LPs were like that too until I started progesterone suppositories. I was lucky if I got a 9 day LP. Hopefully P will do the trick for you too if they find you have a deficiency.
  • @TravelingCouple I've always had super short LPs like 10-11 days, but this is beyond!  I had to go on progesterone with my oldest, but not with my youngest for some reason.  So I'd been hoping I wouldn't have to do it again (they're not my favorite lol), but happy to do that if it will solve this LP issue.
    DS1: Nov. 2013
    DS2: Jan. 2016
    DS3: Dec. 2017
    Baby #4 on the way!
  • @50Wife when's your appt? Is it your initial appt with OB/RE? Sorry if I missed it when you posted about it.
  • @TravelingCouple I met with my OB and she's doing what seems to be basic testing. So far I've gone for two rounds of blood work. She wanted me to go between CD21-23 (just progesterone, I looked online and my number was in the normal range for lutheal phase) and then between days 3-5(for a ton of stuff-glucose, different hormones, etc...). Probably still have another day until yesterday's results are up. 
    I also have to call to schedule an ultrasound just to check for cysts that she wanted basically right after my period. So I guess I'll know more after the ultrasound which I'm guessing may be the end of this week or very early next week. 
    Thanks for asking :)
  • @50Wife ah ok, yeah the CD 3 blood work is the most they take at one time, in my experience thus far. I hope it provides a clear path for you!
  • What number are you trying for?  2

    Cycle/Month?  1/2

    WTO/TWW?  Well  I suppose that I am in WTO but I don't even know if I am ovulating at all so we will see.  Going strong at CD 43 today.

    Ages of other child(red)?  1 1/2 DD

    Any thoughts about this cycle? Yes, I am new at tracking everything and honestly I am a little worried....

    Any questions?  Has anyone else had long and/or irregular cycles for a while after quitting breastfeeding?  

    GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? I have one sister and would've gladly taken another.  I really want three children if it is in the cards for us but I think I will be done at 35 either way.


  • @TravelingCouple good luck with your medicated cycle! 

    @heatherdubrow I can't help but read your posts with Heather's voice in my head.  I am a closet Bravo junkie.


  • @alysapuggles I am so glad to see another mama with an older child! Sometimes I feel like "what's the point, we missed the boat by now" with our kids at 5 & almost 8 (three weeks!! woot!). Seeing your post gives me the feeling that our family isn't "weird" like I feel people label us (I'm way too self conscious).
    If it's any consolation to your concerns about small family, family doesn't have to be blood. DH is an only child, and has a couple friends that known each other since grade school, can call on each other any time for anything. He does have some cousins, but lived too far away to form any relationship with them. 
    Me: 29  DH: 33
    Married April 1st 2017 <3
    DS #1: May 2009 
    DS #2: Jan 2012 

  • @AliW220 I hear you. It seems like most don't do the 5+ year age gap. Ours wasn't totally intentional. At first we didn't think (or know) we wanted a second. Then DH started school for a career change, and it just wasn't good timing. So here we are, all these years later! Now I actually like the idea of DS being older if/when we have another. He's pretty much self sufficient with most things, so that would be a huge help. Plus, at this point, he'd be in school all day for a good part of the year and would be easier to focus on a baby during that time. Hate the idea of resetting the clock on diapers, but we'll handle it. lol   I'm glad to hear your DH has some really good close friends in his life. If DS ends up an only, I hope he can find the same. :)


    Me: 36  DH: 41
    DS: 07/03/11
    TTC #2: July 2016
    BFP: 4/19/17 EDD: 12/31/17
  • What number are you trying for?

    Cycle/Month? 6/6

    WTO/TWW? WTO (CD 6- O is usually around CD 18-20, so I've got awhile)

    Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5 yr old son 

    Any thoughts about this cycle? Ever since I hit the TWW last cycle I've just lost all hope...I didn't even pee on anything during that TWW. I have no idea why but I just feel like this TTC journey will not be a fun or easy one. 

    Any questions? 

    GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want?

    I come from a blended family, I am the oldest and the rest are boys. I have 2 step brothers (we HATE the word step, we are most definitely just siblings.. have been since I was 6 and they were 4 and 2) and we share a half brother who is 10 years younger than me. Hasn't really had an influence on how many I want though. I really just want to (I think), but MY would most definitely have more. 
  • @jlemons-2 If you haven't already, be sure to read through the Newbie guide pinned to the top of this board. It's extremely helpful in giving you info on tracking your cycles. My cycles were definitely off while BFing DS. My main issue was a short LP. A lot of my nursing mama friends would have a period and then go a few months without one while BFing. How often are you nursing?

    @alysapuggles @AliW220 Although my son is a bit younger, I can relate on the age gap in the sense that I definitely did not want a gap as wide as it even is now. Even if I were pregnant right now, there'd still be a 3 year gap and it's just getting wider. Lately, everywhere I go and every person who shares their kids' ages, it's always always about 2 years in between the first and second. It's discouraging. I won't have anyone in my group of friends who will have their second kid around the same time I do. I'm the last one left who isn't pregnant or already has their second. It makes me feel like it's going to be kind of lonely once the second does finally come around. But maybe it'll give an opportunity to meet new friends with infants. Like you ladies, I'm trying to focus on the positives of a wider age gap. Like hopefully DS will be potty trained and then I won't have two in diapers. 
  • @TravelingCouple I also had been hoping for a 2 year gap but DD will be at least 3 before a second arrives. Part of me was bummed because, like you, all my friends have kids 2 years apart but to be honest I have seen how they struggle with them both being so young and it makes me kind of glad for a bigger gap. DD is potty trained now and she'll be in preschool by the time we have another so I feel like that'll make things easier. Hopefully the gap will work out well for your family also. 
    TTC History
    Me: 35 DH: 34
    Married 07/2012
    DD born 07/2014
    DD2 born 10/2018
    DS born 10/2022

    IF history:
    TTC #2 since January 2016
    June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
    Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
    Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
    Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
    Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
    Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
    FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
    FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22


  • @ TravelingCouple Yay for first medicated cycle. I hope it helps!

    @ heatherdubrow Hugs. Hawaii sounds pretty nice!

    @ jlemons-2 I’m BF now and having irregular and just weird cycles!

    @ hoosiermama1 I feel the same way. A positive side effect is that I won’t be wasting a ton of money on pregnancy tests.

    What number are you trying for? 2

    Cycle/Month? 3/3

    WTO/TWW? WTO (for now)

    Ages of other child(ren)? Beautiful 18 month old DD

    Any thoughts about this cycle? Oh my god, yes. Last cycle was shortest ever LP—9 days. Weirdest period ever also. Now on CD 9 my body is about to ovulate (I’d guess in 48 hours). So this is early ovulation… hoping not too early and that I get a longer LP.


    Any questions? I’m still BF… this was my third period since birth—all have come moderately regularly (32, 30, 26 days). For those still BF… how many cycles did it take after AF started for it to be “normal?” I know lots have mentioned having wonky cycles. I nurse very infrequently but overnight a few times!


    GTKY: How big is the family you come from? Siblings? Did the size of your family growing up affect how many kids you want? I have two brothers and it definitely made me for sure want at least two kids. Would kill for three but I’ll be pretty old!

    *TW*

    DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015

    DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017

    BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019

    BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020 

  • @EmilyLove25 I got my first postpartum period when DD was about 8-9 months and it was about 3-4 months before I was more regular. I had a 54 day cycle in those first few months and my cycles are usually 29 days. 
    TTC History
    Me: 35 DH: 34
    Married 07/2012
    DD born 07/2014
    DD2 born 10/2018
    DS born 10/2022

    IF history:
    TTC #2 since January 2016
    June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
    Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
    Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
    Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
    Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
    Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
    FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
    FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22


  • @shortstack930 Thank you! That gives me hope as I am nearing the 3-4 month range!
    *TW*

    DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015

    DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017

    BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019

    BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020 

  • Just bumping this up for any newbies! 

    How is everyone doing this week? Any updates you want to share or concerns that might have popped up? 
  • @shortstack930 I'm glad you had a good time and it didn't upset you! 

    @kmalls now that you mention it...I have to agree. I almost feel like it's hard to hate someone who just had this cute little tiny baby knowing how sleep deprived they'll be for a while  ;)
    But really I think it's bc I so bad want to bring that excitement to my husband and our family of announcing a pregnancy so when I see it I'm like damn, I want to start that journey so bad. 
  • @kmalls @50Wife I agree! Every time I see a pregnancy announcement I get upset but a new baby? Too cute!
    TTC History
    Me: 35 DH: 34
    Married 07/2012
    DD born 07/2014
    DD2 born 10/2018
    DS born 10/2022

    IF history:
    TTC #2 since January 2016
    June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
    Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
    Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
    Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
    Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
    Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
    FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
    FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22


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