TTC After a Loss

TTCAL Check In week of 4/3/17

1. Introduce yourself (if new).
2. Status?
3. R/R?
4. GTKY: Favorite TV Show or Series
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Re: TTCAL Check In week of 4/3/17

  • 1 - Not new, CP in December - Cycle 2 TTCAL

    2 - TWW - currently 13DPO

    3 - So I'm still lightly spotting since Friday and mild crampy off and on which is really weird.  I'm wondering if the Prog is irritating my uterus now and that's why I'm spotting.  Due to start AF Thursday at the latest.  I've already had my pre AF cry yesterday lol.  This entire process has been hard on me, so I've decided to put my focus elsewhere and focus more on things that do make me happy.  I just don't understand how someone with my consistent and regular cycles can't get pregnant.  Dh and I talked yesterday about insurance and come open enrollment time in Nov if I'm still not pregnant we will switch to a plan that includes fertility treatments.  I'll go as far as IUI's but that's it.

    4 - my favorite show is Modern Family, my favorite series is House of Cards which doesn't come out until May this year :(
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  • @vlagrl29 - how long were  you trying before the CP? It takes us a while everytime we try as well. But finding other interests is so freeing! Having something else to focus on has been great for me.

    1 - Not new. First loss in March 2016 and 2nd in Jan 2017. Both 2nd tri losses
     
    2 - WTO but likely will miss my fertile window while I'm at barre training. Oh well, the barre training is the thing I'm currently focusing on so it will be a nice break.

    3 - R/R - New quarter started today and my 3 year old is home sick with a 103 fever. Ugh. I swear my kids know when I'm super busy and that always when they get sick. Hard to juggle. Also - we saw DHs extended family for first time since 2nd loss this weekend. SO HARD! His sister is pregnant and so is his cousin - cousin has same due date as me. I just don't want to be part of coversations where she talks about being pregnant.

    4 - Orange is the New Black. Love that show! 
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • 1. Introduce yourself (if new). Not new but I've been mia lately natural MC 12/25/16 at 9w2d

    2. Status? Wto CD 6 but tta

    3. R/R? Rant: I've been a bit down lately. One of my coworkers (that I rarely work with) has the same due date as I did, and I saw her the other day, and it's just a sucky reminder.

    Rave: I'm loving this nice weather!

    4. GTKY: Favorite TV Show or Series  I've always been a huge ncis fan. I have just about the whole season on my dvr though, so nobody talk about it! Lol 
     
    @vlagrl29 I'm sorry for the frustrations! Hopefully it won't come to fertility treatments.

    @ladipale sorry about your lo. Hope they feel better soon!
  • @pumpkin0913 - the same due date thing is so so hard. Such a crazy reminder. DH's cousin has my due date and everyone kept asking her due date the other evening - I knew it exactly because it was mine too. ugh. so crappy.
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • @ladipale yep,  the reminder of our losses shoved right in our faces. oh well, I enjoyed hugging on my DS all weekend to make up for it!
  • @ladipale - we were trying 6 months when we got pregnant with CP although I think the first few months were stressful and not the best timing because DH was finishing up a huge project.  It would have been nice to have a 2017 baby so we could use our super low ded insurance.

    people with the same due dates are hard! too.  I have an adult student who is also due in August - my due date was Aug 26th.  Seeing her last week reminded me of how my belly could have looked by now but I did really well with my emotions.  They had a super hard time conceiving - I think 2 years?  Her uterus is heart shaped and she had a procedure to help fix it last summer and she got pregnant in December.
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  • @pumpkin0913 @ladipale I'm sorry you keep having to run into people with your due dates. That totally sucks. 
    @pumpkin0913 is that the original ncis? They shoot the New Orleans one in my MILs neighborhood all the time. Never watched it though.  ;)

    1. Not new. TTCAL since 09/16 with the last 2 months off. 
    2. WTO, CD6.
    3. Rave: I was supposed to go into the travel clinic to see some people this morning but that got canceled last minute so I got up super early and I've gotten almost everything I needed to get done day--before 1pm. Yesssss.
    4. GTKY: not sure I have a favorite of all time. I just finished the John Adams series on HBO (from 2008) and it was soooooo good. Historically: Seinfeld, Downton Abbey, When Calls the Heart, Versailles. I *know* there's something I'm totally forgetting here. I can't wait for House of Cards to come back!
    Me: 39 DH: 39
    CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
  • So I went ahead and bought 4 hpt at dollar tree today just in case. Did you know they have ovulation kits? That's pretty cool. 
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    @ladipale and @pumpkin0913  One of the zumba instructors is due in May with an unplanned preg.  My cousin's wife just came to this country and is due in May.  No jobs, mooching off my aunt, free healthcare, free living, free everything.  Don't know their exact due dates.  Cringing because my edd was May 17th.  WTF life?

    @amberruka  Hate cancellations, but love not being too busy.  Do you still get paid for cancellations?  At my second job, cancellations mean that I don't get paid since I"m fee for service.


    1. Introduce yourself (if new).  Been here for awhile.  
    2. Status? 7DPO
    3. R/R? 
    4. GTKY: Favorite TV Show or Series.  I watch Grey's Anatomy out of loyalty.  I used to love it.  Since so many of the original cast is no longer there, things have really changed. I still watch it - 12 years later.  
    I love The Leftovers on HBO.  I watched the first two seasons and was hooked.  DH and I decided not to get the movie package so now I can't watch the 3rd season.  HBO was free for signing new Verizon contracts.  
    I am very intrigued by Orange is the New Black.  I need to get Netflix!

    Love Law and Order SVU.  Need to really catch up on the Blacklist.  I'm a couple seasons behind.  
    ***TW***
    Me: 36  DH:35
    Married: 7/10/2016
    TTC#1 - May 2016
    BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016  
    BFP 5/5/2017  - CP
    IVF #1 - June 2017  - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo.  7/9 Beta #1 - 161 
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  • @SP128 I'm totally giving your cousin's wife the stink eye. Sheesh. Check out Monday Bitchfest in TTGP for a similar story....

    I think I get paid for being on call the entire day, but I was the only provider they kept around after dismantling us actually going on the freight ships, so they are still working out the kinks. Either way, I'm an independent contractor so whenever I get paid it's like, "hey, let's take 40% of this *right away* since I'll owe it at the end of the year." Ha ha! Since this is random, I use travel clinic for fun money. My Tues/Wed/Thurs and DH's job covers the bills/mortgage, and my weekend military jobs are all directed into our Roth IRA's. Adulting sucks  :p
    Me: 39 DH: 39
    CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
  • Hi everyone! 
    1. I'm new here. First loss in the beginning of March. Looking forward to meeting you all! 

    2. TWW- not absolutely sure when I O'd (just couldn't bring myself to temp this month) but thinking around 13 dpo

    3. Rant/rave... Beautiful weather here today (nice and warm!) but snow flurries expected in the next couple of days haha at least my garden is ready for when spring decides to stay

    4. Gtky- I love Faceoff on Syfy! It's so neat to see how creative and artistic people are. 
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    @amberruka  Going to check it out right now!  Adulting sucks big time!!
    I'm sure my cousin's wife will have a few kids after this one.  I live in Massachusetts were aid is plentiful.
    ***TW***
    Me: 36  DH:35
    Married: 7/10/2016
    TTC#1 - May 2016
    BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016  
    BFP 5/5/2017  - CP
    IVF #1 - June 2017  - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo.  7/9 Beta #1 - 161 
    <3 Adam <3 Born on 3/18/18




     
  • ....and the Golden Girls. How did I forget about that?!
    Me: 39 DH: 39
    CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
  • 1. Not new. See siggy. Mmc diagnosed in Dec. miscarried Jan 2. 

    2. WTO. CD7. 3rd cycle trying to conceive post miscarriage.

    3. Came down with a small cold. Can feel drainage and head/face hurts.

    4. Favorite show of all time is Friends hands down 

    Baby #1: BFP on 10/12/2011, EDD 6/24/2012 Born: 6/16/2012 Boy!

    Baby #2: BFP on 11/11/2016, EDD 7/25/2017 - MC 1/2/2017

  • @SP128 - one thing I told DH yesterday was maybe were not pregnant yet because we need more cash flow - ugh to your cousins wife.  And omg you still watch greys! :)  I use to love that show years ago until about 2007 when it made me cry every episode.

    welcome!  @Sarahjedwards86
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  • @amberruka- who the actual f@ck drinks a glass a wine the night they find out they are pregnant?  Obviously I ventured over to TTGP to see what you were talking about.
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  • @amberruka the original. I haven't really watched the others. So cool they shoot ncis new Orleans near your mil!

    Ugh, @SP128 why does it feel like we do everything right and the ones that don't, always get ku!? Sorry about the pain in the ads cousin.

    Welcome @Sarahjedwards86 sorry for your loss.
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    @Sarahjedwards86 welcome. I hope your stay is short and sweet
    ***TW***
    Me: 36  DH:35
    Married: 7/10/2016
    TTC#1 - May 2016
    BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016  
    BFP 5/5/2017  - CP
    IVF #1 - June 2017  - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo.  7/9 Beta #1 - 161 
    <3 Adam <3 Born on 3/18/18




     
  • Welcome @Sarahjedwards86, this group of gals is pretty great, but I hope your stay is short. 

    I got a little behind in the conversation since we finally made the move (at least the driving portion) and now we are on the upswing. We get the new house today and our household goods on Saturday. 

    @sp128 I'm sorry your cousin's wife is a source of pain. It's hard to watch people get KU easily without a worry. 

    AFM
    1. Not new, 2CPs prior to DD, MMC with D&C at 10 wks in December

    2. Cycle #4 after loss, TWW

    3. Just grateful that our cats made the drive and hotel room stay without too much stress. 

    4. Big Bang Theory is my favorite current TV show. I love lots that are only in reruns though 

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  • Newbie temper question! DS woke up around 1am with a bad dream.  My temp this morning at 6am was .5 higher than yesterday. FF gave me an open circle.  Oh and I fell asleep with the thermometer in my mouth! Ha. Took it out and then realized it wasn't done because I didn't hear it beep. 

    1. Can getting up in the middle of the night mess with your morning temp?

    2. What does an open circle on FF mean?

    Baby #1: BFP on 10/12/2011, EDD 6/24/2012 Born: 6/16/2012 Boy!

    Baby #2: BFP on 11/11/2016, EDD 7/25/2017 - MC 1/2/2017

  • I have only ever temped 1 month and that was last year October @hdaley - but I think it means it's unreliable temp.  happens when you don't test about the same time every day.
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  • Hi everyone! Those due date reminders are a pain. I remember when Lauren Conrad announced her pregnancy, her due date was right around mine... so I just had to ignore it. 

    1.) not new. MC in dec at 6w. Been trying officially for 2 cycles (I wanted to time it so I could fly home for my BFF's wedding)

    2.) CD6, wto. I might try the opks more seriously this time. Last month I never got a positive (only did it about 5 times during FW). Any tips?

    3.) rant: finding shoes in France. I need a pair of heels for a work event (newish job!) I went to about 16 shoe stores in the last 3 days trying to squeeze my size 10 feet into a French 41. Every single pair was "trop petit" until...
    rave: I found one! It was a 41.5 (aka 10) at a clarks of all places. 

    4.) too many favorite tv shows at the moment. Modern family, new girl, game of thrones, greys, etc. A new fave is riverdale, partially because I was huge Archie comic reader when I was younger. :)
  • @babypi Thank you so much. I already feel so much better in the company of strong women. 

    @SP128 thank you!!! I'm glad to be here with you all! ❤ ps. So sorry about you're cousins wife. That sounds like a total crap situation. Hopefully you can avoid them. Definitely here for you for support!

    @pumpkin0913  Thanks so much. I appreciate it. 

    @vlagrl29 Thank you for the welcome ❤

  • 2. Status? WTO CD 4


    3. R/R? Bench again.  *sigh*  Also, found out I tested positive for Ureaplasma, which could be what's causing my early recurrent pregnancy losses.  So, just as I was contemplating giving this all up I have hope again.  Now I'm back to hoping for a baby instead of imaging life without one, and really hope things work out this time and don't come crashing down around me.  But, have to lose 20 pounds before they'll do a progesterone biopsy first...


    4. GTKY: Favorite TV Show or Series:  Lucifer, Outlander, Doctor Who, Timeless, Grey’s Anatomy, Victoria

    @hdaley For temping question… it depends.  Some people notice temperature changes if they get up, take temp at different times, etc.  Other people (like me) notice no difference in these things.  Remember, the charting is to see an overall picture, not to focus on one particular day.  (I realize that can be hard as heck to remember in the moment when you analyze each day minutely especially after O).  An open circle means FF is questioning that temperature.  Usually because you took it late or it doesn’t seem to match your pattern.

    wmartnz7 What kind of OPKs are you using?

     

     

    MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
    MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
    MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
    RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
    MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
    RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
    MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)

    RE #3: More testing 2023. 
    Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
    Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
    Lupron Depo March 2024.  Benched 3 months.

    FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)

    Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.

    FET #2: September 2024 (failed)

    FET #3: December 2024 (failed)

    #BitterHagPartyOf1

  • @dpjennifer - what a roller coaster! Its hard to find peace with either path/choice.
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • 1. Not new, MMC@ 16 weeks in January. 

    2. Finally got my period back from that! WTO- CD 6. 

    3. We're in the middle of renovating our bathroom. For whatever reason the contractor got held up and now he'll probably still be here working on the days DH took off from work so we could tile. We have company coming the first weekend in May, so I'm anxious to be moving forward. 

    4. I can't say I even have a favorite. I'm not the best TV watcher. DH and I do enjoy Homeland, OITNB, NCIS and NCIS NO, Hawaii Five-O... 
    DD1 4.14.10
    DD2 8.22.13
    MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
    Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18

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  • 2. Status? Technically, TWW, but BENCHED.
    3. R/R? Same ole crap, different day lol
    4. GTKY: Favorite TV Show or Series
    I watch A LOT OF TV. Right now I'm rebinging Trailer Park Boys and its in my top, additionally my all time favorite is probably THE IT CROWD, but I love Big Bang Theory, House of Cards, Chewing Gum, honestly I'm just a nut I love em all lol
  • oh in case anyone is interested Better Call Saul is coming April 10th.  I LOVED breaking bad!
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  • @vlagrl29 omg I love better call saul!
  • @dpjennifer i have some internet cheap ones (a lot) and about 5 clearblue ones left. Last cycle I used both types during FW, but they all came back negative without even a faint line, so I was really confused!
  • @wmartnz7 Are you also temperature charting to see if you ovulated?  I only used advanced digital ones for a few cycles to confirm, and never had a problem.  But I know some people never get a positive, or only get a mild positive instead of a glaring "Go BD!" positive.  Depending on the cheap ones, it could be a bad batch?  I know there are 'fake' wondfo sellers online.

    MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
    MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
    MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
    RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
    MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
    RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
    MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)

    RE #3: More testing 2023. 
    Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
    Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
    Lupron Depo March 2024.  Benched 3 months.

    FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)

    Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.

    FET #2: September 2024 (failed)

    FET #3: December 2024 (failed)

    #BitterHagPartyOf1

  • Miscarriage board is not very active so I'm just jumping back over here

    1. Introduce yourself (if new).not new returning after being in the Grad group for a brief time.  First miscarriage in August 2016 and MMC diagnosed on 3/31. Scheduled for d & c tomorrow. 

    2. Status? Benched until first period then we will try again 

    3. R/R? Hate that I'm back here.  I also started spotting last night so I'm hoping things hold off for d & c tomorrow. I don't want to go natural route

    4. GTKY: Favorite TV Show or Series love the golden girls 
  • I'm sorry you find yourself back here @Mack2342. This process can really suck at times. I'm still rooting for you.
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    @Mack2342 more hugs for you
    ***TW***
    Me: 36  DH:35
    Married: 7/10/2016
    TTC#1 - May 2016
    BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016  
    BFP 5/5/2017  - CP
    IVF #1 - June 2017  - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo.  7/9 Beta #1 - 161 
    <3 Adam <3 Born on 3/18/18




     
  • @Mack2342 sorry you are back here again. ***hugs***
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    Bit the bullet and scheduled my initial consult with acupuncturist for Sunday afternoon.  Their office is in central building of my REs so they deal with fertility issues a lot.
    ***TW***
    Me: 36  DH:35
    Married: 7/10/2016
    TTC#1 - May 2016
    BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016  
    BFP 5/5/2017  - CP
    IVF #1 - June 2017  - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo.  7/9 Beta #1 - 161 
    <3 Adam <3 Born on 3/18/18




     
  • @Mack2342, I am so sorry you've found yourself back here. 

    I was the same way pre D&C, bleeding started the night before and I just prayed that it'd wait. I didn't want to have to endure that at home. 
    DD1 4.14.10
    DD2 8.22.13
    MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
    Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18

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  • @Mack2342 I remember when you got your bfp.

    Baby #1: BFP on 10/12/2011, EDD 6/24/2012 Born: 6/16/2012 Boy!

    Baby #2: BFP on 11/11/2016, EDD 7/25/2017 - MC 1/2/2017

  • Ahhh half of my post got deleted!  So sorry you are back here @Mack2342. This is so unfair.

    Baby #1: BFP on 10/12/2011, EDD 6/24/2012 Born: 6/16/2012 Boy!

    Baby #2: BFP on 11/11/2016, EDD 7/25/2017 - MC 1/2/2017

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