@dinofreak Yes to that UO. It's crazy what some people do to the spelling of their kids names to make them unique. I think the worst I've seen was a student my mom had.
Her name was "La-a"... pronounced Ladasha.
It was on her official district records and birth certificate. Not even kidding.
Sarah "with an H" here! lol I feel like that's just how I tell my name so often to anyone writing or typing it. My parents should have just named me Sarah-with-an-h
ETA: My poor husband is Tayler "with an E". Nobody gets that right. They always either put Tyler or Taylor. We are thinking of naming a future child after him (would be middle name) but that would mean spelling their name wrong too... hmmm lol
Adding my .02 to the party stuff... I was born in July, some of my best birthday memories were the parties we did in my backyard with super soakers and silly string tag, and cheap silly games we made out of nothing. The parties at the gym or wherever else, I don't remember as much. Once I was older I was always away at camp, so I got a mini-celebration there.
My sister is the person who stalks Etsy and Pinterest 6mos before her daughters bday. Her 1st bday- which my niece has no idea about, involved a custom Sesame Street sign, balloons, table decor, cake, shirt for the bday girl, front door wreath and like an entire table of themed snacks.
I am so happy to have a summer kid- BBQ party, outdoor at the park or beach, sleepover party. No need to go nuts!
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
My UO/vent is that if you're going to sell your used crap on a facebook sales page you shouldn't expect to be making back what you paid for it. You need to see how much the item costs now, and adjust your expectations. I'm not giving you 200$ for a dresser wardrobe set that I can drive to Ikea and buy for 145$ brand new..
@middy411 I totally agree on the name thing. Especially for twins. I went to school with several sets of twins that all had names that were sing-songy, started with the same letter, etc. I've always said if I had twins they would have distinctly different names. Ex. Caleb and Logan vs. Derek and Dylan. I think having names that "go together" lump them together and makes people think of them as "the twins" instead of individuals.
I'm a twin and my parents did this. My sister and I have names that start and end on the same consonants. Surprised with the arrival of twins after being told that it was one baby my sister didn't have a name for a few weeks. They wanted one to match the girl name they had already picked out. And yes...We were and often still are referred to as "the twins".
I'm a twin too and really glad my parents didn't go with their original choices of Stacey and Tracy (we are Sandy and Tracy). Plus I can't see myself as a Stacey. We were always referred to as "the girls" growing up.
Regarding bday parties, I ended up doing a fairly expensive one this year at a bounce-house place because they literally provided everything except the cake. It was so nice to just show up and not have to clean up. DD's bday is on Christmas Eve so starting this year I wanted to do something special that was distinctly separate from singing to her on Christmas Eve. Plus, the struggle is real doing parties in the winter. Im so glad this next baby will have an August bday and we can do low-key bbq's for his parties.
@Nxy yes! Or when someone says what they paid retail like it matters to me. Sorry, I am not going to over pay you because you overpaid. I feel like people fluff that number so it can look more expensive. Sometimes it's things I can easily look up the price on.
@kvh22 fair enough, I used a poor example. I am actually named after a great-aunt so it isn't part of the recent "y" trend. My nieces, however, are Tristynn and Jadyn... silly
Soooo I messed up with my twins, I'll admit it! We thought of them as two completely separate people when we thought of names...not what they would be as a pair. So my son is James, after my father who passed away when I was young, and my daughter is June, which was the absolute ONLY name my husband and I could agree on. It wasn't until I was in labor and a nurse asked their names and said "oh so you're doing the same first letter" did we realize and by then it was too late. I love their names, just disappointed that we didn't make the connection!
@JDBtwinmama If you truly love two J names, I see no problem with that. Personally, I was referring to people who seem to think everyone needs to pick a name that's matchy or somehow corresponds to their other children's names whether that be first letter, number of syllables, rhyming etc instead of names they actually love. I choose my kids names based on what DH and I love and sounds like you did too! My parents had two A- names, an S- name, and a C- name. So they didn't care if some of the letters were the same or different, just picked names they love! And hey if you really love all K- names and decide to name your kids Kourtney, Kim, Khloe, Kendall and Kylie, then I say go for it! Just don't tell me I now have to name my second daughter something BECAUSE of my first daughter's name. That's when I give the side eye haha
@LivLew Agreed. The hoover dam is boring as hell. I hate heights. I hated the bridge walk and the electrical tour we went on. Lake Mead was cool to look at when driving through though. Boulder City was cool to me.
My UO is that I hate that my hospital has done away with the nursery with their latest remodel.
Last time, I was induced and was in labor for over 24 hours. After issues with my epidural and medication and being so hungry, so exhausted, and having BF difficulties, I really needed just an hour or two by myself to rest. Even when he was sleeping, I just couldn't stop staring at him. I hadn't slept in two days. I felt like I was going insane. Luckily, I got that 2 hour break back then when a nurse came to check on me and I was just crying and crying. This time, I will not have that option and I'm scared I will have a similar experience without the reprieve. Back then, before I gave birth, I was horrified at the thought of leaving my baby in the nursery. I guess you just can't win sometimes.
@LSP87 my hospital birth center doesn't have a nursery either. With my daughter I had an induction that ended up in an emergency c-section, then to recovery then a lot of visitors and I couldn't sleep anyways thanks to adrenaline. I think by the 3rd or 4th night there I had maybe 5 hours of very broken sleep, maybe. I was so out of it and emotional.
My nurse said that they could have a "baby camp-out" which bascally just meant the nurse would take the baby for a couple hours and keep DD with her while she sat and did paperwork since middle of the nights were so slow. Best 2 hours of my life (had to breastfeed so that cut the nap short). Maybe the hospital will have some sort of back up plan now that there is no nursery? My mom also came earlier before work one day and sat in the dark holding her so I could get a couple more hours of sleep.
My husband was great all day but he's absolutely useless at night (he has a sleep condition and has to take medicine to sleep and can't function without it). So he was no help. And this time around he'll probably be at home with our toddler at night. Hope to have more great nurses.
Edited because I apparently can't type- two year molars are going through be the death of me!!
@LSP87 - my hospital doesnt have one either - and then in the intro book (since they don't do tours anymore) they state in bold that the baby's bassinet needs to stay near the top of your bed/head at all times, baby must be wheeled into the bathroom/anywhere you go with you or a nurse must be called, they are never to be in the room with anyone other than myself or DH who has a registration band etc. it's kinda scary!
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@LSP87 - my hospital doesnt have one either - and then in the intro book (since they don't do tours anymore) they state in bold that the baby's bassinet needs to stay near the top of your bed/head at all times, baby must be wheeled into the bathroom/anywhere you go with you or a nurse must be called, they are never to be in the room with anyone other than myself or DH who has a registration band etc. it's kinda scary!
I'm really concerned about this whole thing with lack of nursery. I'm going to ask about that when I do my hospital tour in early May. I read that hospitals stopped doing nurseries because of some firm belief in baby bonding. But, the flip side is what y'all are describing- strung out mothers. And then they send you home from the hospital where you're likely to really have no help getting baby's needs met and getting sleep. What the hell?
My hospital doesn't have a nursery. I was given medication that made me so drowsy that I barely remember consenting to the c section after 18 hours of labor and fought to keep my eyes open during the surgery and reveal of DD. I remember the nurses trying to get me to speak to DD after surgery so that it would encourage her to nurse and I was unable to do so and just sort of wilted there. I heard them say at one point to DH not to let me hold the baby without him watching in the condition I was in. So really DH did a lot of skin to skin and held DD for a while. He also did all the picking her up and giving her to me to nurse and diaper changes as well as swaddling and putting back in the bassinet. I had my daughter at 8pm and by the next morning I felt a lot better and well-rested. Though probably because I was literally unable to keep my eyes open, I really have DH to thank for that. I'm glad they didn't take DD to a nursery. I remember after they pulled her out and showed her to us the only words I could muster up for DH were "go with her!". I didn't want her to be without us for one single second lol. I'm sure it's personal preference, but I've barely been without DD since birth. She's 12 months now and I've never spent a night away from her. Yes, she sleeps in her own room and yada yada but I have the monitor burning next to me all night long lol.
@DeansGirl14 when I was reading through some of the Prentice stuff, they mention each post partum floor having multiple nurseries. But, I have heard from friends that baby mostly stayed in their room, so I will totally be asking about that. I am all for bonding, but I am also not exhausting myself so when I go home I can't function.
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@middy411 - that was exactly how I felt except my husband was just about as out of it as I was for some reason. I was terrified to have him away from me but there I was trying to console a crying newborn after just giving birth and having no sleep for two days and crying and almost falling over trying to walk around the room with him because sitting in bed was not calming him down. My husband stayed asleep through the crying. I was at a breaking point. It was a terrible time. I am glad your husband was able to help.
@JCPSand2B that's exactly what I'm afraid of -- a c-section and no nursery or plan to give me just an hour or two if I need it. I love my DH but seeing how he was last time..it just doesn't instill a whole lot of confidence that he could do it alone without me. That probably isn't fair for me to say as he is hugely involved with our DS and is wonderful helping me with everything..but at night, he is just not quite as able to be so helpful. I don't know why that is. It could just be my crazy micromanaging mind at work, who knows? I'm not good at asking for help from others..especially when I really need it. I love the idea of the baby camp!
@JWatt5 Damn girl..that sounds kind of scary. I understand why the protocol exists, but that would kind of make me anxious too. We already think of the worst as moms, usually..when I hear a policy like that I feel like my anxiety is confirmed which then makes me take it to another level. Not great.
@DeansGirl14 I am sorry if this scares you, but hopefully you get some reassuring news from your hospital. I was lucky to have really awesome nurses who recognized I was at a really low point and needed help. I am hopeful that they will have something in place to help moms recover. Not everyone has a partner, period..so I would think they would have to have some kind of plan for that.
@LSP87 I think it's BS that hospitals have gotten rid of nurseries. I know my hospital encouraged babies to room with moms when I had my other kids, but now I think it's required. It really bothers me because sending my kids to the nursery at night had no effect on my bonding or ability to BF. I ended up with c-sections and needed to rest and recover from major surgery. The nurses would bring the baby in when he needed to eat and I'd send him back after feeding and some time together when I needed to rest.
I'm concerned about trying to recover, especially the first and second nights, and having to take care of the baby all by myself. DH will sleep at home and take care of our kids. I can barely walk the few feet to the bathroom at the beginning. Not sure how I'd be able to comfortably get the baby, get back in bed and find a comfortable BFing position without any assistance. I guess I could wait for a nurse to help, but they generally don't come as soon as you ask for them. Thinking about those first few nights stresses me out. I plan to talk to the doctor and/or hospital as it gets closer.
@Vamason89 I don't even hate abbreviations, DH tells me I use them too much, but something about that irritates me. The only people I see trying to use it seem like they're trying to be cool.
Re: UO 3/23
Her name was "La-a"... pronounced Ladasha.
It was on her official district records and birth certificate. Not even kidding.
ETA: My poor husband is Tayler "with an E". Nobody gets that right. They always either put Tyler or Taylor. We are thinking of naming a future child after him (would be middle name) but that would mean spelling their name wrong too... hmmm lol
My sister is the person who stalks Etsy and Pinterest 6mos before her daughters bday. Her 1st bday- which my niece has no idea about, involved a custom Sesame Street sign, balloons, table decor, cake, shirt for the bday girl, front door wreath and like an entire table of themed snacks.
I am so happy to have a summer kid- BBQ party, outdoor at the park or beach, sleepover party. No need to go nuts!
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
Im so glad this next baby will have an August bday and we can do low-key bbq's for his parties.
OMG--glad your parents changed their minds. We are Tammy & Terry.
Last time, I was induced and was in labor for over 24 hours. After issues with my epidural and medication and being so hungry, so exhausted, and having BF difficulties, I really needed just an hour or two by myself to rest. Even when he was sleeping, I just couldn't stop staring at him. I hadn't slept in two days. I felt like I was going insane. Luckily, I got that 2 hour break back then when a nurse came to check on me and I was just crying and crying. This time, I will not have that option and I'm scared I will have a similar experience without the reprieve. Back then, before I gave birth, I was horrified at the thought of leaving my baby in the nursery. I guess you just can't win sometimes.
My nurse said that they could have a "baby camp-out" which bascally just meant the nurse would take the baby for a couple hours and keep DD with her while she sat and did paperwork since middle of the nights were so slow. Best 2 hours of my life (had to breastfeed so that cut the nap short). Maybe the hospital will have some sort of back up plan now that there is no nursery? My mom also came earlier before work one day and sat in the dark holding her so I could get a couple more hours of sleep.
My husband was great all day but he's absolutely useless at night (he has a sleep condition and has to take medicine to sleep and can't function without it). So he was no help. And this time around he'll probably be at home with our toddler at night. Hope to have more great nurses.
Edited because I apparently can't type- two year molars are going through be the death of me!!
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I read that hospitals stopped doing nurseries because of some firm belief in baby bonding. But, the flip side is what y'all are describing- strung out mothers. And then they send you home from the hospital where you're likely to really have no help getting baby's needs met and getting sleep. What the hell?
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@JCPSand2B that's exactly what I'm afraid of -- a c-section and no nursery or plan to give me just an hour or two if I need it. I love my DH but seeing how he was last time..it just doesn't instill a whole lot of confidence that he could do it alone without me. That probably isn't fair for me to say as he is hugely involved with our DS and is wonderful helping me with everything..but at night, he is just not quite as able to be so helpful. I don't know why that is. It could just be my crazy micromanaging mind at work, who knows? I'm not good at asking for help from others..especially when I really need it. I love the idea of the baby camp!
@JWatt5 Damn girl..that sounds kind of scary. I understand why the protocol exists, but that would kind of make me anxious too. We already think of the worst as moms, usually..when I hear a policy like that I feel like my anxiety is confirmed which then makes me take it to another level. Not great.
@DeansGirl14 I am sorry if this scares you, but hopefully you get some reassuring news from your hospital. I was lucky to have really awesome nurses who recognized I was at a really low point and needed help. I am hopeful that they will have something in place to help moms recover. Not everyone has a partner, period..so I would think they would have to have some kind of plan for that.
Never thought of it that way since everything in the military is acronyms. I guess outside of military use that I could get that though.
I'm concerned about trying to recover, especially the first and second nights, and having to take care of the baby all by myself. DH will sleep at home and take care of our kids. I can barely walk the few feet to the bathroom at the beginning. Not sure how I'd be able to comfortably get the baby, get back in bed and find a comfortable BFing position without any assistance. I guess I could wait for a nurse to help, but they generally don't come as soon as you ask for them. Thinking about those first few nights stresses me out. I plan to talk to the doctor and/or hospital as it gets closer.