Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
FSUNole31
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Re: UO 3/16
When I'm at a public play area like a playground, I have no problem correcting a stranger's child if they are 1.doing something very unsafe or 2. Being physically or emotionally mean to my child. I obviously won't say anything if the parent steps in, but if I don't know who they belong too I will say something. I have also went and asked who "the girl in the blue shirt" belongs to because the kid kept hitting my 2 year old and the mom wasn't stepping in. If I was talking or paying attention to one of my other kids I would appreciate it if someone told me my child was acting badly.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
I HATE it when people spell "Mama" like "Momma". It doesn't even look/seem/feel like the same word, and I totally would correct it if someone I knew used that spelling in reference to me.
Now I would always jump on if they were the culprit. And I wouldn't be mad if someone had to correct them.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
My related uo is that I do not believe children need to share their toys most if the time. If my kid brought something to the playground, no one else has a right to use it unless she wants them to. Even if something is comunally owned, I think the kid who had it first gets to keep using it until they are finished (provided that is a reasonable amount of time, which it always is with toddlers who have short attention lol). I will teach them to be considerate, but also that they deserve respect and have a right to their belongings. I don't have to loan my friend my car every time they ask, so I'm not sure why another child wanting to use my daughter's toys should be any different. Now, if someone is over for a play date, that's different, and anything she doesn't want to share should be put away ahead of time. I'm talking more about kids on a playground or something. A lot if parents seem to believe that everything is up for grabs all the time in the name of "sharing."
I guess my UO could be that I believe you need to have eyes on your children at ALL TIMES when you are out at a store or playground or other public place. I am waaaay too scared of some random sicko stealing my kids to let them out of my sight for any length of time. Even when I used to take DD to playgroup when she was little and I knew all the moms and kids I never left the room and kept my eye on her always.
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
I am planning to handle sibling conflicts same way my mom did, because the outcome was awesome for me. She says she just didn't want to listen to us argue.
working stuff out for themselves.
I agree with kids shouldn't have to share everything. But I do try and teach my kids to be considerate and kind. There is definitely a balance.
And i agree that I would correct another kid if something were dangerous or over the top beyond what I feel like kids should work out themselves. And if a parent corrects my kid I'm fine with it too.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015