IVF attempts

musiscout · March 2017

After 3 IUI attempts, we just fished egg retrieval. It originally was hopeful. They took 19 eggs which 8 fertilized. Then only 2 became blastocysts. We paid for them to be tested and they just both came back abnormal. I'm glad we tested as I wouldn't have gotten pregnant or miscarried. The doctor talked to me and said we could try again, but my ovaries need a rest. I'm still deciding what to do, but my husband also hasn't been able to visit his family in the Caribbean due to Zika.

So, I'm wondering if others have had to do multiple ivfs.

Thanks.

cakeforbreakfast · March 2017

There are many ways to approach IVF, and none are perfect or the 'right' way. If you have the resources, a cooperative body, and the will power, then jump in

. It may work the first attempt, the fifth, or never, but goodness knows their are no hard and fast rules to cover all the reasons it may or may not work, and you never know until you try. I'm in a down mood at the moment and still in the game waiting for the next test or surgery, but in the back of my mind if all else fails then I'm buying a new motorcycle and a hot vacation. Legit.
Do what you can and what you feel good about!

laurad75 · March 2017

I will be starting stims next week for a 2nd ER. Our first ER resulted in 3 eggs/ 3 fertilized/ 1 made it to freeze but was tested abnormal. I have very low AMH levels and over 40 so we may do several ER before transferring anything. I'm hopeful that this next one is more successful.

Like @cakeforbreakfast said, many couples need to go through multiple rounds before success.

This may be the perfect time for you to visit your husband's family and take a break before jumping in again. It's a personal decision but do what is right for you.

radmom27 · March 2017

I'm on the older side and starting IVF cycle #5 next month. I've been on this board for a couple of years now and have seen many, many people have success with more than one cycle. Don't lose hope but in the end, do what you and your husband feel comfortable doing.

kaseycoco · March 2017

I know that it's very common for couples do multiple rounds of IVF. If you're worried about Zika, you could always have samples of your husband's sperm frozen prior to his trip. That way, you could still go forward with IVF and he can see his family. Of course, I would suggest talking about that risk with your RE as well

FuzzyDust · March 2017

@musiscout , how old are you?

We just finished out first round of IVF (freeze-all due to OHSS), and now anxiously waiting for the genetic screening results for our 3 frozen embryos.

I'm very needle-phobic, almost pass-out when do blood draw, not used to high estrogen due to not having a cycle (and with 70 follies, estrogen was through the roof), OHSS is still kicking my butt and I desperately want my body back to normal. Ohh, and I have a life-time reproductive care limit with my insurance, and this cycle pretty much will use the rest of it.
The thought that this cycle might fail is devastating. And during the process I kept thinking how I never ever ever want to have to do this again.
But as the body is healing, I noticed a new thought - if this cycle does fail, I think I will do it again. I'll hate every moment of it, but the end prize would be worth this. The chance of having that end prize is worth it.

I lurked enough on this board to see how people have very different cycles results on multiple attempts. I personally know people who had successful IVF after a failed one.

One of the reasons we opted to do the genetic testing is to reduce the time it'd take to see if the cycle has a potential (less chance of FET of embryos that are destined to fail). So that we can try again sooner, while I'm still young-ish.

Good luck whichever way you decide!

musiscout · March 2017

***pregnancy mentioned***

Thanks everyone! @Fuzzydust I am 36 years old. I got pregnant with our first at 30 with not really trying. We've tried 3 years now because we started and stopped to allow me to find a new job. If I knew we were having issues then, we would have started fertility treatments sooner. DH has sperm motility issues that I thought would be better with ICSI picking and inserting the good ones. I think we will one more time and DH can still get to see his family late summer.

Thanks again.

Knottie77838196 · March 2017

Your situation sounds similar to mine. I had about the same number of fertilized eggs, but only three made it as blasts and two were genetically sound. My nurse suggested maybe trying the whole cycle again but we couldn't finically afford it. We tried the first embryo at the end of October but it ended up being ectopic. We're taking a little break from IVF for now, but will try again with the second embryo maybe in July. But if you are able to emotionally and finically try again then I would go for it!

And as Kasey mentioned, you could have your husbands sperm frozen in advance. My husbands family lives in Puerto Rico and we haven't been able to visit either. It's very hard trying to balance infertility and family with a horrible disease such as Zika, so just take your time and talk with your husband about what you both want.

Good luck with whatever you decide

mtele · March 2017

Ugh! It is so frustrating that this happens! I am in a similar boat - we just finished our 1st round of IVF and ended up with 16 eggs, 12 fertilized and 4 blasts. We are also waiting on PGS results. While we are happy having 4, I was hoping for more, I know that they may not all be normal by PGS and they may not all transfer successfully. We also know that we want more than one child. I am debating now whether we should try another cycle before we transfer so that we can have multiple blasts frozen to hopefully have 2-3 kids. My thoughts are that even if we are successful this cycle, by the time we would want our second, it would be a few years from now and our results might not be as good. Has anyone else done this?

As for Zika, I hear ya! My clinic will not do any fertility treatments for 6 months after travel to a region where there is active zika transmission. My family is from Miami and they have not been very supportive of me saying that I don't want to go there. My mom called me a grinch for not going over Christmas. The frustrating thing is I don't know how long it will be before I can go back!

I would say, if you are willing to wait a few months, it might be nice to go see your husbands family and then keep trying again. I would hesitate to freeze sperm in advance and then have your husband visit, because there is a risk he could transfer it to you when he comes back. Good luck!

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