How did you tell your SO?

GenTK · March 2017

I'm sorry if this is a repeat post. I looked for half the night and didn't find one but I'm on the app so looking half the night really means I loaded the same screens over and over again with very little progress.

I'm wanting to hear from ladies about how they told their SO. Did you do something cute? Did you just drop it on him?

My my first pregnancy I just kinda dropped it on my Ex, and he didn't really have anything to say. He paused his video game for a few seconds but didn't really do anything.

This is time I have something cute planed for when I get to see DH this weekend, but I'm also nervous about it.

I'd love to hear everyone's stories about how it went and what you did.

natleilynn · March 2017

This time, my SO was out of town for business when I found out. When he got home, I had a box of his favorite cookies sitting on the counter with a card with his name on it. Inside it said "If I'm getting fat, so are you! Baby Daddy Part II coming in October!"

Not original, I've seen it all over Pinterest, but thought it was perfect for him and his love of cookies. Wasn't expecting him to take 15 minutes to see it, but I guess he was still amped up from being on the road so much.

knottie8806e24f3f4225e0 · March 2017

I love the cookie idea, so sweet!
i did the test at 5am and DH was still sleeping off a hangover. At 7am I had enough of waiting and woke him up, made him sit up and said: guess what! And showed him the test. It woke him up pretty fast and he was happy! Not romantic, I know...

JessDG · March 2017

Nothing really cute here. I actually got pregnant while on the birth control pill. We were planning to start TTC this spring, so it was not a bad surprise!

I was definitely not feeling myself and when I missed my period, I told my DH that I would take a test after dinner, just to ease my mind. I just went upstairs planning to see a negative. When it turned positive, I yelled for him to come and see what I had discovered. He was SO HAPPY. All night he just kept saying "wow, this is so awesome!". He could have just been in a state of shock, so I'm glad he reacted the way he did! I would have loved to tell him in a different way, but the circumstances kind of dictated what happened for us!

GenTK · March 2017

I love hearing all the stories! Be it a big planned surprise or a quick moment of shock. It's just such a great moment.
Thank you all for sharing.
I have a cookie kind of reveal planned, but different. Part of me wants to tell now and part says wait until it happens so I can say how he reacts. In the meantime I'll enjoy the stories from you all.

asickles98 · March 2017

I got up with the toddlers. After seeing pregnant on the test, I crawled back into bed woke him up and said you get to get up with the babies for the next nine months. This will be our fifth, so not to cute but it worked.

soprano19 · March 2017

I walked out of the bathroom and handed him the positive test. His response was, "Holy s***!" and a fist bump, lol. But then he started crying and redeemed himself.

mommac2017 · March 2017

With DS, I picked him up from a golf game and said I needed to go to Walmart. I parked in the "expectant mothers" spot and when he said "You can't park here", I said "Oh yes I can".

With our last baby (TW: Ended in MMC), I was so excited that I just waved the POAS in his face at 6am.

This time, I put up a sign that said "GUESS WHAT!!!" and put pink and blue bows on either side of it. I waited for him to get up to get ready for work and it was hanging in the hall. He didn't get it...lol

GenTK · March 2017

@mommac2017 I was going to do this parking spot thing but when he took the job in the other city I don't know anywhere that has those spots and I didn't want to have to think about it in a strange city.

I got some custom fortune cookies made that say something about baby coming in October. I don't know yet if I'm going to get take out and pull them out at the end or take him to a sit down and sneak them to the staff to bring us at the end.

singing_lyn · March 2017

We weren't trying and actually had a slip up followed by taking the morning after pill. 2 days before my period I got the hungover feeling like I had with my first, and heartburn, which I never get so after I got my son in bed, I went in the bathroom that no one else uses, took the test, and saw the very faint positive sign, went out and said to my husband, well I know why I have the heartburn, I wonder if it explains the other stuff that I've been having go on, I'm pregnant. And then sat down, and he sort of was just in shock, and asked if I was serious, if I was ok, if I was serious, and then just basically sat in stunned silence. Didn't redeem himself for a few days, and then he went and got a new job like I had been telling him to do since November because his job stank and had no benefits, and hopefully this one does, and he started on Monday, and he's been slowly trying to redeem himself with the basically none reaction.

shan24 · March 2017

Lol. Mine is so unromantic. January and February we're so busy for us, we literally only had sex one time. I started to feel sick, so I tested and was so shocked it came back positive that I kept it to myself overnight. The next day, we were sitting in the livingroom and I said "hey, remember that one time we had sex this month?" He looked at me and said "you can't be!" He was happy, but I think he was so surprised, he didn't know how to react.

jaxx723 · March 2017

My story is sort of sad but has a happy ending.

This was a surprise baby and my husband and I had been talking about having #2 for a while. He was still very against another child and now that our son is two, I was itching for another baby. When I found out, I called my husband hysterically crying and asked him to forgive me. I told him it wasn't intentional and he asked me what was going on. When I said I was pregnant, he just said OK. Are you alright? Do I need to come home? It was so sweet. I was worried he would be upset but he just wanted to make sure I was OK. Later on he admitted that he knew he was going to say yes to another baby eventually, so I was worried for nothing!

GenTK · March 2017

@singing_lyn My ex was very much like that with my DD, but it sounds like your husband is working on making up for it which is great!

monstera13 · March 2017

I had bought little baby shoes (eek! so cute!) months before, when we started TTC. When I finally got the positive, I had to wait an agonizing few hours for DH to get home. I had a cute gift box sitting on the table, which he of course ignored until I pointed it out. He knew immediately once he opened and saw the shoes, and was so excited. His reaction was probably more excited than mine!!

GenTK · March 2017

@jessirh That's so cute!!!! I've gone and looked at baby things to do something like that but I couldn't find the 'right' item. I honestly wish I could find a first Halloween something but I'd have to order off Etsy or something given the time of year.

supergluzie · March 2017

My DH and I have been TTC for several months, so we'd gone through a fair number of pregnancy tests. My DH was headed to the store and since I was about four days late I asked him to pick up another test. He says that I traumatized him by making him walk down "that aisle" of the store. He was waiting outside the bathroom and when I showed him the BFP he said, "See? My boys DO work!"

buttercream_frosting · March 2017

I was hoping to plan a cute way to announce with this 2nd pregnancy using our toddler but this was a semi-accident and I sent DH to buy pee sticks. So he was giving DS a bath when I walked in and stuck the positive pee stick in his face and said OMG!

mandmplus1 · March 2017

We went through fertility treatments so it kinda takes the surprise out of when everything happens but I tested positive 12dpiui so I knew two days sooner than he thought I'd know. The next day was Valentine's day so I had DS wear a big brother shirt and walk in and show DH. He cried. I melted. It was a great day.

mommagonz · March 2017

These stories are so cute! Here goes mine! We had been talking about having another and somewhat trying since November 2016 (wasn't that long but felt like it!) I kept getting negative tests and was getting irritated so I stopped taking tests, I was late on my period but blamed it on stress but, one day I got up and decided to take a test, a very faint line showed so I tried not to get too excite then I took another and the same! I woke up DH and showed him but he told me to go to the Dr to make sure and to not get too excited, (too late!) I went to the Dr's the next day with DS and confirmed! We went to the mall and bought him a brother shirt and he had it on when we got home and had my DS come down to "help me" and he opened the door and read my sons top and got excited and hugged me!

mylittleversailles · March 2017

It wasn't cute. After an emotional mutual decision to stop TTC the previous night because it was too difficult, I scared the crap out of him by busting in while he was about to take a shower and showed him the test. He was blubbering naked and shaking; I was just shaking.

mnajib92 · March 2017

My husband was actually the one who suggested that I might be pregnant. This is my second pregnancy but I was going back on forth if I was. We were on a trip so when we returned I took the test. When I told him he wasn't very surprised because he was already pretty sure I was. He was happy and sat down. After a few minutes though he started crying. Just then his dad from out of town knocked on the door and I had to leave him to answer. He cried on and off all day. More than me I admit. But that made it more precious.

MamaStreeter · March 2017

I played roller derby before I got pregnant. So we were sitting down eating dinner and I was supposed to go to derby practice that night. I just casually said, "Not sure what coach will have planned for me tonight at practice", and H asked what I meant, and I just said "because I'm pregnant". He was surprised and got up and hugged me and kissed me and cried and then prayed for our baby. *TW* It was hard for me to be as happy because I was overwhelmingly afraid after our MC in Nov. But we were trying so it was a happy but somewhat bittersweet moment.

folamij · March 2017

Day before Valentines Day. I had been testing already and the lines kept getting darker. Our DD drew a card, and I wrote a little love note and included a test and signed it from Baby and I.

Gave it to him and he guessed before he even opened be freaking envelope.

kpinto · March 2017

We have been trying since early 2015 and finally scheduled all our testing. Our appointment was set for the feb 15th to find out what was going on, but I had a funny feeling (I was super sick at dinner on Valentine's Day). Anyways, I decided to take a test that morning and it came back a dark positive! I started dancing and crying in the bathroom, but my DH wouldn't wake up (he kept mumbling goodnight, love you, haha).

I had to leave for work, so I left a note that said "hey *baby*, can you believe it??" with the test. A few hours later, he started texting me about our taxes we had just done, when all of a sudden he saw it. He responded with "OMG I'M GOING TO BE A DAD" over and over followed by that meme of Tom Brady crying with "hell yes, we made a Super Bowl baby"

best at part though:changing our infertility appointment to an OB appointment

GenTK · March 2017

Thank you all so much for sharing. I love reading these stories. I think I'm telling DH tomorrow but there's been a hiccup in my finances to travel to him so we shall see.

lin1019 · March 2017

Those are really cute and great stories! I loved reading them! I'll be sharing mine too. It's not that cute but here goes. So me and DH has been TTC for a few months already. But after months of trying, numerous PTs, nothing. So we kinda just stopped trying. Then when I was 8 days late for my January period I didn't even consider being pregnant caise it's kinda normal for my period to always be a few days late. I just bought a kit so I could ease my mind. Did not expect to see it come back positive, I was so shocked that I called for DH, I pointed at the stick like I was scared of it! And he was so shocked, read the packaging of the kit to make sure he's reading it right. The he hugged me so tight, he lifted me up and showered me with kisses. It was such a beautiful moment.

JNAthanassious · March 2017

With DD we were trying but I didn't think there was any way I could be pregnant. When I got my BFP I starting jumping up and down and running around with tears I was so happy. I then took a picture of the rest and sent it to DH while he was at work. Lol. He was thrilled but it wasn't very personal.

This time, I found out the day before Valentine's Day. I was determined to make it better then last time! I played it cool all day. Wrapped the test in tissue paper and put it in a bag and decorated it for V-Day. I left the gift on the table and when he came home from work, I told him DD and I had a early V-Day gift for him! He opened it up and was SO excited! I'm so glad I got to see his emotion and excitement this time around!

prizzyB · March 2017

I found out a week before DH birthday. I was hoping so bad I'd have my sticky bean. It killed me to keep it secret from him for a whole week! But I had his birthday planned out and I took him to our favorite Chinese restaurant for dinner. I went in a few days before and told them if they could please write happy birthday daddy on his cake before bringing it out. We walked the boardwalk and talked about how nice it's going to be to one day have our child with us, before going to eat. (We have been trying for over a year to have a baby) when his cake came out he was looking at it confused and then looked at me and I was just smiling. He said "are you, are we?" And I said yes! And we both hugged and cried and then I showed him the test when we got home. He was so excited, I've never seen him like that!

ForwardnBackward · March 2017

I started peeing on sticks at DPO10 so way before my scheduled missed period. I had him help me interpret what I thought was initially a squinter, but ended up being a clear line!

jesswill86 · March 2017

My DH was on his way from work when I was getting ready to take a test. I delayed him by asking him to stop at the grocery store. It was positive, so when he got home I told him I had something to show him. He's excited and happy but nearly passed out in shock. This is our second, and both times I was told I would need medical intervention if we wanted to conceive! The shock wore off after a week. Haha.

GenTK · March 2017

I finally have my story!!! I can't believe I pulled it off and didn't tell him for almost 2 entire weeks!!

So we were TTC for months, but I have pcos so I was feeling like it was never going to work. He got laid off from work just before holidays but he tends to be right back working so we didn't worry about it to much. January he still didn't have a job. February he still didn't have a job. So we sat and talked about that we should stop trying because our savings was going to run out, little did I know it had already happened at that point.

My peroid was late according to the Ava tracking thing I use, but it always is so no big deal right? Well every time I sit and freak out that I finally am and I over stress myself just to end up being a week or more late. This time I had a test at home from a multi pack I'd bought a while back so I just told myself I'd test, get the no, and save myself a week plus if stress... In this time DH got a job offer in another city. We'd been wanting to leave our city anyway so he jumped at it. We agreed I'd stay in Memphis so the kids can finish the school year out and he would come on to Nashville.

I take the test... it is not the no I was expecting, I told a very close friend and she and I both thought this would make him not want to leave so I kept it to myself even though it was killing me. The one good thing about waiting was it gave me a lot of time to get creative about how I would tell him.

This weekend I came up to Nashville so we can look at houses and such. My friend gave me a gift card to PF Changs so I'd have a great excuse to get him there for dinner and I found these super cute fortune cookies on etsy that had a custom forutune in them about baby and coming in October.

All of dinner i was freaking out. When he went to the bathroom I got the hostess and told her what was up and gave her the cookies. She was so nice and told me not to worry. I still worried but I tried to be cool all of dinner. When they brought our stuff at the end of the meal he said "oh wow I've never gotten fancy cookies like this before!" But I don't think he even really looked at them. When he read the fortune he sat there for a second and said "that's a weird fortune..." so I asked him what it meant. He looked all start struck and said "baby?" and I nodded. After that he just smiled for a few minutes and then started asking me a million questions. I recorded it on my phone. It was very cute. Here's what the cookies looked like and said.

prizzyB · March 2017

@GenTK OMG! That's so super cute! I wish I could love your post a million times! That is so awesome!!! I love the fortune cookie! So happy for you!

knottie8806e24f3f4225e0 · March 2017

@prizzyB your story made me tear up! So sweet!

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