@texafornian I am so saddened to hear about this result. I'm so sorry that you have to go through this and have it labeled "elective". I will be praying for you and Reya to not feel a thing tomorrow and for you, your H, and living daughter to heal as you walk this incredibly hard path together. My heart breaks for you.
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
@HollyGolightly09 i cant really deal with the uncertainty very well and it drives DH up a wall especially when i freak out. I usually keep the cool but with pregnancy and orders potentially not working etc...Im a wreck when i let the feels flutter up
How are you doing? (Mentally, physically...) I have been feeling great mentally, but now as I'm getting closer to my next appointment, I'm starting to get really anxious again. I just want some more reassurance that things are okay. Physically, I'm good. Still pretty tired and going to be dearly, but not the exhaustion I had the first few weeks. Probably a little more irritable than usual, and my belly is definitely bloated, but otherwise very few physical symptoms.
When is your next appointment? March 22. 16 week visit plus gender scan.
Whats the next pregnancy related thing you're looking forward to? I'm looking forward to making it public. We've only told immediate family so far (as in just our parents and my husband's sisters -- plus my boss). So I'm looking forward to my coworkers knowing. Along with that, I'm looking forward to being able to wear clothes that are tighter fitting. I love a baby bump! But I've been wearing flowy tops for weeks now to avoid suspicion. I'm also excited to know if we're having a boy or a girl. After 3 MCs, I truly don't care as long as baby is healthy. But another girl would be nice so that I don't have to buy all new stuff!
Rant/Rave/Questions? I'm just ready to be at the point where I'm obviously showing and even better, I can feel baby move. I've also already been diagnosed with GD again (had it early with my daughter too), so that's a little frustrating, but I handled it fine the first time. Only had to take sugar medication before meals starting closer to 30 weeks.
GTKY: Who is your favorite fictional character? (From books, TV, or movies) Impossible to pick. I'd say any of the characters from Friends would be a good option though. Also, the entire Braverman family.
@Texafornian I am so sorry to hear all of this, but I am also amazed by your strength through this terrible time and process. Reya is a beautiful name. I will pray for all of you for an easy procedure and quick mental and physical healing.
@Texafornian Reya is so beautiful. I will be praying for you and your DH that tomorrow goes well without complication. I am so sorry you're experiencing this.. I know you love Reya with all your heart and I'm so sorry this is how it goes. All the hugs to you.
Me: 27 years old DH: 27 years old Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
Married in July 2014
TTC #1 since late Feb 2016
BFP #1 3/29/16 MMC: 5/5/16 BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16 BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17 My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast: Juicebox Podcast Episode 118 A1Cs: 1/12/16 6.7% 5/25/16 6.0% 11/2/16 6.1% 3/22/16 5.8% 4/27/17 5.4% 6/13/17 5.3% "Sugar Fancy Tutu"
@Texafornian I'm so sorry you are going through this. Reya is a beautiful name. You will be in our thoughts and prayers.
If you need to talk, feel free to pm me. We went through something similar with our last pregnancy. We found out LO had T13 and wasn't viable. I ended up having the D&C after a couple days of bleeding at 15 weeks. Our D&C was labeled elective also which is so terrible. They should have better terminology so as not to shame a mother who has done everything she can.
You our have done all you possibly could and have given your baby it's best chance. I wish you a sticky, healthy baby in the near future!
@Texafornian wow...I am so sorry you're having to deal with this. No words can make it better or ok, but I am happy you have a great support system through your medical team, family, & the ladies on here. Take care of you and take time to grieve little Reya. Just lifted you and your family up in prayer and will continue to do so throughout the day.
@Texafornian my heart breaks for you right now..... take time to grieve and heal
Me: 36 years old DH: 42 years old
Married: 05.2012 TW:
TTC #1 Since April 2016 HSG/FSH/AMH/E2/SA all normal DX: unexplained IF spontaneous BFP 01/01/2017- Alexander was born sleeping 04/13/2017 at 19w1d ic/chorio September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube) spontaneous BFP 01/02/2018 EDD Aug 30th It's a GIRL! Cerclage placed on 03/02 Cerclage removal 08/02
@JNR6510 I'm so sorry you were shamed as well...it's so not right. And thank you for the sticky, healthy baby juju...unfortunately I'm 43 and had tried SO hard for this LO. This was my last try...I just don't think I can handle the stress again after this and my loss last year...plus my odds for a repeat are increased as my age goes up. Sadly not in the cards...so we are a one n done family now. And I have a damn good one so I'm ok with that...
@Texafornian I am so sorry that your news just keeps getting worse, but I am glad you feel like you finally have some closure. It makes me sick that this is considered "elective". Prayers for your family. I will be thinking of you tomorrow as you go through your procedure. I hope it goes quickly and painlessly. *hugs*
Oh Tex, I want you to keep hearing this, so maybe it will help hold you up when you're feeling down: you have shown and continue to show such grace, such strength. I'm so glad we could "be" with you during this painful process. I hope the support that has been offered (and continues to be offered!) has been some balm. You, your DH, Remi, and Reya have earned permanent homes in so many hearts. Please, as you feel comfortable and so moved, come back and check in with us. You all are in my heart, and in my prayers. Please let me know if there is something I can do or say to take any of this burden for you. We will all celebrate Reya.
I am struggling this morning. I went to bed in tears last night with DH holding me.
TW Started spotting dark brown before bed. So it had me totally freaking out. Especially being in the path of this blizzard I just knew my OB office would be closed this morning. Still spotting a little this morning and my only real option is to go to the ER or wait until tomorrow when the OB office is open again. The on call OB did very little to calm me down, which I know she really can't say anything without seeing me. Her words were "at 11 weeks there's nothing we can really do if one of the babies is going to miscarry." So now I am just kind of waiting it out to see if the spotting gets worse and I should go to the ER or if I can just wait until tomorrow when the office reopens.
Its going to be a long day. Thank God DH is home so he can help me with DD.
Also praying for you @cmar1006 I really really hope it's nothing and both babies are healthy and doing well when you get in to see your OB! Keep us updated.
@Texafornian I am so, so sorry. You are right, you did absolutely everything you could. You are so strong. I hope your d&c is as painless as possible. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. You picked a beautiful name for your little girl.
@cmar1006 positive thoughts your way! I know it's hard but just try to rest and hopefully the spotting will resolve itself
Me: 36 years old DH: 42 years old
Married: 05.2012 TW:
TTC #1 Since April 2016 HSG/FSH/AMH/E2/SA all normal DX: unexplained IF spontaneous BFP 01/01/2017- Alexander was born sleeping 04/13/2017 at 19w1d ic/chorio September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube) spontaneous BFP 01/02/2018 EDD Aug 30th It's a GIRL! Cerclage placed on 03/02 Cerclage removal 08/02
Thanks ladies. DH is being so understanding and letting me rest. It's really helping! I'm probably just going to wait until tomorrow and go in when the office opens first thing in the morning.
@Texafornian you are in my thoughts and prayers today, it's just not fair. Im so sorry that it will be considered elective, that just makes me so upset for you, like you would electively do this for no valid medical reason? Ridiculous. So many hugs and so much love sent to you.
@cmar1006 hoping it's nothing! And that you can be seen soon!
@cmar1006 brown spotting us TOTALLY normal. I'd say watch it and if it turns bright red, head to the ER...otherwise call your OB and get an appt for your peace of mind.
i was up most of the night with a heating pad...LOTS of contractions/cramping. I did manage to sleep though. Appt was at 11 and it was THE easiest thing I've ever done physically. Emotionally I was a hot mess but physically...I could look around the room, I felt nothing, I heard nothing with regard to equipment, everyone was so nice and understanding. I felt a little drunk when I left but feel almost normal now. No cramping...my uterus is no longer firm. I just feel empty...
@Texafornian just catching up now. I hope that your heart starts to heal and that the physical healing is smooth too. You are in my prayers and I truly hope that you find peace with the knowledge that the outcome was predetermined. IMHO, you did the right thing by your older daughter to make sure that you are healthy for her. I am so sorry for your loss and for everything that you have gone through.
@Texafornian I am glad the experience was trauma free for you in the physical sense. Hopefully now you can focus on your recovery and give DD all the snuggles. Praying for you and your family to heal emotionally and physically during this difficult season in your life.
@Texafornian A different situation, but when I miscarried at 12 weeks, I felt much the same. Just empty and lost. I'm so glad the physical process at least was easy. Take care you yourself. If you can/when you're ready, I really recommend finding a professional to talk to, it was the best thing I did for myself after my loss. And if you feel up to it, please check in with us sometime. You will be in my prayers, and Reya will be in my heart! (((Hugs)))
@cmar1006, prayers for you too, keep us updated! I had a lot of brown spotting in my first pregnancy and my baby was ok, spotting can be caused by various reasons, just take care and seek medical attention when you can!
Re: PGAL check in 3/8
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
How far along are you? 15 weeks today.
How are you doing? (Mentally, physically...) I have been feeling great mentally, but now as I'm getting closer to my next appointment, I'm starting to get really anxious again. I just want some more reassurance that things are okay. Physically, I'm good. Still pretty tired and going to be dearly, but not the exhaustion I had the first few weeks. Probably a little more irritable than usual, and my belly is definitely bloated, but otherwise very few physical symptoms.
When is your next appointment? March 22. 16 week visit plus gender scan.
Whats the next pregnancy related thing you're looking forward to? I'm looking forward to making it public. We've only told immediate family so far (as in just our parents and my husband's sisters -- plus my boss). So I'm looking forward to my coworkers knowing. Along with that, I'm looking forward to being able to wear clothes that are tighter fitting. I love a baby bump! But I've been wearing flowy tops for weeks now to avoid suspicion. I'm also excited to know if we're having a boy or a girl. After 3 MCs, I truly don't care as long as baby is healthy. But another girl would be nice so that I don't have to buy all new stuff!
Rant/Rave/Questions? I'm just ready to be at the point where I'm obviously showing and even better, I can feel baby move. I've also already been diagnosed with GD again (had it early with my daughter too), so that's a little frustrating, but I handled it fine the first time. Only had to take sugar medication before meals starting closer to 30 weeks.
GTKY: Who is your favorite fictional character? (From books, TV, or movies) Impossible to pick. I'd say any of the characters from Friends would be a good option though. Also, the entire Braverman family.
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
Blessed
If you need to talk, feel free to pm me. We went through something similar with our last pregnancy. We found out LO had T13 and wasn't viable. I ended up having the D&C after a couple days of bleeding at 15 weeks. Our D&C was labeled elective also which is so terrible. They should have better terminology so as not to shame a mother who has done everything she can.
You our have done all you possibly could and have given your baby it's best chance. I wish you a sticky, healthy baby in the near future!
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
TW:
HSG/FSH/AMH/E2/SA all normal DX: unexplained IF
spontaneous BFP 01/01/2017- Alexander was born sleeping 04/13/2017 at 19w1d ic/chorio
September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube)
spontaneous BFP 01/02/2018 EDD Aug 30th It's a GIRL!
Cerclage placed on 03/02
**TW**
Losses:
#1: 8wks MMC 4/16
#2: 13+4 T21 + Hydrops 3/17
**TW**
Losses:
#1: 8wks MMC 4/16
#2: 13+4 T21 + Hydrops 3/17
TW
Started spotting dark brown before bed. So it had me totally freaking out. Especially being in the path of this blizzard I just knew my OB office would be closed this morning. Still spotting a little this morning and my only real option is to go to the ER or wait until tomorrow when the OB office is open again. The on call OB did very little to calm me down, which I know she really can't say anything without seeing me. Her words were "at 11 weeks there's nothing we can really do if one of the babies is going to miscarry." So now I am just kind of waiting it out to see if the spotting gets worse and I should go to the ER or if I can just wait until tomorrow when the office reopens.
Its going to be a long day. Thank God DH is home so he can help me with DD.
Also praying for you @cmar1006 I really really hope it's nothing and both babies are healthy and doing well when you get in to see your OB! Keep us updated.
TW:
HSG/FSH/AMH/E2/SA all normal DX: unexplained IF
spontaneous BFP 01/01/2017- Alexander was born sleeping 04/13/2017 at 19w1d ic/chorio
September 2017 HSG #2 & Gonal-F/Femara/Ovidrel/IUI #1 = ep (Salpingectomy of left fallopian tube)
spontaneous BFP 01/02/2018 EDD Aug 30th It's a GIRL!
Cerclage placed on 03/02
@cmar1006 hoping it's nothing! And that you can be seen soon!
i was up most of the night with a heating pad...LOTS of contractions/cramping. I did manage to sleep though. Appt was at 11 and it was THE easiest thing I've ever done physically. Emotionally I was a hot mess but physically...I could look around the room, I felt nothing, I heard nothing with regard to equipment, everyone was so nice and understanding. I felt a little drunk when I left but feel almost normal now. No cramping...my uterus is no longer firm. I just feel empty...
**TW**
Losses:
#1: 8wks MMC 4/16
#2: 13+4 T21 + Hydrops 3/17
Hey it's okay don't hide in shame! It's hard to keep track of who has how many!
Reya is indeed such a beautiful name!