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britters314
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March - I am adopting/fostering or I want to adopt/foster
britters314
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in Adoption
Are you thinking about adopting / fostering? Are you in the process of adopting/fostering? If so, please tell us more about yourself and your experiences so far.
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)?
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.)
-How are you feeling about the process right now?
-Any questions?
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed?
-Anything else to add?
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)?
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.)
-How are you feeling about the process right now?
-Any questions?
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed?
-Anything else to add?
Re: March - I am adopting/fostering or I want to adopt/foster
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)? Foster Care
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.) Waiting for our training session in May
-How are you feeling about the process right now? Just getting impatient, though it is our own scheduling issues that is causing the delay. Since we live in a big city, there were actually plenty of training dates to choose from and we could have been licensed by now.
-Any questions? Same as last month - just wondering if anyone else is having a shower and how you are doing it.
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed? Nothing that I haven't already said in past posts.
-Anything else to add? Nope - it's not really much of an update for me since I'm in limbo.
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.) have an information session on Monday night. We will learn more about the process, etc. From there i believe we send in the appropriate paperwork, we attend training sessions, find a match, home study etc.
-How are you feeling about the process right now? I feel like we have been waiting forever to go to an information session. I live in Canada so every province has its own regulations on how public adoption process goes. The info sessions must be attended before anything further continues. They only run twice a month.
-Any questions? None at the moment!
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed? Nothing yet! I haven't gotten too far in the process yet.
-Anything else to add? Nope. Just waiting for now.
Basically there is certain criteria that needs to be met before you are approved. The biggest one is a lot of the children may have been exposed to alcohol or drugs during pregnancy so you have to be ready for that. There were a few conditions if you accept you can get a home study assessment done right away, but it's not something DH and I can handle.
I guess we will learn more about it tomorrow night.
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)? Domestic Adoption
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.) - Waiting
-How are you feeling about the process right now? - Really frustrated with the wait and the social worker
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed? - Be patient
@britters314 Yes. The agency said it typically will take between 3-4 years. Really hoping sooner. I know a few people who have been placed under a year. Last year they placed 40 babies.
In our report she put that my husband has no interpersonal skills which to me you met him twice. And this is a really tough thing to talk about. Then she told us that we need to read this book about infertility and ivf we never did ivf so not sure why that was suggested to us. Then told us we need to deal with the fact we can't have kids, but we have dealt with it just because we never locked ourselves into a closet and cried doesn't mean we haven't dealt with it. The other thing is when I email her, she takes forever to get back to us. Maybe I'm just frustrated with the process. The other weird thing they have on their site is to buy a car seat but we could be on the waiting list for 8 years and depending on the expiry date the car seat will no longer be any good.
@britters314 Yeah its a little frustrating but a lot of the times they don't show your profile the first year. There is so many couples waiting ahead of us to be placed so they show their profile first. Well it depends on the birth mom and what she looking for in adopting couple. I'm hoping that the wait isn't much longer. I need to get a list of baby items for when we are placed. We are doing the instant placement so we could get call we will have a short time to get things together. I have few things already I'm kind of clueless on some things lol.
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)? Not sure?
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.) Thinking
-How are you feeling about the process right now? It's all very new and I'm very hopeful.
-Any questions? Does anyone know how to adopt directly from the parent and not an agency? The little girl I was told about is 4 months old and the mother is just looking for someone to adopt her, no agency. I found that they need to have a consent form and can put me as the designated adoptive parent, but I'm not sure if you still have to go through the whole process (home study, back ground check, etc). Does anyone know how that process works?
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed?
-Anything else to add? I'm very new to this so any tips would be appreciated.
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.)
Finished home study and getting "profile" ready for match process.
-How are you feeling about the process right now? Excited and nervous.
-Any questions? None at this time.
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed? The home study can be along process. Be patient.
-Anything else to add? I was very active on TB when DH and I were going through fertility treatments from 2010-2012. I needed to step away for my sanity and to determine our next steps. We our now adopting and I look forward to connecting with other moms (especially first-time moms) through adoption.
Moving forward with Adoption 2017!
-What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)? Not sure. Maybe fost-adopt through Los Angeles County; maybe international?
-Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.) Just starting to think.
-How are you feeling about the process right now? Kind of excited at the possibilities but concerned that no one would let us adopt because we're already blessed with so many.
-Any questions? Does anybody know a family with five children who was able to adopt at least one more? Does fostering devastate everyone involved if/when a child is reunified with previous family members? Is a foster child allowed to share a room in a household with other kids?
-Any tips for the steps you’ve passed? N/A
-Anything else to add?
George (3)
@mill1020 It depends on the state, but foster kids can usually share a room with other kids of the same sex. As for being eligible even though you have 5 kids, it also probably varies state to state. In my state, I think the maximum amount of kids in the household they allow is 8. You can probably find that information for California online. If you do a private adoption, I doubt any agency would say you are ineligible, but I could see birth parents choosing childless couples instead (unless they really want their child adopted into a large family).
George (3)
@Blackrose I would think you would have to do homestudy. I know in Canada you do.
@mill1020 I know a couple who have adopted 2 kids when they had 4 bio kids. They will look at do you have the space and money for one more child.