@secicc12 she so does! I say she does a "what to watch" thread and updates it anytime there's some new stuff lol
didn't someone get flamed for suggesting this once? for basically bringing drama to our board.... it's probably safe to say that any UO thread is bound to have some good drama in it.
Co-sleeping/bed sharing can be completely safe if done CORRECTLY. There are guidelines. However, I'm not here to argue the two sides of this. What I am here to say is that 100% never say never when it comes to parenting. When you make claims of "I'll never do xyz" the parenting universe has a way of making you eat your words. I said my child would NEVER sleep in my room before I had kids. After 5 weeks of sleeping on the couch with my son in a Rock N Play next to me my husband shoved our bed all the way against the wall to make room for him so that I could sleep in my own bed. Every baby since then has or will sleep in our room for the first year.
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@cmmiller531 I'd tell you but honestly it was super insensitive and trigger-worthy what she posted, and I don't want to bring that craziness into our board!
I'm not trying to start a fight. I was sharing AAP recommendations in a thread where multiple people mentioned using something for sleep that is against recommended practices.
Everyone is is welcome to their opinion and we're all the parents of our own babies. But if you're expecting me not to say something in that situation (especially when people are asking for gear suggestions), we'll, you're going to be disappointed.
I'm sure my opinions on some things will change. Since I have friends who have lost babies to SIDS and I'm frankly terrified of it, it won't be on this.
@sarahbethbr I was super worried about SIDs too. Esp because early boys tend to die from it more frequently, which really worried me. We used a Snuza with him until he was 1. I loved it, even tho it would fall off sometimes when he got more active, I'd take a false alarm over the alternative. I'm going to use the owlet or the cocoon cam for this baby I think. It really helps to ease your mind to have that added backup. Just a thought.
I'm not trying to start a fight. I was sharing AAP recommendations in a thread where multiple people mentioned using something for sleep that is against recommended practices.
Everyone is is welcome to their opinion and we're all the parents of our own babies. But if you're expecting me not to say something in that situation (especially when people are asking for gear suggestions), we'll, you're going to be disappointed.
I'm sure my opinions on some things will change. Since I have friends who have lost babies to SIDS and I'm frankly terrified of it, it won't be on this.
I think it's important to note and to understand that SIDS is not suffocation or asphyxiation. Infant deaths tend to get lumped into the SIDS category if they are sleep related when that is not exactly accurate.
Alternatively, while unsafe co-sleeping practices can increase the risk of accidental suffocation or asphyxiation, safe co-sleeping in a bed that is free of excess blankets, pillows, and where the adults in the bed are not under the influence of drugs, tobacco, alcohol, or extreme fatigue can actually decrease the risk of SIDS by allowing your baby to rouse more easily.
Silent reflux really changed my opinion about what I would or wouldn't do as a new mom. Seriously. I hope everyone is able to keep their promise of "I'll never do that". I wasn't. DD ended up in my bed a few times while DH was gone (he sleeps too heavy for her to be in bed if he's home). I made the sleep environment safe and while it wasn't something I wanted to do, I do need sleep. occasionally.
I find drama because I live in the future, I know things. I also don't get a lot of sleep while DH is gone. (we picked a really shitty lifestyle for that to be a problem for me). I'd do a drama thread if the mods weren't so ban happy. Maybe that's my real UO.. I had been trying to mention decent drama on the weekly random but I'm not sure what happened to it. Maybe we can start a private group and we can share our snarky drama and opinions without getting banned lol.
Silent reflux really changed my opinion about what I would or wouldn't do as a new mom. Seriously. I hope everyone is able to keep their promise of "I'll never do that". I wasn't. DD ended up in my bed a few times while DH was gone (he sleeps too heavy for her to be in bed if he's home). I made the sleep environment safe and while it wasn't something I wanted to do, I do need sleep. occasionally.
I find drama because I live in the future, I know things. I also don't get a lot of sleep while DH is gone. (we picked a really shitty lifestyle for that to be a problem for me). I'd do a drama thread if the mods weren't so ban happy. Maybe that's my real UO.. I had been trying to mention decent drama on the weekly random but I'm not sure what happened to it. Maybe we can start a private group and we can share our snarky drama and opinions without getting banned lol.
Tiny chat?
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Oh lord, I've been so busy the last couple days I've missed all the drama llamas. My unpopular opinion today is that there really is too old to work. One of the teachers I work with is well into his 80s and has been off-and-on sick all year. I just wish he'd retire because then I might actually get to work with a teacher who actually does their paperwork.
@SarahBethBR It's pretty easy to stand on a soapbox when you've never dealt with a baby who has reflux and can't be put down flat to sleep. I never planned to co-sleep, but when I had a newborn who woke up and screamed every time I tried to put him down flat, we did what we needed to do to get through it. DS1 slept in our arms for the first 6 months and then slept between us. We followed all of the recommended safe co-sleeping practices. We tried a laundry list of ways to get him into his crib at various stages of his first year and nothing worked. When he was waking up 10-20 minutes all night long, we did what we needed to function and continued co-sleeping. My other son who also had reflux slept in his swing because again, he would not sleep on anything flat.
What works for one family doesn't always work for another. Parents make the best choices they can given their own particular circumstances.
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Everyone is is welcome to their opinion and we're all the parents of our own babies. But if you're expecting me not to say something in that situation (especially when people are asking for gear suggestions), we'll, you're going to be disappointed.
I'm sure my opinions on some things will change. Since I have friends who have lost babies to SIDS and I'm frankly terrified of it, it won't be on this.
https://www.nichd.nih.gov/sts/about/SIDS/Pages/SIDSisNot.aspx
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BFP#2- 10/16/2014- DD Born 7/2/15
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https://www.parenting.com/article/ask-dr-sears-co-sleeping-a-sids-danger
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BFP#2- 10/16/2014- DD Born 7/2/15
SURPRISE! BFP#3- 11/29/16- EDD 8/6/17
I find drama because I live in the future, I know things. I also don't get a lot of sleep while DH is gone. (we picked a really shitty lifestyle for that to be a problem for me).
I'd do a drama thread if the mods weren't so ban happy. Maybe that's my real UO.. I had been trying to mention decent drama on the weekly random but I'm not sure what happened to it. Maybe we can start a private group and we can share our snarky drama and opinions without getting banned lol.
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TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
Wife. Mom. Doula. Photographer.
BFP #1- 12/26/2011- DS Born 9/7/12
BFP#2- 10/16/2014- DD Born 7/2/15
SURPRISE! BFP#3- 11/29/16- EDD 8/6/17
What works for one family doesn't always work for another. Parents make the best choices they can given their own particular circumstances.