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Re: Weekly Randoms 02.27.17
Ladies,
I've been lurking for a long while and it makes me so sad to see the chatter die down here.
Can I sit with you guys at lunch? My little guy was born 10/20/16.
Also, I apologize in advance for the learn-as-I-go method on this thing...
Thanks!
I'll post in 4 month check up & GTKY to play a little catch up.
Once you guys get your routine nailed down, that should help significantly too!
@Ladybug2821 I found that having a routine, at least for bedtime, has really helped LO. After about a week of sticking to it he tended to put himself to bed.
We're still figuring out naps ourselves, but are starting to notice a loose pattern to when LO wants to nap during the day. I originally shared your fear (at least I think this was you in the Baby Sleep thread) that using the "bedtime cues" during the day for naps would screw him up when it came to actual bedtime. H disagreed and he was right this one time, haha. The only difference is LO uses a miracle blanket at night but is free during the day. Of course, the miracle blanket is going to have to go away soon. (Help.)
And yeah...we DEFINITELY notice by about 5pm if he's missed a nap during the day. I feel your pain there. It's really frustrating to know LO just needs to sleep to make everything better but he/she fights it. Just keep in mind it's a temporary problem and you'll figure out what works for all three of you before long!
LO sometimes just plays with the slow nipple rather than eating. Some feedings he takes to a medium nipple like a champ and others he can't seem to keep up with it. Is this something I'll just know when it's time? I had pictured him getting really frustrated and crying when he was ready but I'm afraid maybe I'm missing other cues. He has been FF only since birth if that colors your opinions in any way.
@Ladybug2821 If that RnP works for now, let it work it's magic then move on when you're all ready. No shame!
@Ladybug2821 excuse my ignorance, could you give me a hint on what pace feeding is?? On your other note, LO sleeps in his swing some afternoons and on the days he's with H's grandma he sleeps on a recliner, so I wouldn't worry too much about where she's sleeping during the day right now. Sleep is sleep!
@AllyTheKid I am finding the same thing - if he is super hungry he will drain a 5 oz bottle with a medium nipple in 10 minutes. If he's just kinda hungry or getting tired at all and I use a medium nipple, he lets it dribble all over and acts like he can't handle the flow. Then it's a slow nipple and I settle myself in for a 45 minute feeding session. I guess I had just hoped there would be a telltale "ding, I'm ready!" sort of cue. I should have known better.
B used to give really clear feeding cues (fist to his mouth, frantically swinging his head back and forth when we brought our knuckle or a pacifier near his mouth), but isn't so great at that anymore, either. We tend to gauge his hunger based on when we know he's last eaten. If he's cranky and we know he just ate an hour ago, he's not hungry. Unless he pooped during that time, then he could be hungry. If we miss his hints he goes from 0 to 100 on frustration level in 0.3 seconds, so there's no mistaking that.
We are starting to see that he recognizes the shape of the actual bottle so if we show him an empty bottle and he gives it bedroom eyes we know he's hungry
He usually goes between 3.5-4 hours between feedings now, but I imagine it's a lot easier to gauge how much he has eaten for the day with bottle-only feeding, so I don't know how much help that is for you...
This may sound silly, but maybe it will help to write down certain things you notice she does when she's actually hungry over the course of a few days? That way you can also have some concrete things to point out to your H that are specific to S. That might make it easier for him to figure out when she's actually hungry, too. I know it's cliché but every baby really is different. She may have "learned" a cue that makes sense to her but you just haven't noticed what she's trying to say to you guys.
When I get to that point, even if I eventually see fault in my own action, my pride won't let me turn the heat down. I know I do this. And I tell myself all the time not to do again, then when a situation arises I it do again...
I hate that the ONE person I'm supposed to be able to talk to about anything and everything in an open, loving way is the ONE person capable of setting me off in the first place. I can't stand it. I'm not trying to sit here and place the blame on him for when it happens, I'm just venting, and I'm confused about how and why it happenes, and even though I know it happens and I coach myself about it, it seems like I have no control over it once I get angry. Angry with HIM. I know I need to get a grip. And I truly am trying, but it isn't working =(
Ladies, I'm wondering if any of you have felt the same...
I feel like I don't get enough time with LO and it's causing me to not want to do anything "fun." I work full time, weekends are typically interrupted by visitors or simply filled with errands and household chores, we do two weeknights per week at our respective families' houses for a family dinner. Since LO has been born I've had to leave him with family 6-7 times, sometimes for long stretches...for wakes and funerals and special dinners (H's birthday, a retirement dinner) etc. I have plenty of wonderful family on both sides who are very willing to watch him for us.
This weekend we're invited to a tour of a few breweries in the area with close family. I want to bring LO because of the aforementioned feelings. I'm fine with not drinking. I get the feeling other attendees would rather I leave LO with family and drink with them. H is very sweetly planning a "real" date out to dinner and a movie (Beauty & the Beast since I'm a Disney nut) in a few weekends which is something he never does. I haven't had the heart to tell him I'm just not feeling it. I feel really guilty for just wanting to sit at home with LO rather than, I guess, share him all the time.
I had heard of women not wanting to "share" their LOs when they are first born, but haven't heard much about mamas going through this with a 4-5 month old. I love that my kid is so loved. I know I'm fortunate to have so many opportunities to have "me time." I feel guilty and ungrateful for just not wanting it. And I'm wondering if this is temporary or if I'm being selfish or crazy or unreasonable.
My bestie warned me about hair loss, she had a couple actual bald spots so I'm freaking about this now too. I have really long hair and the shower drain, my brush, my clothes and even the floors accumulate my shedding hair. My hair texture is wavy so it's so easy to knot and tangle and I rip a ton out too. Doesn't help that sometimes I go to bed with wet hair that I didn't get a chance to brush out. I only get time for so much and bathing and sleep get top priority and the rest goes to the wayside.
@Ladybug2821 @brzvice I haven't started solids yet with Johnny, with him I'm waiting for the 6 month mark.
My sex drive came back after AF returned for the 2nd time, and it is bipolar. I goes from extreme to nonexistent real quick...
Also, my hair it also still falling out in horrifying quantities... I can't believe I still have hair after I clean out the shower drain and the vacuum filter, or the lint trap in my dryer. It looks like miniature knitted
blankets of my hair... if I saved them up, I could make sweaters for my family. Yuck.
Sorry I've been MIA, I had my midterm exams Wednesday (scored well!), so spent as much time as I could studying, and yesterday I had to go to court and had parent teacher conferences with the big kids.