@LMMama I'm thinking I'll start taking EPO after my cervical check at 35 weeks. Then at 38 weeks I'll up the dosage and think about inserting it vagainally. I'm a 2nd vbac and it's really important for me to go into labor on my own before 41 weeks. I know some people aren't into cervical checks but I'm slightly obsessed with knowing my dilation even though it doesn't really matter. I'll probably ask for a membrane sweep after 39 weeks. They helped me dilate last time as well.
Everyone that had (or has had multiple) a membrane sweep, when did you go into labor? And when did your water break and how?
Just curious how other sweeps went.
Since I just mentioned mine I'll explain! I had a membrane sweep at 39 weeks. I was already dilated to a 2-3. I had another apt a 39.5 weeks and had another membrane sweep. I was ansid 3 and 50% effaced. Still didn't go into labor. I had one last sweep at 40 weeks and was a 3 and 80% effaced. I was scheduled for indication at 40+3 and my doctor could not believe I didn't go into labor over the weekend. I walked in to be induced already at a 6 so labor was quick and easy after that. So although I didn't go into labor from my sweeps I still think they helped a ton and I'm totally doing it again!
I had two membrane sweeps (38, 39). At the 39w5d membrane sweep I was 3 cm and 60% effaced. I went into labor on my own at 40w1d but my water broke early on. When we got to triage I was 5 cm and 60% effaced.
I dont know why im worried my water will break again. I was 5cm so it wasn't too bad or too early. My labor just stalled because of how my son fell into my pelvis (essentially blocking my broken water and forming a second bag).
And I don't know why I correlate this with a membrane sweep.
@MotherofDragons - I had 2 membrane sweeps (also 38 and 39) and my doctor was convinced I would go into labor very soon after. I did not and was induced at 39 and a few days and had pitocin + the doctor broke my water. After that I had a very quick labor, so who knows if the sweeps helped. They were extremely uncomfortable/painful, but brief, so I guess if it helps things along, it may be worth it.
@Wearmi1 My heart goes out to you and your family as you cope with losing MIL. I lost Mom when I was about a month further along in my pregnancy with DD than we all are now. It's never a "good" time to lose a parent, but I felt especially saddened to lose her during my pregnancy. All that is just trying to say that I'm sending BIG hugs your way and I feel for all of you.
@JessyKV No judgement here on the deep cleaning. I would have done the same thing... As a matter of fact, I'm contemplating getting it done at my house "Just Because" so i have an easy starting point for cleanliness with this LO.
@LMMama I took red raspberry leaf tea last time too. I don't remember when exactly, but third trimester. I also took them in pill form and had a very I painful labor. Didn't really hurt too bad until my water broke and I had labored for a whole day by then. Im planning on asking my midwives this week when I should start.
@silliegirlie143 I was thinking of treating myself to a deep clean before this baby comes too. We will have so much family coming to stay and I'd like to not stress about cleaning for a few weeks. So I'll probably do it again in a couple months. I stay home so I feel guilty about paying someone to clean my house but when I worked full time I had a cleaner come monthly so I could relax more on the weekends and be with my kids instead of scrubbing toilets. It was totally worth it then.
Ugh what a day. As if my MIL passing away wasn't bad enough. I started bleeding today and spent some time in triage monitoring Adeline. I guess somehow my cervix was irritated and I was bleeding. Currently waiting at MFM for our monthly ultrasound to look at Adeline's brain.
@Wearmi1 Sorry for the additional stresss. Glad she checked out fine in triage. Update on how she's looking when you can! I hope the appointment brought you some much deserved peace!
@krex That is so exciting!! Sorry if you have answered this before, but was this all set up through an agency? How long had you been waiting? You absolutely don't have to answer these or go into details if you aren't comfortable with it! Adoption and the whole process just fascinates me and I think it's so cool that you're getting to know her as well throughout the pregnancy.
No worries, and I don't mind answering questions at all! I'm pretty excited about everything as well, and adoption is very near and dear to my heart (I'm an adoptee as well as a soon to be adoptive parent).
So, we are adopting via an agency. Plenty of people self match and do it all without an agency, and kudos to them, but there is no way I could have navigated all this without our agency...it's a LOT! We signed with our original agency last year, around February, and were home study approved and ready to be presented to expecting moms at the end of April 2016. Our first agency is a smaller agency, only working with expecting mothers in the state we live in. They're absolutely lovely and I loved all the women who worked there...they care SO much for the expecting moms and are all super nice. Unfortunately, it's also a smaller agency and doesn't facilitate a lot of adoptions a year, so the waits are longer.
Towards the end of 2016 (around September), we decided that we would work with a second agency at the same time, to increase our chances of being seen by expecting mothers. A work colleague put me in touch with a director at another agency that she was friends with, and I spoke with the Director late September. I really liked her and felt comfortable with the second agency, but hubs and I decided that we'd wait until the new year to add a second agency (adoption is pretty expensive and agency fees, while not all due at once, are no joke), so we needed some extra time to save up some income and prep. In December, before we had signed, the director texted me (we had kept in touch) and asked if we would be interested in being presented to a birth mother who had given birth two weeks prior. She said she understood that we weren't ready to sign with them, but the adoption was considered an "at risk" adoption, and none of her other families were interested in being presented, so she wanted to reach out to see if we would like to be. She explained the risks, we spoke with a lawyer, and decided to go ahead and be presented to the birth mother. A week or so later, we found out that the birth mother decided to parent (her parents were not on board with an adoption plan), so that situation was no longer viable. However, just in that week, the level of communication we received with the agency and the support they provided were wonderful, and we felt even more sure that, come Jan 2017, we would definitely sign with them.
Fast forward another week, the week before Christmas, and the agency director reached out AGAIN. She promised that this would be the last time, but the agency had been inundated with expecting mothers, and some of them weren't fitting the criteria (for various reasons) of the other families they were working with at the moment. So, we were presented with two more expecting mothers, one due in late March, one due in June, and were asked if we would be interested in being shown to them. We looked at both situations, and agreed to be shown to both. In addition to this, there was another birth mother situation that had come forward, for a three month old child, that we decided wouldn't be the right situation for us (so we were never shown).
The two expecting mothers looked at our profile in the week between Christmas and New Years. The expecting mother due in March ended up choosing another family, one that was a better fit for her. On New Year's day, we got a text that the other expecting mother, due in June, really liked our profile and wanted to talk to us, so a phone call was set up for the next evening. That next evening, we spoke with the expecting mother for nearly an hour, just chatting and getting to know each other. We immediately felt very comfortable with her and she was a lovely person, we had good conversations, it didn't feel forced or awkward (after the first few minutes)...all in all, it was good. I texted the agency director and let her know I felt like it went well and that hubs and I would call her the next morning. She asked us to wait a few, then asked if she could call us. She gave us a ring and let us know that the expecting mother really liked us, felt completely comfortable with us, and actually wanted to cancel the other phone calls with other potential adoptive families because she wanted us to parent her child! It was incredible! I can't even describe the excitement, terror, joy, all the feels we had at that moment.
That was nearly 2 months ago. Over the past 7-8 weeks, we've gotten to know each other better via text and phone calls. She had her anatomy scan and we found out the baby is a girl. I'm still terrified at times that this will all come crashing down around us and she'll decide to parent...which will suck, but we'll support her should she choose to do that. She really is a super sweet person, and I have such love for her (though at time exasperation at her decisions...but I think that's normal for anyone). Hopefully when we meet in person that bond will only get stronger, as we'd really like to maintain an open adoption with her throughout the baby's life.
Anyways...sorry for the book!! That's been our journey thus far!
@krex Thank you so much for sharing. It sounds like quite the journey. I totally get being scared that she'll change her mind, but it sounds like all is going well so far!
@Wearmi1 Sorry you had even more stress today. Take care of yourself!
Well Adeline seems to be doing ok. Nothing bad has happened with her brain since the last time we saw her. No fluid has been pushed up further so that's good. She's 2lbs now but in the 41st percentile so I guess she's just petite. They didn't seem too concerned at MFM about her size. Starting at 32 weeks I have to start weekly stress tests and ultrasounds for her growth. I also start my bi-weekly midwife appointments starting in March. I also have my glucose test next week.
I feel so bad for my poor husband. The funeral home literallly took forever to pick up his mothers body from her home. She passed away around 3-4 this morning. They didn't come get her until 1130. We all went to lunch after they'd left. I went to the ladies room and that's when I realized I was bleeding. I told him what was happening and called my doctors office. They wanted me to come straight to the hospital. So I left in the middle of lunch. He was in the car a few minutes behind me after he paid the bill. I'm not even sure how I got myself to the hospital. I was crying and speeding the whole way there. I was in full on panic mode. What a day is all I can say.
Looking for some advice. I didn't see a symptoms thread, so i'm just going to ask here. Between the leg cramps and insomnia I can't sleep. I've been sleeping from about 9 pm-2 am. Then tossing and turning until 5 am when DH gets up for work. Help.me. I have two other kids I need to take care of and by 3 pm i'm done. Any things that have worked for you to help either of these problems?
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
@awoodruff27 This might make me a terrible person, but I kicked my husband out of the bed. I sleep 100x better when I have the entire bed to myself, can move around at my leisure and don't get woken up by him moving or snoring. It's not every night, but when I do, I sleep great, and we still spend time together at bedtime, he just eventually moves to the guest room.
@mamaelle27 totally already did that. Haha. He says he can't sleep with me because I toss and turn so much. It did help at first, but it's not anymore.
@Stankonia2014 how did I not think of unisom?? I feel silly now. But I'm definitely going to try it tonight.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
DS accidentally kicked me in the stomach while trying to escape his bed last night. Bumps and kicks are normal, but this time It knocked the wind out of me and really hurt. I called the doc hoping to hear "You'll be ok, there's lots of padding, yada yada", but instead they made me come right in. So....I'm sitting in the office freaking out. Share your tummy kick success stories? I know this stuff happens when you have a toddler.
Re: Weekly Randoms 2/27
Just curious how other sweeps went.
I went into be induced with DD3 at 39 weeks and was 3cm though. Not sure if that was thanks to the membrane sweep, or the EPO, RRL, and dates.
With DD my OB performed two sweeps at 39 and 40 weeks, but neither jump started labor. I was about 2cm dilated and effacing.
ETA. The nurses had to break my water with both pregnancies.
I dont know why im worried my water will break again. I was 5cm so it wasn't too bad or too early. My labor just stalled because of how my son fell into my pelvis (essentially blocking my broken water and forming a second bag).
And I don't know why I correlate this with a membrane sweep.
I lost Mom when I was about a month further along in my pregnancy with DD than we all are now. It's never a "good" time to lose a parent, but I felt especially saddened to lose her during my pregnancy.
All that is just trying to say that I'm sending BIG hugs your way and I feel for all of you.
@JessyKV No judgement here on the deep cleaning. I would have done the same thing... As a matter of fact, I'm contemplating getting it done at my house "Just Because" so i have an easy starting point for cleanliness with this LO.
Im planning on asking my midwives this week when I should start.
I just need to clear my mind of all the random and rare things that happened with my son's labor and stop thinking it'll all happen again.
Towards the end of 2016 (around September), we decided that we would work with a second agency at the same time, to increase our chances of being seen by expecting mothers. A work colleague put me in touch with a director at another agency that she was friends with, and I spoke with the Director late September. I really liked her and felt comfortable with the second agency, but hubs and I decided that we'd wait until the new year to add a second agency (adoption is pretty expensive and agency fees, while not all due at once, are no joke), so we needed some extra time to save up some income and prep. In December, before we had signed, the director texted me (we had kept in touch) and asked if we would be interested in being presented to a birth mother who had given birth two weeks prior. She said she understood that we weren't ready to sign with them, but the adoption was considered an "at risk" adoption, and none of her other families were interested in being presented, so she wanted to reach out to see if we would like to be. She explained the risks, we spoke with a lawyer, and decided to go ahead and be presented to the birth mother. A week or so later, we found out that the birth mother decided to parent (her parents were not on board with an adoption plan), so that situation was no longer viable. However, just in that week, the level of communication we received with the agency and the support they provided were wonderful, and we felt even more sure that, come Jan 2017, we would definitely sign with them.
The two expecting mothers looked at our profile in the week between Christmas and New Years. The expecting mother due in March ended up choosing another family, one that was a better fit for her. On New Year's day, we got a text that the other expecting mother, due in June, really liked our profile and wanted to talk to us, so a phone call was set up for the next evening. That next evening, we spoke with the expecting mother for nearly an hour, just chatting and getting to know each other. We immediately felt very comfortable with her and she was a lovely person, we had good conversations, it didn't feel forced or awkward (after the first few minutes)...all in all, it was good. I texted the agency director and let her know I felt like it went well and that hubs and I would call her the next morning. She asked us to wait a few, then asked if she could call us. She gave us a ring and let us know that the expecting mother really liked us, felt completely comfortable with us, and actually wanted to cancel the other phone calls with other potential adoptive families because she wanted us to parent her child! It was incredible! I can't even describe the excitement, terror, joy, all the feels we had at that moment.
That was nearly 2 months ago. Over the past 7-8 weeks, we've gotten to know each other better via text and phone calls. She had her anatomy scan and we found out the baby is a girl. I'm still terrified at times that this will all come crashing down around us and she'll decide to parent...which will suck, but we'll support her should she choose to do that. She really is a super sweet person, and I have such love for her (though at time exasperation at her decisions...but I think that's normal for anyone). Hopefully when we meet in person that bond will only get stronger, as we'd really like to maintain an open adoption with her throughout the baby's life.
Anyways...sorry for the book!! That's been our journey thus far!
@Wearmi1 Sorry you had even more stress today. Take care of yourself!
I feel so bad for my poor husband. The funeral home literallly took forever to pick up his mothers body from her home. She passed away around 3-4 this morning. They didn't come get her until 1130. We all went to lunch after they'd left. I went to the ladies room and that's when I realized I was bleeding. I told him what was happening and called my doctors office. They wanted me to come straight to the hospital. So I left in the middle of lunch. He was in the car a few minutes behind me after he paid the bill. I'm not even sure how I got myself to the hospital. I was crying and speeding the whole way there. I was in full on panic mode. What a day is all I can say.
@Wearmi1 What a day! I really hope your week takes a turn for the better.
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Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
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BFP #2 10/2011. EDD 7/11/12. MMC discovered 11/2/11. D&C 11/4/11.
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@Mother0fDragons I had 3 sweeps at 39, 40 and 41 and was induced. Water broke the morning after cervadil was placed.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
@Stankonia2014 how did I not think of unisom?? I feel silly now. But I'm definitely going to try it tonight.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
@krex thanks so much for sharing your story!
@awoodruff27 ditto what @Stankonia2014 said!
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
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MMC & D&C Aug 2016
BFP #1 9/1999. DD Born 6/7/2000
BFP #2 10/2011. EDD 7/11/12. MMC discovered 11/2/11. D&C 11/4/11.
DX PCOS 10/2012.
BFP#3 1/11/13. DS Born 9/17/2013
BFP#4 9/30/17. Grow baby grow!
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