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Infertility
mstelz02
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Secondary infertility
mstelz02
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in Infertility
Hello,
My name is Marissa & I am new to the bump community. At this point I am just looking for some support & encouragement because all of us know what a long emotional process this is. A little background on me...I have been pregnant 3 times in three years. The first time resulted in a miscarriage. The second time I got pregnant I was blessed with my beautiful son who is now 3 years old. About 2 years after I had him I got pregnant again and it was a molar pregnancy so I needed to have a D&C. Now we have been trying for over a year and it just isn't happening which is incredibly frustrating and heartbreaking. It seems like no one seems to know what to say or how to act regarding secondary infertility.
Re: Secondary infertility
I'm in a similar situation, and my heart is with you!
Erika
DS b. 7/4/2011 via c/s
TTC #2 since 1/2015
8/2015 - "unexplained IF", started Levothyroxine
9/27/15 - IUI #1 (unmedicated) - BFN
10/26/15 - IUI #2 (100mg Clomid + Ovidrel) - BFN
11/21/15 - IUI #3 (100mg Clomid + Ovidrel) - BFN
12/18/15 - IUI #4 (100mg Clomid + Ovidrel) - BFN
I'm in a similar situation as well. In Feb 2015 I had a chemical pregnancy, my first pregnancy, and then was able to conceive our daughter very easily 2 cycles later (Mid-May 2015). I gave birth end of January 2016 and breastfed my daughter for 6 months with absolutely NO fertility during that time. I stopped breastfeeding end of July 2016 to start TTC #2 and I believe that I started ovulating in August. I got pregnant in October and has another chemical pregnancy and since then I haven't been able to conceive. My husband keeps telling me I'm being impatient, and maybe I am, but I'm just so let down and sad about all of this.
I had an HSG in January, I did my first round of femara this month (low dose 2.5mg CD 3-7) and I ovulated later than normal! My OB said that if I don't conceive this month she will up my dosage- which makes me believe she thinks I won't conceive with late ovulation. I keep trying not to stress out, but that's easier said than done. All and all, I've been TTC for 7 or 8 cycles. I'm 33 and starting to stress about time- I'd like to get pregnant again and have two more babies before 35.
My husband keeps telling me that I need to relax and that the doctor says nothing is wrong, all my tests have come back fine. He hasn't been tested at all because we have conceived 3 times- so he doesn't have to do anything at all.
I told him I want to start discussing IUI soon, so we can at least be prepared if it comes down to that and he isn't even open to that because "we haven't been trying that long". I keep reminding him that I'm not getting any younger and that these are things we need to decide on, because if not we need to start the adoption process because I really want my daughter to have sibling.
Do I sound like a total basket case? Because I feel like yes, I have anxiety about this, but that I'm trying to think ahead in case I truly can't have another baby naturally.
End rant.
Any advice/insight would be appreciated.
I deal with people all the time saying "well at least you have DS" etc. that definitely does not help things. I am grateful for my son and I love him with all my heart - but my family is not complete yet and I want him to have a sibling - whatever that entails. I think people just really don't know what to say. Just letting you know you aren't alone
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
Best of luck!
@karam425 - I'm sorry about your CP. I do agree with your husband - if you've just been trying since about August and had a CP, I'd give the old fashioned way a few more tries - if you're 33, especially if you have had a healthy pregnancy, you won't be considered infertile until this coming summer, which is several months away.
All that being said, on a personal note, I actually considered the period where we'd been trying for 7 or 8 cycles more emotionally difficult than the period we're in now, with failed IUIs. All phases are disappointing, of course, but personally, I was more panicked and upset earlier on in our journey. The spectre of IF was so scary, and now that I actually am IF, I'm more pragmatic, like: "Ok, I'm living my nightmare. I'm still alive and can move. What happens next?"
Good luck to you, don't lose hope.
I am now engaged to a man who is wonderful to me and my "Little 6" and we want to add to our family. It would be my second and FI's first. We tried on our own for 12 cycles and finally went to an RE in January. Cycle 13 was an unmedicated IUI, and this cycle is a clomid IUI.
We don't have clear answers - his SA is fine other than low morphology, my testing is all fine except that my early cycle US's look kind of PCOS-ish with a bajillion follies. But I ovulate on my own, with just one dominant follie at go time. So who knows.
Secondary infertility is a strange beast. It makes it hard to discuss things - I feel like everything I think of saying is a trigger warning, simply because my son exists. I feel like people think I should be happy with what I have, that I'm not that bad off because at least I have him. But (as I know you know) the pain of secondary infertility is real.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
[spoiler]
I was ttc for the couples of years. I couldn’t get pregnant naturally so we tried oe ivf in our country but it didn't work. Our next step was de conception but we failed 2 cycles again. Because of many attempts of ivf I have bad health condition. The doctor told me that I can't be stimulated any more in addition I have poor ovarian reserve so it's impossible to have babies. She told that I have no chances to be a mother and adoption is for us, because a surrogacy is forbidden in our country. I don't want to lose my family, that's why we are looking for a clinic abroad.