Oh got an update on the woman's car that I nudged. Thankfully the dealership thought she was as bat $h!t as I did. They told her she had to come in for an estimate. She did... she then calls me - and I quote
"So there are two ways I can approach this. One will take weeks for the repainting of the paneling.. (blah blah blah blah) The other is an afternoon $30 paint touch up. I just REALLY don't have time to do the entire repair and knowing how time consuming it will be for ME - I'VE made the decision just to do the touch up"
Let me say that boy did she go ON AND ON about how much of a favor she was doing me.
Woman... I already talked to them. They already told me it was just $30 paint touch up.and mentioned NOTHING about this expensive alternative option.
Total. Whacko.
But hey still thankful my belly bump damage is only gonna cost me $30!
@vino831 ::eyeroll:: wow. I'm surprised the dealership would even charge you 30 when clearly all they have to do is use a kiddy art paintbrush and dab.
Went to the outdoor outlet mall today to enjoy the weather and get some fresh air .. DS FLIPPED OUT at friendlys ... his 2 year molars seem to have decided to come 6 months early but I mean this kid was screaming and throwing .. he's never like this i had to take my food to go and wait for my friend and her niece to finish inside... this plus all that walking made me one tired mama. Hoping I can coax my little tornado into a nap even though he slept in the car.. so far not looking promising
@Gators&BoSox prayers the nap fairy comes with sleepy dust!!
were having a rough one too. I want to go into labor so I can dish my kid off to someone else. Haha. Put her down for a nap two hours early. #SorryNotSorry
Well, my bitch fest was taken out on my OBs office. Looking at my schedule they had me 10 days between appointments, not 5-7 the Dr suggested, which of course put me over the edge - getting nervous as DDay approaches. When I called to bump that appointment up I was told there was no availability until the following week! Egads! 2 weeks between appointments?! I possibly slightly lost my cool but, I want to hear my babies heartbeat & know everything is Ok & follow the Drs orders - not the receptionists - learn how to book appointments properly and leave openings for your moms to be who will be 39/40 weeks. When I said I needed to speak with the Dr about it being OK to wait 2 weeks between appointments the receptionist said No! Not going to put that call through. Not a nice thing to tell a pregnant mom with rising BP who has already spent one night at the hospital for it. If I didn't like the Drs & nurses... Of course they eventually put me on the phone w/a nurse who quickly booked my appointment for early next week. Maybe this receptionist was having a bad day, but do not argue with your very pregnant patients, refuse to put their calls through - angry very pregnant mom is going to come out. And she's not always rational. And she doesn't care. Only concern is my happily baking babe.
@Goodmorning12 Good for you for standing up for yourself and insisting to be scheduled properly! I would have lost my cool too! Be sure to mention that to your Dr at your next appointment because that receptionist's behavior was completely unacceptable!
@Goodmorning12 you're so right, pregnant ladies in their last few weeks should take priority! I had a routine appt this morning at my obgyn & had to wait an hour to be seen for all of 2 minutes by a dr...I was about ready to reschedule because I was missing work & hate to waste any of my precious PTO before baby. The dr knew I was frustrated and actually said to me "well this IS a doctors office and sometimes wait times go long because you never know, like today someone could come in thinking they're in labor and we have to see them first...." I didn't say anything because I couldn't trust myself not to curse, but I wanted to say "yea right lady, I know there was only ONE other patient in the building and you were with her this whole time, and she walked in at the same exact time I did and was probably 60 years old, saying she was there for her yearly checkup....I know they took her back first for goodness knows whatever reason, but don't lie to a huge hormonal hungry pregnant lady who's running on no sleep after you just kept her waiting this long!" Maybe for my next appointment I'll start moaning & saying I think I'm in labor since apparently that should work to get me seen faster...
@serenity13 God, and I was irritated that I had to wait half an hour this past Monday with the OB I had to see while mine was on vacation. Granted I don't like him anyway, so I was unhappy about seeing him in the first place.
I love how its ok for them to keep patients waiting, but if you showed up an hour late you'd be sent straight to the front desk to reschedule. If its an emergency room, I understand needing to prioritize people. But this is a doctor's office. They know how long routine appointments take. There is no excuse for them to run that far behind. Its just poor scheduling.
I really try to extend grace when I have a wait at a doctor's office. I mean, I'm sure sometimes it's totally avoidable, but I always wonder to myself if the wait is long because someone get very bad news or because something scary is happening and they need to do a surprise sonogram or something. One time I was waiting for 45 minutes for a dating scan appointment and was really irritated, then I saw the sonographer walk out with an extremely harried looking couple. I've also been that patient who was scheduled last minute for a half an hour long detailed sonogram because of a potential problem, and I just know that there was no way I didn't throw off the schedule for the morning since there is only one sonographer in the office and she only is there three days a week.
ETA not that you can't complain about it!! This is a bitch thread afterall, the place where we air grievances we might otherwise feel obligated to hold in!!!!!
Say it with me now... let DH live. Let him live... let him live...
Last night - He GIVES UP putting DS back down after he wakes at 1130. (I wasn't feeling well and asked him to get up with him)
I made a haircut appointment for this Sat (first cut in I don't want to admit how long).... He comes home today and says theres some stuff going on at work that he wants t be a part of - ALL weekend.
Tonight - He has 45 min until he has to leave (for his 2 hour massage!!!). I say hey I would really like to take a solo shower but since DS needs a shower I'll hop in with DS but can you please come up dry him, pjs and read so I can have 10 minutes. "Yep"
He never comes... DS and I get out of the shower I dress DS and DH THEN hollers up at me - "hey you ready for help?!?
PS. My vehicle is getting some work done so DS and I are homelocked while DH works...
It probably all sounds like little things but GOODNESS the little things can build.
Im 39 weeks pregnant man!!!!! I need just a little time!!
I teach special ed preschool had a bs meeting with and awful parent at a school district meeting st the home district. The meeting went over by an hour and the district chair person and my administrator always let this particular parent run the show and I'm the one who is left saying no and looking like the bad guy. I have no problem putting my foot down , looking like a total B, whatever. The part that pisses me off is that the moment the meeting is over and the parent leave the chair and admin are the first to start talking about the parent being out of control and unreasonable. They are the ones in charge and should be handling the situation. On my way back from the meeting to the school I call the main office 3x, my classroom extension 2x, and call 2 of my 5 staff members thinking I'll be nice and grab Dunkin Donuts in my way back for everyone. Just as I'm calling the office again I get a call from my CTA saying that they're evacuation the school, that's there's an electrical fire. Kids are fine, no one was injured, cops, fire department, and ambulances are already on site. I rush my ass to the school and start handling the situation. After all is said and done and the parents are all notified, the kids have all been checked and loaded in to buses to go home we realize that the admin who was supposed to be headed back to the school right behind me from the meeting decided she was too frazzled from the meeting and couldn't deal with the freaking fire went home instead of coming to the school. 8& 1/2 months pregnant me can handle the stress of the meeting and the fire, etc. But it's too much for the admin, the one who's in charge of the entire program, the main decision maker, and responsible for the safety and wellbeing of all the students and staff. WTF.
Ever since finding out on Monday that our kiddo could pop out any day now despite the fact that the EDD is a month away, every waking moment, my brain is in anxiety overdrive with all the things that still need done. This morning, I got maybe an hour of sleep before my husband woke up, and thus woke me up. He's been really, really sick the last two days so I am happy he is feeling better now, but not so happy that this means he is feeling playful and wants to do things like pinch me and touch my face (something that he KNOWS I hate) and even after telling him to stop before I wake up fully or I won't be able to fall back asleep, he keeps doing it. I had to explain to him yet again that every time I wake up, my brain immediately goes into hyperdrive with everything I could be doing instead of sleeping, and so it is really difficult for me to fall asleep in the first place, to stay asleep, and to get restful sleep. On top of that, he is one of those people who gets insanely clingy when he's sick, so I've already spent the last two days barely sleeping because he was keeping me up with the struggle snuggles, wiping his nasty, snotty, sweaty face on me, and him waking me to report on his BMs every five minutes. I missed my last childbirth class because I hadn't been able to sleep at all that day due to him and had to spend that time getting the only three hours of sleep I was going to be able to get between my overnight shifts. Grr. I love him insanely but I am taking up @vino831's chant... let him live... let him live...
@MMaru What a douche. I'd have sent him to sleep on the couch. Why is it that the instant men get the sniffles they turn into the biggest clingy crybabies on the planet?
I had an equally pleasant night. I get an average of about 3 hours of sleep per night because of my fiance. Last night, I woke up at midnight to use the bathroom and then came back to bed. Right after I laid down, he rolled over so he was right up against me and started snoring really loudly right in my ear. At one point, I was laying on the edge of the bed and accidentally bumped his arm (which was dangerously close to my sore boobs) and he kicked me. I also got booted for bumping his foot with mine. So, I have been up since midnight, spent the night laying on the edge of the bed, have bruised shins, and he actually had the nerve to complain about me being grumpy this morning. And then he complained that I was hogging the bed all night. I was too tired to yell at him, so I just gave him the death stare.
I sent him a message at work (he hates when I work on the garage but I didn't want to sit on my butt while DS played)
"Go to work on a saturday that I had plans?!? And I'm 39 weeks pregnant?! I'll show you... I'll go into labor organizing the Garage! BWAHAHAHAHAH!!!"
(Attached with hilarious picture that of doesn't want to upload now)
Just trying to be funny buuut still a little satisfied... I got a ton done! :-D
@MMaru ohh yeah I'd need the chant to. No way I'd let him snuggle up to me sick. ShannonJ96 same for you. What is it wit these men effecting one of thr most sacred things to most people but ESPECIALLY for a preggo mama - sleep. Goodness knows it's going to be non existent here soon. Grumble grumble..
I still haven't seen frozen but now "Let him live" is stuck in my head to the let it go tune! I feel like some hilarious mama out there could make a video out of these situations with that song. Bwahaha!!
Sounds like your hubby might have legitimately body switched with a toddler @MMaru! Not cool!!!! Mine becomes a total asshat and won't let me do a thing for him when he's sick. Which I guess is better (worse??) than him becoming a clinger? But he sits in line at Taco Bell for me on Saturday night so I think I'll keep him
My mother has been coming to help with the babies. She'll do the "night shift" so that I can get some sleep every couple of days. This has been essential to my functioning.
She's been helping this way since they came home on Valentine's Day.
I found out today that she has been feeding the babies double strong formula... the can says 1 scoop for 2oz and she has been doing 1 scoop for 1 ounce. Fortunately, I had been mixing a pitcher of formula every night before she gets here, but she would sometimes mix a bottle because "she doesn't like to wait to warm up the bottle"... I know they got a couple of her bottles today, for sure. I have no idea how many double strong bottles they got... they have both had upset stomachs, so tonight should be interesting.
No no wonder they have been crabby and screaming... I feel awful, and I'm pretty mad at her. I'm not even sure that I should have her come back to help... but I NEED the help.
***** I freaking hate formula, and if my supply were large enough I would love to exclusively pump/breastfeed. Unfortunately, things aren't working out that way so id appreciate no "you should breastfeed" comments ******
@direwolfmini not trying to scare you but formula overdose is real. I'm so sorry there aren't closer resources nearby for you to help out. Are you active in a church or have anyone else willing to help you adjust so you can sleep? I'd help you if I could - I work nights and have been the night caretaker of our little one. I don't mind he night shift so much - extra cuddles happen for sure.
@direwolfmini that's way uncool of your mom! My mom drove my 18mo old around without buckling her into her car seat that she had put in the front seat of her pickup for two days while I was in the hospital with my son a couple of years ago. I was so scared and pissed when I found out. She didn't keep my daughter for a few months after that but to her credit, it never happened again after we talked and I pointed out the real danger there. I think moms really want to help and their brains get addled with the age old school of thought of "babies are tougher than we think, its just formula and as long as they're fed it shouldn't matter how its mixed" or "I didn't have a car seat so she'll be fine." all of that is horribly wrong of course and I guess what Im trying to say is, your mom made a huge mistake but she's a grandma now, maybe for the first time? She's learning by trial and error flying by the seat of her pants in the middle of the night just like you and as long as you two can hash it out and agree that what she did was quite dangerous, especially for such young babies, she should have another shot. I hope the boys will be alright for you tonight!
@direwolfmini I'm so sorry you are having to add this to your already difficult supply/supplement issues! Unfortunately, Moms can make mistakes and definitely do things differently than we would do them ourselves! Hopefully some education can help with this situation. I know I'd be super mad too! Praying for you and your sweet babies! Hang in there mama, you can do this!
@direwolfmini Have you confronted her about why this is so bad? Maybe it's just a matter of needing to educate her. I'm so sorry that this added stress and worry has been put on your plate.
@Cbeanz great idea! Once I posted I started researching "feeding babies incorrectly mixed formula" and totally scared myself. @marshmallowfarts I think I'm going to have to do my best to get by without my mom's help at night. I don't really have a ton of other options during the week, but on the weekend I can get help from a number of places. @silverbulletband Oh my word, I would have been so upset! I'm glad you were able to get things worked out with your mom. I'm not sure I could get over something like that! You're absolutely right about the older generation! I'm thinking more of my grandma (she's 90). She has already told me that we're spoiling the boys because we hold them (she said this while holding one of them...) I basically told her to STFU in the nicest way possible. You can't spoil a newborn. @Lexxilou1986 Thanks for checking in DURING YOUR INDUCTION. Hope you're doing well! My mom felt absolutely AWFUL, so I'm hoping that serves as the teaching moment for her.
The Dr office said my plan to nurse and supplement with pumped milk tonight would be OK, or I could feed as normal with correctly mixed formula. I only have enough pumped milk to MAYBE supplement/breastfeed through the night and then its back to mostly formula (MIXED CORRECTLY). I'm keeping my eyes peeled for signs of dehydration and will bring them in to the hospital if either is showing signs.
Silver lining: Maybe this will kick start my supply into high gear and we won't have to deal with this mess ever again!
How frustrating (and scary!) @direwolfmini! Glad you were able to talk to the dr.
And I would kick anyone's a$$ who told you to breastfeed as their advice. Don't feel bad about giving formula! I had major mom guilt when I had to start supplementing because I wasn't producing enough, but ultimately I had a very happy healthy (fed!) baby, and I was much happier myself. This time I decided if I need to give formula again, I will do my best to save myself the guilt trip
My major bitchfest is these ridiculously uncomfortable hospital beds!! I am so uncomfortable and it's only in part due to contractions! On a plus side, just got a dose of Fentanyl and that helps with all the pain
Re: Weekly Bitch Fest (2/20)
"So there are two ways I can approach this. One will take weeks for the repainting of the paneling.. (blah blah blah blah) The other is an afternoon $30 paint touch up. I just REALLY don't have time to do the entire repair and knowing how time consuming it will be for ME - I'VE made the decision just to do the touch up"
Let me say that boy did she go ON AND ON about how much of a favor she was doing me.
Woman... I already talked to them. They already told me it was just $30 paint touch up.and mentioned NOTHING about this expensive alternative option.
Total. Whacko.
But hey still thankful my belly bump damage is only gonna cost me $30!
were having a rough one too. I want to go into labor so I can dish my kid off to someone else. Haha. Put her down for a nap two hours early. #SorryNotSorry
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
I had a routine appt this morning at my obgyn & had to wait an hour to be seen for all of 2 minutes by a dr...I was about ready to reschedule because I was missing work & hate to waste any of my precious PTO before baby. The dr knew I was frustrated and actually said to me "well this IS a doctors office and sometimes wait times go long because you never know, like today someone could come in thinking they're in labor and we have to see them first...." I didn't say anything because I couldn't trust myself not to curse, but I wanted to say "yea right lady, I know there was only ONE other patient in the building and you were with her this whole time, and she walked in at the same exact time I did and was probably 60 years old, saying she was there for her yearly checkup....I know they took her back first for goodness knows whatever reason, but don't lie to a huge hormonal hungry pregnant lady who's running on no sleep after you just kept her waiting this long!" Maybe for my next appointment I'll start moaning & saying I think I'm in labor since apparently that should work to get me seen faster...
God, and I was irritated that I had to wait half an hour this past Monday with the OB I had to see while mine was on vacation. Granted I don't like him anyway, so I was unhappy about seeing him in the first place.
I love how its ok for them to keep patients waiting, but if you showed up an hour late you'd be sent straight to the front desk to reschedule. If its an emergency room, I understand needing to prioritize people. But this is a doctor's office. They know how long routine appointments take. There is no excuse for them to run that far behind. Its just poor scheduling.
ETA not that you can't complain about it!! This is a bitch thread afterall, the place where we air grievances we might otherwise feel obligated to hold in!!!!!
Last night - He GIVES UP putting DS back down after he wakes at 1130. (I wasn't feeling well and asked him to get up with him)
I made a haircut appointment for this Sat (first cut in I don't want to admit how long).... He comes home today and says theres some stuff going on at work that he wants t be a part of - ALL weekend.
Tonight - He has 45 min until he has to leave (for his 2 hour massage!!!). I say hey I would really like to take a solo shower but since DS needs a shower I'll hop in with DS but can you please come up dry him, pjs and read so I can have 10 minutes. "Yep"
He never comes... DS and I get out of the shower I dress DS and DH THEN hollers up at me - "hey you ready for help?!?
PS. My vehicle is getting some work done so DS and I are homelocked while DH works...
It probably all sounds like little things but GOODNESS the little things can build.
Im 39 weeks pregnant man!!!!! I need just a little time!!
On my way back from the meeting to the school I call the main office 3x, my classroom extension 2x, and call 2 of my 5 staff members thinking I'll be nice and grab Dunkin Donuts in my way back for everyone. Just as I'm calling the office again I get a call from my CTA saying that they're evacuation the school, that's there's an electrical fire. Kids are fine, no one was injured, cops, fire department, and ambulances are already on site. I rush my ass to the school and start handling the situation. After all is said and done and the parents are all notified, the kids have all been checked and loaded in to buses to go home we realize that the admin who was supposed to be headed back to the school right behind me from the meeting decided she was too frazzled from the meeting and couldn't deal with the freaking fire went home instead of coming to the school. 8& 1/2 months pregnant me can handle the stress of the meeting and the fire, etc. But it's too much for the admin, the one who's in charge of the entire program, the main decision maker, and responsible for the safety and wellbeing of all the students and staff. WTF.
Ever since finding out on Monday that our kiddo could pop out any day now despite the fact that the EDD is a month away, every waking moment, my brain is in anxiety overdrive with all the things that still need done. This morning, I got maybe an hour of sleep before my husband woke up, and thus woke me up. He's been really, really sick the last two days so I am happy he is feeling better now, but not so happy that this means he is feeling playful and wants to do things like pinch me and touch my face (something that he KNOWS I hate) and even after telling him to stop before I wake up fully or I won't be able to fall back asleep, he keeps doing it. I had to explain to him yet again that every time I wake up, my brain immediately goes into hyperdrive with everything I could be doing instead of sleeping, and so it is really difficult for me to fall asleep in the first place, to stay asleep, and to get restful sleep. On top of that, he is one of those people who gets insanely clingy when he's sick, so I've already spent the last two days barely sleeping because he was keeping me up with the struggle snuggles, wiping his nasty, snotty, sweaty face on me, and him waking me to report on his BMs every five minutes. I missed my last childbirth class because I hadn't been able to sleep at all that day due to him and had to spend that time getting the only three hours of sleep I was going to be able to get between my overnight shifts. Grr. I love him insanely but I am taking up @vino831's chant... let him live... let him live...
What a douche. I'd have sent him to sleep on the couch. Why is it that the instant men get the sniffles they turn into the biggest clingy crybabies on the planet?
I had an equally pleasant night. I get an average of about 3 hours of sleep per night because of my fiance. Last night, I woke up at midnight to use the bathroom and then came back to bed. Right after I laid down, he rolled over so he was right up against me and started snoring really loudly right in my ear. At one point, I was laying on the edge of the bed and accidentally bumped his arm (which was dangerously close to my sore boobs) and he kicked me. I also got booted for bumping his foot with mine. So, I have been up since midnight, spent the night laying on the edge of the bed, have bruised shins, and he actually had the nerve to complain about me being grumpy this morning. And then he complained that I was hogging the bed all night. I was too tired to yell at him, so I just gave him the death stare.
I sent him a message at work (he hates when I work on the garage but I didn't want to sit on my butt while DS played)
"Go to work on a saturday that I had plans?!? And I'm 39 weeks pregnant?! I'll show you... I'll go into labor organizing the Garage! BWAHAHAHAHAH!!!"
(Attached with hilarious picture that of doesn't want to upload now)
Just trying to be funny buuut still a little satisfied... I got a ton done! :-D
@MMaru ohh yeah I'd need the chant to. No way I'd let him snuggle up to me sick.
ShannonJ96 same for you. What is it wit these men effecting one of thr most sacred things to most people but ESPECIALLY for a preggo mama - sleep. Goodness knows it's going to be non existent here soon. Grumble grumble..
I still haven't seen frozen but now "Let him live" is stuck in my head to the let it go tune! I feel like some hilarious mama out there could make a video out of these situations with that song. Bwahaha!!
Let him liiiiiive....
essential to my functioning.
She's been helping this way since they came home on Valentine's Day.
I found out today that she has been feeding the babies double strong formula... the can says 1 scoop for 2oz and she has been doing 1 scoop for 1 ounce. Fortunately, I had been mixing a pitcher of formula every night before she gets here, but she would sometimes mix a bottle because "she doesn't like to wait to warm up the bottle"... I know they got a couple of her bottles today, for sure. I have no idea how many double strong bottles they got... they have both had upset stomachs, so tonight should be interesting.
No no wonder they have been crabby and screaming... I feel awful, and I'm pretty mad at her. I'm not even sure that I should have her come back to help... but I NEED the help.
***** I freaking hate formula, and if my supply were large enough I would love to exclusively pump/breastfeed. Unfortunately, things aren't working out that way so id appreciate no "you should breastfeed" comments ******
Is it worth a call to the Pedi to see if they need a couple dilute bottles to keep them hydrated?
You're doing great - it's not easy! And I've only ever had one newborn at a time!
Baby #2 - March 2017
@marshmallowfarts
@silverbulletband Oh my word, I would have been so upset! I'm glad you were able to get things worked out with your mom. I'm not sure I could get over something like that! You're absolutely right about the older generation! I'm thinking more of my grandma (she's 90). She has already told me that we're spoiling the boys because we hold them (she said this while holding one of them...) I basically told her to STFU in the nicest way possible. You can't spoil a newborn.
@Lexxilou1986 Thanks for checking in DURING YOUR INDUCTION. Hope you're doing well! My mom felt absolutely AWFUL, so I'm hoping that serves as the teaching moment for her.
The Dr office said my plan to nurse and supplement with pumped milk tonight would be OK, or I could feed as normal with correctly mixed formula. I only have enough pumped milk to MAYBE supplement/breastfeed through the night and then its back to mostly formula (MIXED CORRECTLY). I'm keeping my eyes peeled for signs of dehydration and will bring them in to the hospital if either is showing signs.
Silver lining: Maybe this will kick start my supply into high gear and we won't have to deal with this mess ever again!
And I would kick anyone's a$$ who told you to breastfeed as their advice. Don't feel bad about giving formula! I had major mom guilt when I had to start supplementing because I wasn't producing enough, but ultimately I had a very happy healthy (fed!) baby, and I was much happier myself. This time I decided if I need to give formula again, I will do my best to save myself the guilt trip