I thought this could be a fun game. Ask your partner (or someone else if you prefer) a question about TTC and tell us the funny things they say! It'll be like "husbands say the darndest things." But obviously open to all, not just husbands
The idea for this thread was inspired by my intelligent but TTC-clueless husband, god love him. We had this text exchange after I told him an RE update about our upcoming first medicated cycle.
mr. adirat: maybe you should take a test today just in case
adirat: I only ovulated four days ago
mr. adirat: so?
adirat: how long do you think you have to wait before you can turn a pregnancy test?
mr. adirat: I don't know five days?
If you want to play, ask your partner how long it takes to turn a pregnancy test and tell us! You can also post a question for the next person to ask.
And if you have a TTC savvy partner that is OK too
Mine will ask a day or two after HIO if I'm pregnant yet. Hahahaha What makes it extra funny is that he works in the medical field. I've told him he needs to brush up on that topic a few times.
'When is the best time to have sex in order to get pregnant? 10 days prior, 5 days, 2 days prior to ovulation, the day of ovulation, 2 days after or 5 days after ovulation?'
Context: My O date was the super bowl and DH was rooting for the Falcons to win. Midway through the game, I saw the Super Bowl Babies commercial. This was our convo toward the end of the game:
Me: Oh my goodness, how awesome would it be if we had a super bowl baby?!?!? DH: That would be cool.
(About 5 minutes later at the end of the game)
DH: [In a defeated tone] Super bowl baby isn't possible now, Patriots won. Me: ?!?!?
Me: Hey babe, do you know how long the egg lasts? Fiance: A week? Me: ...no...it's up to 24hrs. Fiance: That was my second guess. Me: Okay...so how long after ovulation do we wait before a pregnancy test will turn? Fiance: Uh....3 days?
I am so amused with him right now.
**TW in Spoiler**
https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/683816 BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16 BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed. BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18 - Silver Orion Born 3/23/18 BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20
Oh this is going to be so fun to play with H. I'll have to give it a few days, but I'll report back with some of his silly answers.
For example, he once told me that he didn't want to share any news about even being pregnant with anyone until the baby was born. For real. Like he thought perhaps we could hide it for 9 months.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
I'll have to ask OH some questions later, but last week I was feeling frisky and tried to initiate some recreational GDTPT.
OH: How's your vagina?
Aurora: Great! ...wait, why?
OH: There isn't anything going on down there? (gestures toward my crotch)
Aurora: Like what??
OH: AF isn't on her way?
Aurora: Honey, I just ovulated 3 days ago!!
OH: So you're sure everything is good to go and it's not going to get messy? (mind you, he's never had a problem regardless)
Aurora: *facepalm*
Also, OH has no clue about when to test or the accuracy of HPTs. *TW* When I got KU in June with my loss, he was completely skeptical that I was because he thought it was too early to know. Turns out he was right not to get excited, but not for the right reasons.
Me: 45 OH: 42 Beloved SS: born 12/2011 TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016 **TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW** August 2016 - dx with DOR Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T May 2017 - began freezing sperm June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
You guys, my DH is no fun! I asked him 3 or 4 of these questions yesterday and he got every single one of them right! Maybe he's paying more attention than I thought...
No need for me to ask because my husband spews unsolicited nonsense about TTC constantly. Just last night he was vehement that women get pregnant outside of their fertile window all the time. I was like uhhhhh no, those women just don't know when they're ovulating...
While talking about our upcoming medicated cycle, I asked my husband what he thought the pregnancy rate was for letrozole per cycle. He said, "It's gotta be at least fifty percent right?"
@jess0211 What really drives me nuts about that particular falshood is that they believe that because some useless sex ed teacher gave them the scare tactic, "girls can get pregnant at any point during their cycle, even during their period." I remember thinking even back in fifth grade that that assertion made absolutely no sense. Obviously as I aged I figured out that it was complete bullshit, but some people never unlearn that nonsense. This is what is wrong with sex ed in America! I really hope they've fixed it since I went through, though I doubt it.
Anywho, H is no fun anymore. After visits to the RE, he's got most of the basics covered. Before, basically every time after we had sex he would look at me and go: "Babay?" He would also use, "maybe your pregnant" in a really excited voice any time I mentioned anything being out of the ordinary physically. Umm, no. It doesn't work like that.
I was telling DH about my cycle frustrations. At this point, I'm at CD33 with no signs of ovulation or AF. His response? "Maybe there's a baby in there." I proceed to explain that I haven't ovulated, so that's impossible. He tries to tell me that "maybe your body is different" and that's why I haven't seen a temp shift. Cue lesson on BBT and accepted/not accepted variances. In the end, he decided "I'm going to choose to believe there might be a baby in there."
I love his optimism and how much he wants this, but I'm so upset with this cycle and him denying what's happening just makes me feel more lost and alone. Meh. FX I see AF soon before I go crazy. Or worse, DH has me thinking I might actually be KTFU this cycle.
Why do I pee on a stick? -"To see if you are ovulating or pregnant."
When can I take a pregnancy test? "Well, I have to know when you got your period. Like a month from then."
Why do I take my temperature? "To know if you ovulated yet. But you don't really know your body because you don't know when you'll ovulate. We should just do it every day." (He doesn't like that my ovulation ranges.)
What day is it in my cycle? "I think like two weeks?" (He normally wouldn't know, but this AF was the worst.)
What does EWCM mean? "It means you're in your fertile window. That stuff is gross."
He was 100% correct, but my irregularity confuses him. Usually he picks up on ovulation because I get emotional and cry about something. The MC has thrown his sleuthing abilities off! There is hope for them all though, because a few months ago he was just like, "I don't care and I don't want to know. We should just relax and do it a lot."
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Re: Game Time: Ask Your Partner about TTC
He knows way too much
Ask your DH, Why do I take ovulation strips? What do they test?
Me: 36 DH: 41
'Yes'
'Dammit H!'
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
DF: mmm about 500 ?
Me:
Df: What ? How many ?
Me: *head slap*
Df: How many ?
Me: Educate yourself
Me 27 DF 44
TTC post VR Sept 21/16
SA 6 weeks post op 50.7 mil count 40% motility
Me: Nope
DH: why not?
Me: AF is due now and PG test was negative.
DH: ???
Me: Oh my goodness, how awesome would it be if we had a super bowl baby?!?!?
DH: That would be cool.
(About 5 minutes later at the end of the game)
DH: [In a defeated tone] Super bowl baby isn't possible now, Patriots won.
Me: ?!?!?
Fiance: A week?
Me: ...no...it's up to 24hrs.
Fiance: That was my second guess.
Me: Okay...so how long after ovulation do we wait before a pregnancy test will turn?
Fiance: Uh....3 days?
I am so amused with him right now.
**TW in Spoiler**
BFP 6/30/16, MC 8/21/16
BFP 05/04/17, 5/10/17 Emergency LAP due to ectopic. Right tube removed.
BFP 07/12/17, ECDD 03/25/18 - Silver Orion Born 3/23/18
BFP 09/30/19, EDD 06/11/20
For example, he once told me that he didn't want to share any news about even being pregnant with anyone until the baby was born. For real. Like he thought perhaps we could hide it for 9 months.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
OH: How's your vagina?
Aurora: Great! ...wait, why?
OH: There isn't anything going on down there? (gestures toward my crotch)
Aurora: Like what??
OH: AF isn't on her way?
Aurora: Honey, I just ovulated 3 days ago!!
OH: So you're sure everything is good to go and it's not going to get messy? (mind you, he's never had a problem regardless)
Aurora: *facepalm*
Also, OH has no clue about when to test or the accuracy of HPTs. *TW* When I got KU in June with my loss, he was completely skeptical that I was because he thought it was too early to know. Turns out he was right not to get excited, but not for the right reasons.
Beloved SS: born 12/2011
TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
**TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
August 2016 - dx with DOR
Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
May 2017 - began freezing sperm
June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/6259ba
July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks
Doh.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
Anywho, H is no fun anymore. After visits to the RE, he's got most of the basics covered. Before, basically every time after we had sex he would look at me and go: "Babay?" He would also use, "maybe your pregnant" in a really excited voice any time I mentioned anything being out of the ordinary physically. Umm, no. It doesn't work like that.
Married 9/26/15
TTC 2/10/17 - BFP 5/5/17 - EDD 1/11/18
I was telling DH about my cycle frustrations. At this point, I'm at CD33 with no signs of ovulation or AF. His response? "Maybe there's a baby in there." I proceed to explain that I haven't ovulated, so that's impossible. He tries to tell me that "maybe your body is different" and that's why I haven't seen a temp shift. Cue lesson on BBT and accepted/not accepted variances. In the end, he decided "I'm going to choose to believe there might be a baby in there."
I love his optimism and how much he wants this, but I'm so upset with this cycle and him denying what's happening just makes me feel more lost and alone. Meh. FX I see AF soon before I go crazy. Or worse, DH has me thinking I might actually be KTFU this cycle.
*Okay, bye again!*
When can I take a pregnancy test? "Well, I have to know when you got your period. Like a month from then."
Why do I take my temperature? "To know if you ovulated yet. But you don't really know your body because you don't know when you'll ovulate. We should just do it every day." (He doesn't like that my ovulation ranges.)
What day is it in my cycle? "I think like two weeks?" (He normally wouldn't know, but this AF was the worst.)
What does EWCM mean? "It means you're in your fertile window. That stuff is gross."
He was 100% correct, but my irregularity confuses him. Usually he picks up on ovulation because I get emotional and cry about something. The MC has thrown his sleuthing abilities off! There is hope for them all though, because a few months ago he was just like, "I don't care and I don't want to know. We should just relax and do it a lot."
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility