Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
wannabeamongoose
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Re: TW Tuesday Valentine's Edition
At this point, he's lucky to be alive. Like I'm not that into Valentine's Day but I do my best for him every year and he can't even remember to SAY happy Valentine's Day. He even told me the guys at work were talking about Valentine's Day and what they were getting their girlfriends/wives.
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We haven't had a Valentine's day together for 3 years...stupid military. But today I am the TW. My mother in law is overly sweet. Like so sweet, it has to be fake. She called me this morning while I was getting ready for work, and I ignored it. She left a voicemail. That was at 845a....it's 1pm and I am just now listening to it. It was this on going voicemail about happy valentines day and how she knows it must be hard with my "sweetie" not here (i dont call him that, but ok), and just on and on. I don't want to talk to her because her son hasn't told her that he's currently 1hr away from them right now or that I'm expecting. And i know she's going to ask about some stupid tshirts that his command is selling but I deleted FB and have no idea what is going on with them, and I am just not in the mood no matter how nice her intentions are, I don't want to talk to her. Yep I am the TW daughter in law.
@lahearn18 Where my MIL is concerned, I am most likely always a TW. The woman just bugs me...
The TW in my life is my neighbor. He cursed me out about my dog. He is mad that my dog barks and runs up and down his fence and he even told me to quit letting my dog pee on his fence. I was like, "dude, dogs bark! You gotta get over it." I also told him my dog is peeing on the grass near the fence, not the fence. Why does it matter anyways? It's a damn fence.
As far as the barking goes, my dog is outside a total of 15 minutes a day. There is no way his barking is that irritating. It would be different if he was outside all day barking.
Anyways, he was overreacting and being completely irrational.
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TW Award today goes to Sonnys BBQ for not having any banana pudding today. I really wanted it. I mean they only sell 2 desserts, what gives?! And no...I didn't want the peach cobbler instead! Ick!!
So, now I'm on 24 hour bedrest and missing work for the second day in a row.
sorry about yor v day blues! Hope the day has gotten better for you!
This! I don't think I would have handled either situation as nicely as you ladies.
As for my award, I give it to my prenatal vitamins. I'm about to throw them in the friggin trash. I keep forgetting to take them, and yesterday I remembered right before bed. I only took half a dose (a full dose is 4 giant horse pills) and I woke up with a throbbing headache and had massive acid reflux all morning after eating a banana, a piece of toast, and some yogurt. Literally the gentlest foods I could find. Shouldn't have caused that big of a problem. Needless to say, I'm begging my husband to let me buy some gummy vitamins.
@lap018 That is ridiculous.
@HollyGolightly09 Creepy internet hugs your way. Also, tons of happy thoughts and prayers that everything is okay.
I think I'm a TW today. Found out a good friend of mine is pregnant. Super excited for her and it will be great to have a friend with a baby about the same age as mine. But, when her husband told me, I was slightly annoyed. Not because it's taking attention from me or anything. Just that they started TTC their 3rd child 3 weeks ago and got pregnant immediately. I was annoyed that it was so easy for them when it was so hard for me. I feel like such a jerk for even having that thought.
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@LaceyC1020 Our first loss was due in December, and every year on that due date DH and I eat cupcakes, and imagine what that child would be like, since they would be 7 now. I hope you and your DH are able to have a good date tonight! I love the idea of your first baby watching over this one as they grow and develop, it's just beautiful.
The TW in my life is a former co-worker. She was fired for faking a pregnancy (for 9 months and 3 weeks) and forging documents in order to get paid FMLA benefits. Seriously deranged cray cray lady! So TW cyber stalks me over the weekend and continuously tries to send me IMs, texts, and messages that I need to keep my pregnancy a secret and make sure no one knows about it plus asking me where our new house we just bought is. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I am getting a serious creepy stalker vibe from this psycho. As in she would be the freak that you hear about on the news that kills someone to steal their baby psycho.
Needless to say I have blocked her from my social media accounts and she is barred from entering our work building already due to her attacking one of my male colleagues the day after she was fired. Definitely a little freaked out by the crazy lady.
@lap018 you're mil is a special kind of someone...smh.
@LaceyC1020 hugs today
@HollyGolightly09 oh hell no...damn spotting!! Did you get punched in the cervix by the wand? That makes me spot on occasion...
@Aly0430 it's always easier to apologize than ask for permission...go buy yourself some gummies!!
**TW**
Losses:
#1: 8wks MMC 4/16
#2: 13+4 T21 + Hydrops 3/17
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@daniellelynette I would be furious. Buy yourself a nice big Valentine's day present next year instead of continuing to get gifts for someone who can't be bothered to remember!!
@JNR6510
what a lunatic
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
I don't understand how mothers can do crap like that... I mean I hope to GOD I don't do anything like that to DS's future gf/wife/baby mama. I don't want to be the crazy mil...
@Texafornian that gif almost made me pee myself!!
@JNR6510 Definitely stay away from that lady. She really does sound cray cray!!!
I think a baby shower isn't bad for a third child, as long as its the first of that sex. My cousin had one for her first girl even though she had had two boys, because she didn't have any girl clothes, etc. Or maybe it would be okay if it had been like 5+ years since her last child and had gotten rid of a lot of baby stuff. But I can understand if she already had a lot of the normal stuff and had a boy and a girl, it would be kind of unnecessary at that point.
@HollyGolightly09 FX the spotting goes away and doesn't come back!
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She needs to seek professional help. That is not normal.