Weekly Randoms - Week of 2/6

SpongeWorthy · February 2017

Random chatter for the week of 2/6.

SpongeWorthy · February 2017

Would anyone be interested in a thread for setting up the more practical financial stuff for baby? Setting up wills, life insurance, college savings plans, etc?

PurplePumpernickel · February 2017

SpongeWorthy said:

Would anyone be interested in a thread for setting up the more practical financial stuff for baby? Setting up wills, life insurance, college savings plans, etc?

YES. I was just thinking about a college savings plan yesterday.

theweevee · February 2017

I'm telling my boss today. I'm super nervous. Fingers crossed for me please!

oheliza44 · February 2017

@SpongeWorthy I think that thread would be great!

@theweevee FX telling your boss goes smoothly!

tuxielove93 · February 2017

@theweevee Fingers and toes!

@SpongeWorthy I probably won't personally participate much, but it would be great to read the advice of everyone on that thread. I'm just not there yet. But I think the thread is a great idea!

postywiththemosty · February 2017

@theweevee FX and toes! Best of luck!

@SpongeWorthy I think that would be a great resource if there are people that know about that kind of thing! I realized this weekend that I'm excited about baby, but also very afraid. I can't even figure out why. The only reason I came to this realization is because DH asked why I hadn't read any baby books and without thinking I told him, "Because it will make it all real." Don't get me wrong, we yearned for this baby, but now I'm kind of like... whoa. This is happening. I think we both got to a point after a almost a year of trying that we didn't think it would or could happen. I need to get my head in the game!

Edit to time frame

LuLiLaEv · February 2017

So I'm off today and I spent the whole morning cleaning the house. I knew I shouldn't spend the money (or eat McDonalds) but dammit I wanted a cheeseburger! When I got up to the window to pay their whole credit card system went down and I got it for FREEE!!

postywiththemosty · February 2017

@LuLiLaEv I know people hate hashtags and they have no purpose on this board, but in my book that is:

#WINNING

Flame suit activated.

tuxielove93 · February 2017

@maybeitsmadeline **TW** Still doesn't feel real all the time to us either. It's getting better with the baby moving and the bump. I'm also PGAL, so I think in a lot of ways I'm not going to entirely believe I'm really getting my baby until I get my baby. I had a loss at 5 weeks, but it was unexpected, and the loss happened a day after the positive test. It was just such a whirlwind of emotions, but I dove right in immediately. We looked at baby stuff that night, and then lost the baby the next day. With this one, I've been so cautiously optimistic.

postywiththemosty · February 2017

@kerils I'm so sorry that happened to you! I can't even imagine. We've been fortunate not to have dealt with that and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. That's been my fear though. That exact scenario. I'm 100% trusting in God that whatever is supposed to happen will, but I'm honestly the most scared of never getting to raise my child.

I've said in other posts that my mom was an L&D nurse so I've grown up hearing horror stories and every scenario you could imagine. I have to wonder if that's why I'm feeling exactly the same as you. Cautiously optimistic. It's a great way to describe it. You and I are on the same wavelength today! I seriously get so much support from this board that it makes me sane and tolerable at home. Lol.

MrsN092714 · February 2017

How did you ladies decide whether or not to find out the sex? We didn't find out with my first and It was torture, but fun at the same time. Our anatomy scan is 3 week s away and I was set on being team green again up until recently. Now I'm finding myself flopping back and forth by the minute. We have names set for both, have a neutral theme picked out for the nursery, and besides picking up a few girly sleepers we wouldn't need anything, we bought everything neutral last time! The only reason to find out would be to know (which sounds weird) and I know that if we did know I wouldn't want to tell anyone. My husband is fine either way and says it's up to me.

Has anyone found out with one baby and not with another? How did you decide to be green or find out?

ginger1228 · February 2017

LuLiLaEv said:

So I'm off today and I spent the whole morning cleaning the house. I knew I shouldn't spend the money (or eat McDonalds) but dammit I wanted a cheeseburger! When I got up to the window to pay their whole credit card system went down and I got it for FREEE!!

Uhh this happened to me once and of course I had no cash. I was basically told "too bad" and didn't get my breakfast sandwich! I was sooo mad. They could have told me "cash only" before I waited in the drive thru. The cashier even took my debit card before telling me it wasn't working that day! I rarely have cash on me but now do my best to have cash just in case.

LuLiLaEv · February 2017

@MrsN092714 We were Team Green with DD. I loved it and would've done it again except I promised my husband last time that if he let us be team green we could find out with the next one and he made me keep it!

It's nice knowing I'm having another girl for all of the preparation. We bought all gender neutral last time too, but knowing I don't have to get clothes/boy things, decorating the nursery etc is nice.

It just feels weird this time knowing that she's a girl. Like obviously I'm looking forward to her birth and her being here, but it's just going to be like "OK, she's here"

I struggle with feeling connected to the baby while pregnant and I thought maybe knowing the sex and calling her by her name would make me feel more connected but so far it hasn't.

I guess all that's to say that I am glad we found out since planning wise it's easier on me, but I really enjoy the anticipation of not knowing and the excitement of getting to announce to everyone.

MrsN092714 · February 2017

@lulilaev My H made me promise we would this time to, then when we got pregnant he totally surprised me by not holding me to it! It would be easier if he had a strong opinion. I want to stay green, but would love if the US tech showed me a clear crotch shot letting me make my own assumption without saying anything! Lol. Maybe it's just because I'm so unsure and not having a gut instinct is making me crazy!

chiquita928 · February 2017

@MrsN092714 We found out at the AS with DS, and we will (hopefully) find out again with this one. It wasn't so much of a decision for us. We just wanted to know, so we found out. I never once felt like we missed out on something because we found out.

Edited bc omg I'm going to lose my sh*t over autocorrect...I soooooooo prefer bumping on my laptop.

ginger1228 · February 2017

I don't want to find out the sex, but I totally understand why people do. I'm super curious about it, but I like the anticipation.

I'm not sure how to tell someone how to decide for themselves. We'll probably find out for baby #2 bc that's part of my compromise for being team green with this baby!

So I haven't really had an "ohmygosh I'm having a baby" moment with this pregnancy yet. But I've had a couple worries about baby #2 that isn't even planned yet! Like I just bought a new car last summer that I love. It's the new style Honda Civic and I worry it will be cramped with two car seats (especially rear facing). And the other day I started thinking what if pregnancy #2 is twins?! We could have handled it fine this round (and not had anymore kids), but I'd have to trade in my cute new car and we can't pay for daycare for 3 kids! I love my job, so I don't want to quit. It takes a minute to remember I only have one kid on the way to worry about and to CHILL. If this sounds rambled, sorry. That's just how my brain is working when I think about it! Haha

Cynth0104 · February 2017

We found out with our first. I didn't want to but have in to my husband. This time I stood my ground and we are not finding out. Part of me is anxious about it though!

dancegurl1118 · February 2017

One of my favorite moments in life was finding out the sex of my daughter when she was born. Just the culmination of the entire pregnancy and all the emotion came in that moment and I just sobbed like the tiny baby placed on my chest. I think that's why I'm so Team Green. It's really tough and I find myself wavering but I keep going back to that moment.

mj8215 · February 2017

Re finding out - I'm glad we found out early! It helps me make it feel more "real"; and picture the baby as an actual person... and I'm not great at nor do I particularly enjoy surprises. I think this is one of those things where there is no right answer and either approach has good reasons for it, it's about what fits your personality.

BusyZee · February 2017

I thought getting into the second semester, finding out the sex of the baby and getting my energy back would make me feel more at ease. Nope. Iv been super paranoid and I don't like it. I feel like the more months that go by the more invested I am and the more careful I should be. I keep telling myself everything is not in my control but I kind of wish I didn't find everything out so soon because now my mind is wandering in scary places. I guess it's FTM thing but I'm waiting for my AS and it's making me nervous. I initially thought the NiPt was more than enough but wishful thinking!

@kerils I'm sorry you had to go through that, there's always a reason everything happens and always consider yourself lucky! I totally understand about the overly optimistic view, I'm the same way. I don't like keeping my hopes up too much but that's no way to live! We should enjoy our pregnancy!

satsumasandlemons · February 2017

We were team green with the first and agreed to find out this time with our nipt test. I'm glad we found out, I do feel like I can start to imagine the kind of family we may become or how this new person may impact our lives. I loved all the gender neutral stuff with the first pregnancy but I definitely had way more anxiety about what life would be like with a baby.

tuxielove93 · February 2017

@MrsN092714 We chose to find out for a couple reasons, most of which are personality based. For starters, I want to know everything I possibly can about my baby, so knowing the sex goes right along with that. I also really wanted to do a gender reveal party, both because I love throwing parties, and I like an excuse to get the family together. My husband is not a surprise guy, so I'm sure he wasn't much up for waiting either. I also feel more connected with the baby since getting our "probably" at the NT scan, and I hate calling the baby it. I was using he (gut feeling that is probably right) but I want to be able to call the baby by his/her name and use the right pronoun. I'm having a hard time waiting for the AS, so I don't know if I could really wait until the birth! I have at least toyed with the idea of being team green for future pregnancies, but I don't know. When in labor and during the pregnancy, I feel like if I know the babies name I can talk to him or her and interact more. It kind of puts a reality on it that I don't have otherwise, just because it's such a mystery. We got all gender neutral stuff anyways since we plan on having more kids and want to use the stuff again. Like I said, it really depends on you and your partner and your personalities. I can totally see the appeal of being team green for some people though.

star_beagle · February 2017

Cynth0104 said:

We found out with our first. I didn't want to but have in to my husband. This time I stood my ground and we are not finding out. Part of me is anxious about it though!

That's what we're doing. I don't want to know but DH does (and is a horrible secret keeper) so we'll find out this time and any future kids we will NOT be finding out.

squirttheturtle · February 2017

RE: finding out the sex. DH and I decided long before we got KU to not find out....BUT....yesterday I got the results of my Mat21 (which were completely normal & low risk!!!!) and the nurse asked me if I wanted to know and there was a split second of hesitation before I said no! I want to know, but then I'll know and I feel like the anticipation of labor and the birth will be diminished because there is no surprise at the end of it. So I can totally appreciate both sides of this spectrum. We may find out with #2 and just not tell anyone. We have also kept all our names top secret and haven't discussed with anyone (my BFF has been drilling for a while and I haven't cracked).

RE: feelings; I agree. Some days, I am 100% on board and not worried at all, other days I'm scared sh!tless. It seems to be the hardest for me about a week after an OB appointment and I hope that once I start to feel the baby move, that will lessen with time. Overall though, I've been pretty calm and rational about being pregnant, which is surprising since I've suffered from GAD for the last 10 years. I realized how 'lax' I've been after talking with my SIL who is so scared, anxious & nervous she is making herself sick. And DH is so excited; he loves that my bump is starting to show and that baby can hear us now so he talks to it. More than anything, having my partner be nothing but supportive has kept me sane.

tuxielove93 · February 2017

Re: labor anticipation: I didn't even think about this, but somehow sex doesn't matter much to me at labor. FTM but I'm going to be super surprised just to have my baby with me, and to see how he looks, and how he acts, and ... yeah I don't think I'm really taking away anything from the labor.

@SquirttheTurtle I have the same problem after my OB appointments, but mine is two weeks after. It seems like I get that far and then I'm convinced that something is wrong. I wish they would see me every two weeks, and I'm kind of excited for when the appointments ramp up.

squirttheturtle · February 2017

@kerils My OB has actually been seeing me every 3 weeks since the bad BP reading (every reading since has been normal). I can go in weekly for a fetal heart check if I want...it's just hard to get there once a week, otherwise I would!

tuxielove93 · February 2017

@SquirttheTurtle Please know this is a joke, but next time I go I should just not make sure I stay calm and let them get my BP. Obviously that could cause a lot of unintended consequences and I wouldn't do it, but I hate having to wait a month. I don't have an actual problem, but doctors make me so nervous that my BP is always much higher at the doctor than it is if I take it like in a store or use a home reader. They also get my weight off by a lot. I weigh myself on the Wii Fit, naked, and it can change within the same day to 4-5 pounds more at the doctor. I don't understand it, but I trust the nude reading more.

tuxielove93 · February 2017

Ice Cream PSA: I know there are a couple moms who avoid dairy during pregnancy, and for anyone else who may be interested, Ben and Jerry's just came out with TWO NEW FLAVORS for the dairy free!!! Cherry Garcia and Seven Layer Coconut Bar. I haven't tried them, I bet they aren't even in my area yet, but I'm way too excited.

BusyZee · February 2017

@kerils your a sweetheart, literally.

squirttheturtle · February 2017

@kerils LOL...I can understand this. However the high BP resulted in a 24-hr urine...confined to the house for a whole day peeing in a bucket...no bueno! I just looked on Ebay for fetal dopplers...wonder how DH would feel about that?

Also, did you see the Ben & Jerrys Oats of this Swirled? Supposed to help with breast milk production...may just need to have some on hand when we get home with baby!

https://www.scarymommy.com/ben-and-jerrys-oat-of-this-swirled-increase-breast-milk-supply/

BusyZee · February 2017

@SquirttheTurtle i saw that!

AdaByron · February 2017

I got a small container of ice cream when I went to the grocery store last weekend. I pulled it out last night to eat it, and realized it was the low-sugar kind. I was way more upset about this than I should have been.

OperaSingerMommy · February 2017

Ughhh so it's raining and my exercise class was moved to the local Boys and Girls club so we'd be inside. I parked on the busy public street in front of the club because there were no more spaces in the parking lot. As I'm getting my stroller out of the car, this older man pulls up next to me and starts screaming at me for parking in front of his house. I calmly tried to ask if this was private parking as there were no signs and it seemed like public street parking to me. He admitted that he didn't pay for the space but that if I didn't move he'd just box me in.

I was livid and wanted to call the police to prove my point but my daughter was in the car and he seemed clearly irrational so I left. I started ugly crying and ended up just going home instead of my class because I didn't want my friends to see me like that.

WHY ARE PEOPLE SO MEAN?!?!?

supermom83 · February 2017

I've been MIA for a while. My mom is suffering some dementia and she moved in with me about two weeks ago. This ish is hard. I'm exhausted daily and have been taking her to doctor appointment after doctor appointment. I guess if anything, this period has really brought to light how easy it is to take so much of life for granted. I'm feeling grateful for all the blessings I have in my life, especially this little healthy baby I'm carrying, and praying that my patience and sanity remains as I help care for my mother.

On a less depressing note, today is my birthday and I plan on consuming ungodly amounts of cake! I so wish I could drink, but alas, cake will have to do as therapy instead of booze

OperaSingerMommy · February 2017

@supermom83 I think you are a wonderful daughter for looking out for your mom like that. I'm sorry that you're going through this on top of being pregnant.

Happy birthday! Enjoy that cake!

tuxielove93 · February 2017

@SquirttheTurtle I have not, and that bucket thing sounds awful.

@OperaSingerMommy What a jerk! My husband actually got the cops called on him just because he was sitting in a public street parking spot in the car waiting for me. It was ridiculous.

@supermom83 Eat that cake! I'm glad to here you for your mom to you safely. Positive thoughts for both of you to get through this and for your family to deal with this in the best way possible. It's really amazing of you to take this on while being pregnant too.

@AdaByron I started crying because my sandwich fell apart this weekend. It didn't even fall on the floor or anything, it just slid apart on my plate. So if nothing else, you aren't as bad as me

ginger1228 · February 2017

@supermom83 - happy birthday!! I'm sorry for what you're dealing with. I took time off work to care for my mom a couple years ago after she had a massive heart attack. It was exhausting so I know a little bit of what you're going through, but I'm sure dementia is way tougher. Hang in there!

BusyZee · February 2017

Happy Birthday! @supermom83 I know how you feel about the drinking part lol

Twinkiedoll · February 2017

@supermom83 Happy birthday! Enjoy the cake. You definitely deserve it.

squirttheturtle · February 2017

Happy Birthday! Enjoy!

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