I am EXHAUSTED! Mentally, physically, emotionally.
Story time if you're interested: I think I have said before that DH is adopted. He was adopted when he was 7 and long story short, he never knew his mom and his dad didn't want him. DH was abused and his adopted parents found him through what I can only say was divine intervention. At any rate, he had a great life after 7 and never wanted to know anything about his biological parents. So last night DH got a random Facebook message from his Bio mom. WTAF?! She said that she has been looking for him his whole life and that his Bio dad "stole" him. So needless to say last night was a whirlwind. Neither DH nor I slept. He is spinning and I don't blame him. So many questions. Who is this woman? Why now? Is she real? Does she want something? Money? Kidney? Sheesh. Its crazy and these hormones can not handle. How about that for a Monday?
My dog. My freaking dog. Whyyy at 6am did you start barking? Why at 630a did you start crying to go potty when we dont wake up for ANOTHER HOUR!? and why when you have a bowl of food did you eat the cat food!?! Oh and to add insult to injury why did you roll in dirt after your bath yesterday!?! I just can't. 4 more weeks till DH is home...4 more freaking weeks.
@DPandMB damn, that's some heavy stuff to get into. So sorry the timing isn't the greatest for you because, of course you need this kind of stress in your life right now! Hopefully this can get resolved quickly!!!
@DPandMB Wow that's heavy! I hope everything works out okay.
Mine is definitely more minor. I live in Canada in the snow belt. It snowed all weekend. People STILL don't bother clearing the snow off the tops of their cars and it's such a hazard for other drivers! Don't be so damn lazy!
@cmar1006 and @MyNamesTaken yes it is heavy stuff. I just feel so bad for DH. He had such a rough start and this definitely brings up some bad memories. He is also so cautious of his parents. He doesn't want to hurt their feelings. I keep trying to tell him they wont feel that way. He of course called his mom as soon as he got the message.
@MyNamesTaken I HATE snow. Maybe that should be my UO.
@DPandMB Holy crap... that's insane... I hope her motives are good. I really hope she's telling the truth, that's so crazy. I hope everything turns out okay!!
My bitchfest. Sorry if this turns into a novel, which it probably will. DH's dad. He hasn't even tried to see DS since he was born. He saw him once in the hospital and DH had to ask him three times to hold him. The first two times he said no. DH ran away from his dad when he was 16 and went to live with his mom. That's a loooong story but basically his dad was emotionally abusive and controllling and broke DH's phone so he couldn't talk to his mom, which was the only thing he asked for on his birthday. He always told DH, who is naturally thin, that he wasn't good enough and he needed to work out more and that he didn't have enough muscle.. it took me over a year to get DH to wear a short sleeve around me. (Side note... when DHs parents got divorced, his dad took everything, including custody, and told the kids who were 9 and 11 that their mom went to follow Satan. Not kidding.) Anyway. DHs dad can't get over himself no matter how many times DH apologizes for being a stupid teenager and not thinking about the consequences of his actions. Does any 16 year old though? Also, a few years ago on Father's Day, DH and I went to his sisters house, and her husband asked if DH was going fishing with him and DH's dad. DH never got an invite to go fishing with his own dad on Father's Day.
ANYWAY. We didn't hear from him on DS's birthday, but a few days ago (weeks after DS's birthday..) DH's grandparents texted and said that DH's dad dropped off birthday presents for DS at their house. Like for real? He was in town and didn't even bother to try to see his grandson. Idk why this bothers me so much, he's the one missing out. I just don't want someone so half assed in DS's life. One day he's gonna want to know who this grandpa is who drops presents off at his great grandparents house but he's never actually met... it makes me so mad. DH tries to act like it doesn't hurt but he's always asking me how a father can do that to his son. He said one time to me about DS and being a father.. "There is nothing he could ever do that would make me love him any less."
Also, on top of strep, DS now has hand foot and mouth. It's been a long freakin two weeks and I'm ready for my baby to stop being sick
@DPandMB That is alot to take in. Good luck to you and your DH with everything!
I am crabby because DH decided to go take a class over my birthday weekend (the class also continues through the weekend after Valentine's so I don't get that holiday either). We had plans already and everything, but he cancelled them to get a new certificate for work.
@daniellelynette and @JNR6510 Thank you. Its been a crazy day too. I swear its like an episode of Jerry Springer. I swear something crazier comes out with every new message from his bio mom and half sister.
Sorry you are going through that too @daniellelynette . I understand that feeling. DD's bio mom does some shady stuff like that. I have no clue how any parent can be that way toward their kids. @JNR6510 that totally sounds like something my DH would do. I'm sorry. Maybe plans for after Valentines?
I had a horrible time at my inlaws yesterday to watch the superbowl. My DD is one of 4 girl cousins and they are 2, 3, 5 and 6 and they just constantly fight with each other when they play together. I'd rather clean toilets for a week than get these girls together to play. So while my husband played drinking games with his siblings and kicked back to watch the game, I got stuck playing mediator for the girls the entire time. Naturally I flipped out on him the second we got to the car. "DID YOU HAVE A GOOD TIME? OH GOOD, IM SO GLAD." He thinks I should just let them fight with each other and im like why?? So our DD can come crying to me every 5 minutes while you still sit back and enjoy yourself?? Over it.
My desk is the central desk at work- like 5 people decided to bring in treats to share today (left on my desk) which is super sweet but because of my food allergies I cant eat a single thing -so all freaking day I've had donuts and cookies looking me in the eyes doing a little samba dance and taunting me. I texted my husband that dont care that its negative eleventy billion outside- We're getting DQ because dammit I've earned it.
@Souptin i guess you dont want to hear that its 70 degrees out where i am. And i would have moved the treats off my desk with a big I HAVE FOOD ALLERGIES side eye.
@DPandMB Wow, thats intense. I really hope she has good intentions!
@daniellelynette That's really frustrating. My DH has a grandfather very much like that, and no one in the family really gets it. He's pretty much out of everyone's lives, including all three of his kids from his first marriage, all grand and great-grandchildren, etc, but is the perfect, model father to his daughter from his second marriage. (Whose mom when to high school with my mil. Yeah, it's weird.) But DH has always said shelving, caring people in his life more than made up for his absent grandfather. I hope that is true of your kids as well!
@amandarene112 that sounds so similar, DHs dad is the best dad to his two step daughters and perfect grandpa to his three grandsons from DHs sister. It's annoying. Luckily, DH's mom is a SAINT, and she has an amazing husband (DS has his middle name) the only really crappy part is that we live in Wyoming , DHs dad lives an hour away from us, but his mom and stepdad live in New York they used to live in Colorado but she got an AMAZING job offer at a hospital, and she's going back to school completely paid for to get her masters. I LOVE my MIL. I wish they were closer. Also, my dad has taken DH in and takes him fishing and stuff, my grandpa did too before he passed away, he apparently told my grandma after they met Steven, "Someone (his dad) neglected him along the way." When grandpa got sick he gave DH his bow and all of his stuff from Korea. My family loves him so that helps. My sister treats him more like a brother than his own sister. I just love him so much, I'm happy my family took him in. He needed it.
Sorry that turned into a novel, I get sentimental and emotional talking about this stuff and then I can't shut up. Lol.
and hugs to you @DPandMB and @daniellelynette ! First trimester is a tough time to be going through heavier stuff.
I'm adopted myself and have had some issues with birth parents. I try to keep in mind that the more family that loves and supports us in our lives the better, but that if people aren't going to be loving and supportive they don't get to be part of our lives. Tough boundaries to have sometimes!
Sable Married to David 3/22/14 Mommy to my angel Ella Lynne born into heaven 8/24/15 Started TTC again October 2016 BFP on 1/6/17!
I switched OB/Midwife offices today. No one called me back on Friday or through lunch today, so I cancelled my next two appointments and moved. I have zero patience with OB offices this time around.
@daniellelynette, I can kinda commiserate about half assed people in our kids' lives. For the first 3 years of DS' life, my ILs lived right in town with us and never ever offered to come visit, babysit, etc. Unless we offered to visit, the only time we saw them was for his birthday (not guaranteed, literally none of them showed up to his 2nd birthday party) or the holidays. And they actually had the nerve to get mad about it. My MIL is still like that but my FIL really stepped it up the past couple of years (they're divorced). I can't imagine not being in my grandchild's life! It made me so angry. Anyway, creepy internet hugs for you. And I hope your LO feels better soon!
@DPandMB WOW... I can't even imagine. My DHs bio mom tried to contact him last year, and it really threw him. He knows who she is (she just left when he was 2) so I can't even imagine how your DH feels. And you are right... WAY too heavy for your pregnant self!
@daniellelynette I'm sorry your LO is still sick.. hand foot and mouth sucks! I've also heard it can be dangerous for pregnant women, so you may want to talk to your Dr. (Of course you may already know that, and I don't mean to sound bossy or alarm you, I would just hate to NOT say something.)
@Sprite2012 I don't blame you! This is one Dr I insist on being 100% happy with... Drs, staff, and office in general. I drive over an hour but I LOVE that Drs office.
I feel like I bitch about the same thing every Monday. But, y'all... my mother in law is going to cause me to snap one day.
I am literally seeing red today I'm so mad. I had a trip booked to Europe. I bought trip insurance in case I got pregnant. I got my doctor to fill out their form and everything and they still won't refund me because I'm not "hospitalized". Seriously?!?! I couldn't be any more mad right now.
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@HollyGolightly09 If I ever go crazy, it will probably be due to my mother in law. I love her, and we get along well enough, but merciful heavens can she get under my skin. Whats up with you mil today?
@amandarene112 It's just her in general... we were over there yesterday. No one else can talk without her interrupting them. She told me 17 times the baby is a boy. She sends me recipes on Facebook at least twice a day, despite me not responding and reminding her I am constantly nauseated and can barely eat. And she pronounces things wrong all the time which drives me insane. (Sometime instead of sometimes... Ugh!)
@HollyGolightly09 Ugh, that sounds awful! I hate when people interrupt all the time. I know my mil will be obsessed with us having a son as well because DH is the only boy to carry on the family name. And I know she won't want to accept it if we are one and done, which we may very well be. But hey, at least all she's sending you are recipes! My mil sends me books on how to be a more godly, submissive wife. But mine is across the country (for now, anyway). I'm sorry you had to deal with that yesterday!
@HollyGolightly09 and @amandarene112 Sorry and the MIL issues. Mine isn't my MIL. It's my mom. She drives me crazy. She keeps trying to tell me what to eat and what I need to do to prepare for baby. She also likes to tell DH what he needs to do to be a better teacher, since she thinks she was the best teacher ever or something. When we were struggling with IF, she kept telling me to pray for God to heal my womb and if I prayed hard enough, things would work out. Also, there's her politics, but that's a rant for another day. I'm hoping all of our moms and MILs calm down and let us get through this process our own way.
@bridge-and-wall My mom has been really great so far, which I expected, but she does keep calling it "our baby," which really gets on my nerves. I'm not sure if it's just because I'm so hormonal, but it makes me so annoyed! Also, my mil used to say similar things about IF and prayer. Once she even implied that maybe DH and I had a "secret sin" keeping us from conceiving. Hopefully your mom will lay off soon, and honestly, I wouldn't be afraid to, respectfully, let her know if she goes to far. You're a grown woman, and she needs to let you do this on your own.
I am literally seeing red today I'm so mad. I had a trip booked to Europe. I bought trip insurance in case I got pregnant. I got my doctor to fill out their form and everything and they still won't refund me because I'm not "hospitalized". Seriously?!?! I couldn't be any more mad right now.
When is the trip planned for? if it's after so many weeks you can't fly. Will they refund it then? That's awful though. So sorry!
I cant complain about anything today. Everyone seems to be dealing with heavy stuff! Just feeling like poo today with nausea.
@HollyGolightly09 I actually didn't know it could be dangerous for pregnant women... I will call the doctors office tomorrow! I haven't even seen my new OB yet so I'm not sure what they'll say. I'm not having any symptoms at all so fingers crossed I won't get it! Thanks for telling me!!
@HollyGolightly09 I actually didn't know it could be dangerous for pregnant women... I will call the doctors office tomorrow! I haven't even seen my new OB yet so I'm not sure what they'll say. I'm not having any symptoms at all so fingers crossed I won't get it! Thanks for telling me!!
I've never heard of hand foot and mouth being dangerous for pregnant women. Fifths disease can be dangerous, which is kind of similar in that they are both rashes. I could be wrong though. I worked in a daycare while I was PG with my first and I remembered both being around but the fifths disease everyone made sure I stayed away from.
I have a friend who had a mild case when she was pregnant and she said it was awful, she also described it as miserable! I can't imagine how DS is feeling. Hopefully I don't get it...
My mom is coming to visit today til Saturday (arriving at 930pm mind you...). As excited as I am and really happy she's coming, she's a clean FREAK. I have done my best at tidying up and cleaning some stuff, but I get exhausted so quickly, I just hope it's clean enough for her - otherwise I know she will start cleaning my house and I just feel bad when she does that. Also, she wants to go to all these really really nice and awesome restaurants in town, and as much as I want to go, I am petrified I'm just gonna get sick. I'm like AHHH MOM IM PREGNANT LETS NOT MAKE LEGIT PLANS!
I am literally seeing red today I'm so mad. I had a trip booked to Europe. I bought trip insurance in case I got pregnant. I got my doctor to fill out their form and everything and they still won't refund me because I'm not "hospitalized". Seriously?!?! I couldn't be any more mad right now.
When is the trip planned for? if it's after so many weeks you can't fly. Will they refund it then? That's awful though. So sorry!
I cant complain about anything today. Everyone seems to be dealing with heavy stuff! Just feeling like poo today with nausea.
Unfortunately it's in April so I won't be far enough along. I just think it's absurd that if your doctor sends a note they can still deny you. It's such a scam
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lahern18 I just started in this office a few weeks ago so no one even knew about my allergies ( which are not life threatening..but still) I did move a bunch of stuff off and at the end of the day walked around and forced people to take the leftovers with them- who knew it would be so hard to pawn off a box of donughts?
day late and a dollar short but new bitch for the day is late yesterday afternoon I got an email from the last midwife joint in town, they are all booked up and cant take me. My edd is Sept 29th ( I didnt get my BFP until late January) and my rejections keep saying " your birth month is full" I cant help but think I should have just lied and said my EDD was Oct 1st. I REALLY wanted midwife care this spin around the moon so I'm being a big baby about it.
Morning sickness with possible flu is just cruel so thankful I was able to leave work and spend the day in bed. I don't even know the last time I was this sick.
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Story time if you're interested:
I think I have said before that DH is adopted. He was adopted when he was 7 and long story short, he never knew his mom and his dad didn't want him. DH was abused and his adopted parents found him through what I can only say was divine intervention. At any rate, he had a great life after 7 and never wanted to know anything about his biological parents. So last night DH got a random Facebook message from his Bio mom. WTAF?! She said that she has been looking for him his whole life and that his Bio dad "stole" him. So needless to say last night was a whirlwind. Neither DH nor I slept. He is spinning and I don't blame him. So many questions. Who is this woman? Why now? Is she real? Does she want something? Money? Kidney? Sheesh. Its crazy and these hormones can not handle. How about that for a Monday?
Mine is definitely more minor. I live in Canada in the snow belt. It snowed all weekend. People STILL don't bother clearing the snow off the tops of their cars and it's such a hazard for other drivers! Don't be so damn lazy!
@MyNamesTaken I HATE snow. Maybe that should be my UO.
OMG I hate people chewing. Pet Peeve.
My bitchfest. Sorry if this turns into a novel, which it probably will.
DH's dad. He hasn't even tried to see DS since he was born. He saw him once in the hospital and DH had to ask him three times to hold him. The first two times he said no. DH ran away from his dad when he was 16 and went to live with his mom. That's a loooong story but basically his dad was emotionally abusive and controllling and broke DH's phone so he couldn't talk to his mom, which was the only thing he asked for on his birthday. He always told DH, who is naturally thin, that he wasn't good enough and he needed to work out more and that he didn't have enough muscle.. it took me over a year to get DH to wear a short sleeve around me. (Side note... when DHs parents got divorced, his dad took everything, including custody, and told the kids who were 9 and 11 that their mom went to follow Satan. Not kidding.) Anyway. DHs dad can't get over himself no matter how many times DH apologizes for being a stupid teenager and not thinking about the consequences of his actions. Does any 16 year old though? Also, a few years ago on Father's Day, DH and I went to his sisters house, and her husband asked if DH was going fishing with him and DH's dad. DH never got an invite to go fishing with his own dad on Father's Day.
ANYWAY. We didn't hear from him on DS's birthday, but a few days ago (weeks after DS's birthday..) DH's grandparents texted and said that DH's dad dropped off birthday presents for DS at their house. Like for real? He was in town and didn't even bother to try to see his grandson. Idk why this bothers me so much, he's the one missing out. I just don't want someone so half assed in DS's life. One day he's gonna want to know who this grandpa is who drops presents off at his great grandparents house but he's never actually met... it makes me so mad. DH tries to act like it doesn't hurt but he's always asking me how a father can do that to his son. He said one time to me about DS and being a father.. "There is nothing he could ever do that would make me love him any less."
Also, on top of strep, DS now has hand foot and mouth. It's been a long freakin two weeks and I'm ready for my baby to stop being sick
I am crabby because DH decided to go take a class over my birthday weekend (the class also continues through the weekend after Valentine's so I don't get that holiday either). We had plans already and everything, but he cancelled them to get a new certificate for work.
Sorry you are going through that too @daniellelynette . I understand that feeling. DD's bio mom does some shady stuff like that. I have no clue how any parent can be that way toward their kids.
@JNR6510 that totally sounds like something my DH would do. I'm sorry. Maybe plans for after Valentines?
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@daniellelynette That's really frustrating. My DH has a grandfather very much like that, and no one in the family really gets it. He's pretty much out of everyone's lives, including all three of his kids from his first marriage, all grand and great-grandchildren, etc, but is the perfect, model father to his daughter from his second marriage. (Whose mom when to high school with my mil. Yeah, it's weird.) But DH has always said shelving, caring people in his life more than made up for his absent grandfather. I hope that is true of your kids as well!
Sorry that turned into a novel, I get sentimental and emotional talking about this stuff and then I can't shut up. Lol.
I'm adopted myself and have had some issues with birth parents. I try to keep in mind that the more family that loves and supports us in our lives the better, but that if people aren't going to be loving and supportive they don't get to be part of our lives. Tough boundaries to have sometimes!
Married to David 3/22/14
Started TTC again October 2016
BFP on 1/6/17!
@daniellelynette, I can kinda commiserate about half assed people in our kids' lives. For the first 3 years of DS' life, my ILs lived right in town with us and never ever offered to come visit, babysit, etc. Unless we offered to visit, the only time we saw them was for his birthday (not guaranteed, literally none of them showed up to his 2nd birthday party) or the holidays. And they actually had the nerve to get mad about it. My MIL is still like that but my FIL really stepped it up the past couple of years (they're divorced). I can't imagine not being in my grandchild's life! It made me so angry. Anyway, creepy internet hugs for you. And I hope your LO feels better soon!
@daniellelynette I'm sorry your LO is still sick.. hand foot and mouth sucks! I've also heard it can be dangerous for pregnant women, so you may want to talk to your Dr. (Of course you may already know that, and I don't mean to sound bossy or alarm you, I would just hate to NOT say something.)
@Sprite2012 I don't blame you! This is one Dr I insist on being 100% happy with... Drs, staff, and office in general. I drive over an hour but I LOVE that Drs office.
I feel like I bitch about the same thing every Monday. But, y'all... my mother in law is going to cause me to snap one day.
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I cant complain about anything today. Everyone seems to be dealing with heavy stuff! Just feeling like poo today with nausea.
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Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
day late and a dollar short but new bitch for the day is late yesterday afternoon I got an email from the last midwife joint in town, they are all booked up and cant take me. My edd is Sept 29th ( I didnt get my BFP until late January) and my rejections keep saying " your birth month is full" I cant help but think I should have just lied and said my EDD was Oct 1st. I REALLY wanted midwife care this spin around the moon so I'm
being a big baby about it.
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