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August 2017 Moms
Shan870
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Why My SO is an A-hole 1/28
Shan870
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Re: Why My SO is an A-hole 1/28
My husband has increasingly been getting on my nerves since we found out I was PG to the point where I just want him to not be around ever. I don't ask for much but the few things I ask of him (not to drink coffee around me as the smell is the one thing that makes me puke, and to not eat loud crunchy or stinky foods in front of me because it drives me bonkers right now) he keeps doing. And everytime he does I remind him I asked him not to do these two things and he either keeps saying he "forgot" or he gets all upset and sarcastic like "ohh whoops do I have to drink this downstairs again?" (him) - like I'm somehow asking him to do something completely unreasonable for a constantly nasueous and sensitive pregnant woman. I swear he does it on purpose and delights in finding new ways (that he can claim are unintentional) to push my buttons on a daily basis, like waiting to fart untill I come in the kitchen to try and eat something, or lying down beside me when I'm trying to nap and then continuously clearing his throat or shaking his leg to make the whole bed jiggle. And yet I'm the bitch when I get annoyed and tell him to stop doing that! Also he's not working at the moment so he's just ALWAYS around and I never seem to get a moment to myself which I'd really like seeing as how six months from now neither of us will get any of that for a long time.
I am considering moving into the guest bedroom for awhile but even then I'm sure he'll find some way to continuously annoy me like playing his loud techno music when I'm trying to nap or wafting his hot coffee smells inder the door.
I have been working 13 hour days this week and so housework has fallen behind, and my SO hadn't been picking up the slack like I'd hoped. Today, he was so super helpful and bought a teeny pack of TP and paper towels, which besides being an almost uselessly small amount, was practically the only thing we didn't need from the store. I got irrationally annoyed and trudged off to the store myself (after working 6 hours on this beautiful Saturday morning) and then went and had coffee with a mom friend to vent. When I came home, I felt so much better, hormonal rage had settled, and I spent an hour deep cleaning, which was very satisfying. Meanwhile, SO is still pouty that I was mad at him and that I "haven't made time for him all week then spent the day out of the house." I apologized and tried to cheer him up, but he's still giving me the silent treatment. I even made a great dinner and he totally ignored me and made himself a sandwich and ate in another room. Ugh it's so manipulative because he knows I can't help but feel bad, and he refuses to forgive me or let me make it up to him. If I give him space, he's mad/sad that I'm "ignoring" him, but if I keep doing nice things for him and try to apologize, he'll draw deeper into himself or bring up a really old fight/issue as an "you always/never _______." I just don't need this right now! I'm dealing with my own crazy, I don't need his on top of it.
Edit: a good night's sleep for both of us and we were literally laughing about our "fight" the next day.
OMG what a Twatwaffle! He can take that attitude and shove it!