I'm on baby boy #3 and I'm thrilled about it as I love my boys. I get comments all the time like, "maybe the next one will be a girl", "I'm so sorry, you must be upset to be having a third boy", "oh god, 3 boys that sounds terrible" or "you are going to have your hands so full". I always just tell people we're happy with a healthy baby regardless of its gender and we absolutely love our boys. Or it's going to be so awesome for 3 brothers to grow up so close in age together but I don't think people realize how ignorant these comments are. There are people who have trouble having babies and the fact I've been blessed with 3 I'm not going to complain about them being boys at all. I'm sure that regardless of if you have multiple girls or multiple boys you hear comments similar but how do you respond to them?
I'm on baby boy #3 and I'm thrilled about it as I love my boys. I get comments all the time like, "maybe the next one will be a girl", "I'm so sorry, you must be upset to be having a third boy", "oh god, 3 boys that sounds terrible" or "you are going to have your hands so full". I always just tell people we're happy with a healthy baby regardless of its gender and we absolutely love our boys. Or it's going to be so awesome for 3 brothers to grow up so close in age together but I don't think people realize how ignorant these comments are. There are people who have trouble having babies and the fact I've been blessed with 3 I'm not going to complain about them being boys at all. I'm sure that regardless of if you have multiple girls or multiple boys you hear comments similar but how do you respond to them?
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
@hudsons1014 ignore them! I would love to have three boys! I don't have a brother and it would be great to love a boy in a selfless way! Everyone has different preferences people are stupid seriously. My sister in law had a girl and she doesn't have any other sisters so she keeps telling me I must have a girl and that girls are the best. A healthy baby is what matters the most.
Pregnancy is a topic where everyone feels they can share their opinions, as I'm starting to learn. I just smile, but I think of some very snarky things in my head. I'm a rebel, I know.
I mostly ignore what they say but sometimes I want to slap them in the face... I think it's my hormones that get the best of me! Sometimes I'll come up with snarky things in my head too and wish I would have said them like an hour later!
I'm mainly just curious what other parents that have multiple of one sex say back to unwanted comments.
We had threads already for questions. We have threads specifically for STM+ moms. We don't like clutter because if everyone started a thread for every question that popped into their head, there would be no support. We like people to introduce themselves. If that makes us snarky when we point out that there are pinned boards and that we've never seen you before, so be it. We've had a lot of drive-bys recently that have left a horrible taste in our collective mouths...
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
@maybeitsmadeline - I'm pretty sure that photo is like 2, maybe 3 years old? (I'm on mobile, so I have NO clue what my siggy looks like - eek!) Thank you, he's a SUPER happy kiddo, we got lucky!
We had threads already for questions. We have threads specifically for STM+ moms. We don't like clutter because if everyone started a thread for every question that popped into their head, there would be no support. We like people to introduce themselves. If that makes us snarky when we point out that there are pinned boards and that we've never seen you before, so be it. We've had a lot of drive-bys recently that have left a horrible taste in our collective mouths...
I was not referring to you I was responding to @JulyBaby17 and @zara4k who were answering my question.
My name is Kate and I'm due with my third son on July 4th. I used babycenter for my first 2 pregnancies but they operate a little differently. I didn't realize that asking a question this way would rub anyone the wrong way.
We had threads already for questions. We have threads specifically for STM+ moms. We don't like clutter because if everyone started a thread for every question that popped into their head, there would be no support. We like people to introduce themselves. If that makes us snarky when we point out that there are pinned boards and that we've never seen you before, so be it. We've had a lot of drive-bys recently that have left a horrible taste in our collective mouths...
I was not referring to you I was responding to @JulyBaby17 and @zara4k who were answering my question.
My name is Kate and I'm due with my third son on July 4th. I used babycenter for my first 2 pregnancies but they operate a little differently. I didn't realize that asking a question this way would rub anyone the wrong way.
not this again...maybe go read the 'ignore this post' thread. It might provide some insight.
@ams512 - Is there a glitch in the Matrix? Because the main page says you posted something here but I can't see it.
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
@ams512 - Is there a glitch in the Matrix? Because the main page says you posted something here but I can't see it.
All her discussions and replies on her profile are gone.
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
Neither @lfk2013@PurplePoppy424 nor @Rae1 acted like a "forum don" or were being"bishes". The replies were actually pretty nice compared to what they can be for situations where someone clearly does not take the 3 minutes of time needed to see that there are already threads designated for questions like this, etc.
Each community / board / forum is run differently. This one is particular likes to keep things very organized and there are threads pinned at the top of the board to help new members understand how this particular board operates
@hudsons1014 - Welcome and congrats. Please lurk some more.
Me:28 | DH: 28 Married: 07-2014 TTC #1: Since November 2015 Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016 due to previous issues. ***TW*** BFP: 11/4/2016 *TW*
Well looks like I get to add another name or two to the post it today. FTR @zara4k, we don't take kindly to name calling the entire board. Perhaps an apology and some lurking would do you well.
Anywho, we have a 3 year old girl and now expecting a boy. I get comments like "what a perfect family!" Or "you must be SO happy."
We are happy. But we'd be equally as happy with another girl. And God knows we are far from the perfect family! I even cringe when I hear this stuff but like many others have said- I think people just feel entitled to tell pregnant women their opinions. On everything.
I never really used the word but I'm sorry! I honestly thought some of the posts were rude, and snarky. And I've been seeing a trend of snarky comments every now and then. If one person has said to be organized everyone doesn't need to chime in and say the same thing. Just my opinion, I stand by it. U don't say "who are you" and tell people where to post. This is a new topic and if someone wants to post it in a new thread i don't understand why we always have to point it out. Especially since the person is new on the forum, even when I reread the posts, the replies sound snarky to me.
I never really used the word but I'm sorry! I honestly thought some of the posts were rude, and snarky. And I've been seeing a trend of snarky comments every now and then. If one person has said to be organized everyone doesn't need to chime in and say the same thing. Just my opinion, I stand by it. U don't say "who are you" and tell people where to post. This is a new topic and if someone wants to post it in a new thread i don't understand why we always have to point it out. Especially since the person is new on the forum, even when I reread the posts, the replies sound snarky to me.
This is like a really long version of sorry, I'm not sorry.
@zara4k, you don't get to dictate our responses. See the bold above text above. As long as anyone of us stays with the TOU we are free to respond as we please. Sorry, not sorry.
If the person is new doesn't really matter so much as their ability to read. A few minutes of skimming the read this first thread would alleviate most of these incidents. If the OP doesn't bother to do that, I don't really understand why you think we owe them anything at all.
I never really used the word but I'm sorry! I honestly thought some of the posts were rude, and snarky. And I've been seeing a trend of snarky comments every now and then. If one person has said to be organized everyone doesn't need to chime in and say the same thing. Just my opinion, I stand by it. U don't say "who are you" and tell people where to post. This is a new topic and if someone wants to post it in a new thread i don't understand why we always have to point it out. Especially since the person is new on the forum, even when I reread the posts, the replies sound snarky to me.
The Bump forums have ALWAYS been known to be snarky. I don't understand why you feel the need to police things here. No one was even that snarky here! The wking is honestly just annoying.
Seriously...follow your own advice. If you don't like the snark (especially when it is not directed at you), then ignore it and move on with your life. Is it hurting you? No? Then move on with your day.
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
OMG guys - the annoying WK got the warning for once instead of us! It's a miracle!!!
also - I think asking 'who are you' is legitimate if someone comes on and posts without introducing themselves to the community or posting anywhere else. But like others have said, I don't have to justify my response to you. I can way whatever I please (within the TOU of course)
You guys are so defensive it's ridiculous. I can say what is on my mind it's my choice. You guys seriously need to calm down, I can say whatever I want if you can say whatever you want. Can we agree to that at least?
@Dcwtada I can't believe how many years it's been and I still say it all the time. Definitely over ten. Probably even fifteen. I RUN WITH TWELVE GANGS! AND WE ONLY DO HATE CRIMES!
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
You guys are so defensive it's ridiculous. I can say what is on my mind it's my choice. You guys seriously need to calm down, I can say whatever I want if you can say whatever you want. Can we agree to that at least?
Sure, but I can guarantee you that you won't make any friends while you're here and isn't that the whole point of being part of a community? Go ahead though. Keep ticking everyone off and trying to be everyone's mom. You are definitely entitled to that. Just don't be surprised when the end result is not actually what you wanted.
@zara4k dude no one here is crying. We called you out for your drama, you are the only one upset, frankly no one else really cares. Take a step back from that ledge and take a deep breath. Either contribute decent content or be prepared to get called out - it's that simple.
Re: Third baby, all the same sex
Hey, @hudsons1014, I noticed you were new around here. Congrats on your baby. We have a Weekly Randoms thread (https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12699760/randoms-2-0#latest) that would be suited for this question, or in the STM+ check in.
We'd love to have you introduce yourself to us in the Introductions thread (https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12693017/introductions-edd#latest). Also, I highly recommend reading the Read This First thread (https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12693019/read-this-first#latest), which will give a little more information on our group.
Again, congrats.
my happy boy
Me: 26 Him: 27
Dating: 5/2011 Married: 6/2014
Mirena out/TTC: 02/2016
BFP #1: 12/01/2016
EDD: 07/24/2017
I'm mainly just curious what other parents that have multiple of one sex say back to unwanted comments.
my happy boy
My name is Kate and I'm due with my third son on July 4th. I used babycenter for my first 2 pregnancies but they operate a little differently. I didn't realize that asking a question this way would rub anyone the wrong way.
Nobody was even rude. Your WK-ing is getting really old.
Neither @lfk2013 @PurplePoppy424 nor @Rae1 acted like a "forum don" or were being"bishes". The replies were actually pretty nice compared to what they can be for situations where someone clearly does not take the 3 minutes of time needed to see that there are already threads designated for questions like this, etc.
Each community / board / forum is run differently. This one is particular likes to keep things very organized and there are threads pinned at the top of the board to help new members understand how this particular board operates
@hudsons1014 - Welcome and congrats. Please lurk some more.
Married: 07-2014
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
*TW*
We are happy. But we'd be equally as happy with another girl. And God knows we are far from the perfect family! I even cringe when I hear this stuff but like many others have said- I think people just feel entitled to tell pregnant women their opinions. On everything.
@zara4k, you don't get to dictate our responses. See the bold above text above. As long as anyone of us stays with the TOU we are free to respond as we please. Sorry, not sorry.
If the person is new doesn't really matter so much as their ability to read. A few minutes of skimming the read this first thread would alleviate most of these incidents. If the OP doesn't bother to do that, I don't really understand why you think we owe them anything at all.
also - I think asking 'who are you' is legitimate if someone comes on and posts without introducing themselves to the community or posting anywhere else. But like others have said, I don't have to justify my response to you. I can way whatever I please (within the TOU of course)
seriously one one of my favorite gifs! My husband and I use this against each other more often than I care to admit.
Name calling, any name calling, is not really the best way to make your argument.
Andplusalso I'm not the one calling people names so I don't need to calm down.