I know we decided to hold off on the group during the last discussion awhile back. Now that we're entering the third tri I was wondering if we are ready to start it up? MOTN threads will be picking up soon as the third tri insomnia kicks in. More babies will be arriving before we know it. Personally I find FB an easier communication platform than TB. But I know not everyone feels that way and we will still use TB.
My J13 BMB started our FB about this time and we are going strong over 4 years later so I feel like we're ready.
Maybe someone one could start a poll to see where everyone stands. I'm willing to help get the group up and running if need be.
I'm ready. The Bump isn't user friendly for me. The full site lags so badly I can barely read threads and the app won't let me start threads. I'm sure not everyone has my technical problems, but still.
I personally don't feel the need for it, but I've not been through this rodeo before. That being said, I'd join. I do think we have a pretty solid group of regs now.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
We have such a small group, I'd feel comfortable. I think I recognize most of the regulars around here. I'm happy to help start it if that's what peeps decide.
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
I haven't had a Facebook in... three years now? I either deleted it or deactivated it. So unless you guys are okay with adding a re-activated account with no history for the past three years, or a brand spanking new account, I won't be migrating over to FB with you ladies.
I'm not totally sure if I want a Facebook group. But, I guess I am willing to give it a try if that is the only way to communicate with everyone. But, fair warning, I generally try to keep Facebook a place for people I actually know irl. So, I will give it a try, but might decide to delete it.
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
I am in as well. Again, pref regulars, at the risk of sounding exclusionist. Also I do hope we keep up some of the regular threads here. I especially like ticker changes to know where everyone is and how we're doing.
I'm not totally sure if I want a Facebook group. But, I guess I am willing to give it a try if that is the only way to communicate with everyone. But, fair warning, I generally try to keep Facebook a place for people I actually know irl. So, I will give it a try, but might decide to delete it.
This is how I feel...nothing personal to any of the ladies here.
I'm in! I think the best way to keep it to regular posters only is to make it a closed group and require approval to join. I don't think its exclusionary, personally - if someone hasn't been active on this site for the past 6 months, I would question why they now want to be active on another platform.
Isnt there a way we could all all be in a group but not necessarily friends? So we only see what people post in the groups? Have one person be the admin/add people as friends. They add us to the group and then delete as friends (if that is what the group wanted?)
I'd be in (and I'm not sure I'm really a regular), but only after the babe arrives. I've actually not said anything on FB and now I kind of want to keep it that way until there's an actual baby. Would you accept people more at the birth date?
@wagnerw yes you do not have to be friends with anyone in the group. You will need to friend the admin to be added the once you are in the group you can unfriend them. No one will need to see you private info.
I tend to think that The Bump works better until all of the babies are born. I find people being to "fall off" the board once LO is here because (obviously) time demands are different. That's when the FB group becomes easier. I find it harder to manage FB and The Bump at the same time, especially when we will post birth announcements here and what not. I agree that regulars would be preferred in the FB group, but it might work "better" after the babies are here. I am a part of the February 13 moms FB group (it's still active, but fairly slow).
I second everyone else who said they still want TB to be active! There are some members who don't have FB or just don't feel comfortable joining the FB group and I'd still like to be in contact with them and keep up with them.
I'm in too but, I think the FB group should be closed (at some point in time once all babies are here) and more importantly, private. I actually only use facebook for my private groups. From experience, with my J15 ladies, it gets WAY personal with internet strangers so, I wouldn't want my IRL world and A17 world to mix. If that makes any sense.
Totally agree with a closed facebook group, from the start, actually. I think they should have to ask for access here first...should screen some randoms out.
We started our facebook group (March 2014 Moms) I think around this time. Our group is 100% closed for the reasons everyone mentioned above. I am far more active in the facebook group and the group is still pretty active. What's nice about facebook is you can adjust your settings to get updates or not, so people can be as active as they want.
I'm good with either way. I would just say that if we do a FB group, I hope we can keep bumpin'.....I can't FB at work but I check in on the bump several times a day normally to try and keep up with where everyone is at and how everyone feels.
I sort of second what everyone else has already said. I'm good with joining a Facebook group whenever it's up and running, and I appreciate the privacy settings being in place and the screening for randos.
With the FB group, it would be private so no one would see any postings except in the group ( I think someone mentioned they didn't want their pregnancy on FB until baby was born, so that should help with that). Also, you don't have to be FB friends with anyone from the group, so your profile is still private (depending on your security settings of course). When my N14 made theirs, they had like 3 admins who would screen requests made from the bump, and then you were either accepted or not. I think having a cut off time would be good, like when all the babies are born to prevent any randoms from requesting.
You can create a secret, closed group and add people by their email address (have them pm it to the people that will be admins). You do not have to be FB friends with people in group unless you want to. Since it is secret, closed group...no one can find the group or see anything posted except those in the group.
This is what I did last August...I started and have been in a FB April 2017 Due Date group since then and it's been great...about 40 of us from around the country and world.
I'm not a regular on here (so I don't expect FB group invite) but I do enjoy the bump April 2017 boards and I lurk often and post once in awhile so I hope it stays active.
@ashleym112 Yes, I'd be fine if it is a secret group (I think you may need to friend an admin to get into a secret-only group, though people with concerns can always unfriend after). If you can add people by email that's fantastic. My concern was with a closed group where you can see who joins and is a member, and I didn't really want to join "April 2017 Expectant Moms" or whatever as my pregnancy announcement.
@ashleym112 Yes, I'd be fine if it is a secret group (I think you may need to friend an admin to get into a secret-only group, though people with concerns can always unfriend after). If you can add people by email that's fantastic. My concern was with a closed group where you can see who joins and is a member, and I didn't really want to join "April 2017 Expectant Moms" or whatever as my pregnancy announcement.
I don't think you it shows up on your reg FB newsfeed that you're in or when you join, but I can check on that. I totally get that though, that was also concern for me when I first joined my first bmb's one. You can immediately de-friend the admin once you're in or vice versa. The big thing will be picking 2-3 people we trust here to facilitate this and who don't mind friending and then de-friending people after a day or two.
@WkoutMomtoBe I recognize you enough that I'd let you in...
I definitely vote for a secret group over a private one. I'd also say we keep accepting people until maybe the first or second week in May, to account for any late births for anyone who doesn't want to join until their baby is born.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
Re: FB group. Are we ready?
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
PS. You guys will see ALL the baby pics and big brother pics so beware!
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
DD Born 5.9.12
MC March 2016@8.5w
Expecting #2 4/30/17
Isnt there a way we could all all be in a group but not necessarily friends? So we only see what people post in the groups? Have one person be the admin/add people as friends. They add us to the group and then delete as friends (if that is what the group wanted?)
DD: 6/20/11
DS: 2/23/13
EDD: 4/15/17
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
This is what I did last August...I started and have been in a FB April 2017 Due Date group since then and it's been great...about 40 of us from around the country and world.
I'm not a regular on here (so I don't expect FB group invite) but I do enjoy the bump April 2017 boards and I lurk often and post once in awhile so I hope it stays active.
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
I'm suspicious but I'll try it out.
I definitely vote for a secret group over a private one. I'd also say we keep accepting people until maybe the first or second week in May, to account for any late births for anyone who doesn't want to join until their baby is born.
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
Me 31, DH 32, Married 08/08
02/13/15-HSG-All Clear
ER 02/05-20 Retrieved - 11 Matured, 9 Fertilized, ET 2/10 (1 Transferred, 4 Frz) - BFP 2/19, M/C-3/5-Trisomy 16
ER 07/14-14 Retrieved,11 Matured, 10 Fertilized, ET 07/19 (2 Transferred, 6 Frz), BFP 7/28, 8/16 U/S-TWINS!
Due Date - April 6, 2017 UPDATED March 23, 2017!