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Baby Boy: coming March 2017
FFFC
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Sorry if someone was planning on posting this...I didn't see one so I thought I'd start it.
My Friday confession is that I wore jeans to school today. Our faculty always wears jeans for special days like field trips, parties, half-days, etc. But today I'm feeling tired and crampy and constipated and getting dressed isn't fun anymore, so I threw on my comfy jeans and headed to school. Zero F's were given.
What do you want to confess today?
My Friday confession is that I wore jeans to school today. Our faculty always wears jeans for special days like field trips, parties, half-days, etc. But today I'm feeling tired and crampy and constipated and getting dressed isn't fun anymore, so I threw on my comfy jeans and headed to school. Zero F's were given.
What do you want to confess today?
Baby Boy: coming March 2017
Re: FFFC
@npaulie me too, I'm so lazy I've definitely been skipping on my oral hygiene. I am getting my teeth cleaned next week though so hopefully the hygienist doesn't yell at me too much.
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
I have a similar FFFC: I spent $170 + tip on a prenatal massage at a fancy spa yesterday. I, too, did not tell my husband before making the splurge (told him I was getting a massage but I'm pretty sure he didn't think that's what it would cost!) I never get massages and have been feeling miserable, although I'm sure I could have gotten a cheaper one elsewhere. It was sooooo nice to feel pampered at the fancy place though.
- I'm the financially responsible one in my family, so I do get annoyed when DH splurges and can empathize with how he might feel with your splurge. BUT over our 5 years of marriage we've gotten better about communicating and budgeting so that such events are more limited and he only gets stuff he really wants and will use. So... will you use and LOVE this purse? Or is it going to keep sitting in the closet, especially with baby on the way (I'm not sure from your description if it is something you'd use as a diaper bag or not)? I was taught to think of all clothing and gear purchases as $1 per day. Those pants are $55--will I wear them at least 55 times? That camera is $200--will I use it at least 200 times? That backpack is $70--will I use it at least 70 times? Mentally, that helps me a lot. Sometimes I am TOTALLY gung-ho about wearing a $30 shirt 30 times, and sometimes I'm like "meh this is going to be boring after the 4th wear" and I can put it back on the rack.
- Your username has Burrberry in it so I have automatically envisioned you with fancy purses... haha.
- I know my sister-in-law convinced her husband to buy her a fancy purse as a "push-present" after she gave birth to their baby. Apparently "push presents" are a fad now. I think that's pretty silly, but as the soon-to-be-pusher, I figure I might as well take advantage of it.
- The lying to your husband part is probably going to be a burden on you though. See if you can fess up and talk to your husband about it... but if you didn't actually want/love the purse enough to face that conversation, maybe it's a sign to return it.
- Babies are a huge new cost, but have you had your baby shower yet? Maybe a lot of the stuff you think you need for the nursery will soon be gifted to you.
- Aren't you sort of allowed to be selfish at this period of your life? Carrying a baby involves a lot of giving up and sacrifice. For example, I really miss wine and am growing tired of this ever-stretching, uncomfortable belly. I think being able to imagine your physical pain makes me more inclined to say "friend, you deserve a fancy purse!"
As you can tell, I see points for both keeping and for returning the purse. So while this is not helpful for persuading you either way, maybe it will provide you with enough food for thought to help the decision process anyway.
*TW* - BFP & MC in March 2016.
BFP in June 2016; EDD March 2017.
Samuel born February 2017!
This is my second LO so there will be no baby shower. Basically the reason for the purse choice was because I'm having a hard time with my big purse being too heavy for me and I wanted something smaller to carry around with 2 kids. I usually use my bags until they start to wear and tear, and this would be my every day bag. The lying is what is making me want to return it.. I can't face the conversation and I never had felt the need to lie to him before about anything especially something I purchased.. So this may eat at me.
I did think to myself though.. A new house. Another baby. This is probably the very last purchase I will make for myself in a long while. That's when I walked to the cash.
Im gonna cash in my two cents, as it were as well. Your husband can help you decide whether or not to keep it- talk to him! Tell him what you told us, it sounds like the purchase impacted you emotionally in a big way lol and until you come clean I think it might stress you out! The fact that the purchase made you feel so strongly may be an indicator that you don't need it as much as you thought but you need SOMETHING to pamper yourself with, which I and probably your hubby will understand. And may I suggest hunting around online for purses? Ive found it keeps me from just getting one just because "it was the only one I liked in the store" though the obvious downside is you can't see it beforehand. Either way, I hope you find a peaceful solution and that you and your husband can laugh about it later
FWIW I get nicer purses ($100-$300) and use them for years. A few times I've gotten purses under $50 but they've all fallen apart in under a year. YMMV though because I just get boring/black purses that fit what I need but are light enough for my shoulder, and ignore all trends.
Maybe also make a list of ways you can pamper yourself, with a range of prices but focus on low-cost but high-payoff (ex. for me, bath with a favorite book and epsom salts is amazing, and sometimes even just taking the time to do my nails for 20 minutes instead of doing household chores will really reset how I feel)... feeling like you're constantly sacrificing and not taking care of yourself as a person isn't a good place to be.
I fully plan on having it price adjusted. I called Buy Buy and they confirmed that they do this, and that I don't even need to bring in the car seat, just the receipt (packing slip from the shipment). That would be $46 that I can spend on other items for the babies. My husband is between jobs, and we could definitely use it to get other things that we need.
***This is a FFnFC because I've realized (while searching the BBB return/price adjustment policy) that this is a really divisive issue.
Also, thank goodness for awesome Moms that have your back when you're cash strapped. Mine did the same thing for me when I needed to buy a gift for my SIL's wedding shower several years back. I was so broke back then, that my mom ended up picking something for her off her registry, didn't tell me what it was, and wrapped it up saying it was from me! Both of us were surprised at her shower
I think I feel guilty about not funding the gift, because usually I put a lot of effort into what I send to others for Christmas, on my dime. My mom is indeed awesome! I'll be paying her back by letting her spoil her granddaughter.
Baby Boy: coming March 2017
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017