I am going to kill him if he says "don't be a bitch" one more time to me. Ever. Wtf is with that attitude? Where did it come from? All I did was hand him his shorts and say please don't empty out the drawer, you never put things back. Like overreact much? You havent seen bitch yet buddy.
@Twinkiedoll I actually looked up flights to Hawaii this afternoon. I put it on my maybe list but I'm hesitant to book it because it's a 12 hour flight from Pennsylvania, which sounds painful with a three year old.
@CarsonsMommy ugh I'm sorry. That's so rude and unacceptable. I saw your post in another thread about moving to SD. I don't know the details on your marriage so I have any advice to offer. But I wish you the best in whatever you decide is best for yourself and your child(ren). I hope your husband wises up soon.
@Rotu101 Not to be a creepy internet stalker but greetings fellow PA mama. Also, 12 hours sounds painful period, let alone pregnant and with a 3 year old. My husband and I are looking at the Finger Lakes in NY, but also some beachy places like NC, OC Maryland, and OC NJ. It's not tropical, but it is beachy and fun, and NC isn't nearly as far and decently warm in the spring.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@Rotu101 Not to be a creepy internet stalker but greetings fellow PA mama. Also, 12 hours sounds painful period, let alone pregnant and with a 3 year old. My husband and I are looking at the Finger Lakes in NY, but also some beachy places like NC, OC Maryland, and OC NJ. It's not tropical, but it is beachy and fun, and NC isn't nearly as far and decently warm in the spring.
I'm thinking of OCMD too! We actually spent our honeymoon there, and had also gone right after we got engaged.
Or there's always Wildwood! I just don't really want to cross 1 mile of sand to see the water :-p
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@GlitterFish Lol that's why I've always hated Wildwood. My parents and I went there every year when I was growing up, actually stayed in OC, but went to Wildwood once per trip, and I still have never made it to the water. It's too far. Are you in PA too?
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@Rotu101 Did you check Bermuda? Not too far from PA and I believe the only Zika cases were from infected travelers. There are a few articles about it being a great Zika-free option.
@GlitterFish Ah. Close enough. As long as it's not Jersey. (jkjk)
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Another PA mom who has a 3 year old and HI would be nice, but is just too long of flights to get there, and we'd be leaving the kiddo with grandparents. I am considering Bermuda, but also maybe cape may or OBX over the summer for a bit. We'll see what I can convince DH to do!
@manillabar lol I'm sorry I had to. I actually have a ton of family in NJ, my grandmother grew up there, my dad is from there, and I went there every year for vacation. No real hate from here
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@Twinkiedoll yeah, idk what his problem is lately. I do know he is stressed, trying to get us better situated and finances are tight. The hormones make me a bit more sensitive, whereas I normally brush it off. He expects sex, and it has always been a large part of our relationship, but lately I feel so sick with a cold and still some morning sickness, and he thinks it's an excuse? Like really... dick. Sometimes I wonder if that's all there is to the relationship, him getting his dick wet. He says that if we are having a fight, then all I have to do is suck his dick, and I told him fat chance buddy. Thats the last thing I would ever do if I am pissed at you, get off your high horse. But here at MILs house, I can't just go to another room to cool off, because I don't want her knowing our business. He goes through phases where he gets really rude, ( and I am wondering if it is related to his recent guy time snowmobiling with his cousins) and it has to be corrected and then he goes back to being respectful and sweet. I do not know what causes these rude "shhh, your interrupting the article I am reading and it is way more important than you" type of phases, and he is such an introvert that it is hard to get him to tell you what it's about. I know he resents me for not helping more with getting the San Diego house ready to sell or helping here. But really, you try taking care of an active baby, pumping on a schedule and trying to get enough sleep to keep up with it all. And now, he REALLY needs constantly watched. So he asks me to go out and help him at the property with things and I just end up chasing Carson everywhere because nothing is babyproofed and there is fiberglass insulation in spontaneous places and no carpet. And on one level, he gets it, but on another he doesnt. My ex friend has a daughter, and the kid just layer there staring into space. Like easiest baby ever, and the baby ended up becoming morbidly obese and isnt able to sit up at a year because all she feeds her is pudding, fruit purrees and desserts, so she still gets plenty done because she doesnt have to chase the baby aroud. She helped paint (we paid her) and got quite a bit done. When she pumped, she literally got 10 ounces within 10 minutes. I was lucky if I got 3 or 4 ounces in 30 to 40 minutes. So I had to spend alot of time pumping and he really resented that. I told him that he should have married her instead, and still do when ever he tries to talk about it, which is rare because he knows better. Idk what I am doing here in montana, I miss the beaches, but I love it her in the spring summer and fall. I just don't like the winter. I do know there is probably someone better out there, but at the same time every marriage has its ups and downs. Do I really want to leave after 8 years together? I mean, when it is good, it is great.
@CarsonsMommy I agree with PP, I think it might be time to try some counseling. You're both under a lot of stress, and it can't be easy also living in your MIL's house. I think that having a safe space to work through some ways to better manage it would be really beneficial. It doesn't sound like you are positive that you want to leave, but you need to see some changes. From experience, you can get there with counseling. Good luck!
@CarsonsMommy I am always a proponent of trying to work things out before calling it quits. You have 8 years under your belt with him and soon to be two kids together. I would definitely recommend counseling before making the decision to leave.
@CarsonsMommy we live with my in-laws too. My DH also has a high sex drive and just generally needs a lots of attention. I can't even imagine adding a young child, being pregnant, and trying to sell a house on top of that. That must be so stressful for both of you. Hang in there.
@Rotu101 Not to be a creepy internet stalker but greetings fellow PA mama. Also, 12 hours sounds painful period, let alone pregnant and with a 3 year old. My husband and I are looking at the Finger Lakes in NY, but also some beachy places like NC, OC Maryland, and OC NJ. It's not tropical, but it is beachy and fun, and NC isn't nearly as far and decently warm in the spring.
I'm thinking of OCMD too! We actually spent our honeymoon there, and had also gone right after we got engaged.
Or there's always Wildwood! I just don't really want to cross 1 mile of sand to see the water :-p
Cape May! Cape May! It's so beautiful and peaceful and you could do a day trip to Wildwood if that's your thing. We go every year
@nikkiandchris I just went to cape May for the first time this summer for a week and it was the best vacation I've ever had. We took LO and stayed in a house with DH's whole family and it was just so wonderful. We were on the bay side so it was quiet and no waves, and we got to see the sunset every night. It was only a 5 hour drive so it wasn't too bad.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
@dancegurl1118 we started going right after we were married. I hate picking up after H on vacation so we do an inn or B and B. It's just such an easy vacation and only about 3.5 hours for us. And hotdog tommys is like 70 percent of the reason I go lol.
Re: FFFC
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Or there's always Wildwood! I just don't really want to cross 1 mile of sand to see the water :-p
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Highly monitored internet and no cell service in the office, so I'm postin' and ghostin' while I'm workin'
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
For some reason the reply didn't work, but this was for @kerils