I couldn't agree more, @taylormarie923 It just seems the new thing to flame on TB for. And believe me, I'm all for necessary flaming. But this ones getting old.
I'm on the zero fucks given train on the sex/gender lingo when it's being used in context to a baby, whom has no concept of sex, or gender. To me, it's pretty clear what is implied by "gender reveal" or "gender of the baby". As I've mentioned before, I have a gender non-conforming child, and I could still care less if sex/gender is used interchangeably on a BABY app. *eyeroll*
I thought of something... As a teen in the 90's I was obsessed with belly button piercings. I begged my mom to get one from basically the time that Clueless came out until she relented and I got one at 17 in 2000.
I still freaking have it and I'm going to be 34 years old. Countless friends have given me shit over the years about still having it in. Love the crap out of my belly ring. I'm going to keep it in for as long as possible while pregnant.
So, according to some, having a belly ring over the age of 25 is ridiculous. Don't care.
Together: January 2002 Married: May 2008 Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
@mango517 I had mine from 18-29 (last year). When I was at my CVS procedure last year, one of the nurses said to me, "yeah you need to take that out for the procedure. And probably keep it out anyways because you shouldn't have one." Ummm what?? (I ended up taking it out for good on my own accord, though)
Adults should be able to deal with things that are upsetting, shocking, controversial, etc. I am not saying it is easy to deal with many issues that fit into these categories, but learning how to adjust to life is part of being adult.
I feel that by avoiding issues or not being allowed to have an opposing view dumbs us down. What happened to rational thought and discussion? I know many people who just jump up on their soapbox and start screaming without willing to have a calm and open dialogue complete with facts and rational thought.
As an FYI, this was sparked by a school superintendent who told me that people were not "allowed to have views" that differed from what the so-called majority thought. I was stunned. As a former educator, I was sickened. Isn't it our responsibility to teach our kids how to deal and make sense of a world with multiple views? Close-mindedness can go many ways. Additionally, I wasn't thrilled when she said that she would refuse to discuss anything she disagreed with and would "scream tall and proud at anyone" who disagreed with her.
@mango517 girl I still have mine at 35! Almost 20 years wth it and I don't see an end in sight! I look all weird without it. I kept it in until about 7 months and it went right back in a week PP. As long as I'm not all stretch marked up and fat AF after this one I will do the same. Do you!!
@Mango517 I miss my belly button ring so much I had it from 18 until 33 and had to take it out to have my gallbladder removed because they went in through my belly button to do it. On the way out THEY STITCHED UP MY PIERCING! I have said repeatedly (6 years later) that when I lose all my extra weight a new piercing is on the list of things I am doing to make myself feel sexy.
UO - I am totally getting a boob job when I hit my goal shape and am done having babies. My DH doesn't care one way or the other, and he understands that I am getting them for me, because I miss have nice full perky boobs. I had awesome cleavage right up through nursing my oldest. Now I have socks with rocks.
and they are everywhere around here! I was so lost when I was pregnant the first time and started reading through pregnancy forums, it can def be a little overwhelming.
@bumpybump in my opinion, distinguishing between sex and gender belittles the journey someone like my brother has gone through to become who he is today. If we were to use the terms correctly, his sex is still female and his gender is male, but he does not identify as a female in any way what so ever, so for someone to be so adamant that the genetalia between his legs MAKES him the female sex is really hurtful. He is a male through and through, he just can't afford the surgery. I know you all are trying to advocate for that population by educating people on the difference, but it isn't so black and white. He is male, sex or gender, it doesn't matter. Male. Period.
@maebee87 oh yes, forever! My mom and I bump heads often but we've always managed to get over it. She lived in my house for about 8 months after my second daughter was born so it's doable. Sharing costs and responsibilities is the most appealing part of it, if I'm being honest.
My other UO - im so sick of hearing that its not okay to be unhappy about anything in your pregnancy 'just be happy you are pregnant' or 'think about the women struggling that would be happy to be throwing up every day'. It is very sad that couples struggle with infertility, and i am in no way trying to trivialize that. But i dont have to be happy about throwing up all day just because i didnt have a hard time getting pregnant.
We struggled with infertility and tried for years before an IUI attempt took. And I'm not happy about throwing up either. It's okay to hate it. It sucks.
@bumpybump in my opinion, distinguishing between sex and gender belittles the journey someone like my brother has gone through to become who he is today. If we were to use the terms correctly, his sex is still female and his gender is male, but he does not identify as a female in any way what so ever, so for someone to be so adamant that the genetalia between his legs MAKES him the female sex is really hurtful. He is a male through and through, he just can't afford the surgery. I know you all are trying to advocate for that population by educating people on the difference, but it isn't so black and white. He is male, sex or gender, it doesn't matter. Male. Period.
Re: UO 1/12
It just seems the new thing to flame on TB for. And believe me, I'm all for necessary flaming. But this ones getting old.
I still freaking have it and I'm going to be 34 years old. Countless friends have given me shit over the years about still having it in. Love the crap out of my belly ring. I'm going to keep it in for as long as possible while pregnant.
So, according to some, having a belly ring over the age of 25 is ridiculous. Don't care.
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
(I ended up taking it out for good on my own accord, though)
Edit: removed pic because it seemed giant. I guess I have to figure out how to shrink pics before posting.
UO - I am totally getting a boob job when I hit my goal shape and am done having babies. My DH doesn't care one way or the other, and he understands that I am getting them for me, because I miss have nice full perky boobs. I had awesome cleavage right up through nursing my oldest. Now I have socks with rocks.
Youre fine! Complain all you want.