DH tells me that I am not as funny as I think I am. (Whaaat?!) All my posts here were intended to be funny. If you felt I was being mean or serious, that was my joke falling flat. Sorry! Xo
@virginiaunicorn11 Lol it sounds like my husband. There isn't a difference between his joking tone and his serious tone. I have trouble with it sometimes, but you'll never offend me because I'm so used to it now.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
DD has started to refuse to eat any foods that she can't successfully use a fork or spoon with. Seeing as how she is 19 months and has the dexterity of a walrus, mealtimes are going swimmingly.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
I need a guidebook to what makes them shut down threads. The "bullying" thread was closed and nobody on that thread was remotely mean or snarky. Just a bunch of nice explanatory responses. I'm confused. Do they just go crazy every January and lay the hammer down?
I need a guidebook to what makes them shut down threads. The "bullying" thread was closed and nobody on that thread was remotely mean or snarky. Just a bunch of nice explanatory responses. I'm confused. Do they just go crazy every January and lay the hammer down?
The post from admin seemed to be "scolding" the OP, and not the board members who responded. I think they were actually on our side with that one.
@AdaByron you are totally right, I skipped the bottom part when I read the admin message and just saw the top which made it look like they were saying the thread was a TOU violation.
It's pretty quiet on June today. Are they all in the llama PG talking about our UO? Who is in that group? Let us know which BMB we should be lurking today.
It's pretty quiet on June today. Are they all in the llama PG talking about our UO? Who is in that group? Let us know which BMB we should be lurking today.
I am quiet today because I am too angry at politics to be productive on social media. I am spoiling for a fight. Not a good mindset for Bumping.
Trying this post again on the right topic. Apologies.
Is anyone else having issues with bmb mobile? I keep getting redirected to apptrackit or some other weird site. I've cleared cookies and it's still happening.
Also, the snitches get stitches photo is seriously one of my favorite things I've seen on here since the board started.
Trying this post again on the right topic. Apologies.
Is anyone else having issues with bmb mobile? I keep getting redirected to apptrackit or some other weird site. I've cleared cookies and it's still happening.
Also, the snitches get stitches photo is seriously one of my favorite things I've seen on here since the board started.
I'm having problems using the mobile site too. It's very irritating and why I'm hardly on the bump. I have an iPhone6s, if that makes a difference.
Me (K)-27 DH (T)-30 2 Rainbow DDs L-10/26/10 and A-03/27/14 2 Angels- 10/26/09 and 02/03/15 Surprise BFP on 10/25/16!!! Baby Firecracker is due on 07/02/17!
I just started watching Girlfriends Guide to Divorce, and even though I've never experienced divorce first hand, it's a good show. First 2 seasons are on Netflix if anyone is interested.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I cannot for the life of me remember who or in what context it was by one mom recommended Daniel Tiger. - it has been a complete hit with both my toddlers and not as unbearable as some of their other shows. So thank you.
@adabyron there was nothing good to lurk no today unfortunately.
I forgot and never commented yesterday on this. But re: second chance for a certain someone. I will pass. In order for you to deserve a second chance in my book, you have to actually ASK for it.
Hi ladies! Sorry to have still been MIA, but thank you for being worried about me. Things are still going fine here in baby land. Saw my midwife last week, heard pumpkins heartbeat. She says everything is progressing well so far.
I haven't been on since my last MIA post because I work usually till about 5pm, I can't log on during the day and it's just overwhelming to log on here and try to keep/catch up. I think about you ladies often, and hope you are all doing well. I hadn't even logged on to lurk because I didn't want you to think I was purposely avoiding you all. I would like to be a part of the community again, it's just a little much on me right now. So sorry
As I was packing up my Odyssey after a BJ'S trip yesterday a mom ran over to me in the parking lot to check mine out, she said she saw me in the store and was dying to see what I drove that could transport 3 kids and a BJ'S haul.
DD has started to refuse to eat any foods that she can't successfully use a fork or spoon with. Seeing as how she is 19 months and has the dexterity of a walrus, mealtimes are going swimmingly.
I am stuck in a box, and too sick to bother going back to start this over. But you made me laugh, thanks for that.
Ok so I'm prematurely mad at dh. I don't think he's thought this thru yet either. So he does amateur car racing and two big events that he wants to drive in are going to be at the track near us. So he tells me last night that he's going to take a week off in the beginning of September to drive in both. Plus we would have to pay for both. The track is an hour to an hour and a half away so he could possibly come home every night but he would be home at like bedtime. Ok... but he's already told me that he's taking two weeks off when the baby comes. So he gets paid time off but it's less than he normally makes and I doubt he gets 3 weeks paid time off but possible (he's been there a year). Also we're going down to Florida in march and we're flying out late Wednesday so he can work Wednesday and only take two days off. Then we fly home late Sunday. Oh and meet with a raceteam on Saturday while we're there. Some vacation, huh?
With ds he said he would take off two weeks but only took off 4 days, 2 1/2 of which we were in the hospital. And then blaimed it on his boss and said he told him he could have two weeks but then wanted him to come back.
So im getting angry that he's going to short his baby time with us so he can do his track events. We never fight, we've had one fight since we met about plunging a toliet. However we start getting a heated discussion about track events bc he says it's for his career and creating a reputation for when he starts his business.
We're having a date night tomorrow so I'm going to discuss how I feel with him then but I have to think about how I feel so I don't sound crazy and know what I want to say. So my thoughts so far are we all stay for the week up there, possibly allow him to do half days during baby leave(not sure he would come home at lunch tho), that's it for now I just don't know. I'm also stressing now remembering the sleepless nights during this time. I do have my mil who is wonderful to help me but he's the dad.
@morgarita if he promised you two weeks then it should be two weeks! I would be angry too especially since he recanted last time. But. If he views this event as being for his career he may not think of it as taking away baby time but rather as investing to create a better future for his family. So this is going to be a tough one.
I'm not sure that I would bring this up over date night though as he may feel ambushed. Unless that is normal fair game for you to discuss heavy topics on date night. It's not exactly fair to pick an argument on what would otherwise be guaranteed nookie night. Unless, that is part of your plan.... Sneaky very sneaky - I like it!
12w3d and they said it's a girl! I was so mad when she told me because my husband and I were going to do a gender reveal party like we did with my son but I had no idea they could find out this early so I didn't think I needed to say "don't tell us". She said with 100% certainty it's a girl. Has this happened to anyone who wanted to be team green and the ultrasound tech spilled the beans???
12w3d and they said it's a girl! I was so mad when she told me because my husband and I were going to do a gender reveal party like we did with my son but I had no idea they could find out this early so I didn't think I needed to say "don't tell us". She said with 100% certainty it's a girl. Has this happened to anyone who wanted to be team green and the ultrasound tech spilled the beans???
OMG. I am not team green but I would be SO MAD if I was!! At our 12 week scan the doc said he could try and see and asked if we wanted to know. He wasn't able to tell but at least he asked before blurting it out!! We went yesterday for a sex determination scan and they asked before they started if we wanted to know or wanted it written down. Sorry your surprise got ruined
12w3d and they said it's a girl! I was so mad when she told me because my husband and I were going to do a gender reveal party like we did with my son but I had no idea they could find out this early so I didn't think I needed to say "don't tell us". She said with 100% certainty it's a girl. Has this happened to anyone who wanted to be team green and the ultrasound tech spilled the beans???
Yeah, this kind of happened to us. The doctor realized her mistake and kind of recovered, but I am not sure that I believe her excuse. Meh, whatever. I'm not a person that would do a gender reveal party or get upset about a mistake that doesn't affect health - just my personality. I can understand how it would be upsetting to someone else, though. I'm sorry it happened for you this way...but congrats on the baby girl!!
@morgarita You've mentioned the leave issue with your husband a few times. It seems like you're trying so hard to be a good sport, but it bothers you. Which I think is fair. TBH, I am pretty outraged on your behalf. Here are a few more thoughts. Forgive me if I am overstepping or am off-base:
I agree with PP suggestions not to bring it up on date night, if you can help that. Knowing absolutely nothing about your relationship or situation, I'm pretty horrified your husband is so unsupportive with providing his presence immediately when you are post-partum. Especially this time, with a toddler running around.
I think at a minimum, he needs to take responsibility in establishing a plan that provides you full coverage for two full weeks. For me, that would mean a detailed conversation about what days he will be home, and him taking the lead on arranging for an alternate if he is not going to be there - for any reason at all, but it better be a reason that prioritizes family and not just his personal interests.
I know you said he is supportive in other ways. That's awesome! If it were me, I would be sure to explicitly tell him what support he provides that is important (preparing meals, taking care of your son so you can rest, running errands, whatever it is). In my marriage, we have to set very clear expectations when going into hard situations, otherwise we get frustrated and disappointed with each other - sometimes fairly, sometimes unfairly. (Sorry if I am projecting my own shit onto you.)
Hope your man steps up! Sounds like you think he will, so maybe just ignore me...
So unrelated....I told my boss. She's letting me wait to tell people. YAH! She's helping move something so I can attend (before I can't fly for 2 months)---that I can't plan and run without being at, but she keeps discussing this as 5-6 months of affected time. Between us I want to take 2 months mat leave (someone advised I not say that yet) so I'm having trouble with all the affected time....I know the no flying. Any advice? She's also super concerned about my health. I'd just love help navigating.
Other random-- second time moms---- ok so flying+morning sickness was horrid especially for 2-5 hours. I can't explain why. Any advice for what travel is like at six months along?
@morgarita I get where you're coming from. My husband is starting his new job on Monday, and I don't know if he will have any time off period, let alone paid time off. He already said "well I'll be there for L&D as long as I can be there" . Bonus: he's super dedicated to his job, and I know he sees it as the way he provides for and supports me and the baby. Downside, I 100% need him at the labor, and I don't know how much help I'm going to need after. I've never had a baby. I'm really worried he'll be back to work the next day, and I'm just hoping I can handle it. I don't have much advice, although like the other ladies said I wouldn't bring it up on date night unless you normally bring up sensitive topics on date night. I haven't even asked my husband about taking time off after the baby is here yet. I'm kind of waiting to see what he gets with this job. Just know you aren't the only one trying to figure out what to do without a husband around all the time after birth. Side note: I don't have family that I can ask to be around as a substitute for my husband. The only person I could possibly deal with that much (my MIL) has a job that is hard to take off time from, and she doesn't have much time to take, and I don't feel right asking her to. I am hoping to get some help from family, but I can't imagine it will be much, or that they will be great about bringing food or doing laundry, and will instead just want to hold the baby the whole time, which only helps me so much. Plus, in general I don't much like socializing, and I can't imagine I'll be more in the mood for it right after birth. Or in the mood to give up my baby to anyone but my husband for very long stretches of time.
Edit: because I completely forgot I originally came on here to do my own random post
I went to the grocery store just to buy the following things. I did not need anything else, nor will I for days. I've never felt so pregnant
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
So unrelated....I told my boss. She's letting me wait to tell people. YAH! She's helping move something so I can attend (before I can't fly for 2 months)---that I can't plan and run without being at, but she keeps discussing this as 5-6 months of affected time. Between us I want to take 2 months mat leave (someone advised I not say that yet) so I'm having trouble with all the affected time....I know the no flying. Any advice? She's also super concerned about my health. I'd just love help navigating.
Other random-- second time moms---- ok so flying+morning sickness was horrid especially for 2-5 hours. I can't explain why. Any advice for what travel is like at six months along?
How much time is your boss assuming you're taking? I'm planning my on my full 12 weeks, but haven't talked to my boss about it yet. She hasn't even asked. She's been super awesome and is really excited for us, so I don't see her caring at all. Honestly, even if she did care, I would still take 12 weeks. I'd fight tooth and nail for someone to sign off on it. I don't think they would be able to give a valid reason why I can't since I'm entitled to it.
@caribbeanmama@virginiaunicorn11@kerils I was only going to mention it at date night and see if he thought anymore about it. We're pretty open so it would have more been about I'm feeling like you are over committing yourself this summer and remember I'm going to need help with two kids. I'm realizing now that it's bothering me way more than I thought so I'll definitely hold off now.
@nktrodden826 we weren't team green but with my son as soon as the ultrasound tech put the wand on my stomach, I mean less than 10 seconds, she laughed "well I know what you are having". I knew with a certain answer THAT quick (she must have put the wand right on his junk) it was a boy and she laughed and said yes.
My good friend is having her baby right now! Fingers crossed for a healthy and uneventful delivery!
@Dcwtada Good luck to your friend! Hopefully all goes well and she has a healthy baby
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@Katie______ I personally had zero issues flying all the way up to the date that airlines stopped allowing it. Per my doc's rec, I wore compression stockings (though had no unusual risk factors), sat on the aisle so that I could pee often, and made sure to drink extra water.
Definitely talk to your Dr closer to the date so they can give any specific recommendations. I find that air travel when pregnant/with kids is something that Google provides great advice for.
@nktrodden826 ok, so what kind of ultrasound was it? Cause I will be 12 weeks and starting to get super excited/hopeful
It was our NT scan! We're in Va and at a new hospital who's machines were recently updated and she said with 100% certainty it's a girl and showed us with the legs up that there was no...erm, peepee. The tech said the new machines are so incredible she could have seen that 2 weeks ago even!
@nktrodden826 ok, so what kind of ultrasound was it? Cause I will be 12 weeks and starting to get super excited/hopeful
It was our NT scan! We're in Va and at a new hospital who's machines were recently updated and she said with 100% certainty it's a girl and showed us with the legs up that there was no...erm, peepee. The tech said the new machines are so incredible she could have seen that 2 weeks ago even!
I'm sorry but I can't help but get out of my FTM mode and into work mode for a moment and politely disagree - it's not a matter of the quality of the ultrasound machine, it's a matter of practicing good evidence based medicine. The 12 week nuchal translucency ultrasound is not the appropriate time to assess fetal sex. Theoretically I could conceive of a situation where the images may suggest a boy. But no way can the ultrasound determine with certainty that the fetus is a girl. Source - ACOG- ACR - AIUM practice guideline for the performance of obstetrical ultrasound. so, in summary: it's entirely possible that it's a girl, but I wouldn't rely on these results! More importantly, congratulations!!!
@nktrodden826 ok, so what kind of ultrasound was it? Cause I will be 12 weeks and starting to get super excited/hopeful
It was our NT scan! We're in Va and at a new hospital who's machines were recently updated and she said with 100% certainty it's a girl and showed us with the legs up that there was no...erm, peepee. The tech said the new machines are so incredible she could have seen that 2 weeks ago even!
I'm sorry but I can't help but get out of my FTM mode and into work mode for a moment and politely disagree - it's not a matter of the quality of the ultrasound machine, it's a matter of practicing good evidence based medicine. The 12 week nuchal translucency ultrasound is not the appropriate time to assess fetal sex. Theoretically I could conceive of a situation where the images may suggest a boy. But no way can the ultrasound determine with certainty that the fetus is a girl. Source - ACOG- ACR - AIUM practice guideline for the performance of obstetrical ultrasound. so, in summary: it's entirely possible that it's a girl, but I wouldn't rely on these results! More importantly, congratulations!!!
I am seriously shocked that there are so many u/s techs out there that are able to determine the sex of the 12 week fetuses (feti? fetusi? errr). I remember a lot of people being flamed for even trying to guess the sex at 12 weeks back in the day, so with all these sex guesses, for a second I thought it was just me being old or something. All I'm saying is: maybe don't paint the nursery pink just yet and keep the tags on your little pink clothes - if your u/s tech said girl, there's still a possibility you could see a penis at your anatomy scan rather than those three little lines.
I agree with @satsumasandlemons and @mj8215. My US tech didn't even let us entertain the notion of finding out at 12 weeks. The very first thing he said was that we wouldn't be finding out the sex because it was too early. My understanding is that the genitalia aren't even fully developed at that time so it is difficult to make any call with complete certainty.
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Re: Randoms/Chatter week of 1.9.17
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
https://www.nola.com/business/index.ssf/2017/01/4moms_car_seat_recall.html#incart_river_home
Is anyone else having issues with bmb mobile? I keep getting redirected to apptrackit or some other weird site. I've cleared cookies and it's still happening.
Also, the snitches get stitches photo is seriously one of my favorite things I've seen on here since the board started.
Me (K)-27 DH (T)-30
2 Rainbow DDs L-10/26/10 and A-03/27/14
2 Angels- 10/26/09 and 02/03/15
Surprise BFP on 10/25/16!!! Baby Firecracker is due on 07/02/17!
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I forgot and never commented yesterday on this. But re: second chance for a certain someone. I will pass. In order for you to deserve a second chance in my book, you have to actually ASK for it.
I haven't been on since my last MIA post because I work usually till about 5pm, I can't log on during the day and it's just overwhelming to log on here and try to keep/catch up. I think about you ladies often, and hope you are all doing well. I hadn't even logged on to lurk because I didn't want you to think I was purposely avoiding you all. I would like to be a part of the community again, it's just a little much on me right now. So sorry
With ds he said he would take off two weeks but only took off 4 days, 2 1/2 of which we were in the hospital. And then blaimed it on his boss and said he told him he could have two weeks but then wanted him to come back.
So im getting angry that he's going to short his baby time with us so he can do his track events. We never fight, we've had one fight since we met about plunging a toliet. However we start getting a heated discussion about track events bc he says it's for his career and creating a reputation for when he starts his business.
We're having a date night tomorrow so I'm going to discuss how I feel with him then but I have to think about how I feel so I don't sound crazy and know what I want to say. So my thoughts so far are we all stay for the week up there, possibly allow him to do half days during baby leave(not sure he would come home at lunch tho), that's it for now I just don't know. I'm also stressing now remembering the sleepless nights during this time. I do have my mil who is wonderful to help me but he's the dad.
I'm not sure that I would bring this up over date night though as he may feel ambushed. Unless that is normal fair game for you to discuss heavy topics on date night. It's not exactly fair to pick an argument on what would otherwise be guaranteed nookie night. Unless, that is part of your plan.... Sneaky very sneaky - I like it!
@morgarita You've mentioned the leave issue with your husband a few times. It seems like you're trying so hard to be a good sport, but it bothers you. Which I think is fair. TBH, I am pretty outraged on your behalf. Here are a few more thoughts. Forgive me if I am overstepping or am off-base:
I agree with PP suggestions not to bring it up on date night, if you can help that. Knowing absolutely nothing about your relationship or situation, I'm pretty horrified your husband is so unsupportive with providing his presence immediately when you are post-partum. Especially this time, with a toddler running around.
I think at a minimum, he needs to take responsibility in establishing a plan that provides you full coverage for two full weeks. For me, that would mean a detailed conversation about what days he will be home, and him taking the lead on arranging for an alternate if he is not going to be there - for any reason at all, but it better be a reason that prioritizes family and not just his personal interests.
I know you said he is supportive in other ways. That's awesome! If it were me, I would be sure to explicitly tell him what support he provides that is important (preparing meals, taking care of your son so you can rest, running errands, whatever it is). In my marriage, we have to set very clear expectations when going into hard situations, otherwise we get frustrated and disappointed with each other - sometimes fairly, sometimes unfairly. (Sorry if I am projecting my own shit onto you.)
Hope your man steps up! Sounds like you think he will, so maybe just ignore me...
Other random-- second time moms---- ok so flying+morning sickness was horrid especially for 2-5 hours. I can't explain why. Any advice for what travel is like at six months along?
Side note: I don't have family that I can ask to be around as a substitute for my husband. The only person I could possibly deal with that much (my MIL) has a job that is hard to take off time from, and she doesn't have much time to take, and I don't feel right asking her to. I am hoping to get some help from family, but I can't imagine it will be much, or that they will be great about bringing food or doing laundry, and will instead just want to hold the baby the whole time, which only helps me so much. Plus, in general I don't much like socializing, and I can't imagine I'll be more in the mood for it right after birth. Or in the mood to give up my baby to anyone but my husband for very long stretches of time.
Edit: because I completely forgot I originally came on here to do my own random post
I went to the grocery store just to buy the following things. I did not need anything else, nor will I for days. I've never felt so pregnant
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
My good friend is having her baby right now! Fingers crossed for a healthy and uneventful delivery!
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
Definitely talk to your Dr closer to the date so they can give any specific recommendations. I find that air travel when pregnant/with kids is something that Google provides great advice for.
Source - ACOG- ACR - AIUM practice guideline for the performance of obstetrical ultrasound.
so, in summary: it's entirely possible that it's a girl, but I wouldn't rely on these results! More importantly, congratulations!!!
All I'm saying is: maybe don't paint the nursery pink just yet and keep the tags on your little pink clothes - if your u/s tech said girl, there's still a possibility you could see a penis at your anatomy scan rather than those three little lines.
Or maybe I'm just outdated, lol
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21