Facebook Group

satuttle1014 · January 2017

Hey all,

Congrats to everybody! I know this is early but I'm bringing this topic up of creating a private Facebook group. I am still in my Feb 16 group and on it all day, I love it. We all joined the fb group in 2nd or 3rd tri. It's also better to get responses quicker to questions. I'm only bringing it up now too since we have people who now want to join and now they ask. I don't want to be cliquey but when you develop a relationship with people after a certain time then it's nice to have a group of ladies to go to for anything.

Just throwing it out there and maybe if you all want to create one then we can decide a time as well.

lap018 · January 2017

I think it is way to early to even start discussing a Facebook group. We don't even know one another at all yet. I think we should get to know everyone get a little farther along and then we can discuss the whole Facebook thing...

satuttle1014 · January 2017

I know it early, I'm saying just to keep in the back of your mind if anybody wants to do one at the right time. It may not be for everybody. That's all.

amiej1227 · January 2017

I think it's fine to create one. Let those that want to join now do so and then cut it off at a certain time for those that would rather join later.

gavzillaxo · January 2017

I'm not opposed to maybe joining in the future. I think a cut off time would be a good idea, but don't make it a popularity contest.

JustBored10 · January 2017

It is way too early for a Facebook group. You really need to think of your safety when it comes to starting one and opening it up to everybody at this point in time. I honestly would not start one till later. It will get messy fast...
I am still part of my August 2012 Facebook group and there is now only a close 22 or so members. I do not believe ours even started till after pregnancy for those that want to stay friends outside the bump.

wyomama0427 · January 2017

@gavzillaxo I was in Jan 16 for a while.. eventually TB alllllways turns into a popularity contest. It's dumb. There's always a select few who post and "control" way more than the others, I think it makes them feel good. Idk. I quit that group because they literally made a group called "burn book" and it was way too high school.... you can't sit with us type crap. Stupid.

ColoradoHiker · January 2017

I'm part of great bump FB groups from my previous LO, but we didn't form them until after the babies were born. It helped weed out the crazies, and kept it to mostly people who were interested in participating. I recommend holding off for a while.

Sprite2012 · January 2017

@ColoradoHiker Me also. I absolutely love my 2012 group. We formed after TB went wacky and really wanted the friendships. We started out with 30. There are 26 of us left, it's a tight knit supportive group, and I've met 95% in person.

I agree, way too early. I'll consider joining one in December of this year

childcaremama · January 2017

I'm definitely interested in joining! Let's get a little further and then go from there.

Texafornian · January 2017

My Sept 14 group is going strong but we didn't add the FB group until we gave birth...

I'm for it but not until WAY later...

schreibers626 · January 2017

I joined a FB group during early pregnancy with my son and we all have stayed really close, so I think it's a great idea!

holly52 · January 2017

I'm part of a Facebook group with the Jan 2013 group I met on here and I love it! I'm definitely open to joining one for this group too

sourkim · January 2017

I am part of a 2010 and 2013 group and we are close. I agree we should get to know each other here first

msashley2010-2 · January 2017

I like the idea

:)

JessKo08 · January 2017

I'm close with my March '16 FB group. We started it at the end of our pregnancies. I'd be up for it towards the end again.

ashleyrexrode · January 2017

I'm in (:

sableeg · January 2017

I'm definitely interested whenever. I don't know about y'all, but I struggle with using TheBump. I don't feel like it's seamless from computer to phone. Maybe I'm just getting to the age where I'm going to start being technologically challenged!

MzOro82214 · January 2017

I'm definitely in. I agree it's much simpler and faster to get answers & conversate there. I'm browsing FB on my phone pretty much daily (& since I won't be announcing on there for quite some time), it'd be nice to chat about our pregnancies together.

satuttle1014 · January 2017

sableeg said:

I'm definitely interested whenever. I don't know about y'all, but I struggle with using TheBump. I don't feel like it's seamless from computer to phone. Maybe I'm just getting to the age where I'm going to start being technologically challenged!

I definitely prefer Facebook just because it's easier to get questions answered. My other group we joined towards end of 2nd tri and 3rd tri which was a good time. I'm down for whenever once we are all announcing.

satuttle1014 · January 2017

MzOro82214 said:

I'm definitely in. I agree it's much simpler and faster to get answers & conversate there. I'm browsing FB on my phone pretty much daily (& since I won't be announcing on there for quite some time), it'd be nice to chat about our pregnancies together.

I totally agree. I understand getting to know everyone but I also feel like a fb group will help with that too and weed out the ones who don't want to participate. It is much easier than the app for answering questions, etc. My previous group we joined in 2nd and 3rd tri depending on the person.

childcaremama · January 2017

I agree that it's much easier to use Facebook than the bump app wise. I'm never on the computer, always on my phone. I think it's easier to get to know everyone on Facebook too. But I totally understand the privacy part. The group will be secret right? So no one can see it who's not in it. Anytime in second trimester or after I'm up for it. Looking forward to getting to know everyone on the bump and then Facebook. Healthy sticky baby vibes to all.

satuttle1014 · January 2017

Yes, the group would be private.

HollyGolightly09 · January 2017

Yeah, I vote for "a Facebook group sounds awesome, but let's wait a little while.."

towntowns · January 2017

I would definitely be interested in joining a Facebook group, I'm finding this whole early pregnancy thing to be rather lonely. I don't really have a preference so whenever you are ready!

bswishe4 · January 2017

I'm game a little down the line

AddileneRubi · January 2017

I joined a FB group really early in pregnancy (6 weeks) for my September 2015 baby and we're still very close. I like the idea!

ashley2824 · January 2017

I've never joined a FB group from TB, but I think I'd be interested

eahayes · January 2017

Would love to join in the future but I agree about holding off

labby18 · January 2017

I would like to join a FB group. I personally don't see a problem with it now or later. I feel as though we live in the hush hush society that no one talks about pregnancy in the 1st Trimester, and because of that I think maybe we should have a FB group early so we have somewhere to go that is a bit more responsive/easier to ask questions and respond to others. And if the person who joins isn't active the moderator can remove them or if the worse happens that individual is able to remove herself from the group just as she would remove herself from all the apps (I've had 3 MC, so I'm not trying to be insensitive here).

mrs_tacos · January 2017

My issue with joining a Facebook group now is not with keeping my first trimester hush-hush, but because we're all still getting to know each other here. We're going to get a lot more posters as more women get their BFPs, and eventually the herd will thin. Plus, by then we'll all have a good idea of who we're comfortable having access to our full name, etc. on Facebook. I've made some great friends on The Bump over the years (I met one of my best friends on TTC several years ago when we realized we only lived five minutes away from each other.), but in that time I've also seen a lot of catfishes, and a lot of crazies. Better safe than sorry, IMO.

lap018 · January 2017

lahearn18 said:

I would like to join a FB group. I personally don't see a problem with it now or later. I feel as though we live in the hush hush society that no one talks about pregnancy in the 1st Trimester, and because of that I think maybe we should have a FB group early so we have somewhere to go that is a bit more responsive/easier to ask questions and respond to others. And if the person who joins isn't active the moderator can remove them or if the worse happens that individual is able to remove herself from the group just as she would remove herself from all the apps (I've had 3 MC, so I'm not trying to be insensitive here).

It's not about being secretive about the first trimester it's about protecting our personal privacy from people we do not know anything about or if they even are who they claim they are. That's the thing with Facebook groups every one is all for them but people do not realize the issues with joining a large group of people who up until that point were anonymous to you? I certainly wouldn't want my name and birthday and child's name and birthday up for a group of people I don't know from Adam. I have a friend on Facebook right now who had all of her pictures (of her, her baby, and her boyfriend) taken and posted on a fake profile for a girl who was using her picture to pass as her. There are some real creepys out there.

lap018 · January 2017

@amandarene112 I think we may have posted at the same time lol!

mrs_tacos · January 2017

lap018 said:

@amandarene112 I think we may have posted at the same time lol!

Haha, I think you're right! Great minds

labby18 · January 2017

@amandarene112 and @lap018

That's a fine reason to wait as well, I can respect that. My personal page on FB is not viewable unless we are FB friends. We can be in the same group & see my posts on the group, but you will not be able to view my birthday or anything other than my name & current profile picture. And that is the risk with being on any online forum. You have to be responsible with your own privacy settings. But that's just me. I'm fine with waiting and I'm fine with not waiting. There are positives and negatives to waiting and not waiting.

I hope we all have very sticky babies and aren't one of the ones who get "thinned out" from the herd as previously mentioned.

mrs_tacos · January 2017

lahearn18 said:

I hope we all have very sticky babies and aren't one of the ones who get "thinned out" from the herd as previously mentioned.

Oh gosh, that's not what I meant at all, had't even thought of it in that context! I just meant a lot of people show up here excited with their BFPs and then don't continue to participate as time goes on.

Texafornian · January 2017

lap018 said:

@amandarene112 I think we may have posted at the same time lol!

Agree with you ladies! I just think back to a few years ago on TB where someone impersonated a mom. She was well liked and known in her birth month and ended up absconding with money that ladies sent via PayPal to help out another mom who had a loss. I feel like it's still too early, even with privacy settings, to share full names and profiles. For me it's not about loss...I had no problem removing myself from the anonymity of TB last year after my MC but I'd find it harder to exit a FB group early on after forming friendships as those groups tend to be smaller. And then I'd find it equally tough to stay in the group if I wasn't pregnant etc. Maybe I'm weird or maybe that doesn't make sense...I'm just a 3rd tri FB group joiner lol

labby18 · January 2017

@amandarene112 ok im glad, i was like woah when i read that. I can totally see yalls side i didnt even think about those risks, but like I said, waiting or not waiting, I'm down for a FB group.

towntowns · January 2017

Would it be okay to start it with whomever wants to join now and then just add people as they are comfortable. @satuttle1014

I understand people not wanting it to be too big, or wait until the herd thins, and be more intentional but the flip side of that is that someone who maybe doesn't actively participate could be getting encouragement that maybe they weren't getting anywhere else or encouraged them to open up.

Sorry to have such a different opinion I just feel like maybe starting it sooner would encourage relationships, not take away from building them.

pregnantaf · January 2017

No one is in charge here...

pregnantaf · January 2017

If you want an early fbook group, make it... will it likely implode? Yes, because most do.

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