Couple months ago, there was a guy at church that told me he heard I was pregnant. He got me mixed up with another girl who has the same name as me. DD was 6 months at the time. He said, and I quote, "I was going to say....if you were pregnant again, maybe you guys need a bigger tv."
But when people ask if this baby was an oopsy, and we say we planned for this, they look at usike we are nuts. Because we couldn't possibly want another baby when ours is 8 months old. People are the worst.
I have 2 little girls and I hate hearing "Are you trying/hoping for a boy?". I love my girls. It makes me feel like they're saying, "Oh, your girls can't possibly be good enough for you. You must want a boy."
I also dislike the idea that having children of different sexes inherently creates a different parenting experience. Any two children will be different.
So far, the only thing that was said to me that was a smidge off was one of my coworkers (I work alongside nurses and NPs, so they're really enthusiastic/excitable about this stuff) saying, "You'll probably show early because you're so small." In my head I was just like, ugh. Can't wait. With so few people knowing right now, no one's said anything stupid.
Ok, I have to raise my hand and confess this because it happened years ago and I felt soooo bad. One of my former coworkers was pregnant with twins and somewhere along the way she started to waddle. I pointed out how cute the waddle was and she looked at me crossly. She only worked with us a few more months but she wasn't as friendly to me after that. I can say as someone who has a history of not thinking before they speak (and I really work on that, I do) that sometimes I'm truly trying to compliment someone and it just comes out wrong. Pregnant women do feel like crap and historically I've tried to say something like "you look great!" but it just never goes over well. I stopped saying anything to pregnant women, like, ever.
During my first pregnancy, the OB asked me if I thought it was a good idea for me to get pregnant... when I was already pregnant. Not that is any of her business, but I was married, owned a house, had a hard working husband and a good job myself. Needless to say, I changed OBs after that appointment and never looked back.
SO's mom was more impressed by her Christmas gift than me being pregnant. All she said was, "Congratulations" to us when we gave her the ornament with the ultrasound. But then went on and on about the gift we got her (not the baby), telling us that she's going to tell all of her friends and they'll be so jealous.
She proceeded to ask SO twice when we were getting married.
How about this one.. On Christmas Eve, MIL announces to the family that next year I don't get any gifts from her, just baby and DH.. the entire family just rolled their eyes because they know how she is. She has also mentioned on more than one occasion that the birth of this baby is going to interfere with their yearly trip to the resort they go to the same week every August. I just looked at her and said, please by all means don't let us stop you from enjoying your vacation. UGH
Wow! She is a piece of work. Like you, I'd tell her to please go since we don't need her. What a huge B! I hope your husband tells her what's up.
I have two! 1) sometimes I feel as if my stepmom for some reason is under the impression that I'm either a) extremely irresponsible or b) extremely stupid. Because the other day she actually asked me if ive been taking Prenatals. This would be insulting enough if I was a FTM, but I already have an 8 1/2 month old!!! Clearly I'm aware that I need to take prenatals
2) my RE has already been talking to my husband and I about what we plan on doing about contraceptives after the baby is born..... UMMM can we just be excited for 1 minute that I'm pregnant?? Why are we talking about birth control?!
I realize I'm late on this (just back from vacation), but I had an OB do this. I was literally less than 12h out from giving birth. This guy I've never seen before comes in, says he has to jam his fingers in my hooha to check the episiotomy, and immediately afterwards was like, so when are you planning on starting birth control? Um. Never, actually. I'm a nice human being when I'm not on it. He wasn't impressed, needless to say.
The nurse asked us this question at my first appt. I think it was on a list of questions that they ask everyone, though, so I didn't think too much of it.
My best friend who will never have kids responded with, is #1 (11 months) going to be off the boob in time, you know he'll be pissed off he has to share his milk... Ummmm, didn't even respond. Later she told me this is good, now you can stop babying #1.... I baby him cause he's a baby!!!
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But when people ask if this baby was an oopsy, and we say we planned for this, they look at usike we are nuts. Because we couldn't possibly want another baby when ours is 8 months old. People are the worst.
Edited because half my post didn't show up.
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I also dislike the idea that having children of different sexes inherently creates a different parenting experience. Any two children will be different.
Ok, I have to raise my hand and confess this because it happened years ago and I felt soooo bad. One of my former coworkers was pregnant with twins and somewhere along the way she started to waddle. I pointed out how cute the waddle was and she looked at me crossly. She only worked with us a few more months but she wasn't as friendly to me after that.
I can say as someone who has a history of not thinking before they speak (and I really work on that, I do) that sometimes I'm truly trying to compliment someone and it just comes out wrong. Pregnant women do feel like crap and historically I've tried to say something like "you look great!" but it just never goes over well. I stopped saying anything to pregnant women, like, ever.
She proceeded to ask SO twice when we were getting married.
I realize I'm late on this (just back from vacation), but I had an OB do this. I was literally less than 12h out from giving birth. This guy I've never seen before comes in, says he has to jam his fingers in my hooha to check the episiotomy, and immediately afterwards was like, so when are you planning on starting birth control? Um. Never, actually. I'm a nice human being when I'm not on it. He wasn't impressed, needless to say.
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
Later she told me this is good, now you can stop babying #1.... I baby him cause he's a baby!!!
Omg!! I think I would switch my ob after that. Was it a male ob?
Hubby and I are debating having 3 and I could have hugged my OB when he told us we are not too old to go for another one after this if we want.