1: just took my weekly Epsom Salt Bath. I usually also bring a weekly 1/4 glass of red wine to sip with me... but I'm all out. DH and I agreed 1 bottle to be spread out over the third trimester would provide a treat and tiny relaxation while also not doing any harm. But: I'm wishing I bought a bigger 1 bottle. Haha
2: I've already returned 2 of DDs Christmas gifts from grandparents. I don't like it? I'm not keeping it.
@kjd291 my FFFC is at that when I allowed myself a half glass of champagne on New Year's Eve, since I haven't been drinking lately I woke up with a horrible hangover. I couldn't bring myself to admit it to anyone but I sat through a New Year's Day brunch, hugely pregnant and...hungover. But I swear, it was half a glass!
@Burrberrymum I just got all the ornaments off of it last night but the tree is still up. I'm waiting for DH to do something about it. Also, the decorations are still up outside. It's been bitter cold here this weekend or I would *maybe* have made an attempt.
My FFFC is that I was home the Friday before Christmas (we haven't had FFFC in a while!) but DD still had school. She's in kindergarten and they had a class party. I had every intention of driving her to school rather than her take the bus because she was signed up to bring a gallon of milk as her contribution. Well, because they had an early dismissal that day the time was different and I completely forgot. I had 12:30 in my head, which is when she normally gets the bus, but that's when pick up was supposed to be! I was just getting out of the shower when I got a call from the school wondering why she was absent. Luckily I was able to get her there in literally 5 minutes since we live so close. But I was crying when all I could think about was the poor kid missed her Christmas party and the kids didn't have milk to drink because of my baby brain. When I told DH he just laughed and said that it's only kindergarten and a throw away day anyway, like no lessons or anything. And, she said she only missed one game at the party and not the whole thing. Whew! I still felt so bad about it though.
I'm really disappointed that I'm not having a shower. This is my third and last baby and I've never had a shower for any of them. No one ever offered. It's not that I want gifts, I just want everyone to celebrate my babies. Somewhere around our engagement it became a rumor that I don't like being the center of attention so no one ever bothered offering to plan a shower for our wedding or any of my 3 pregnancies and I'm sad. My babies are worth celebrating.
My confession: I totally don't believe that a two month old baby can be bored and in need or greater stimulation. 2 month olds are fascinated by ceiling fans. And hands. And watching you fold the laundry. There, I said it. Take that Facebook lady that I didn't want to offend but was secretly judging!
I'm really disappointed that I'm not having a shower. This is my third and last baby and I've never had a shower for any of them. No one ever offered. It's not that I want gifts, I just want everyone to celebrate my babies. Somewhere around our engagement it became a rumor that I don't like being the center of attention so no one ever bothered offering to plan a shower for our wedding or any of my 3 pregnancies and I'm sad. My babies are worth celebrating.
I wonder if there is another kind of celebration you could plan instead? Even if throwing yourself a shower seems weird, some other kind of celebration could be a good option?
@longliveregina We talked about doing a fake gender reveal, meaning not actually revealing anything but getting people all together with that premise. But when we hosted Tgiving this year the subject came up and everyone traded stories about how dumb gender reveals are. So I was like, well, guess that idea is a no...
@Cbeanz just throwing out an idea.. a friend of mine, for her second baby, had a get together after her baby was born so that everyone could meet/celebrate the new LO. Her idea was to make it an open house sort of gathering and put a time frame on the invite. She said she really liked it because there was never too many people there at once and it ended at a certain time so she wasn't overwhelmed. I thought that was a nice alternative to a traditional baby shower
@Cbeanz you could do a "sip and see" where you invite everyone over for little snacks and a chance to meet baby. a way to have a gathering to have everyone celebrate the new family member and you could prove that you don't mind having attention.
@cbeanz I know that feel- all three of my showers have been self-planned, self paid and self initiated. I could never understand why I wasn't lucky or likable (or what??) enough to have friends or family who would offer! But then I realized, my babies are an effing joy and i'm gonna celebrate that with or without someone offering to do it for me! I say throw your own shower even if its small, and enlist help from anyone who is willing! You should be able to look back on your last pregnancy with no regrets
@Cbeanz I'm really sorry that you don't feel celebrated (or don't feel like your babies are celebrated) due to what's probably a miscommunication. Like @babyspice suggested, what about an open house / "sip and see?" I'm having a bris instead of a shower, which is basically the same thing (with some added bizarre ritual mutilation that we'll just set aside for now ) It would be pretty easy to throw and it could be cute if you said it was "hosted" by the older siblings, depending on how old they are.
ETA: if you invited me to an open house/sip and see, I'd bring the baby a gift and something for the older siblings too...not saying you should do it for the gifts, just saying some but not all people would bring 'em!
@Cbeanz - sorry to hear that. You and your babies definitely are worth celebrating.
We were snowed in last night so we went to a friends house around the corner and I had maybe a little less than a 1/2 glass of red wine. Suddenly I realized that I was talking REALLY LOUDLY. Ha.
I generally throw the rules of grammar out the window on here. I know where the punctuation is supposed to be and simply can't be bothered to do something about it lol. The ghosts of english teacher past make me feel guilt about it though
My MIL has told my 6yo niece that they are going to kiss the baby on the neck (all the time) when he gets here. So she has my niece all pumped up for this. My FFnFC is that even hearing about people kissing my baby drives me crazy!! I'm already paranoid that he's going to get sick from people kissing him. I'm fine with my DH or I loving on him but anyone else... not so much.
I'm worried that my mama bear instincts are going to piss a lot of people off when the baby gets here.
Me: 24 DH: 27 High School Sweethearts: 10/13/06 Married: 10/13/13 Baby #1 EDD: 3/20/17
Re: FFnFC (1/7)
2: I've already returned 2 of DDs Christmas gifts from grandparents. I don't like it? I'm not keeping it.
@direwolfmini I check my registry daily too.
@Burrberrymum I just got all the ornaments off of it last night but the tree is still up. I'm waiting for DH to do something about it. Also, the decorations are still up outside. It's been bitter cold here this weekend or I would *maybe* have made an attempt.
My FFFC is that I was home the Friday before Christmas (we haven't had FFFC in a while!) but DD still had school. She's in kindergarten and they had a class party. I had every intention of driving her to school rather than her take the bus because she was signed up to bring a gallon of milk as her contribution. Well, because they had an early dismissal that day the time was different and I completely forgot. I had 12:30 in my head, which is when she normally gets the bus, but that's when pick up was supposed to be! I was just getting out of the shower when I got a call from the school wondering why she was absent. Luckily I was able to get her there in literally 5 minutes since we live so close. But I was crying when all I could think about was the poor kid missed her Christmas party and the kids didn't have milk to drink because of my baby brain. When I told DH he just laughed and said that it's only kindergarten and a throw away day anyway, like no lessons or anything. And, she said she only missed one game at the party and not the whole thing. Whew! I still felt so bad about it though.
I wonder if there is another kind of celebration you could plan instead? Even if throwing yourself a shower seems weird, some other kind of celebration could be a good option?
In fact it's the perfect analogy for how prepared I am for childbirth... on the outside, everything looks ready, but inside is chaos.
@Burrberrymum I just took my Christmas tree and inside decorations down like 2hrs ago haha
@babyspice That sounds like a really great alternative! I've never heard of that before but I think I would like it!
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
ETA: if you invited me to an open house/sip and see, I'd bring the baby a gift and something for the older siblings too...not saying you should do it for the gifts, just saying some but not all people would bring 'em!
We were snowed in last night so we went to a friends house around the corner and I had maybe a little less than a 1/2 glass of red wine. Suddenly I realized that I was talking REALLY LOUDLY. Ha.
I'm worried that my mama bear instincts are going to piss a lot of people off when the baby gets here.
High School Sweethearts: 10/13/06
Married: 10/13/13
Baby #1 EDD: 3/20/17