Mmm, cantina burrito from Taco Bell sounds so good right now! Friday should just be Taco Bell for lunch day!
Re: pedicure priorities... my monthly pedicure is literally a line item in our family budget. Dh knows I'm serious when it comes to my pedis. Gel pedi every 4 weeks = happy wife!
Re: Facebook... if I could delete my account and be exclusive to Instagram instead, I would. Unfortunately, in my line of work (entertainment industry), we use FB to keep in touch with people we meet on the many projects we work on. We also reach out to each other for jobs or to find available artists when jobs come up... it's basically a necessity. So, I keep my FB active (with all privacy settings in place) and post general stuff, usually articles that I like and once in a while a picture or repost from Instagram. I try not to get too personal or political. I haven't decided if I'm going to post much about baby yet... I've picked out a cute announcement graphic, but not sure if I'm going to post it. Definitely no sonogram shots, ever! Maybe one or two photos here and there, haven't really thought about it yet. I prefer Instagram because it feels less invasive and more creative.
*I have a friend who created an Instagram account for her baby and posts all her photos there. It's locked down with privacy settings and only her family and friends were invited to follow. I thought it was a cute idea.
that's exactly what i do, did you see my comment? Also in entertainment industry too but on the marketing side. There is no way I could delete FB and really, I don't even have many random high school people there, so many of the contacts I have are collected over the years at different studios, etc. I don't even do a fb announcement (that was my uo a few weeks ago and people clearly thought it was a UO, lol), and absolutely no u/s pictures up ever.
Both of my boys went through a "balding old man hair" phase when they were about 2-3 months old, probably due to hormones and all. It was hilarious!! They lost most of the hair on the top of their head but still had hair on the side and lower back of their head. I took sooooo many pictures because it was just too hilarious not to capture those embarrassing moments forever. I even put one of them in a onesie that had an appliqué tie on it, and DS2 looked like the tiniest insurance salesman and I still crack up SO MUCH every time I see the picture. Ugly squish/bald baby phase is hilarious to me for some reason and I really enjoy it!
Oh my goodness my kids went through the same thing! They both came out looking like little hairy monkeys, they are half Navajo so came out with full heads of thick black hair and the hariest backs and shoulders you've ever seen. DS lost ALL of his hair around 8 months and it was hilarious. Luckily DD only had thinning hair and not so much baldness.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
@LoveLee85 it takes a lot of selfies-restraint lol. I try to brush it off and not make a deal of it because I don't want the babies to pick up on it, and I know they are only 1 and 2 but still
@Dcwtada I'm so sorry you have to deal with such offensive questions. I can't stand when people say such passive-aggressive "innocent" questions that imply all kinds of judgment/racism/ignorance.
My DH is Asian-American, so my kids are half-Asian. I got SO MANY STUPID comments from people about what our kids were going to look like when I was pregnant, especially with my first. One "friend" even commented that my kids would absolutely look Asian and I'll look like I had adopted them. She's no longer a friend. And one time at a playgroup, one mom told me how handsome DS1 was because he doesn't look Asian at all, and that he was lucky he got all my looks. I held my tongue and excused myself as quickly as possible. I was so livid. People say the dumbest things sometimes. Nowadays, I usually respond when someone says something ignorant like that with, "wow, that's a pretty rude comment. I assume you didn't know that, or else you wouldn't have said something that rude. But now you know." And they get pretty embarrassed. I'm done being nice about this stuff.
Oh my gosh @supermom83 I am seeing red for you. I remember when I was pregnant with my daughter my husband saying he hoped she wouldn't look anything like him and it broke my heart.
And then she comes out looking even more Mexican than him. I hate peoples comments and I never want her to resent how she looks (once again biased but she is absolutely beautiful) and sometimes I worry that since it's obvious she is mixed race but not her brother she might deal with more comments and idiot people than otherwise
@supermom83 WOW. where are you, if you don't mind me asking? I'm in LA (CA, i'm looking at you, ashaw!) and I'm Japanese-American so DD is part Japanese, part white (not going to go into details because besides the point) and I'm thankful we live in a diverse area where we don't deal with bs like that although on the flip side, the fetishism is disgusting and gross - the "oooh half asian and half white people are beautiful" thing is so creepy. Someone once started singing the weezer song to me when I was pregnant.
@supermom83 WOW. where are you, if you don't mind me asking? I'm in LA (CA, i'm looking at you, ashaw!) and I'm Japanese-American so DD is part Japanese, part white (not going to go into details because besides the point) and I'm thankful we live in a diverse area where we don't deal with bs like that although on the flip side, the fetishism is disgusting and gross - the "oooh half asian and half white people are beautiful" thing is so creepy. Someone once started singing the weezer song to me when I was pregnant.
@Dcwtada I'm so sorry you have to deal with such offensive questions. I can't stand when people say such passive-aggressive "innocent" questions that imply all kinds of judgment/racism/ignorance.
My DH is Asian-American, so my kids are half-Asian. I got SO MANY STUPID comments from people about what our kids were going to look like when I was pregnant, especially with my first. One "friend" even commented that my kids would absolutely look Asian and I'll look like I had adopted them. She's no longer a friend. And one time at a playgroup, one mom told me how handsome DS1 was because he doesn't look Asian at all, and that he was lucky he got all my looks. I held my tongue and excused myself as quickly as possible. I was so livid. People say the dumbest things sometimes. Nowadays, I usually respond when someone says something ignorant like that with, "wow, that's a pretty rude comment. I assume you didn't know that, or else you wouldn't have said something that rude. But now you know." And they get pretty embarrassed. I'm done being nice about this stuff.
So good. People need to be called out on this BS. Totally f'ing unacceptable.
@Dcwtada....It's the same for us, but I'm the dark one in the family, my husband looks like a Viking (very blond, big sharp facial features). My daughter looks more like him, coloring wise. I also didn't change my last name when we got married, and my daughter has his last name, so I suspect we'll have many years of questions/explanations ahead of us. I'm not sure if I hope our second child looks like her sibling, or like me so that I feel a part of the family!
@Dcwtada I get comments like that all the time with DS, including jokes about the mailman being blonde...because that's hilarious you know. Both DH and I have brown hair and brown eyes and he is super pale blonde and blue eyed. I doubt that we will produce another blonde child so chances are my kids won't look anything alike either.
@supermom83 WOW. where are you, if you don't mind me asking? I'm in LA (CA, i'm looking at you, ashaw!) and I'm Japanese-American so DD is part Japanese, part white (not going to go into details because besides the point) and I'm thankful we live in a diverse area where we don't deal with bs like that although on the flip side, the fetishism is disgusting and gross - the "oooh half asian and half white people are beautiful" thing is so creepy. Someone once started singing the weezer song to me when I was pregnant.
Omg to the bolded! Some people are just too ridiculous.
We live in Northern Virginia, in a suburb of Washington DC. It's actually a very diverse part of the country, but nonetheless, I still encounter some idiots once and a while. lol
On this same note, I guess my FFFC would be if my next child does look more like me, I'd feel a little victorious inside. My in-laws attribute just about everything to their side of the family, except for my daughter's tendency towards bossiness and strong opinions (totally negative attributes, right?? gawwww)
Dude @SaphireSweetie88 bedbugs are the wooooooooooorst. We had them five years ago and maybe every six months I have a bedbug nightmare.
This isn't a flame but I'm annoyed at myself. I'm an Executive Assistant, and while trying to email someone back to schedule a meeting for my boss, I just replied to my boss. Now I'm scrambling to get in touch with this person to set up a call today.
@PurplePumpernickel - Yes they are! I am hoping that the end is in sight soon though!
@SaphireSweetie88 we had renters that switched from one of our older houses to one we just finished and never told us they had bedbugs, so not only did they leave behind bedbugs for the next renter but they took them into the new house. They then tried to blame us until we told them the new house had sat vacant for over a year before we had completely gutted and replaced all the flooring and the carpet/pad was new. We made them pay for the extermination at the new house but we were on the hook for the house they moved from. Oh and the renter that refuses to stop flushing wet wipes/diaper wipes down the toilet causing us to have to pay for their septic to be professionally routed once a year. This last time we told them they were on the hook and they have yet to come up with any money. Gosh I could write an entire book on renters.
@Dcwtada - Oh wow! That's got to be very frustrating.
Me:35 | DH: 32 Married: 06-2024 TTC #1: Since November 2015 Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016 due to previous issues. ***TW*** BFP: 11/4/2016 BFP: 07/17/2024
Aw maybe a UO but I've never seen a newborn I wasn't obsessed with. I am a newborn photographer, and I literally think every single one is absolutely beautiful and perfect and downright magical. Their little hands and feet and curly ears. Ah! When I'm done having my own I'm just going to go around borrowing other people's.
On this same note, I guess my FFFC would be if my next child does look more like me, I'd feel a little victorious inside. My in-laws attribute just about everything to their side of the family, except for my daughter's tendency towards bossiness and strong opinions (totally negative attributes, right?? gawwww)
im stuck in a box!!!!!!! I was going to say, Do we have the same MIL?! LOL Everything positive and cute about my DS came from her side of the family. I have a widows peek, my son has one, my DH does not! My MIL tried giving one of her sisters credit for my sons widows peek?!?! Like WTAH(what the actual hell)?! LOL Can I please have some credit for this child??? So annoying.
Aw maybe a UO but I've never seen a newborn I wasn't obsessed with. I am a newborn photographer, and I literally think every single one is absolutely beautiful and perfect and downright magical. Their little hands and feet and curly ears. Ah! When I'm done having my own I'm just going to go around borrowing other people's.
Aw, this is so sweet. I felt awful for our photographer last time because of a- colic so our session was a nightmare and b- DD had that flaky newborn skin that must've taken HOURS to edit out. The pics were priceless to us though!
Aw maybe a UO but I've never seen a newborn I wasn't obsessed with. I am a newborn photographer, and I literally think every single one is absolutely beautiful and perfect and downright magical. Their little hands and feet and curly ears. Ah! When I'm done having my own I'm just going to go around borrowing other people's.
Aw, this is so sweet. I felt awful for our photographer last time because of a- colic so our session was a nightmare and b- DD had that flaky newborn skin that must've taken HOURS to edit out. The pics were priceless to us though!
We don't mind I promise! Or at least I don't haha.
My second had awful colic for 7 full months... so nothing phases me. Parents often apologize every time a baby gets fussy, and I'm like pssshhh this is nothing.
@akbride25 I get what you mean. I actually feel like the opposite. In laws keep saying ds looks like my side but I think it's because he has baby fat cheeks which are cute but it's like they're saying my family has fat faces. Thats kind of the short story so it seems petty.
Wow, the things people say are insane. I'm black and H is white and we definitely get comments about "mixed babies." I even had a (former) friend tell me that I "won" by marrying him because I would have light-skinned children... because obviously that's why I chose him as my partner for life -_-
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
@manillabar I'm totally appalled by the fact that someone would assume you prefer light-skinned children to dark-skinned, I'm legitimately upset for you and so glad the person is no longer a friend, I hope you gave them a good throat punch!
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
@cssme13 I will never understand how people let such crazy things come out of their mouths.
As if I don't possibly have more important things to worry about, you know, like marrying a man who will be a good father, making sure we can provide for them, but instead I should be picking men based on my future babies' potential skin tones. How does that make sense to anyone??
TTC history in spoiler
Me: 31 Him: 37 Married: Oct 2015 Baby G born June 2017 TTC#2: July 2018 BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19 BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Both of my boys went through a "balding old man hair" phase when they were about 2-3 months old, probably due to hormones and all. It was hilarious!! They lost most of the hair on the top of their head but still had hair on the side and lower back of their head. I took sooooo many pictures because it was just too hilarious not to capture those embarrassing moments forever. I even put one of them in a onesie that had an appliqué tie on it, and DS2 looked like the tiniest insurance salesman and I still crack up SO MUCH every time I see the picture. Ugly squish/bald baby phase is hilarious to me for some reason and I really enjoy it!
You too? My son had this as well. Was sooooo funny! When he was born, even though he was a c section baby, he had cone head and my hubby was just so fascinated by the furriness all over his little tiny body.
@cssme13 my good friend is Chinese. His wife is Caucasian, blonde and blue-eyed.
Their two children look very Asian. When his wife is out with the kids by herself, people stop her all the time and ask her what country she adopted her kids from. Drives her nuts.
My son also had the old man strip of hair on the back of his head, and a little comb over. Which was perfect because he was named after my late grandfather, who had one of the world's most amazing combovers! (I braided and put barrettes in it as a little girl.) Everyone would comment on how fitting a hairstyle it was for his namesake, lol
@cssme13 my good friend is Chinese. His wife is Caucasian, blonde and blue-eyed.
Their two children look very Asian. When his wife is out with the kids by herself, people stop her all the time and ask her what country she adopted her kids from. Drives her nuts.
I'm kind of losing faith in humanity as I read these stories! How could people be so close minded? I would never DREAM of asking anyone any of those questions mentioned above.
I don't know what makes people say the stupidest things but it is completely frustrating and offensive.
I had a family member call me yesterday (not sure how she fits in - think she's my mom's niece or cousin) and said she had a question that has been bothering me that she just had to ask. She then proceeded to ask me why DH & I decided to have kids? I was shocked and said what do you mean? She said that with mine and DH's heart defects as infants and the fact DH had 4 open heart surgeries before he was 18, that we were being irresponsible and selfish for wanting to have a kid of our own when there are perfectly healthy babies that we could adopt. (side note: DH & I already planned on adopting later since I was adopted). She went on and on and I tried but couldn't get any words in so I just hung up. She had me in tears for the rest of the night because of what she said.
Me:35 | DH: 32 Married: 06-2024 TTC #1: Since November 2015 Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016 due to previous issues. ***TW*** BFP: 11/4/2016 BFP: 07/17/2024
@SaphireSweetie88 I would have throat punched her through the phone - or told her she shouldn't procreate because her kids my inherit her stupidity, lack of tack and horrible personality
@Dcwtada - I had so many emotions all at once during that - anger, offended, sadness etc. It took me by surprise because I see her once maybe twice a year and she felt comfortable to say that. She wouldn't let me get a word in at all so I ended up hanging up on her.
Me:35 | DH: 32 Married: 06-2024 TTC #1: Since November 2015 Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016 due to previous issues. ***TW*** BFP: 11/4/2016 BFP: 07/17/2024
@Dcwtada - I had so many emotions all at once during that - anger, offended, sadness etc. It took me by surprise because I see her once maybe twice a year and she felt comfortable to say that. She wouldn't let me get a word in at all so I ended up hanging up on her.
I am so sorry. I would just write this person off forever. She is far to ignorant to ever have an adult conversation with....but that isn't even a conversation she should have been having with you in the first place?!?! Ugh. Honestly, she would be dead to me from this moment on.
@Dcwtada - I had so many emotions all at once during that - anger, offended, sadness etc. It took me by surprise because I see her once maybe twice a year and she felt comfortable to say that. She wouldn't let me get a word in at all so I ended up hanging up on her.
I am so sorry. I would just write this person off forever. She is far to ignorant to ever have an adult conversation with....but that isn't even a conversation she should have been having with you in the first place?!?! Ugh. Honestly, she would be dead to me from this moment on.
It's not hard to write them off since I don't see them very often and I plan on doing that. It just really sucked and hurt hearing her say those things. Doesn't she know it's stressful enough that my OB wants me to see a genetic specialist to be checked out because of mine & DH's heart conditions as infants and I don't need her crap on top of it? Ugh.
Me:35 | DH: 32 Married: 06-2024 TTC #1: Since November 2015 Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016 due to previous issues. ***TW*** BFP: 11/4/2016 BFP: 07/17/2024
@cssme13 my good friend is Chinese. His wife is Caucasian, blonde and blue-eyed.
Their two children look very Asian. When his wife is out with the kids by herself, people stop her all the time and ask her what country she adopted her kids from. Drives her nuts.
I'm kind of losing faith in humanity as I read these stories! How could people be so close minded? I would never DREAM of asking anyone any of those questions mentioned above.
@LoveLee85 easy: they don't realize what they're saying is inherently racist and/or hurtful and they're just trying to make conversation. I don't give free passes to people when they do say weird or racist things to me (my go-to response is "well, that's kind of a racist thing to say" and change the subject) but it really isn't my job to educate people, either.
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Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
thank you @Rotu101
My DH is Asian-American, so my kids are half-Asian. I got SO MANY STUPID comments from people about what our kids were going to look like when I was pregnant, especially with my first. One "friend" even commented that my kids would absolutely look Asian and I'll look like I had adopted them. She's no longer a friend. And one time at a playgroup, one mom told me how handsome DS1 was because he doesn't look Asian at all, and that he was lucky he got all my looks. I held my tongue and excused myself as quickly as possible. I was so livid. People say the dumbest things sometimes. Nowadays, I usually respond when someone says something ignorant like that with, "wow, that's a pretty rude comment. I assume you didn't know that, or else you wouldn't have said something that rude. But now you know." And they get pretty embarrassed. I'm done being nice about this stuff.
And then she comes out looking even more Mexican than him. I hate peoples comments and I never want her to resent how she looks (once again biased but she is absolutely beautiful) and sometimes I worry that since it's obvious she is mixed race but not her brother she might deal with more comments and idiot people than otherwise
I'm not sure if I hope our second child looks like her sibling, or like me so that I feel a part of the family!
We live in Northern Virginia, in a suburb of Washington DC. It's actually a very diverse part of the country, but nonetheless, I still encounter some idiots once and a while. lol
@Dcwtada - Oh wow! That's got to be very frustrating.
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
My second had awful colic for 7 full months... so nothing phases me. Parents often apologize every time a baby gets fussy, and I'm like pssshhh this is nothing.
I guess my confession is that I've been too tired to actually make it there and am currently rocking 4 week old gel. Yikes.
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Married: 05/26/2012
DS Born Happy and Healthy via C-section: 10/04/2013
Natural M/C: 07/08/2014
DD Born Happy and Healthy via Emergency C-section: 06/30/2015
BFP #4: 11/15/2016
EDD: 7/27/2017
As if I don't possibly have more important things to worry about, you know, like marrying a man who will be a good father, making sure we can provide for them, but instead I should be picking men based on my future babies' potential skin tones. How does that make sense to anyone??
Married: Oct 2015
Baby G born June 2017
TTC#2: July 2018
BFP #2: 2/6/19 MC 3/14/19
BFP#3 from IUI #2: 6/30/20 EDD 3/9/21
Their two children look very Asian. When his wife is out with the kids by herself, people stop her all the time and ask her what country she adopted her kids from. Drives her nuts.
I had a family member call me yesterday (not sure how she fits in - think she's my mom's niece or cousin) and said she had a question that has been bothering me that she just had to ask. She then proceeded to ask me why DH & I decided to have kids? I was shocked and said what do you mean? She said that with mine and DH's heart defects as infants and the fact DH had 4 open heart surgeries before he was 18, that we were being irresponsible and selfish for wanting to have a kid of our own when there are perfectly healthy babies that we could adopt. (side note: DH & I already planned on adopting later since I was adopted). She went on and on and I tried but couldn't get any words in so I just hung up. She had me in tears for the rest of the night because of what she said.
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
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Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
It's not hard to write them off since I don't see them very often and I plan on doing that. It just really sucked and hurt hearing her say those things. Doesn't she know it's stressful enough that my OB wants me to see a genetic specialist to be checked out because of mine & DH's heart conditions as infants and I don't need her crap on top of it? Ugh.
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024