Monday Bitchfest 1/2/2017

SaphireSweetie88 · January 2017

It's Monday. Have something / someone to bitch about? Post it here.

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LoveLee85 · January 2017

My shitty cold my DS 'gifted' me for Christmas!!! Lol I can't take any of the good medicine that truly helps because, pregnant! DS has it almost gone, I have it bad and now my DH said 'my throaty feels funny!' LORD help me, the man cold is entering my home!!!!!

glitterfish-2 · January 2017

Oooh, mine is about my dad again!
As I mentioned in "Announcing," he seemed to take the news about my baby being a boy the hardest.... Saying it was too early to know, he doesn't trust my voodoo "feelings," etc and continuing to call the baby "She."
Which got everyone else talking about people who are transgender???
So the next day, NYE, my dad took some stupid quiz on FB about the next year, and my name popped up as "spending time with GlitterFish in July" and he posted it, PUBLIC, tagged me, and said "well we do have a new family member coming in July!"

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I have not put anything on facebook at all about the pregnancy!!
As soon as I saw it, of course, I untagged myself, and sent him a message to please remove the post (or at least the reference to me) as we have not put anything on fb and don't know when or if we will.
So he sends back a snarky message about he didn't know there was such secrecy and his friends aren't my friends anyway, but he agreed.
I had dinner over at my parents' house last night, and he didn't speak to me, and wouldn't come sit at the table for dinner.
WTAF??

I told DH this story this morning, and he said he's starting to feel like Anne Boleyn, not producing the "right heir"!

ashaw512 · January 2017

I'm off work today and I should have sent my kids to daycare so I could actually get something done. But my day is going to consist of my sitting my ass on the couch and saying stop it all day long. With an occasional meal and diaper change. Oh not to mention listening to mom, mom, mom, mom, mom, mommy, mom, all.damn.day. Why didn't I just take them to daycare?

Xath · January 2017

@GlitterFish WTAF?

satsumasandlemons · January 2017

@GlitterFish your dad is crazy!! so wait. he wants you to have a girl? What is with your dad???

glitterfish-2 · January 2017

satsumasandlemons said:

@GlitterFish your dad is crazy!! so wait. he wants you to have a girl? What is with your dad???

Yeah, he only wanted girls, and only had girls, and now this is grandson #3.

tuxielove93 · January 2017

Oh yeah I do. My in laws, this week specifically my father in law. They've always been my least favorite married in relatives (FIL and SMIL, the MIL is awesome) and we just really don't get along, but this week my FIL is especially getting on my nerves. So slight background, I'll put a TLDR at the end, and I'll try to keep it brief. I want to have a mother blessing later in my pregnancy, but my SMIL has never had children (although she's been married 5 times) so I figured the subject might be sensitive. When my husband asked his dad how we should handle it, his dad's first reaction was "You're having another party?!". Ok, first off, what is so wrong with celebrating the impending birth of your first grandson?? Second, DH and I are NOT going to be in the area very long (planning to move across the country to be exact) so I do make it a point to try to get all the family together about once a month. Do you have some sort of problem with seeing your son and DIL??? Then when they came over on Sunday for New Year's, he said to me "you're not showing much for being pregnant." First, you've apparently never paid much attention to how I look normally because pre-baby I had a flat stomach, and that stomach is NOT flat now. Second, I'm 12 and a half weeks. The f**k did you expect? It was just such a weird comment, and it really irked me. I could elaborate forever on these people, but that pretty much sums up this week of awfulness with them.

TLDR: My FIL is complaining about parties and made really weird and uncalled for comments about my half bump/half blump.

manillabar · January 2017

@glitterfish wow I feel like the story just gets worse and worse! I'm so sorry your dad is being so sucky about the whole thing... what happened to people just being happy for healthy babies? I just don't get it

LoveLee85 · January 2017

@GlitterFish omg!!! I'm so sorry! Idk where to start?! His rude ass behavior, the public posting on Facebook, his ignorance of the babies sex, his childish 'not sitting at the table'?! He needs to get over himself fast. You are a Saint. I would have blown up on him and ghost him for a looong time!!!!

stokesm21 · January 2017

I hate my job and maternity leave can't come soon enough. I am not coming back when it's done! (I need to work but it won't be here!) I wish someone would just hire this pregnant girl for the next 6 months haha!

That is all.

cssme13 · January 2017

@GlitterFish yeah I probably would have smacked my dad y now. WTH is his deal? I'm sorry you're having to deal with this!

My bitch is once again my BIL. DH and I took my FIL and MIL on a little vacation this weekend, they never get invited on vacations with their kids/grandkids (not us, DH's sibling) without being expected to pay for every little thing so DH and I decided to invite them and paid for everything. Well BIL throws a huge fit because my in laws were supposed to go visit his son with him read: pay for him to go see his son and buy him stuff. Thankfully they told him no to go by himself that they were going with us. Well we get back last night and the house is trashed! Garbage is overflowing, kitchen is a total mess and there are dishes piled in the sink. The freakin shit head left a huge mess and then left town and just expected MIL to clean it up when she got home. I'm so damn sick of him being a bum and he's makes me grateful everyday that I married DH.

irishrose54 · January 2017

@GlitterFish sorry to read about what you're dealing with/your dads behavior. That would drive me crazy. How frustrating. I agree with @manillabar about just being happy for healthy babies.

stokesm21 · January 2017

cssme13 said:
My bitch is once again my BIL. DH and I took my FIL and MIL on a little vacation this weekend, they never get invited on vacations with their kids/grandkids (not us, DH's sibling) without being expected to pay for every little thing so DH and I decided to invite them and paid for everything. Well BIL throws a huge fit because my in laws were supposed to go visit his son with him read: pay for him to go see his son and buy him stuff. Thankfully they told him no to go by himself that they were going with us. Well we get back last night and the house is trashed! Garbage is overflowing, kitchen is a total mess and there are dishes piled in the sink. The freakin shit head left a huge mess and then left town and just expected MIL to clean it up when she got home. I'm so damn sick of him being a bum and he's makes me grateful everyday that I married DH.

I think I've come across a few of your posts but can't remember specifics. How old is BIL? And why don't they just kick him out? I would not put up with that crap from my kids! Sorry that this is so frustrating for you. It would be for me too!

SaphireSweetie88 · January 2017

@LoveLee85 - Feel better soon!
@GlitterFish - I am so sorry you dad is being like that. Can your mom possibly help "tame him"? I know I have had to have my FIL help with my MIL when it came to a couple things that she was going BSC with.
@ashaw512 - I'm sorry. Hopefully the LOs won't be too bad today
@kerils - Hugs for a frustrating FIL
@stokesm21 - If I could hire you I would lol but unfortunately HR has the final say.
@cssme13 - Sounds like your BIL needs a swift kick in the as$

cssme13 · January 2017

stokesm21 said:

cssme13 said:
My bitch is once again my BIL. DH and I took my FIL and MIL on a little vacation this weekend, they never get invited on vacations with their kids/grandkids (not us, DH's sibling) without being expected to pay for every little thing so DH and I decided to invite them and paid for everything. Well BIL throws a huge fit because my in laws were supposed to go visit his son with him read: pay for him to go see his son and buy him stuff. Thankfully they told him no to go by himself that they were going with us. Well we get back last night and the house is trashed! Garbage is overflowing, kitchen is a total mess and there are dishes piled in the sink. The freakin shit head left a huge mess and then left town and just expected MIL to clean it up when she got home. I'm so damn sick of him being a bum and he's makes me grateful everyday that I married DH.

I think I've come across a few of your posts but can't remember specifics. How old is BIL? And why don't they just kick him out? I would not put up with that crap from my kids! Sorry that this is so frustrating for you. It would be for me too!

He's 22 with a baby and a "fiancé" in quotations because there's actually been no talk of a wedding ever. He's the baby of the family and I have no idea why my in laws won't give him the boot. It drives DH crazy too but since it's not our house we can't necessarily make our opinions known without starting drama. It's annoying to say the least.

Sassenach1743 · January 2017

@GlitterFish, so your Dad only wanted girls (for whatever reason), only had girls (good for him), but now is pissy because his grandchildren are boys? That's ludicrous. I'm sorry you're dealing with this, but I encourage you not to deal with it. He's being extremely rude for no apparent reason and acting like a child, just ignore him.

So, my rant is about my MIL... someone please make her shut up! Dh's cousin is also pregnant (due in May) so at lunch yesterday, MIL starts gushing about how we'll have 2 new babies in the family this year... or maybe 3 (wink wink, pointing at me). She's convinced I'm having twins and keeps referring to the "babies" when talking to me, she's asked me at least 3 times if I have twins in my family (which doesn't even matter), and is constantly giggling and speculating about twins. It's annoying.

I feel like being pregnant isn't good enough, now it's has to be twins?? Seriously? Leave me alone. Maybe I'm being over sensitive but I don't care. Why can't she just be satisfied with being excited for a new grandchild instead of having to make more of it. I wonder if she secretly wants to one up her sister (cousin's mother) by wanting to get 2 new grand babies to her sister's one?

I realize that anyone can conceive twins but when MIL uses your "advanced maternal age" (I'm 36 FFS!) as a way to point out that "I may have released two eggs..." I want to scream. She's also hanging on this notion and waiting for my first appointment like she can't wait to prove me wrong. She literally said yesterday "You haven't even had your appointment yet, so you don't know for sure, just wait."

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

*FTR, I'm not saying that having twins is a bad thing (not at all). I'm just not emotionally prepared for that idea, and am really just thrilled to be pregnant at all.

SaphireSweetie88 · January 2017

@Sassenach1743 - Sorry she's being a pain about it. When is your 1st appointment? I was / am not mentally prepared for twins either so I did have a sigh of relief when we only saw 1.

Sassenach1743 · January 2017

SaphireSweetie88 said:

@Sassenach1743 - Sorry she's being a pain about it. When is your 1st appointment? I was / am not mentally prepared for twins either so I did have a sigh of relief when we only saw 1.

My first appointment is Jan 25th. I had to wait because my OB's office was not only booked solid through the holidays, but my doctor took a 2 week vacation + another doctor in her office is going on maternity leave so all of her patients are falling to the other doctors in the office, namely my doctor. It's annoying.

SaphireSweetie88 · January 2017

@Sassenach1743 - Ugh that stinks. Hopefully it will come fast now that we're through the holidays.

OperaSingerMommy · January 2017

@Sassenach1743 Sorry, mama, that's really annoying of your MIL.

My DH is a fraternal twin and twins run in my family too (although like you said, not that my side matters) so I get lots of comments too. I know for sure there's only one in there and I think twins would be a fun adventure but sheesh. Just one more thing people think they have to say to pregnant ladies- hang in there.

ginger1228 · January 2017

Can someone explain the twin thing and that the maternal side doesn't matter? Wouldn't the maternal side matter and not the paternal since fraternal twins are the genetic sets and depend on the mother releasing more than one egg? Or do I have it all confused?

@Sassenach1743 @OperaSingerMommy

ashaw512 · January 2017

I hate when people say LA talking about Los Angelos. LA is Louisiana.

LoveLee85 · January 2017

Well, we are getting organized and figuring out what we need for this new baby, which isn't much since we saved everything from DS.

So naturally my DH who works 24/7 and does about 10% of our child's care is trying to tell me, the SAHM, exactly what we 'really need'. Um, are you serious?! He thinks so many things aren't necessarily because he doesn't/didn't use them with DS?! Guess what, I used them all the time!!! Quit telling me what we do and do not need?! Ahhhh!

A few bigger things needed:
-Nice double jogging stroller with infant carrier attachment(buy separate im sure)
-baby crib eventually
-foot monitor for infant so I can sleep in peace(didn't have with DS but should have)
-another video monitor for this baby

No, the foot monitor isn't cheap but I didn't sleep at all for 4-5 months when DS was newborn. I let DH sleep because he works, and frankly I didn't trust him to wake up at the time if baby was silently choking on spit up(LONG STORY some S15 moms know)! He doesn't think the purchase is necessary because it wasn't his problem, basically. Grrrr.

chelseag-2 · January 2017

We haven't announced this pregnancy to anyone besides close friends and family and my freaking family keeps telling people! Right in front of me, and sometimes to strangers too. Def regretting even telling family at this point. I know better

for next time I guess

OperaSingerMommy · January 2017

ginger1228 said:

Can someone explain the twin thing and that the maternal side doesn't matter? Wouldn't the maternal side matter and not the paternal since fraternal twins are the genetic sets and depend on the mother releasing more than one egg? Or do I have it all confused?

@Sassenach1743 @OperaSingerMommy

Wait, you're totally right. Haha, sorry pregnancy brain.

Sassenach1743 · January 2017

ginger1228 said:

Can someone explain the twin thing and that the maternal side doesn't matter? Wouldn't the maternal side matter and not the paternal since fraternal twins are the genetic sets and depend on the mother releasing more than one egg? Or do I have it all confused?

Actually, if we're assuming that twins (fraternal) genetically run in families then, yes, it's the maternal side that would matter. Some women may be genetically more likely to produce more than one egg during a menstrual cycle (hyperovulation). This makes it more likely that they will have twins.

There are also non-genetic factors that can make non-identical twins more likely, including:

ethnic group – twins are more common in some ethnic groups than others
the age of the mother – the older the mother, the higher the chance of twins
whether the woman has already had children
infertility medications

There's no evidence that identical twins run in families. However, a couple is more likely to have non-identical twins if there are twins in the woman's family.

Although I don't really think there's much to this theory. When I said in my previous post that it doesn't matter, it's because I believe that anyone can conceive twins at any time, any age... it's a natural phenomenon, not something that needs to be calculated or skipping generations, etc. If it happens that way then it's just an interesting coincidence.

morgarita · January 2017

@ChelseaG I accidentally scared mil out of telling people. I was telling her how I scolded my mom for telling people. so then mil told me the other day how she kept quiet bc she knew I told my mom not to talk about it. But I wish I just kept it our secret for longer but there were so many holidays that everyone was together.

ginger1228 · January 2017

Sassenach1743 said:

ginger1228 said:

Can someone explain the twin thing and that the maternal side doesn't matter? Wouldn't the maternal side matter and not the paternal since fraternal twins are the genetic sets and depend on the mother releasing more than one egg? Or do I have it all confused?

Actually, if we're assuming that twins (fraternal) genetically run in families then, yes, it's the maternal side that would matter. Some women may be genetically more likely to produce more than one egg during a menstrual cycle (hyperovulation). This makes it more likely that they will have twins.
There are also non-genetic factors that can make non-identical twins more likely, including:
ethnic group – twins are more common in some ethnic groups than others
the age of the mother – the older the mother, the higher the chance of twins
whether the woman has already had children
infertility medications
There's no evidence that identical twins run in families. However, a couple is more likely to have non-identical twins if there are twins in the woman's family.

Although I don't really think there's much to this theory. When I said in my previous post that it doesn't matter, it's because I believe that anyone can conceive twins at any time, any age... it's a natural phenomenon, not something that needs to be calculated or skipping generations, etc. If it happens that way then it's just an interesting coincidence.

Ah, okay. I read it as paternal history matters and not maternal.
I think twins can be completely random, too. But I've read before (whether true or not) that fraternal twins can be caused by genetics whereas identical probably aren't.

Thanks for clarifying!
and thanks @OperaSingerMommy for clarifying too. Pregnancy brain gets the best of me too sometimes.

oheliza44 · January 2017

ashaw512 said:

I hate when people say LA talking about Los Angelos. LA is Louisiana.

As a Louisiana girl I get this x100.

virginiaunicorn11 · January 2017

tuxielove93 · January 2017

@Sassenach1743 My parents were much less annoying about it, but were pretty much on the same kick until my first scan confirmed ONE healthy baby. I don't know why she's being so weird, but I hope it ends soon! I wish people would just shush about stuff sometimes. My grandmother won't stop saying the baby is a girl (even though I think it's a boy) and won't stop calling it by the girl name that we have picked out. It's really getting on my nerves. It's fine if you think that, but can you not be so obnoxious about it? I'm kind of worried about having a girl, and I would like a boy, but a healthy baby is cool by me, and should be cool by you too!

@ChelseaG That sucks that they can't keep their mouth shut. When it was still a secret, keeping my family under wraps was insanity. They couldn't stop telling people. My GMIL said she had to tell her whole reunion group at 6 weeks. It was insanity. Now it's out, and so is my belly, so I don't mind as much, but we were at a wake the other night, and my mom had to point out to some church friend of hers that her grandbaby was with us as well. It was like she wanted a neon blinking sign on my stomach saying "GRANDBABY HERE" It was a tad obnoxious. Cute, and obviously out of love, but obnoxious.

chiquita928 · January 2017

I was just going to bitch about having to go back to work tomorrow (teacher sad), but you all take the cake! Sorry ladies!

ashaw512 · January 2017

@oheliza44 where do you live? I was in Ruston but we moved to south Texas a year and a half ago, we will be moving back this year.

glitterfish-2 · January 2017

Yeah, my dad is a weird, very moody guy for sure!

As for my kid, I wish I had more faith in the "at least he's healthy," because although he doesn't have any of the trisomy disorders they test for, that's really a very small sample of what could go wrong! He has only been in one dream of mine, and all was definitely not well.

Plus I am a Fragile X carrier, which can affect boys more severely if he got my one "bad" X, so I have to ask my doctor at the next appt if there is any further testing for that or we just wait and see or what.

My dad doesn't actually know any of that, but I'm just saying that knowing the sex has really only done the opposite of allaying any health fears of mine.

kghusker1003 · January 2017

My bitch is at DH who refused to go get pizza for dinner. Eff you dude, I will totally remember that the next time you want a BJ.

Sassenach1743 · January 2017

kghusker1003 said:

My bitch is at DH who refused to go get pizza for dinner. Eff you dude, I will totally remember that the next time you want a BJ.

Lame. Call for delivery?

oheliza44 · January 2017

@ashaw512 I live in Nola! Glad you are moving back to LA (not L.A.

)

kghusker1003 · January 2017

Sassenach1743 said:

kghusker1003 said:

My bitch is at DH who refused to go get pizza for dinner. Eff you dude, I will totally remember that the next time you want a BJ.

Lame. Call for delivery?

I wanted those loaded crazy bread bites from little caesers, they don't deliver.

satsumasandlemons · January 2017

ashaw512 said:

I hate when people say LA talking about Los Angelos. LA is Louisiana.

I'm guilty of doing this because, well, I'm from LA. but I try to make sure I know my audience. If I'm speaking to fellow Californians, I use LA. If I'm talking to people who know I'm from LA, CA, I use LA. I know I specifically used LA yesterday in response to someone who's from SD, but that's because LA and SD are neighbors.

... Also, I've come across more Angelenos than Louisiana folks on TB!

stokesm21 · January 2017

Sassenach1743 said:
So, my rant is about my MIL... someone please make her shut up! Dh's cousin is also pregnant (due in May) so at lunch yesterday, MIL starts gushing about how we'll have 2 new babies in the family this year... or maybe 3 (wink wink, pointing at me). She's convinced I'm having twins and keeps referring to the "babies" when talking to me, she's asked me at least 3 times if I have twins in my family (which doesn't even matter), and is constantly giggling and speculating about twins. It's annoying.

My DH's niece is also pregnant and MIL keeps bringing her up and comparing us as well. Difference is she's a 19 year old who got knocked up and I'm a 29 yr old married woman, pregnant with a planned baby. *eye*roll* MIL isn't even related to said niece. Niece's Dad is DH's brother on his Dad's side and we do not like them. We really don't associate with any of his Dad's family. (I say "Dad" but he died when DH was a baby. It's so freaking confusing I'm not even going to get into it LOL)

(Disclaimer: My post is intended to make a point rather than to be judgmental. My DH had a son at 18 as did most of my friends.)

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