Stupid **** Not to Say to Pregnant Women

NYTino24 · December 2016

What have people said to rile you up?

NYTino24 · December 2016

My BIL told me to get used to being the DD (as if I'm not always anyway). Meanwhile, SIL has wanted to kill him since they had their two kids since he never helps. My sister (who is done having kids) told me she's planning on selling a bunch of her baby stuff instead of giving it / loaning it to us. "Because kids are expensive." Meanwhile, she has loaned out stuff to her friends. Love you too!

bookworm40 · December 2016

How about this one.. On Christmas Eve, MIL announces to the family that next year I don't get any gifts from her, just baby and DH.. the entire family just rolled their eyes because they know how she is. She has also mentioned on more than one occasion that the birth of this baby is going to interfere with their yearly trip to the resort they go to the same week every August. I just looked at her and said, please by all means don't let us stop you from enjoying your vacation. UGH

PeachyTeachy · December 2016

Mine is similar to @Cupcakegal930

We (DH, DD.R, DD.C, and I) take a summer beach trip with my ILs (MIL & FIL).

Told MIL on Christmas Eve and she groans, "Well, I guess we're not going to the beach next summer". This is then followed by FIL saying we could still go and asking my due date (August 1). He says that's perfect and we can still go in late August. Suddenly, the announcement becomes the let's-plan-our-trip-right-now. I remind everyone that with my first I was 15 days late, and with my second I was 13 days early, so the due date is really a 4 week period of time. MIL responds, "Well, if baby is too young DH and your girls can come and you'll stay home [with a newborn]".

lynkat · December 2016

I'm sorry for all the annoying responses ladies! I'll be honest though, reading these makes me feel a little better about my mom's reaction. I am a teacher and a football coach's wife so August is not the best timing but obviously we are still thankful and going to do our best. When I told my mom she responded with, "Well that's not ideal timing". No shit, mom.

knottiee689565f63838b35 · December 2016

My dad congratulated me and then said, "August huh. You guys much be pretty sure to be telling people this early." Thanks dad, real nice thing to say. Granted, he doesn't know we had a miscarriage in Oct. but still. Then DH family just looked at us and thought it was joke and then they were like, "oh, well then congratulations" in the least enthusiastic way possible.
Other than people not saying the nicest things after telling them, we've heard many variations of "you guys aren't mature/responsible/etc. enough to be having kids." I don't care if you're joking, that's rude since it's happening.

NYTino24 · December 2016

Oh @cupcakegal930 Oh bless her heart. Does your husband allow her to treat you that way?! I would refuse to go to functions with her if she acted that way. There is absolutely no excuse. Also, I would probably be so passive aggressive around her when LO arrives and baby wear 100% of the time she was around. She's probably the type to even insult a baby. Good luck!

clairemwalker · December 2016

Im so tired of everyone telling me that this baby will be a boy because im really sick. Its gotten to the point that i just roll my eyes and dont say anything. I snapped at my mum yesterday and just said, no it will be a boy if it has a Y cromosome, not because i was sick.

bookworm40 · December 2016

@NYTino24 no my DH does say stuff to her but she doesn't get it. She doesn't think anything she says is wrong. Luckily this year my mother was with us on Christmas Eve and my mother is not one to stand around and not say anything. She is a VERY selfish person, apparently always has been. She won't be around to much I'm sure, this baby will cramp her style from all of the vacations she and her fiance take, although her fiance did say that he's putting a crib in the spare room for all the sleepovers the baby will have.. NOT HAPPENING.....

NYTino24 · December 2016

@Cupcakegal930 SIL1 offered to give us her crib before we got our BFP, but MIL took it for her house since she bought it. SIL2 used to stay on over once a week to take advantage of free childcare, but now has her IL watching her two kids at their new house. She made it clear she isn't staying again and we live 20 min. away, so we won't be staying either. Now DH is going to have to ask for it.

PeachyTeachy · December 2016

@cupcakegal930 & @NYTino24 One of the best things that happened when I had my first LO was DH waking up to what his mom says/does. Finally there were boundaries that happened (and were enforced) without me feeling like the nagging wife/DIL.

NYTino24 · December 2016

@PeachyTeachy that's great... unfortunately for us, it's mostly my side that likes to push my buttons. For example, sister #4 told me today that we'd better not have more than 2 kids because she refuses to be an aunt to more than 10 kids. I don't want my kids anywhere near her anyway.

DoulaTog13 · December 2016

"Well, you wanted to be pregnant" - when I was puking all day with my 2nd baby
"you sure there aren't twins in there?!" - when I was pregnant with my first baby

jpearl2307 · December 2016

We told future MIL on Christmas Eve and she stared at us and said "Really?" with no emotion and said "Well I guess congratulations, don't tell you grandpa (her dad) since yall aren't married yet" then went on to talk about something else *major eyeroll* she always complains about how she "Never sees her grandkids" and that "her grandkids don't know her" well duh! Look at how you respond to me when I told you! Granted my FH is still in school and will finish soon but holy crap!

russetmile · December 2016

Before handing me my coffee this morning, my husband says,"Here you go, Bearded Dragon"
When I asked him why, he responded with:" Your chin hair is coming along nicely".

bookworm40 · December 2016

@russetmile omg my DH would have had that coffee thrown right at him! Lol

Nxy · December 2016

DH said to me today "this is what you wanted right??".. yes dear, when we both decided we'd like another child I was secretly hoping for nausea that wouldn't let me eat anything and to be bloated like a beached whale.. yes that's exactly what I wanted..

Rosy red · December 2016

Oh I feel you you ladies on the 'this is what you wanted' comments. During one of my emotional rants last week he started the sentence 'this is what....' I dared him to complete that sentence. We laugh about it now. I wish men could just be pregnant for a few hours or go through one menstrual cycle.

DoulaTog13 · December 2016

Rosy red said:

Oh I feel you you ladies on the 'this is what you wanted' comments. During one of my emotional rants last week he started the sentence 'this is what....' I dared him to complete that sentence. We laugh about it now. I wish men could just be pregnant for a few hours or go through one menstrual cycle.

This. I keep trying to explain to DH that it's like a combination of the flu, the stomach bug, and the worst hangover of your life...for 4 months straight. But, that doesn't seem to click. And, yeah... it's like we can't want to be mothers AND hate puking at the same time. We're supposed to be effing happy that we are at constant risk of dehydration, fainting, and simultaneous puking/pissing ourselves? No thanks.

Lindstothee · December 2016

When I get all emotional and someones like oh you think it's bad now you wait, "you're barely pregnant" it's like. I'm 8 weeks along and not having morning sickness but because of that "I'm barely pregnant".

DoulaTog13 · December 2016

Knottie64604453 said:

When I get all emotional and someones like oh you think it's bad now you wait, "you're barely pregnant" it's like. I'm 8 weeks along and not having morning sickness but because of that "I'm barely pregnant".

how is one "barely pregnant?"

SouthernMama15 · December 2016

On Christmas I found out fil had blabbed to someone else, like the 5th person he'd told even though we told him multiple times not to say anything. We wound up being pretty much forced to tell people we weren't ready to tell. Then he gets an attitude and tells me to get out of his house

caitlyn5454 · December 2016

My mother told the entire eastern half of my home province, without my permission. When I told her off, she said "I'm just excited, a baby is a blessing!" So I told her that if, God forbid, I miscarry, it's her responsibility to go back to each and every person and explain what happened to them. If she can take my good news away from me, she can take the bad news away too.

JDBtwinmama · December 2016

I announced to my sister today and she said "what are you going to do with all those kids?"
This will be our third. Our twins are almost 13 months. Also she has 4 kids that she adopted, AT ONCE!

PinkPrincessPiper · December 2016

These responses are exactly why I'm not announcing anytime soon! I can only imagine the, "Don't you know how to prevent pregnancy?" digs (this is our 4th).

I'm sorry you guys have had such nasty comments!

russetmile · December 2016

@caitlyn5454 With my first pregnancy, we told our parents, asked them to keep quiet but in their excitedness, they told our respective family and friends. Sad to say that we had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. No one shared that news, people still asked months afterwards and we had to explain to them I had a miscarriage. That sucked. With my second pregnancy, DD now almost 3, we told the family, but warned them that if they spilled the beans, it would be their responsibility to share the bad news too. Suffice to say, they kept quiet. Third pregnancy now and only a handful people know, until 12 weeks, then we'll share.

chaser61 · December 2016

Just advice in general that is either out of date or there are different views on. I am going to hold off on telling everyone but two close friends until I can't hide a baby bump. I just want to enjoy my little secret! I found out that my in laws blabber mouthed my secret so they will not be told early this time. They even told everyone about my miscarriage during the first pregnancy. Then they would report back to me who they told and that they or someone they knew had one too...just like me. Annoying.

oh and people would rub my bloated belly when I told them at 12 weeks. I didn't have a baby bump so it was awkward.

SouthernMama15 · December 2016

@KristiSigma we told our parents the day after we found out with DS. My mother in law rubbed and tried to kiss my stomach. I was like, this is pretty much like I'm on my period, don't do that. She hasn't touched me this time.

chaser61 · December 2016

@SouthernMama15 Good for you with being direct! This church lady kept rubbing my bloat, and I tried all kinds of subtle tactics to get her to stop. I even rubbed her belly (she's in her 60s), so that she would feel how annoying it is. I ended up having to just tell her to stop, which I should have done in the beginning. I think it is a generational thing. All of the older women explained how it is good luck.

morgy_bee · December 2016

russetmile said:

Before handing me my coffee this morning, my husband says,"Here you go, Bearded Dragon"
When I asked him why, he responded with:" Your chin hair is coming along nicely".

OMG

TheNewMrsLee · December 2016

You're huge, you're so big it's twins, omg how many babies are in there? Gosh it could be triplets, second kids always stretch you way out huh? Obviously no one around me is aware size comments are damaging to pregnant women's self image when they have already been overtaken by a fetus

caitlyn5454 · December 2016

@russetmile she did the same thing with DS, and I growled at her about it back then too. I didn't think I'd have to tell her not to blab it this time around. I'm not even 12 weeks and she was the one to tell me with DS not to tell anyone until I was. I've already decided that if we have a third, I'm not telling her at all until 12 weeks. Eff that noise.

SouthernMama15 · January 2017

@KristiSigma apparently she rubbed someone's stomach who wasn't pregnant once and when they said they were just fat she sad, I know, I'm doing it for luck. Ummmmm, I'm not Buddah.

babyoakes · January 2017

My biggest pet peeve is when someone asks if our baby was planned. I'm like does it matter? They're basically asking just so they can judge you

gipfish · January 2017

babyoakes said:

My biggest pet peeve is when someone asks if our baby was planned. I'm like does it matter? They're basically asking just so they can judge you

Yeah, that's almost like asking you how you had sex. Weird question!

tripledaggerWed95976 · January 2017

I have two!
1) sometimes I feel as if my stepmom for some reason is under the impression that I'm either a) extremely irresponsible or b) extremely stupid. Because the other day she actually asked me if ive been taking Prenatals. This would be insulting enough if I was a FTM, but I already have an 8 1/2 month old!!! Clearly I'm aware that I need to take prenatals

2) my RE has already been talking to my husband and I about what we plan on doing about contraceptives after the baby is born..... UMMM can we just be excited for 1 minute that I'm pregnant?? Why are we talking about birth control?!

Lauradi1010 · January 2017

For my first pregnancy DH actually told me I was, "inventing pregnancy symptoms". The conversation did not end well. He's like super husband this time around.

No one else knows about this baby yet, but my sister has been harassing me since she thinks I am pregnant. We are not telling anyone until I am out of first trimester and even then am leary since I know two women who just lost their babies. One at 24 weeks the other at 20 weeks. My sister just won't back off when I tell her we are "trying" and not to ask anymore. It's gotten to the point where I tell her I can't talk when she brings up the topic.

liz4382 · January 2017

"Stop worrying. Stress is worse for the baby than (whatever it is you were worried about)". Great--now I'm also worried that my worry is going to hurt the baby. Thanks a lot.

mamamerc09 · January 2017

Lately.
Why are you so tired?
Why do you nap every time DD2 naps?
Why are you so moody?

Geeze sherlock... I wonder.

blueskies17 · January 2017

I told my mom that I have to pee every hour. She asked why and I said it was because of the pregnancy. Her response: "But you've only been pregnant for two minutes!" More like 8 weeks but thanks for understanding, Mom.

indulgentgypsy · January 2017

2 boys, multiple losses. Coworker literally said to me today she hopes I have a girl because girls are better. She teaches one of my boys. SMH.

Um after multiple losses I hope I have a baby!

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