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Does anyone like their MIL?

  I have seen a lot of posts/ vents about crazy MILs. I know its a sterotype but surely not all MILs are this way. I love my MIL and in some ways I'm closer to her than I am to my mother. She is awsome, helpful, fun to talk to, but never oversteps any boundries. Is anyone else really close with their MIL?
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  • I like my MIL more than I like my own mother. LOL.
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  • i love mine. not like my own, but she's pretty great as far as MIL's are concerned!
  • I like my MIL...... most days.

     

  • I love my MIL, but we aren't super close. I hope that we grow closer though. She has her weird and slightly annoying moments, but never anything crazy or mean.
  • I love my MIL. Sometimes there are frustrations, but that's mostly because I can't react quite the same to ILs as I can my own family. As much as I love her, I would not want her in the delivery room. Only my mom and DH will be in the delivery room (with my Dad pacing the floor in the waiting room). I don't think MIL would even consider asking to be in the delivery room.
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  • I love my MIL. 

    When DH and I got engaged, so many people commented how lucky I was to be getting MIL & FIL in the package.  It's true.  They are loved by many.

  • Sorry I fall into the stereotype group. My MIL is definitely out of control...at least DH knows I can't stand her and he's totally OK with it.
  • I love my MIL.  But I met her at 19 and lived with them for 9 months while we closed on our condo (yes it took that long) so she's more like a second mom to me.
  • I much prefer my MIL to my own.
  • I like her, she's a very nice person and doesn't overstep anything. And yes, she does have her annoying personality traits- but everyone does. I just try to ignore it :) I'm glad she's not pushy or mean, I don't know what I would do if I had to interact with someone like that on a fairly regular basis.
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  • I am.  In a lot of ways, closer than I am with my own mom.  She and I are more similar in tastes and personality than I am with my mom.


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  • I totally agree with you. I won the inlaw lottery. I would much rather spend the day with my MIL than my own mom (most of the time). I mean, I love my mom and stuff, but she's a little nuts sometimes.
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    never oversteps any boundries. I

    That is why you can say you like yours and no one else does.

  • I am closesr to my own mother, But I was very lucky in the MIL department! She is so sweet, and she spoils me like crazy (and this is the only biological grandchild on her side, she is super excited about that) We email at least once or twice a week.
  • I'm much closer to my mother and my MIL is a complainer, a nag, and she only tells me horror stories from DH's childhood lately. She wants people to feel sorry for her but I can't. We limit our exposure to her and FIL but DH chats with his dad often. They're not good for advice or support. I kinda just put up with her I think.

    Prefer my mom better but neither will be in the delivery room.

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  • I was perfectly fine with my MIL, pretty ambivalent actually, until our first child and she said she was still holding out for a boy as her first response to us telling her we were having a girl. It's been down hill ever since then. But I know lots of people who love theirs. Luck of the draw I guess.
  • I like my MIL a lot. She has her moments, (ie telling me I'm starting to look "chubby"...gee thanks) but overall she is awesome.
  • I love my MIL.  I lost my mother when I was 21.  It is like having a second mother.  It is kind of nice to be able to talk to her about mother /daughter things.
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  • mines the devil and I hate her.  she threatened me on my wedding day
  • I love my MIL; she's kind of goofy, but she's a good woman.
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  • I love my MIL. I can stand her so much more than I can stand my own mother. It  takes her a little while to get used to the idea of things (ie, our wedding, now the baby). but once she gets over the initial shock she's pretty cool about everything. she even washed all my DH's baby clothes that she had kept so I could use them if i was having a boy. she even has DH's baby crib that she we put together so she can use it at her house and everything. and she bought me the vera baby bag and bottle holder too!
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  • Ohhh Ohhh I do!!!  LOL I actually use to like her even more when I first came into the family and didn't see a few negative qualities about her, but honestly, I still love her to death.  She's a great person and she doesn't really get into our business like it sounds like alot of MIL's do. She raised DH right and she knows he's a big boy and can take care of himself, so she doesn't butt in, plain and simple.

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  • I wouldn't say I like her more than my mom.... and she has her psycho moments, but for the most part, I enjoy her company.
  • I like my MIL most of the time.  She does some frustrating things (but who's mother doesn't frustrate them from time to time?).  She seems to be going through her second adolescence though, right now she is very big on drinking, tanning, and "partying" (as only a 50 year old can party).  I don't think she would ever ask to be in the delivery room but my thoughts right now are to limit the delivery room to DH & I.  That's it!
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  • My MIL is fine. Something about her is very annoying to me but I'm not sure I can put my finger on it. She's needier than I am so that may be it. Overall, she's a really a nice person. I think we are just so different that we aren't really sure how to act around one another. My mom drives me crazy at times but it's easy to tell her to back off. We get along much better since we don't live in the same state.
  • My MIL is great.  We have never had any issues. 
  • I LOVE my MIL.

    She will be in the delivery room, too.

    (but near my head, even if she IS a nurse).

  • I love my Mil. My bf family is amazing im so lucky.
  • I don't like mine. I'm sure she'll be a great grandmother but I don't really care for her as a person. I try to keep her at arms length because I can only take her in the smallest of doses.
  • I do but then I also only see her about once every two years since she's in Canada.
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  • I loved her to bits. We used to shop together, we took a meditation class together, she would come hang out for dinner and a movie when DH travelled for work.   Then my daughter came.  Then she didn't like the name, thought we should give her a pacifier, bottles, that I was being cruel by spritzing her bum with water and using wash cloths instead of wipes.  I was crazy to EBF and use cloth diapers.  Everything is a problem for her.  I don't look forward to seeing her.  Pretty much ever.
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  • Nope, I definitely do not like mine.  I'm glad to see that so many people here do get along with their MILs though.
  • I am very close to my MIL.... my relationship with my mom is different. My mother in law treats me like I am her daughter....

    I treat her like she is my mother....I dont know what I would do without her.

  • Yeah I am close to my MIL.  At least I think that we are close.  I don;t think she over steps her bounds and if she is or trying to I haven't noticed it but I will just tell it how it is so if she is fishing I wouoldn;t know cause I would just say what I want to say anyways. 

    Shes good to me and my husband same with FIL.

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  • Heck no. I haven't seen or talked to mine in over two years. Life is so much easier this way!
  • I definitely prefer my own mother over my MIL!
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  • My MIL is crazy, but I adore her.
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  • I am  not close to my MIL, but she is a dream compared to my mother. My MIL has seven daugheters, who distract her from paying too much attention to me. I am my mother's only daughter and receive her undivided crazy attention.
  • Meh.  I'm ambivalent.  She's mostly okay in a small setting, but in large groups she tends to turn every conversation toward herself.  You've got a story?  She'll top it.  Something bad happen?  Something worse happened to her.  She's like Penelope on SNL, always one-upping you.  That combined with the fact that she's a drama queen who hates FIL (and went so far as to try to have him arrested at our wedding) makes me want to keep her at arm's length.  She's been better since I've been pregnant, and since husband's younger brother got married last year at an extremely young age and I'm the favorite DIL now.  Smile
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  • I love my MIL. But, that's not to say she doesn't irritate the living hell out of me on occassion, lol
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