If I don't cry at least when my baby is born, I'm going to feel like the worst mom.
I would never judge someone for how they react after childbirth. If you don't cry you're not a bad mom. My mom was an awesome mom but after I was born she said she just wanted to sleep.
It's almost 7am and I still haven't gotten a wink of sleep. H is sawing logs in the next room and I'm having a ragey jealous moment. Also my white noise app on my phone broke, it just crashes immediately so I can't drown out the snoring. Wah!
I didn't cry after either of my children were born. I don't feel bad about it though. I'm just not really a crier. I was super happy and felt emotional and filled with joy/awe etc - just didn't cry.
@AfKash it won't make you a bad mom. There's going to be so much going on and I'm sure it's overwhelmed and some people just don't cry. My coworker told me when her 3rd child was born (after taking a long time to conceive him) she just felt like he was a stranger and wondered if she made a mistake having a 3rd baby but it just took some time to get used to having him. My other coworker who was in this conversation was talking about how it's normal for a lot of moms not to feel that instant love to your baby. I know not exactly what you're talking about but I think it's totally normal not to cry.
I didn't cry at all when DD was born. There is so much to take in! I remember sitting up with her in the middle of the night she was born, and we were both just looking at it each other, not really knowing what to think yet.
I've seen a lot of births, and I can't recall any mothers crying. I did cry with mine, but mainly because the doctor only gave me thirty minutes to push my son out before I had to get an emergency C-section. I started at 7:30 and had him at 7:58! Lol. It was a pretty traumatic labor experience so I think my tears were that I did it, he was out and we both were alive. And it was over! Haha
Thank you, ladies, for your support! It's actually really good that you all told me this because I legit would have felt guilty for not crying..I remember how guilty and awkward I felt when I saw Titanic at the theater with my friends and I was the only one not crying. Also, I didn't even think about what would happen if I didn't immediately feel the bond between me and the baby! It's a good thing to keep in mind that it's a possibility and to not feel awful if it happens.
Thank you, ladies, for your support! It's actually really good that you all told me this because I legit would have felt guilty for not crying..I remember how guilty and awkward I felt when I saw Titanic at the theater with my friends and I was the only one not crying. Also, I didn't even think about what would happen if I didn't immediately feel the bond between me and the baby! It's a good thing to keep in mind that it's a possibility and to not feel awful if it happens.
Im not generally a crier, it takes a lot to set me off. My husband on the other hand cries at all sorta of things! At the birth i dont expect to cry & fully expect him to be a blubbering mess!
We had homecoming service at church this past Sunday morning. My FIL, who is the pastor, put together a power point of pictures from all the events we've had as a church in the past year. At the end he had pictures of the 2 members we lost. One of them was a 13yo girl that was taken in a car crash. We were very close to her and we're naming our daughter after her. The tears started rolling before I could do anything and now again as I'm typing (while sitting at my desk).
@becbec28, what a wonderful way to remember her by naming your own daughter after her. I'm sure anyone would have been crying seeing that power point, pregnant or not! That was a really nice and special thing for your FIL to do though as difficult as it must have been to have to watch it. I'm so sorry you lost her.
@becbec28 im so sorry to hear that, it would cause the most unemotional of us to tear up! It is such a lovely tribute that youre naming your little girl after her.
Aw @becbec28 that must be so rough. You must have been very close to her to name your baby after her. That is a very sweet honor to give her. And I agree, I would have cried not pregnant.
In tonight's edition of "Why My Pregnant Self is Crying": I grabbed 4 Oreos and placed them next to me on the couch. I ate one, and looked to my side to grab another. However, I noticed there were only 2 cookies left. Now, I'm a math teacher and I know that 2 + 1 does not equal 4. So I said "Damn! How did I already eat two cookies? I could have sworn I only ate one!" DH shrugged. I ate the other two. Then I took another four and ate those as well... so much for my attempts at portion control. Fifteen minutes later, I got up and went to the bathroom. When I returned, I looked at my seat on the couch. THE FOURTH COOKIE WAS THERE! He had just fallen back out of the pile so I couldn't see him!!! THE PRODIGAL SON HAD RETURNED! I laughed, and laughed, and laughter turned to tears, and tears turned into full on panic-attack style SOBBING!!! I rationally was saying "this is absolutely insane, I'm just so surprised he returned!!!" DH is a Saint... he actually was trying to get me to deep breath, while laughing and hugging me and rubbing my back.
Okay, I know this thread is from October, but I really didn't want to start a new one and clutter up the board...
So this afternoon while at my MIL's and we had all finished doing the gift exchange thing, she suddenly shoots out of her chair, disappears and comes back with a shopping bag. "I didn't get a chance to wrap this one," she explains and hands me the bag. Inside is this beautiful hand crocheted wool blanket in white, dark green, and dark purple. She tells me it's to wrap the wee one up in when we're traveling in the car and such... and I just lost it. I just stood there holding this blanket and staring at it before I started bawling and gave her a gigantic hug. She's crocheted blankets for both of her sons when they were infants and I know it was for my baby, her grandchild, but I felt so included and loved in the family at that moment(not that she's EVER given me reason not to feel included, but still). It was just a really sweet beautiful moment between us and I couldn't help but weep, dear god I'm tearing up thinking about it now.
Re: Why my pregnant self is crying??
@AfKash it won't make you a bad mom. There's going to be so much going on and I'm sure it's overwhelmed and some people just don't cry. My coworker told me when her 3rd child was born (after taking a long time to conceive him) she just felt like he was a stranger and wondered if she made a mistake having a 3rd baby but it just took some time to get used to having him. My other coworker who was in this conversation was talking about how it's normal for a lot of moms not to feel that instant love to your baby. I know not exactly what you're talking about but I think it's totally normal not to cry.
Also, I didn't even think about what would happen if I didn't immediately feel the bond between me and the baby! It's a good thing to keep in mind that it's a possibility and to not feel awful if it happens.
sorta of things! At the birth i dont expect to cry & fully expect him to be a blubbering mess!
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laughing and hugging me and rubbing my back.
So this afternoon while at my MIL's and we had all finished doing the gift exchange thing, she suddenly shoots out of her chair, disappears and comes back with a shopping bag. "I didn't get a chance to wrap this one," she explains and hands me the bag. Inside is this beautiful hand crocheted wool blanket in white, dark green, and dark purple. She tells me it's to wrap the wee one up in when we're traveling in the car and such... and I just lost it. I just stood there holding this blanket and staring at it before I started bawling and gave her a gigantic hug. She's crocheted blankets for both of her sons when they were infants and I know it was for my baby, her grandchild, but I felt so included and loved in the family at that moment(not that she's EVER given me reason not to feel included, but still). It was just a really sweet beautiful moment between us and I couldn't help but weep, dear god I'm tearing up thinking about it now.