I've said it before in a previous UO, but I think it's stupid when Bump Gods close a thread bc some special snowflake can dish it but can't take it.
Don't refrence it. I just got a warning. For a) starting a thread and b) "restricting her from using tb app. Meaning I told her to go to another app.
And agreed!
That part b is insane.
And bump admins should check they're canned "thread closed" message because the bump guidelines are actually not pinned at the top of this board. I looked for them earlier to see how much shit I could give that girl without getting banned.
Okay. I have found my UO: I don't give a crap if the sex of this baby is boy or girl. I do not have a preference. I honestly could care less!!!!!! Idk why I don't care but I don't care. I have a DS already, so the few people that know immediately say shitty things like but not limited to: omg this better be a girl, I will cry if you don't have a girl-won't you??, girl love is so different and amazing I just want you to experience it, if it's a boy will you have a third hoping for girl???, I'll be devistated if you don't have a daughter, I just know you're having a girl, are you going to be okay if it's a boy again??
Dear God. Make them stop. Worst part is we only possibly plan on two children, so my parents and inlaws have grandsons already and have been VERY clear they want and expect a daughter out of us. Umm what???? STFU with this crap. I feel like this child has so much stupid pressure on it to be a girl that I'm willing it to be a boy!! Lol. I would be so happy with another son. It's honestly all I can imagine, probably because I already have a son. I feel like I'll get sympathy cards in the mail if we have another son. How messed up is that?!
@LoveLee85, I feel like you, except this our first and we are one and done. We do not care if we have a boy a girl, and could care less if anyone else is happy with a boy or girl either. Sorrynotsorry.
@LoveLee85 100% agree. I hated even with my first when people would ask what I wanted. A baby I want a baby.
I love that this uo board board got some real reaction from people but I hate the long response posts. Just edited out a sentence bc it wasn't really what I meant to say.
Amen about the sex of the baby. I have a friend who had a daughter then had a son and kept saying "we just got lucky and had a boy." No. you got lucky bc you have a healthy child. She's all about everyone having one of each. I've always pictured having two of the same sex. I can pass stuff down and I hope they'll be closer as they get older.
@LoveLee85 I actually kind of want a boy myself (although I'm not going to be, like, devastated if it's a girl) but my grandmother and step MIL keep insisting that it's a girl (even though I really feel like it's a boy, and all those admittedly inaccurate old wives tales say boy) and now I want it to be a boy even more just because I won't ever hear the end of it if it is a girl.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@kerils I'm with you. I am afraid of having a girl because my in laws spoil girls in a really, really dramatic fashion. My family didn't have a lot of money growing up, and that kind of excess makes me uncomfortable. A boy would just be easier from a family politics standpoint.
Amen @LoveLee85@morgarita@ginger1228 anyone else I missed re sex of baby. People who project their own issues and/or fixations about sex preference onto you are annoying AF too -DH's bff's wife would say "you're going to have a girl. I'm just telling myself that now, because I just need to deal with it, you're getting a girl and I'm not" - she'd say this pretty frequently, too. It was really uncomfortable. We were team green and for a while, I really thought we should just find out so she can really just know and either deal with it (if girl) or be happy (if boy) but like, why? For her?
Yes!!! Then people say, 'oh you have a preference you just don't want to say in case it's the other!' Nooooooooooooo. Words can't express how much I don't care either way. It's almost weird how much I don't care! If I don't care, why on EARTH are other people so invested in this?! Maybe it's just me but I don't think it would be 'so different' one way or the other. I treat my DS how I would treat any baby or toddler reguardless of sex.
@PurplePoppy424 I get how you feel especially with girls having so many cute outfits. However, I told mil that I wasn't buying the new baby new coats and boots so if we have a girl she's gonna be wearing a blue or green coats and she gave me a look and said she would buy them, whatever you want lady. Ds wears pink snow pants you rarely see those things don't matter.
Oh for sure! If this one is a boy, they're just going to have to wear some girl stuff at times. Haha. It just would make life in general easier if all of DD's clothes could just be handed down. I'll be happy either way, though.
I literally hate going to and scheduling any appt where there is not going to be ultrasound. I think being a STM I'm just so over all the appt.
If I have questions I'm gonna call and ask not wait a month and hearing the heartbeat at an appointment never did anything for me because I had a Doppler at home.
@Rotu101 Is switching OBs an option for you? My practice back home did an US at every appointment because that was their preferred method of tracking baby growth/health. Each practice/doctor will be different but I imagine there will be more US happy doctors around.
Re: UO Anyone? 12/22
And agreed!
And bump admins should check they're canned "thread closed" message because the bump guidelines are actually not pinned at the top of this board. I looked for them earlier to see how much shit I could give that girl without getting banned.
Dear God. Make them stop. Worst part is we only possibly plan on two children, so my parents and inlaws have grandsons already and have been VERY clear they want and expect a daughter out of us. Umm what???? STFU with this crap. I feel like this child has so much stupid pressure on it to be a girl that I'm willing it to be a boy!! Lol. I would be so happy with another son. It's honestly all I can imagine, probably because I already have a son. I feel like I'll get sympathy cards in the mail if we have another son. How messed up is that?!
I love that this uo board board got some real reaction from people but I hate the long response posts. Just edited out a sentence bc it wasn't really what I meant to say.
got lucky bc you have a healthy child. She's all about everyone having one of each. I've always pictured having two of the same sex. I can pass stuff down and I hope they'll be closer as they get older.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
If I have questions I'm gonna call and ask not wait a month and hearing the heartbeat at an appointment never did anything for me because I had a Doppler at home.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015